Finger In Anus During Oral? (my First Post Ever)

[Janene274]

This is long, but please forgive me. I want to be detailed to get the best answers in response.

Please don't laugh. I'm new here and not using to typing such detailed information. I'm usually a reader... :-/ But, I have a question and I would like opinions please. From men also....

I read in so many places about instering a finger in a man's anus during oral. Okay, well...I decided to try it this weekend. The first time I tried it, during oral I had one hand on his balls and decided to kind of just move a little lower, and just get REALLY close, not not really GO FOR IT, to gauge his response. I'm 33, and in a relationship with a 22-year-old who has very limited experience, not that I have so much myself, but I knew he'd never don't anything like that either. So, he didn't try to stop me, and he seemed to cum faster than normal. I wasn't sure if I was imaginging it though. His only comment really, was, "I was wondering how much closer you were going to get." So, that evening, I decided to try it again, but I didn't mention it, because I thought he would say not to. So, during oral, I kind of gently moved his leg a little to the side for access, and to see if he said, "WHOA!" He didn't stop me, so I moved his leg a little more and very slowly barely placed my finger to the opening. I wasn't brave enough to go for full insertion. He definitely had a reaction. He let out a few moans, and while he normally strokes my hair, which is long, there were a few noticable tugs...not YANKS, just tugs, and he came VERY quickly. I now considered this a confirmed reaction. So, after completion I waited a minute and then asked him, "You okay?" (He was quiet.) His answer was:" I am soooo confused."

Now, I was not surprised by this. He's young, fairly shy, not real outgoing in the bedroom, but I think that's just because he's only had sex with his high school girlfriend, and the they didn't experiment with much. He is getting a bit better about the shyness in the bedroom, but I still sometimes have to say, "You know, we can try different positions. I'm VERY flexible" things like that. I also read that many many are a little freaked out by the fact that they enjoy the sensation. They think it makes them less of a man, or whatever. I asked him if I hurt him, and he said, no, but his pride and ego were a little in shock right now. I told him, "look, if you really didn't like it, I won't do it again, but from your reactions, you liked it." He said he wouldn't go so far as to say he liked it and that the jury was still out. I said, well, just don't close your mind to something just because it's different. There are nerve endings there, and it's as simple as that. I said, okay, tell me this, did it feel good? He kind of sheepishly responded in a lowered voice, "Yeah, it did."

So, today I finally brought the subject up again and said, about that...it felt good to you, even if you don't want to admit it. I told him, look, I know you're a man, andyou think you aren't supposed to like that sort of thing, but it's okay. A lot of people do it. I said, well, would you want me to do it again, or should I say would you let me? (I thought maybe he would want it, but not want to admit it and therefore ALLOW it and just not ask for it. does that make sense? I hope it did...that was a little jumbly) So, he said, "Just, next time...make sure you wash your hand afterwards." I said, "baby, when I got up and went in the bathroom, that's what I did, you just didn't notice becauase your mind was still fuzzy."

OKAY!!!!!!

So, now that I finished my long narrative, if you have any comments...please give them. But, I have a few questions.

1. Is his reaction normal? The confusion, not sure if he liked it, wanted it again, whatever....

2. IF I do this again, I would likely want to take baby steps for him. How far should I go?? Fingertip? The length of the nail bed? To the first bend in the finger? Do I just judge and see what he reacts to? I'm new to this also...

3. I have nails, not long, but should I use a finger condom? Or will this feel differently?

4. Lots of lube, little? (The firs two times, there was no ACTUAL insertion, so there was no lube and it was kind of unplanned.)

[Janene274]

WOW! Thank you sooo much for such a fast and THOROUGH reply. I was married for 10 years and didn't get to experiment with much during that time, and as I said, he's even more limited in his. I do know considerably more than him, but this topic is new to both of us. Thank you VERY much.

[halfaclue]

I wish there were more women like you! I am a male and also enjoy anal stimulation. However, I was quite hesitant to ever bring it up to my partner, because some people do consider it a doorway to being gay. This is absolutely not the case! So, I'll will also try to answer your questions and provide some insight for what worked for me.

1. Is his reaction normal? The confusion, not sure if he liked it, wanted it again, whatever....

Yes, this is normal. Again, it comes from him feeling like it could make him gay. It will be your job to explain how sexy you find it and assure him he's even more of a man for being open minded.

2. IF I do this again, I would likely want to take baby steps for him. How far should I go?? Fingertip? The length of the nail bed? To the first bend in the finger? Do I just judge and see what he reacts to? I'm new to this also...

The best thing to do is take it slow. Starting with a finger is a great idea. Let him know beforehand that you will always stop if he says to. Make sure he's relaxed and don't hesitate to use lots of lube. Starting after you've already got him hot and horny helps make it easier too.

3. I have nails, not long, but should I use a finger condom? Or will this feel differently?

Long nails can be a risk. It can be done carefully, but I'd suggest using a condom over the finger in those cases. It will feel just as good!

4. Lots of lube, little? (The firs two times, there was no ACTUAL insertion, so there was no lube and it was kind of unplanned.)

Lots, always lots.

Be aware that as you move to larger things (i love being fucked with my gf's strap-on) it will cause some pain at first. Pull it out, and start to slowly insert again. It may take two or three attempts, but the muscles there will relax. Happy playing!

[thurisas]

Just popping my 2 cents in here really quick. I've recently had my first experience with anal. I will say that there was an odd feeling afterward but it had absolutely nothing to do with feeling like I might be a homosexual. I'm actually quite comfortable in my own masculinity. My discomfort stemmed from the fact that for the first time ever I had something entering me where I never thought anything would go in. Its a world of difference in the thought process behind being entered for the first time when you've been the one doing all the entering, and the thought process behind thinking you're gay. That being said, was it enjoyable? Oh, yeah. Will we be doing it again? I certainly hope so. Was there ever a thought running through my mind that my sexual partner prefrences had changed? Nope. Just wanted you to know that there can be other reasons out there for the discomfort.

Thurisas.

[CGEM]

1. Is his reaction normal? The confusion, not sure if he liked it, wanted it again, whatever....

2. IF I do this again, I would likely want to take baby steps for him. How far should I go?? Fingertip? The length of the nail bed? To the first bend in the finger? Do I just judge and see what he reacts to? I'm new to this also...

3. I have nails, not long, but should I use a finger condom? Or will this feel differently?

4. Lots of lube, little? (The firs two times, there was no ACTUAL insertion, so there was no lube and it was kind of unplanned.)

Hi there,

Here are my comments:

1. Very normal, I would say. We guys often like to talk about sex with our buddies, but it's very rare that anyone starts to talk about having something stuffed up his butt. It's only OK to be a bit confused.

2. As you said: Baby steps. Take it veeeeery slowly. The good thing about taking things "too slowly" is that you build the appetite for exploring some more. Another tip is that you make it a side order, not the main dish. Add the finger while giving him one of your fabulous bj's. I see that you already do this.

3. I don't really know. I guess it's safest to trim your nails.

4. Absolutely a lot. It's only comfortable.

What about getting an anal toy? In my opinion, it is less intimidating and more practical than a finger. You don't have to worry about rushing to the bathroom to wash your hands. And you can have just as long nails as you wish!

[Janene274]

Hi there,

What about getting an anal toy? In my opinion, it is less intimidating and more practical than a finger. You don't have to worry about rushing to the bathroom to wash your hands. And you can have just as long nails as you wish!

He's still hesitant about it. If I just kind of ease the idea upon him, I think he'll be more likely to try it than if I come at him with a dedicated toy. He said "next time" so he's not OPPOSED to it as much as confused by the feeling I think.

You guys give good advice. Nice to hear from men. Thank you all!

[bethvr13]

I have been thinking about adding the finger in the ass to my bj repertoire, but wanted to see what my buddies at TooTimid had to say. Just wanted to say thanks to the guys for responding, I will definitely be trying this next time I see my guy.

Also wanted to say how much I love these forums, I have gotten so many great tips

[Never Enough]

This is long, but please forgive me. I want to be detailed to get the best answers in response.

Please don't laugh. I'm new here and not using to typing such detailed information. I'm usually a reader... :-/ But, I have a question and I would like opinions please. From men also....

I read in so many places about instering a finger in a man's anus during oral. Okay, well...I decided to try it this weekend. The first time I tried it, during oral I had one hand on his balls and decided to kind of just move a little lower, and just get REALLY close, not not really GO FOR IT, to gauge his response. I'm 33, and in a relationship with a 22-year-old who has very limited experience, not that I have so much myself, but I knew he'd never don't anything like that either. So, he didn't try to stop me, and he seemed to cum faster than normal. I wasn't sure if I was imaginging it though. His only comment really, was, "I was wondering how much closer you were going to get." So, that evening, I decided to try it again, but I didn't mention it, because I thought he would say not to. So, during oral, I kind of gently moved his leg a little to the side for access, and to see if he said, "WHOA!" He didn't stop me, so I moved his leg a little more and very slowly barely placed my finger to the opening. I wasn't brave enough to go for full insertion. He definitely had a reaction. He let out a few moans, and while he normally strokes my hair, which is long, there were a few noticable tugs...not YANKS, just tugs, and he came VERY quickly. I now considered this a confirmed reaction. So, after completion I waited a minute and then asked him, "You okay?" (He was quiet.) His answer was:" I am soooo confused."

Now, I was not surprised by this. He's young, fairly shy, not real outgoing in the bedroom, but I think that's just because he's only had sex with his high school girlfriend, and the they didn't experiment with much. He is getting a bit better about the shyness in the bedroom, but I still sometimes have to say, "You know, we can try different positions. I'm VERY flexible" things like that. I also read that many many are a little freaked out by the fact that they enjoy the sensation. They think it makes them less of a man, or whatever. I asked him if I hurt him, and he said, no, but his pride and ego were a little in shock right now. I told him, "look, if you really didn't like it, I won't do it again, but from your reactions, you liked it." He said he wouldn't go so far as to say he liked it and that the jury was still out. I said, well, just don't close your mind to something just because it's different. There are nerve endings there, and it's as simple as that. I said, okay, tell me this, did it feel good? He kind of sheepishly responded in a lowered voice, "Yeah, it did."

So, today I finally brought the subject up again and said, about that...it felt good to you, even if you don't want to admit it. I told him, look, I know you're a man, andyou think you aren't supposed to like that sort of thing, but it's okay. A lot of people do it. I said, well, would you want me to do it again, or should I say would you let me? (I thought maybe he would want it, but not want to admit it and therefore ALLOW it and just not ask for it. does that make sense? I hope it did...that was a little jumbly) So, he said, "Just, next time...make sure you wash your hand afterwards." I said, "baby, when I got up and went in the bathroom, that's what I did, you just didn't notice becauase your mind was still fuzzy."

OKAY!!!!!!

So, now that I finished my long narrative, if you have any comments...please give them. But, I have a few questions.

1. Is his reaction normal? The confusion, not sure if he liked it, wanted it again, whatever....

2. IF I do this again, I would likely want to take baby steps for him. How far should I go?? Fingertip? The length of the nail bed? To the first bend in the finger? Do I just judge and see what he reacts to? I'm new to this also...

3. I have nails, not long, but should I use a finger condom? Or will this feel differently?

4. Lots of lube, little? (The firs two times, there was no ACTUAL insertion, so there was no lube and it was kind of unplanned.)

[Never Enough]

This is long, but please forgive me. I want to be detailed to get the best answers in response.

Please don't laugh. I'm new here and not using to typing such detailed information. I'm usually a reader... :-/ But, I have a question and I would like opinions please. From men also....

I read in so many places about instering a finger in a man's anus during oral. Okay, well...I decided to try it this weekend. The first time I tried it, during oral I had one hand on his balls and decided to kind of just move a little lower, and just get REALLY close, not not really GO FOR IT, to gauge his response. I'm 33, and in a relationship with a 22-year-old who has very limited experience, not that I have so much myself, but I knew he'd never don't anything like that either. So, he didn't try to stop me, and he seemed to cum faster than normal. I wasn't sure if I was imaginging it though. His only comment really, was, "I was wondering how much closer you were going to get." So, that evening, I decided to try it again, but I didn't mention it, because I thought he would say not to. So, during oral, I kind of gently moved his leg a little to the side for access, and to see if he said, "WHOA!" He didn't stop me, so I moved his leg a little more and very slowly barely placed my finger to the opening. I wasn't brave enough to go for full insertion. He definitely had a reaction. He let out a few moans, and while he normally strokes my hair, which is long, there were a few noticable tugs...not YANKS, just tugs, and he came VERY quickly. I now considered this a confirmed reaction. So, after completion I waited a minute and then asked him, "You okay?" (He was quiet.) His answer was:" I am soooo confused."

Now, I was not surprised by this. He's young, fairly shy, not real outgoing in the bedroom, but I think that's just because he's only had sex with his high school girlfriend, and the they didn't experiment with much. He is getting a bit better about the shyness in the bedroom, but I still sometimes have to say, "You know, we can try different positions. I'm VERY flexible" things like that. I also read that many many are a little freaked out by the fact that they enjoy the sensation. They think it makes them less of a man, or whatever. I asked him if I hurt him, and he said, no, but his pride and ego were a little in shock right now. I told him, "look, if you really didn't like it, I won't do it again, but from your reactions, you liked it." He said he wouldn't go so far as to say he liked it and that the jury was still out. I said, well, just don't close your mind to something just because it's different. There are nerve endings there, and it's as simple as that. I said, okay, tell me this, did it feel good? He kind of sheepishly responded in a lowered voice, "Yeah, it did."

So, today I finally brought the subject up again and said, about that...it felt good to you, even if you don't want to admit it. I told him, look, I know you're a man, andyou think you aren't supposed to like that sort of thing, but it's okay. A lot of people do it. I said, well, would you want me to do it again, or should I say would you let me? (I thought maybe he would want it, but not want to admit it and therefore ALLOW it and just not ask for it. does that make sense? I hope it did...that was a little jumbly) So, he said, "Just, next time...make sure you wash your hand afterwards." I said, "baby, when I got up and went in the bathroom, that's what I did, you just didn't notice becauase your mind was still fuzzy."

OKAY!!!!!!

So, now that I finished my long narrative, if you have any comments...please give them. But, I have a few questions.

1. Is his reaction normal? The confusion, not sure if he liked it, wanted it again, whatever....

2. IF I do this again, I would likely want to take baby steps for him. How far should I go?? Fingertip? The length of the nail bed? To the first bend in the finger? Do I just judge and see what he reacts to? I'm new to this also...

3. I have nails, not long, but should I use a finger condom? Or will this feel differently?

4. Lots of lube, little? (The firs two times, there was no ACTUAL insertion, so there was no lube and it was kind of unplanned.)

[its1013]

men love it - at least the one's i'm with and i particuarily love it. even just teasing with the finger. OMG, get's me there quicker. an anal toy, a feather whatever - is great, too.

enjoy

SEXUALPEAK

[Never Enough]

you should try some tantra yoga.being relaxed through breathing can relax the whole body,give you better orgasms and controlled orgasms for your man.we always keep lube close by,as my hub can make love for hours.when he feels me a bit dry he put some lube on.i always prefer him to cum in my mouth so after many ejcaulation i love to give him the best oral sex i can.before i massage his prostate i keep one hand on his belly,putting pressure above his penis,gripping his penis then taking him my mouth.i touch,lick and then put pressure to his g-spot[between balls and anus].while I have him in my mouth and a hand on his belly i probe his anus until it's starts accepting my finger.then i put lube on my finger and his anus and insert very slowly.i massage his prostate very gentle and press towards his penis.the size of his erections becomes larger then ever and i deepthroat him to his balls licking them.he goes from seven to eight inches.it truely amazing.i become so aroused he fucks my throat like my pussy.he always like to pull me on top[69] before he comes.this makes me ejcaulate as soon as he shoots into my mouth and our bodies shake.i grip his penis to control his spurts so i can taste his delightful yum,not to waste any,as he swallows what he can of mine.he licks me forever and i keep his penis in my mouth,licking him until it is fully erect again and i always get a second serving.beware when a man can have sex for hours of the huge amounts of cum he will shoot.within an hour it never fails that my anus is begging for a workout and now i never have to use a lube.if it's a good day i receive the 3rd batch.it sure helps when your in love.

[Kinky Twinkie]

If you man EVER needs to hear how lucky he is, have him talk to me.

Hell yes, be prepared for alot of cum cumming your way

Glenn

[Oral Fettish]

Love it, can't get enough!

[Eric]

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