Newbie lee591 Posted June 28, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 I have been happily married for almost 8 years. I hadn't had aproblem with my sex drive. In the last month I have not wanted to do anything? I had no desire for it. What could be the problem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted June 28, 2006 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 Hi Lee, welcome!There could be many reasons for a decrease in sex drive, let me suggest a few:medicational changes (i.e. anti-depressants, mood lifters) - these can REALLY reduce sex drivesLife Stress - any money issues, career changes, marital or relationship issuesChildren - having children not only adds stress, but changes your hormonesBoredom - being married 8 years, if you are not keeping the sex hot and interesting, then it gets boring and then you are not wanting to do it as muchPeri-menipause or Menipause - I don't recall your age, but some women go through peri-menipause as early as their 30'sSo, could any of these be your issue? Let me know and I will try to suggest something based on your response!Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted June 28, 2006 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 Welcome Lee! I just wanted to add one more comment since Mikayla hit all the stresser that could cause it. I wanted to let you know that a horomone change such as a Thyroid could also be the reason, since I at about your age I went threw a similair experiance. My sex drive was pretty much nothing and it wasnt the stress of life. I had a blood work up and my thyroid was really high also if that hormone is to low it can cause it to. I had my removed due to a medical condition. Life and stress can also sure play a huge roll in your sex life, I have been married for 8yrs to and things in the bedroom can become just a thing we do to keep each other happy instead of a playground of adult fun. I thought I would also mention the tyroid due to your age and it is highly common in women. Keep us posted! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members janitorj1 Posted June 28, 2006 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 I have been happily married for almost 8 years. I hadn't had aproblem with my sex drive. In the last month I have not wanted to do anything? I had no desire for it. What could be the problem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members me4now Posted June 29, 2006 Members Report Share Posted June 29, 2006 hi lee i just put a similar question on the poll and stress played a MAJOR part for me i was taken on to manyother people stress and plus being married and a mother took its toll on me so took the advice from tootimid and my husband and i started decreasing my phone calls,putting the kids to bed a little earlier,and just relax with my husband. and myself ( mikayla suggested) and it helpmy husband and i didnt do anything sexual for a couple of days just touch,caress no stimulation and we talk the problem i was having out together and it really help me so take the Advice from tootimd it helps and share with your wife lee it really did help me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie lee591 Posted June 29, 2006 Author Newbie Report Share Posted June 29, 2006 Hi Lee, welcome!There could be many reasons for a decrease in sex drive, let me suggest a few:medicational changes (i.e. anti-depressants, mood lifters) - these can REALLY reduce sex drivesLife Stress - any money issues, career changes, marital or relationship issuesChildren - having children not only adds stress, but changes your hormonesBoredom - being married 8 years, if you are not keeping the sex hot and interesting, then it gets boring and then you are not wanting to do it as muchPeri-menipause or Menipause - I don't recall your age, but some women go through peri-menipause as early as their 30'sSo, could any of these be your issue? Let me know and I will try to suggest something based on your response!Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members whiskeywoman Posted June 29, 2006 Members Report Share Posted June 29, 2006 Lee, Kids of ANY age are a major stress factor by themselves!I can suggest one way of helpng to lift your libido, Send the kids off to grama's or an aunt or uncles house for a fun sleepover night for them.Do this on a day when hubby doesn't have to work, you two can talk, cuddle and spend the entire day getting to rediscover each other.Take a long hot bath together, or a shower, spend an afternoon in bed making love and enjoying the entire experiance.Trust me, this ALWAYS worked for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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