Pregnant And I Want Sex!

[tharper84]

Hello Everyone, I got a bit of a problem today. Well Lets see i have been eoth my man for 6 years now.(in will be 7 on may 15 ) our sex life has bee great over these past years we have tried a little bit of everything. but now were pregnant and there is no sex at all. Now before we got pregnant we had sex almost every othe day, but now that im pregnant i can't get him to touch me at all well if he does its when he wants it. Now ladies we all know that when we get pregnant our hormones start flying. his excuse is that he doesn't want to hurt the baby. I think he's lying i think that since he knows my belly is going to get big he is gonna be unattracted to me. he always said he don't like big women.At night i find him downloading porn on the computer and getting off to it but the minute i tell him that i want it he goes to sleep an dont think twice about it, he says he's forgot. Im just tying to see if this is just my hormones because im pregnant or is it him and he really dont want to have sex. Someone please help me im on the verge of cheating and i have never cheated on him in all of these 7 years.

[Kinky Twinkie]

First sex isn't worth cheating for and if your considering that option then there must be other under lying issues that need to be addressed. This not the time to split up a family before it even started. Pregnancy is tough, but your love has to get you through it.

My wife and I just gave birth to our first baby and we were able to engage in sexual activity but most positions we were not able to engage in. Depending on what stage your in will prety much determine the positions your able to participate in. what works for one couple might not be do able with another.

We found that she could be on top worked well but required some support at times so she had to have something to hang on to.

You can try ling on your back on the edge of the bed with legs up while he is standing up and penetrating.

Plus we did a position lying in bed with her on her back and me on my side where we look sort of like a t. I would lie some what east to west where she would lie north and south. You'll have to experiment with what works for you, you'll find some position ideas in some articles or books on pregnancy and sex. For most couples it is not something to stop doing unless the couples have fears in which case they should talk to there ob/gyn. Ours encouraged us to have sex as much as we could. It helps get the baby out faster they say. The semen helps dissolve the mucus plug and break the water. Your gonna have to let him know your horny as hell. There is also oral sex and masterbation. Where it gonna be touch is the 6 weeks after the baby comes, they don't want anything in the viginia for 6 weeks even if it a c section like we had( this the stage we at right now).

One problem my wife and I have is the timing, she wants it at different times then I do. I no good after 10:30 pm so I always say you better grab me during the peak hours which is mid morning or early afternoon.

Hope that helps

Glenn

[Mikayla1]

Well, if you do not know, I am pregnant now, about 6 months. My hubby can not keep his hands off me. He doesn't exactly like "big girls" but as an adult he knows that my big belly is not "fat" but baby. While we were pregnant with our first, he did have hesitation about "hurting me" because of the baby - but he got over it quickly.

He went to the doctor with me and made sure baby was OK, and the doctor mentioned "sex was OK" and that was all it took! I have a high sex drive as it is, so add the hormones and I am a SEX MANIAC!!! Men need to know that pregnancy isn't a fatal condition, that we can still carry on through and be horny!

Just be honest with him - you want sex - you want it from him - and start to seduce him. Give him a killer blowjob and then jump on his cock! Do no take no for an answer - once he does it and makes sure you are OK, he will be on board....literally. Also, tell him the "belly" is baby - and that pregnant is beautiful! Wake him up girl!

[Tyger]

Your hubby or BF needs to grow up. Yes, women that are pregnant should rest, be careful, and stop if anything they're doing is hurting them. This does NOT mean that once pregnant, you are the Walking Womb, and should be confined to bed, and not want to do anything, devoid of all physical contact! Maybe this sounds sexist, but, a woman, especially a pregnant one, should be coddled, cuddled, and "babied" herself. For, sooner than you think, there will be a little one there that will take up a majority of your time, attention, and energy.

Giving birth is a miracle unto itself. To say that you're "big" cuz you have a growing person in you is insulting and disrespectful. Getting off to porn on the internet, especially when you have a willing partner in bed that wants you, is also extremely disrespectful, and I am sure, insulting to you.

Women do tend to gain weight while pregnant. DUH on him. There's the baby, and then there can be water retension, gas, swelling, sore muscles, and other uncomfortable stuff to endure. What does he get??? Does his body rapidly go, and feel like it's not his anymore? No. Does he have something kicking at internal parts that you never knew you could actually FEEL? No. Does he loose sleep cuz the baby is doing the Macerana in his belly? Of course not.

Women, unless instructed by their OB/GYNs, can have sex up until the day they give birth!! Period. End of story. Thank you. Now, there may be some positions that, with the ever-growing belly, may be uncomfortable and hard to manuver, but those things can be changed. When I was pregnant, some of my favorite sex was when we spooned.

I definitely wouldn't recommend cheating. Not only are you pregnant with your SO's baby, but, of course, there are STDs out there, that not only are bad for you, but can be very dangerous when having a child. Some can cause blindness, & be passed on to the children. A whole list of scary things.

Take him to your OB/GYN, have her explain the things that will be OK for you to do still AND the things you should avoid. That way, he can't say "Well, the Dr. didn't say anything about THAT, so it's best to avoid it". THEN sit down and talk with him about how you're feeling. Some men like "clearance" to know what's ok, and what's not.

Sorry if I sounded a little harsh, but, having been pregnant before, and going thru the aches, and pains of a semi-difficult pregnancy, then the aftermath of a c-section (I had some complications), it fries my ass to think a man is disresectful to the mother of his unborn child.

[ShyBear]

I have 3 children and never had problems having sex while pregnant with any of them. In fact the Ob/Gyn encouraged us to have sex since it kept the vaginal area stretched well and said that I would be less likely to tear or need an episiotomy during labor. He was right, not a single stitch with any of them.

For your guy to go from having sex with you all the time to not having sex he is apparently under some heavy duty misconceptions about pregnancy and sex. If it is because he doesn't like "Big Women" and he is anticipating that fact, then he just plain needs to grow up. First, you are not going to be "Fat" you are going to be pregnant, that is a baby in your stomach, not blubber. Second, it is only temporary. Once you have the baby much of that will be gone. The rest is up to you of course, but still, he has to realize that what he is getting in the end has to out weigh the fact that you have a few pounds.

As the others have said....have him go with you to the OB/GYN and listen to what they have to say. Show him in the pregnancy books. "What To Epxect When Your Expecting" was my pregnancy bible, maybe it will help you out with him as well.

ShyBear