Is It Too Risky ?

[Trooper]

Here are a few questions about a strong sexual fantasy I have. Has anyone had the experience of watching either a friend or a unknown couple have full sex whilst they knew that you was there in the room watching? Does anyone else share this fantasy and would love to watch another couple do everything in the book to each other whilst you were never more then a few feet away watching?

Or have you been on the other side having been watched by a friend or stranger whilst giving them a performance? Have you fantasised with your partner about being watched?

Sorry its all questions but like I have said this has been a top fantasy of mine for a long time and the urge to fulfil it by watching is getting stronger and stronger.

Is this a healthy Fantasy or do you think it’s a little close to the sick mark?

Just one more Question if a person (Me) did fulfil this fantasy is just being in a room watching another couple without touching or joining in classed as cheating as I’m certain my wife wouldn’t enjoy this but maybe one day I will pluck up enough courage to ask her.

[Trooper]

have you noticed that the couple making love does not have names and faces, and even their bodies are kind of blurry in your fantasy? There is a reason for that. . . .

No in my fantasy they have faces and more often then not it's people that I know.

I have watched couple of porn films and educational one like the lovers guide. These I watched with my wife but surly it can't be anything like being there and seeing it for real?

[nosleepnmesa]

Hiya Trooper! Well here is my point a view, I do agree with Howard. A fantasy is suppose to be just that. Have you looked at the bad points of this if you act on it? Lets take a little look here.

First off you stated that your wife, prolly wouldn't be found on the idea at least that is what I grasped. Since you did say maybe one day you might get the courage to ask her. Well if you act on this fantasy without your wife knowing you may suffer terrible reprocussions of your action; marital problems, she may feel like you cheated although you didn't get involved you only watched. Also if you think she won't find out, she will! She will notice, although not intentional on your part, something different about you. Could just be the way you are carring yourself, a new look or something. For exsample, my husband came home at his regular time from work, I had spoke with him that day and everything was fine and could tell he was still there. He never said a word to be, but I noticed something a little different about him, it took a couple days but it was there so I asked and he had went to the strip club at lunch, NO BIGGIE, hell I have taken him to the full nude club on his birthday, he said he didn't want to tell me because he knew that we couldn't find a sitter for the kids etc...This was of course 5years ago. I still knew and that and the not telling me he said was killing him.

I have learned that fantasy should be left that way. I learned that the hard way, a great relationship, marriage all suffered, although everyone was in agreement the after effects played a different story. Alot of times people and couples do act on their fantasy, some make it and continue on with no reprecussions and others don't, more times then most the relationship and/or friendships end up over.

Howard also makes another good point. It is hard to come up with more fantasies when the ULTIMATE fantasy has been fullfilled. Of course the choice is yours and whether you act on it or not is up to you this is just my thoughts on the issue. As far as it being cheating, in my eyes it isn't cheating since you aren't getting involved you are only watching.

[Mikayla1]

I have a different view of this than most people - I have had others watch me have sex before - on more than one occassion. Once it was for "instructional purposes." I found it to be erotic as hell to be watched in that manner.

Now, I have also watched another couple that I knew have sex too. No one crossed over and switched - we just watched. I find it erotic and fun. This was before I was married.

Personally, I do not think it is cheating if you are not touching them or otherwise interacting with them - HOWEVER, it isn't exactly being honest in your relationship, which isn't good in general for your relationship. I would love to be watched again - but I do not think my hubby would want to be - therefore, I have to suffice with the memories. I think sometimes once we commit to that one person we have to sacrifice some things - like having threesomes. I had them before marriage - I would not have them now - they remain fantasies.

So, what do you do? Ask your wife if she would like to watch to? Tell her it is a fantasy of yours to watch a real, live porn. Explain you want no one but her, no touching or fucking of anyone else. If she says no, don't pressure her - let it be a fantasy. If you ultimately do it - it is up to you to deal with whatever guilt you may have afterwards!

Mikayla

[hrnychick]

I have never watched or been watched other then hubby watching me masterbate.......I too find this fantasy erotic......Would I ever act on it for real.....well as of now i would have to say NO....and really dont think that answer would change but who knows. So in answer to your question is it close to sick I say NO. As for if you should act on it or not.....well like the others have said fantasies are great and hard to replace once acted on......You do have to make adjustments and sacrifices for the one that you commit to so if your feelings to act on this is are getting stronger and stronger before you do something that may ruin a the good thing you have I would first talk to your wife about fantasies. Just in general......find out what hers are and how she feels about acting on them. If all goes well there then that could lead to BOTH of you fulfilling your strong urge and maybe one of hers but if it fails well then ofcourse its your choice but I would suggest not risking all you have with her on something that may not be all you thought it to be.

If watching couples doing it on porn dvds doesnt do it for what your trying to fulfill then did you ever consider using a cam? There are couples out there that like to be watched and Im sure you can find a website leading to such.....Again you will only be watching so I dont see that as cheating......again as long as you only watch.

Hope this and the other posts helps you somewhat.

keep us posted and please keep posting.

Hrnychick

[Trooper]

Again I want to say a Massive thank you to you all for your reply's. This board really is great for some straight and to the point advice. As heartless as it made me sound there is no fear of me doing this fantasy without either my wife being there to share it or her being happy for me to go watching alone.

Mikayla having read some of your others posts as well, your husband must be a very lucky man!! It is a shame that he doesn't realise just what he is missing?

[Mikayla1]

Trooper, I am thankful for the compliment, but confused by part of it - what, exactly, is it that my hubby is "missing"?

Mikayla

[Trooper]

It was not meant in a nasty way so no worries there. But you said ....

I have to suffice with the memories. I think sometimes once we commit to that one person we have to sacrifice some things - like having threesomes. I had them before marriage

Its a shame that he doesn't have the desire to continue with things like this. In a lot of blokes eyes he is missing out but his choice.

[Mikayla1]

I didn't take it as nasty, I was honestly confused.

I had given my hubby the option of a threesome before when we were first married. He told me that I was all the woman he would ever need (ahhh, so sweet, right?) He also said he would be crazy to share me with anyone - now that I was "all his."

Personally, I think that is how it should be!

Mikayla