Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 I don’t know if I am being too sensitive, but I can’t to date someone who misunderstands my sexuality. I see myself as very sexual, and the best partners were able to recognize my enthusiasm. What turns me on is when they compliment me! The worst partners were the ones who didn’t get me and would jump to conclusions, like assuming that someone is a virgin at 32 when they’re experienced. Or, assuming that a woman is willing to sleep with anything when she’s picky. I am direct with partners. I find that no matter how much you explain something to someone, they don’t always understand. People say ignore someone’s dumb comment, but these comments kill any developing sexual attraction I have for a person. It’s sad when someone doesn’t realize that their comment is anti-seductive. Is anyone similar? Would you date someone who stuck their foot in their mouth about your sexuality? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jay | Tesstesst.nl Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 4 hours ago, Kama said: Is anyone similar? Would you date someone who stuck their foot in their mouth about your sexuality? I would not, and if someone who thinks he is my friend regardless of how long they have had that status should think it is okay to judge me based on my sexual preferences he can bloody well F*** off I am me, if you don't like that, leave me alone. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 15 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said: I would not, and if someone who thinks he is my friend regardless of how long they have had that status should think it is okay to judge me based on my sexual preferences he can bloody well F*** off I am me, if you don't like that, leave me alone. It’s weird to me how my own “friends” (at least they said they were) misjudged me the most. They did make sexual advances towards me, but I rejected them. maybe people say things out of spite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jay | Tesstesst.nl Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 1 minute ago, Kama said: It’s weird to me how my own “friends” (at least they said they were) misjudged me the most. They did make sexual advances towards me, but I rejected them. maybe people say things out of spite. They do, but that is because we are taught to be petty about anything sexual 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 2 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said: They do, but that is because we are taught to be petty about anything sexual Maybe I am old fashioned, but I don’t want to mix friends and sex with each other. Once someone is a sex partner, it’s hard to go back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jay | Tesstesst.nl Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 Just now, Kama said: Maybe I am old fashioned, but I don’t want to mix friends and sex with each other. Once someone is a sex partner, it’s hard to go back. I personally just see where things go, fighting sexual urges because your friendship wouldn't survive says something about that friendship. If the sex thing is just a one time thing, that doesn't affect the friendship for me. Sometimes it's fun to fuck someone you love and care for, sometimes it's not. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 12 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said: I personally just see where things go, fighting sexual urges because your friendship wouldn't survive says something about that friendship. If the sex thing is just a one time thing, that doesn't affect the friendship for me. Sometimes it's fun to fuck someone you love and care for, sometimes it's not. True. Everyone is different. The good news is that my sex partners see me as sexual. So, it’s all good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Erosattheback Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 I’ve had a number of people make assumptions of misread my sexual orientation. When that happens I will take my time to see if it is a prejustice or a simple mistake. If people have problems with who I am then I walk away. Kama you say you are a sexual person. Good for you! I understand that. I often call myself very sexual. I love the sexy side of me. Anyone around me knows how sexual I am and can be. If they can’t handle it, screw them. I’ve had a few people try to tell me what my sexual orientation is, straight, gay, bi, pan, etc. At this point I don’t identify with the labels of others. I like sex, being sexual, and having sex with those I find attractive. My true friends don’t give a flying F... about my sexual orientation or who I choose to be sexual with. I do have a couple friends that I play with. There has never been a problem with being friends and sex with thes couple of friends. Other friends, there is no way I’d be sexual with. It would be to difficult. And others there is no sexual attraction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 6 minutes ago, Erosattheback said: I’ve had a number of people make assumptions of misread my sexual orientation. When that happens I will take my time to see if it is a prejustice or a simple mistake. If people have problems with who I am then I walk away. Kama you say you are a sexual person. Good for you! I understand that. I often call myself very sexual. I love the sexy side of me. Anyone around me knows how sexual I am and can be. If they can’t handle it, screw them. I’ve had a few people try to tell me what my sexual orientation is, straight, gay, bi, pan, etc. At this point I don’t identify with the labels of others. I like sex, being sexual, and having sex with those I find attractive. My true friends don’t give a flying F... about my sexual orientation or who I choose to be sexual with. I do have a couple friends that I play with. There has never been a problem with being friends and sex with thes couple of friends. Other friends, there is no way I’d be sexual with. It would be to difficult. And others there is no sexual attraction. Thanks for the reply. Maybe my social circle is different, but I don’t feel sexual attraction to my friends? Someone once told me that I am a demisexual, but I don’t relate to that at all. I can feel sexual attraction on the spot. I think real friends don’t care either. When I was exploring bisexuality, one couple (friends only) was pushing me to decide if I like men or women more. The fact is that I like men. I am hesitant to share all of the weird experiences I have had. It doesn’t make sense sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jay | Tesstesst.nl Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 3 minutes ago, Kama said: I am hesitant to share all of the weird experiences I have had. It doesn’t make sense sometimes. I can understand that, yet discussing them with someone might actually give you the insight you'd need? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Erosattheback Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 The most important thing is that you are true to yourself. As long as you do that everything else falls into place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 44 minutes ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said: I can understand that, yet discussing them with someone might actually give you the insight you'd need? Edit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jay | Tesstesst.nl Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 6 minutes ago, Kama said: I feel like I sound like a broken record. I am working very hard in counseling to let go of what people think. I have made it known that I like to give blowjobs more than anything. I had a female friend in the past tell me that I was scared of pleasure. I didnt like her comment, since I get pleasure out of giving pleasure. She confessed to having a crush on me. Another man told me that I was a mess sexually, due to my preferences and because I have had sexual trauma in my background. I also turned him down, since I wasn’t interested in having casual sex with him. Sorry if that sounds weird. I am happily dating someone now. You don't sound weird at all, you sound perfectly normal to me. It's very hard to work on yourself in counseling, so without me even knowing you I can say that you rock for that, seriously. If you'd like to be a broken record more privately then on this forum, feel free to contact me through a DM. I don't mind broken records, and love helping people, because I can and want to. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 1 minute ago, Jay | Tesstesst.nl said: You don't sound weird at all, you sound perfectly normal to me. It's very hard to work on yourself in counseling, so without me even knowing you I can say that you rock for that, seriously. If you'd like to be a broken record more privately then on this forum, feel free to contact me through a DM. I don't mind broken records, and love helping people, because I can and want to. Thanks! Yeah, I feel embarrassed letting stuff out here haha. There’s a lot more that I am not sharing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Erosattheback Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 None of that sound weird. It sounds like you are being more true to you. The others who are making judgements sound more like they have the problem. They want something you are not comfortable giving to them. There is nothing wrong with keeping your preference in tact. I agree working on yourself can be challenging. I give you major props for doing it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted May 11, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 Heh, I feel so weird typing that out. you both made my day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Erosattheback Posted May 11, 2018 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2018 😀 Good for you! Just keep being true to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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