I think you ex as a point with the "programing" idea. Look at all the mag. ads, tv shows, movies, beauty contests, porn, etc. that show beautiful women that men have been viewing all their lives. But you know what, when you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with the whole package, not just the physical attributes, imho. When I asked my wife to marry me, it was because of the way she can make me laugh when I'm down; the way she cared for me when I was sick; the interests that we shared, etc. I didn't marry her for her 34-something breasts, to me that was a bonus! I would never ask her to change anything about her body! I love the sum of all of her parts! Again, just my opinion