As MsLayD said, not weird at all. I found one of my turn ons by accident.. While I was on top, she reached up without intention and had her hands around my throat, not really choking, just there, but Damn if that didn't get me even more excited, harder and boost my *ahem* enthusiasm while thrusting. I told her about it after and she didn't realize she had done it, just got lost in the moment.. Well Honey, get lost in the moment a LOT more.. I LOVED it. I'm just beginning to explore the pain side of my sex life so it's hard to say so far. As for the rape fantasy, I've fantasized about it, but in reality, it would be hard for me to be convincing for my partner.. I'm too gentle and concerned about her enjoyment. The safe word might coax me into it though.