Members Biguy89 Posted May 27, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2016 I am a happily married bi man i have been with my wife 10 yrs tho i have just now came out and told her about my interest in men and now she has came out and told me she wants me to be submissive any advice 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members krisleightate Posted May 27, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 27, 2016 The best advice I can give you is start slowly and make sure y'all are 100% comfortable. Talk about what exactly she wants and you want. Then when you are ready have fun :-) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted May 27, 2016 Report Share Posted May 27, 2016 Let me add that a sub is actually the one with the most control. The sub sets the standard as far as what they're willing to do and not to do. Always have a Safe Word for the sub. The Safe Word has to be some random, way out of place word that nobody would use in the bedroom. For example "Twinkie" or "Plant", even as simple as one's favorite color. Easily remembered, and always honored. The Safe Word is the signal to have whatever is going on, to stop immediately. Kris is right. Talking before hand is key. Make sure basic boundries are known, accepted, and discussed thoroughly. As time progresses, boundries can be expanded, and different things can be tried. Remember, 50 Shades of Grey isn't a normal sub/dom scenario. That level of domination takes years of practice (and money). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RC4BLUE Posted May 28, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 28, 2016 If I may add, the submissive is often the leader in any power relationship. The sub needs to have the control. It can be easy as a Dom to get caught up in the role. Remember as the Dom you have complete respect and care of the Sub. Communication before, during and especially after is important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Biguy89 Posted May 28, 2016 Author Members Report Share Posted May 28, 2016 11 hours ago, Tyger said: Let me add that a sub is actually the one with the most control. The sub sets the standard as far as what they're willing to do and not to do. Always have a Safe Word for the sub. The Safe Word has to be some random, way out of place word that nobody would use in the bedroom. For example "Twinkie" or "Plant", even as simple as one's favorite color. Easily remembered, and always honored. The Safe Word is the signal to have whatever is going on, to stop immediately. Kris is right. Talking before hand is key. Make sure basic boundries are known, accepted, and discussed thoroughly. As time progresses, boundries can be expanded, and different things can be tried. Remember, 50 Shades of Grey isn't a normal sub/dom scenario. That level of domination takes years of practice (and money). Thanks for the advise i let her use a few select toys this morn and she loved it 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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