I was the one who introduced the toys in our marraige! It was after seeing the Trojan commercial for the woman's vibe that you put on a finger. I thought after 20+ years of being together, it was time for something new and exciting to add to the relationship. She loved it so much that I started buying more and more toys for the bedroom. I'm the one who uses toys on her during foreplay. I find it very erotic to see her squirm and moan knowing I'm the one in control...lol. If I were you, I would just hand him one of your toys and tell him how much you would get off on it and then tell him it's your turn next!!