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****Apply British Accent****** Oh yes dahling, that sounds just splended, whatever you want dahling!!!! Shall we add tea and cupcakes to the ceremony as well? Just one thing though, you may have to deal with me having a man in my life...he's white and furry and walks on four legs, but he's my one true love Hehehhee

LOL PAPPY---my pitiful attempt to remain as politically correct as possible!! I'm sure Prison Betty is snarling in the corner at her next conquest, so men alone should by NO MEANS be singled out as the "rapists"

Wow, Suzy, what an awesome job!! Kudos to your for being confident enough to pull off working in such a testosterone friendly/male-centered environment..(hahaha backwards hillbilly rednecks, that is awesome). I think many woman would find that extremely stressful. I also agree with Synirr, it's all about attitude. If you come in unsure of yourself, they will walk all over you. Pappy, just to clear things up, I was referring to "minorities" in more of by-the-textbook sense. I too believe our nation is very diverse and that race isn't quite as important as it was in the past. HOWEVER, by definition, a minority is a person or group of people who have significantly less power over their own future than a "dominant group"..and in that sense....referring to a group as a minority is actually still very correct, as it outlines the various inconsistencies and biases they fall victim to on a daily basis, compared to none other than the white American. Just some food for thought. Yes, I'm a smartass....apologies ahead of time I can debate with the best of 'em LOL

Wow, very interesting replies everyone! First of all BBBoomer: very very interesting answer. Thank you for putting your heart into it LOL Don't sugarcoat it, tell us how you really feel Eminatic, I definitely have to agree with pappy...I wouldn't include "rapist" in the lover category. He'd be in the slimy pathetic piece of shit category, one of those pitiful specimens that you shudder being in the same room with. Let's face it, some people just have serious issues and use sex as a means to regain "control"...I've met one too many men (sorry guys, no assumptions intended) who are so terribly insecure that they become sexual deviants, in the worse kind of ways. But that's all I'll say about that. Back to happy flowers and sunshine and pretty pink tootoos. I have to say my worst sexual experience/lover was definitely the "boyfriend" who took the BIG V (ughh good grief, what a waste of perfectly good virginity). First of all, foreplay wasn't in his sex-cabulary. Second, he was the worst 2-pump chump I've ever met. Don't get me wrong, a little quick can be worked around, but this guy was beyond repair...sometimes he would cum before ever getting it in there; literally, just rubbing up against him wrong! So, needless to say, the majority of our sexual activities consisted of him lying on top of me for about 30-seconds, concluding with a less than enthusiastic grunt. I hope he found help for that problem. I'm certainly glad I threw in the towel when I did, since later I found out he was luring 13-14 yr old girls into sleeping with him (this from a 21 yr old)...ahh yes indeed there are some pathetic excuses for human beings out there. Perhaps he did it because he knew they didn't know any better (gag). Hindsight is indeed 20/20.

We all LOVE talking about the best sexual experiences, but I'd like to put a little spin on things and find out what makes someone a less-than-satisfactory lover. Men & Women BOTH...this is not a Man-Bashers Annonymous meeting, LOL, I want everyone's input! I want to know about the worst lover (or perhaps sexual experience, to make it a little less demeaning) you've ever had!! Details too! What was it about this experience/person (obviously, be kind and don't give REAL names, LOL) that just really left you thinking "Are you serious?" It seems as though the ones who put on the best show outside of the bedroom end up being the most disappointing, am I alone there? What is the real non-starter for you when it comes down to getting down and dirty?

Hmmmmm great question. I agree Dadt, all women have thought of this! I honestly have to say, the physical traits of men are fine the way they are; it's what's upstairs that I would change, and completely at that! For one, I wish they didn't have macho-syndrome--where they don't voluntarily open up about their feelings in the fear they will appear less manly (Sigh). That is so terribly irritating, and especially prominent with younger men (I'm cursed). Second would be their childish ***please take care of me*** nature...why do so many men feel like women's place is "barefoot in the kitchen" ? If you ask me, men don't get nearly enough shit for not doing their part around the house, OH but women!! How dare a woman skip a day of laundry or dishes...she's officially a selfish slob after that!! My husband said jokingly, "It's hidden somewhere in the marriage contract that the woman does all of the nasty house chores while being at his beckon call, beer in hand" LOL Lastly, I would change their tender egos. Don't get me wrong, women can be insecure...but men take it to a whole new level. They all think they're God's gift to women in the bedroom, yet when you politely mention something they could improve on, they go into "I'm a worthless lover" mode..what the hell!! Maybe I'm biased..maybe I'm just picking out the things I can't stand about my own man! LOL Guilty.

Wow, great post Suzy...just one question. Will you marry me?

I agree Ladylove, I have no doubts that those figures change depending on where in the country you live. If you look at census statistics, the average salary (regardless of sex) differs greatly depending on the state and even town that you live in. I know on the top of that list were states like Colorado, which has an average salary of nearly 6 figures per year (90 something and some change). Makes you wonder what the cost of living is like there, compared to here in NC, where the average is only in the mid to upper 40's per year. But another interesting tidbit I found, was that nearly 70% (give or take) of people living at or below poverty are female-headed households...yowsa, that's encouraging. I definitely agree with MsLayD also; it seems like the south is still trying to catch up with the rest of the nation as far as inequality between men and women is concerned. Obviously I think this is ridiculous! I also think the only women in the workforce making equal to or more than men are corporate executives---now think of the ratio of women corporate execs and male...and it's pretty consistent! Whew, all I know is I'm going to work my tail off trying to get a decent wage/salary...wish me luck, looks like I'll need it, LOL.

Dadt, you sure know how to get the womens attention in these forums! LOL By the way, you are a dork It's ok, it's endearing (snickers***). Poles are fun, all different shapes and si...oh wait, you meant POLLS. Polls are good too...great way to gather research on the opposite sex! LOL

Very interesting!! Thanks for the input!! LadyLove: That's interesting that you read that study!! I just finished up a college Sociology class that urged me to research different topics surrounding the home and family groups in society and how the roles have changed, and in some cases, reversed. One of the essays I wrote was about social inequality, and how there are still large gaps between minority and female salaries and white male earners. One source said that men still have the potential to earn 30% more than women in jobs of the same applicable merit. I also touched a little on the widening gap between rich and poor and how the middle class in society is slowly dissipating. I think it interests me because I'm about to graduate college and take on an entry-level job. My husband is planning on going to college directly after he seperates from the military, so the roles we will take on will be reversed. I'm worried that I won't be able to provide for him the way he's provided for me the past few years, especially since "Woman jobs" seem to pay much less (at least from what I've seen so far). I think it's pretty sad that a college graduate would be offered 8 or 9 dollars an hour and be expected to provide anything but the very bare necessities; and even that is a stretch at that kind of pay. Oh well..we shall see I suppose!

LOL You guys are one big bunch of goofballs! Since we got on the topic of gardening (Suzy!) I have a question for you possible green-weenies here! LOL I just planted some oriental lillies outside, any clue how much I should water them? I did a little bit of research on this, but was pretty inconclusive. The package that had the bulbs in it wasn't terribly helpful in regards to maintenance. I also started some potted plants, a delphinium and some daisies, and they're just beginning to germinate. How long until I should expect some blooms? Anyone know?

Answer honestly! I had to write a paper on social culture and norms, and it was so thought-provoking that I wanted to get your opinions on it! Is Dad just as responsible for the kids as Mom is today? Do you think the role of women has changed recently, with more instance of Dad at home and Mom working? Give me your input on the topic

Hi Kelly!! (sorry if you don't want me to use ur name just let me know!) Yeh it was lots of fun chatting!! I'm so bored over here and trying not to bug everyone with my opinions, and probably my many gripes! LOL Rather unsucessfully might I add! LOL It's just so much fun commenting on all the juicy topics, it's like an addiction! LOL LOL Suzy, you crack me up!! Actually Miss Thang, I DO like to read!! I'm more of a news junkie though, I like reading articles online over books, but every once in a while, I'll get a good book that I can't get enough of, usually the inspirational novels or something mysterious! Oh and I love some good erotica also, hehehee. With all the nice people I'm meeting here from the North, sounds like I need to hoof it to that area and get out of the Grumpy South! LOL Like a vacation of sorts! The dogs are great, like I was telling shortstuff, they're the sweetest unbiased beings...they don't need money or cars or houses, just love, food, and attention and they're yours for life. I love being apart of the rehabilitation too, the dogs who have come from abusive homes and such. It's amazing to watch them turn around for the best. Gives me a great sense of accomplishment and peace.

OOoh what a fun topic to bring alive again! hehehehe I have done ALL THREE and enjoy every bit of it!! There is just something so liberating about it; manipulating your words in a way you would be too shy to do in person, and the thrill of knowing someone is watching...who wouldn't be turned on by that!! I will tell a little story about particularly fun experiences with this: I have an online buddy that I've known for 4 or 5 years now, since I was about 18 or so. He is one of those people who likes picking your brain and finding your many "sides", the side you're too modest to show usually. But not in the horny teenager kind of way, in a very seductive, yet reassuring way. Very in-tune with me, he knew what I liked to hear and see, and he knew exactly what to say to make me see stars. We'd start teasing each other with naughty-words here and there, and then somehow we'd end up in a balls-to-the-wall cybersex-capade. That eventually led to phone sex, which after talking online for so long, was VERY erotic... it put a sexy voice with the personality I had grown to know and cherish, I knew I could be myself. We still do the naughty stuff from time to time, but have a fantastic friendship as well. It's one of those situations where you feel outside of yourself (for lack of better terms)...for that smidge of time you can let go and bring out that sexual being you are inside, and without any judgment. MMMMM good times indeed. The trick to the best cybersex (or even phone sex) is doing it with a person that truly knows how to turn you on in ways you never knew existed. A person that is on the same level as you and likes every "side" of you, no matter how kinky that may be! With that, it's truly a sexually fulfilling experience...and is way more gratifying than a lonesome masturbation session! (And well, even some physical sack sessions I've had!! LOL )

I actually work as a volunteer for a dog rescue It's really fun, but most of the friends I've made are so busy they don't have time for friends! LOL I love animals, and it's so much fun helping out for such a good cause. Needless to say, I completely agree with your opinion on volunteering, it's very rewarding.

Thanks so much Suzy, I have made some great friends on TT, everyone is so nice. I was telling shortstuff today that TooTimid is like my little santuary, like my own little "town" full of nice people that all get along with each other. At least I WISH there was a place like this! LOL You are definitely right, many many people join and rejoin the military just as a last option. They don't want to put in the hardwork to educate themselves and turn to the military as a means to survive, with little knowledge of just how much the military will exploit them as cheap labor. The thing that makes me so angry about that is the military is paying their men 30 (40 for NCO's and such) thousand per YEAR to serve in Iraq 60 or 70 percent of their enlistment time, when civilians are going over there voluntarily and getting no less than 6 figures per year. You would think the military would provide better than any civilian company could afford, but its "just not in the budget." They can afford billions in bailouts, but can't afford to raise the pay of the men and women who work their asses off keeping us free. But that my friend, is a whole other can of worms! I too share your perspective on the oil war, I'm way too peaceful a person to agree with any war, regardless of being married to a military man. I support all men & women service-members, but do not agree with the reason they are overseas. I have done my best to find people with similar interests, I've tried many different hobbies. So far recently I've gotten into the gardening thing, which doesn't exactly assimilate with the such deemed "FUN ACTIVITIES" of my generation! LOL I noticed I had a green thumb when hubby brought home flowers for Valentine's and I was able to keep them alive for nearly a month! So I've planted some and found it's a great stress reliever. I think things will be much different when I start working again. I'm a full-time student and homemaker right now, and the majority of my schooling is online, so yet another reason contributing to my reclusive nature! Things will change soon I hope, I certainly miss being the outgoing youth I was not too long ago. Thanks again for your comments and understanding. You are truly a nice person

Good to see another military wife in here!! I swear, I feel like military bases are their own seperate planet sometimes! LOL You are so right..about, well everything! It's so difficult to not be cynical; I try really hard! I think that's why I'm not fond of meeting new people/wives here because there is just SO MUCH bs to deal with usually, that my pessimism might scare people off. I usually just keep to myself and try to stay positive. The last base we were at in Florida, everyone was so nice, I made so many friends there, I just wish we could go back! I'm sorry that you went through a situation like that. You really find out who your friends are; I can't count how many "friends" I've made here that turned out to be a waste of time and loyalty. Good luck to you while he's on deployment, it's really nice to meet someone with similar views on the whole situation. Thanks for your input SuzyP. I think things have changed a lot since Desert Storm...people have just become more and more unhappy with life in general, and since being in the military is a 24hr job that never stops....I think stress takes over and people take it out on everyone around them. I also think a bigger problem is that here we have lots of 17 and 18 yr old wives, who want to bring their High School mentality to the neighborhood and start trouble. There are a lot of immature people here, and often it's hard to pick whose the bad apple and who isn't without being judgmental. IT's must easier to just keep to myself...even when I try to open up to people and look for people with similar interests, it usually always ends up blowing up in my face. Usually it's some "Rank-wearing" girl who suddenly decides she's above me in some manner and the friendship ends there. Either that or I tell them how it is and they can't handle the truth. I'm not going to change myself to make a bunch of teenie-boppers happy, they will have to grow up someday.

I'm in Coastal NC, and it's muggy and rainy! YUCK!! Been cloudy the past few days, then today rain. I'm looking for sun tomorrow!! Here's hoping

Thank you so much, that means a lot!! There should be more hugging here damnit!! LOL Where IS THE LOVE.

Wow you guys are a bunch of freaks!!! LOL Does this count? When I walk into the bathroom after he's taken a shower and it's all steamy and all I smell is his bodywash...UGHHH GOD, I just want to go jump his bones. Also, a cool summer evening drive, near the beach with the windows down, Ohhh the smell is just absolutely overwhelming.

Hi Shortstuff02, you're not alone with this, as this is something my hubby and I have tried and liked very much! It's usually on our WILDER night You know, not the Mon-Fri sex, but the 3am on Saturday night SEX! LOL There is just something about..well...not to be graphic, squirting, a man ejaculating, and peeing that is so incredibly naughty. I think it's the taboo aspect of it, that it's rather inconsistent to the cultural norms surrounding sex. At least this is my theory. You should try sitting on the toilet and let him direct his "stream" right onto your clit...it's VERY stimulating..kind of like the feeling you get when you're sitting a LITTLE TOO CLOSE to a HotTub jet...OOOOOOOOHHHH hehehehe Indeed not for everyone, but a helluva way to spice it up if you're open-minded and 100% trusting of your sexual partner Great post!

Thanks guys. I needed the pick me up. Normally I would chalk it up to another painful reminder of how unhappy the military can be, but I think it's just ridiculous really. It really has nothing to do with "free stuff" or anything of material means, it's more the principle. Just the fact that this kind of "special treatment" only drives another wedge between military wives ...when we're all supposed to be supporting each other. It's bad enough that half of the military wives in this town wear their husband's rank on their sleeve, and refuse to associate with those individuals whose husbands aren't a certain rank (ridiculous, I know), but they have to go making things worse by giving them a reason to think they're somehow better than the next wife. None of the good women here can trust anyone else b/c there are so many women here that do not deserve the respect that they receive. Gossip gossip gossip, pathological lying, cheating, betrayal, binge drinking, it's like an episode of Nip/Tuck every single day in this tiny little hell-on-earth. I live in a townhome development designed for enlisted military (also known as "base housing") and just in the past month, we've had 3 people's cars completely totalled sitting in there DRIVEWAY from wives driving drunk. While the terrible wives are weaving their webs of shame, the rest of us are left to be reclusive and tagged "snobby" because we just don't want to be a part of it all. I've lived her for 3 years and haven't had a conversation with either one of my neighbors. What is WRONG with this place? I've never been around so many hateful and obnoxious beings in one place. Have you ever been somewhere that just really brought out your most cynical side? These people are awful and I cannot wait to leave military life behind me. Future or potential military wives...think very hard before you decide to marry, because while it may be HIS dream to serve his country, it comes at an extreme expense, one where you are more than likely picking up the tab. Often following is an unswerving feeling of resentment. Just do me a favor and really think it over. Thanks for letting me vent guys, I appreciate your kind words.

Okay, so I'm a military spouse, stationed at a Marine Base in North Carolina. Something has come to my attention and it's infuriating me, so I just want to get it out and see what everyone else has to say about it. Many of the wives here have this understanding that you're not a "True Military Wife" unless your husband has been overseas. I can't help but feel like this issue is only reinforced by the special "advantages" that the wives whose husbands are deployed get, while the rest of the wives are pretty much ignored. There is a website locally here that is basically a classifieds listing with a message board, and there are hundreds of offers for free stuff for servicemembers wives whose SO is overseas. There is even more gossip about "this wife" and "that wife" who shouldn't need any help because their husband is home. This is unbelievable!! I completely understand how terrible it is when they leave for 6-12 months at a time, but does that somehow validate their wedding band more than it does any other wife? They already make hundreds in extra pay than the men & women that are home and don't deploy to Iraq or Afghanistan, why all this extra treatment? My husband works 12 hr days EVERY SINGLE DAY of the week, and hasn't had a day off in a month, but I'm not worthy of respect just because he hasn't taken a trip to the sandbox? I was under the impression that while many hardworking men and women are overseas, the rest of them are HERE working like slaves making sure they get EVERYTHING they need THERE! I'm just so frustrated with this. And what's worse, is that MOST (by no means all) are spending every dime of their husbands money while he's gone, and seeing other men at the same time. I've seen it with my own eyes. I just don't understand why this unequal treatment. They each work just as hard as the next guy.. If anything, the guys at home are working harder, just so they can make life easier for deployed members! UGHHHH

Like cheating? Are you serious? No offense at ALL, but what planet did she reign from? It's a sex-toy website!! There must be some misunderstanding for sure. She can't possibly think this is your way of "straying" and if so, she is a very closed minded and judgmental person; not to mention controlling. Please be reassured, I'm not trying to offend anyone, I've just never heard anything like this before, and I've met some crazy jealous/controlling women before. Make sure you sit down with her, if she cares about you she will give you the time of day. Otherwise, I say screw it and post whereever and whenever you like. That kind of behavior just crosses the line to me. Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship. Very good luck to you, sounds like you need it.

Oohh good topic!! My favorite position definitely has to be....well let's see I don't know the "name" of it LOL but I lay on my side with my legs bent and pressed together, he sits on his knees and enters from back...it's almost like a variation of doggy style only I'm on my side!! It's fantastic and he absolutely loves it. Also allows us to look up at each other; he can easily access all of my goodies and I can run my hands down his chest. If you haven't tried it, it's a MUST.