Tantric Blow Jobs..

[Nuffsaid]

Its incredible when your man learns to withold cumming 'till his cum has been 'drawn back' about 3 times. I don't know how he does it but Hubby is a master at this.. staying hard all the time until I make him cum. It makes for more time for me to go down on him of course.

The last session I had with hubby lasted well over three hours. I don't know about any other couples, but this really blew my mind. It was the most intense session I have ever had in my entire life, so I thought I'd share in the hopes that it helps any ladies out there. I include a few tips at the end. It may read a little like a story and yeah, we both felt like we were transported to another "zone" completely.

The light was bright. I went to the bathroom thinking I'd surprise him with the sexy lingerie number I'd got especially. When I stepped out I noticed he'd been to the shops too, and was ready kitted out in the sexiest black stretch silk number I've ever seen. I smiled and he grinned (of course) and I turned the lights down softer, then slowly slid off his little number, without a word. I let my fingers slide over his thighs and run them all over his buns, eyes locked into his. kneeding, rubbing, stroking them, I watched him get harder and harder as he edged me to the bed. He tried to reach over to kiss me and I just whispered "shhh.. " and lay down on my side. He lay on his back next to me, half sitting on his elbows, so I continued looking into his eyes as I brought my lips close to his, so that I felt his breath in my open mouth and mine in his. At the same time I ran the tips of my fingers featherlight over his chest and down, around his nipples and eventually between his thighs. Running the flat of my hand over his inner thighs, I edged his legs open and very, very lightly caressed the tip of his cock, rubbing my face over his as he tried again to catch my lips. Only when I started to stroke his balls did I allow touch his mouth with my tongue; the circular pattern around his balls happening at the same time as my tongue circled the inside of his slightly open mouth. It was really intense! I sucked his tongue as I took his cock in my hand and slowly slid it up to the head of his cock, then kept my thumb "tapping" the head slightly as I worked my mouth down his body, licking and stroking, alternately rubbing my lips against his skin. I moved down to between his legs and locked my eyes back into his as I kissed his balls and licked them all around in little circles, very gently. Then I ran my tongue up that gorgeous vein on the shaft of his cock, stopping to flick it very quickly and lightly over the slit, prolonging thing a little there whilst I tood my hand and rubbed the bottom of his buns near his anus. I kissed and licked the base of the head slowly, watching him close his eyes and moan with pleasure, all the while massaging the outside of his anus gently with one finger. As I licked his shaft again and "nibbled" it with my lips up and down I used my other hand to stroke the inside of his thighs and under his balls. Basically, I was on my elbows, kinda resting on my left one.. one hand massaged the anus, the other hand stroked his thighs and even up his stomach, as I finally took the head of his cock in my mouth and started sucking, moving slowly up and down as my tongue whirled around the head. I stopped and started that a couple times, just so I could suck his balls or kiss and lick the base of his cock between the anus and the ball. I tried to keep eye contact as far as possible, telling him how much I wanted him, how badly I wanted to feel him cum in my mouth. By this point his hips were arched, his arms were stretched above his head grabbing the headboard and his legs were spread as wide as possible.

I carried out licking the head of his cock and asked him if he was enjoying it. Since all he could say was "I wanna fuck you so badly!" I guessed it was working, so I speeded things up, taking his cock deeper into my mouth, keeping the one hand on the anus, the finger pushing slightly in and up towards his prostate whilst the other hand moved up and down the (VERY WET by now) shaft in time with my mouth. I took the head of his cock in my mouth and sucked, moving my head in circles whilst my tongue flicked and circled like crazy. Trained in tantric, my man can withold himself from cumming for almost 2 hours of this treatment, although I often felt the cum move along his cock to the head and then "flush" back, which is always my sign to do some sex talk and ease up on the movement. When I felt him start to cum the third time I took him deeper before it could "flush back" and as far deep in my throat as possible. I'm also fighting the gag reflex and what I do when it happens is remove my mouth, continue with my hand, and tell him what I want to see, and feel, from him. I got right back into the swing of things, turning my body around so he could move my g-string aside and finger me and feel how wet HE was making me.. and he came in no time at all at that point. I kept him deep in my throat as he came, sucking harder, using the flat of my tongue to coax ever last drop out.

Of course 20 minutes later I got the reciprocation of my life.. from oral to fuck, and enjoyed the multiples he is a pro at giving me. I honestly cannot remember what happened for the next 15 minutes or so after we both came (him a second time, this time during intercourse) as it was so intense I think neither of us could think straight.. I cannot wait for him to get home!

The trick, for me, is to fully engage my mind, body, and soul in every action, use my hands in different ways whilst the tongue and lips are busy, and to tease, tease, tease until you know he can't take any more teasing. Then, he'll either beg you verbally to take him over the edge, or pin you down and do YOU senseless. Either way, its a win win!

[Nuffsaid]

Thank you for the detailed description of a wonderful blowjob. Can you expand on why or what it is that makes this a Tantric Blow job for other readers? And, when you said you got the reciprocation of your life about 20 minutes later, can you give us details, and explain why it took so long? Was that on purpose? Your choice, or his? Guys could stand to learn from you how to give you tremendous head, I am sure.

Inquiring minds want to know.

Thanks.

Howard

Hi Howard.

Ok the tantric bit.. To me, "Tantric" means that that the body, mind and spirit connection are all present. It means that sex becomes a sharing of the soul through the physical exchange of caress and through the deliberate control of one's desires. You see, I could've just given him a nice blow job, finished it off and it would've beeng great... but pulling away as he's beginning to cum whilst he tries to hold back the ejaculation means that the next "wave" of ejaculation gets stronger.. the passion grows like this crescendo of desire that's tamed only long enough to multiply. He almost came three times.. he was on the verge of it.. by pulling away the physical attention to his penis that would've led to that but maintaining his pleasure through other input (verbal, and visual) it gives him time to focus on WHO's pleasuring him rather than just the physical receiving of pleasure. if you know what I mean. He has this thing he does where he consciously "pulls back" from ejaculating, and the touching but NOT touching only heightens the spiritual and emotional connection to each other. Breathing each other's breath, almost touching, then touching but not climaxing over and over.. that places things on a very different level to any kind of lovemaking I've ever known. We are both very spiritual people interested in mysticism and so we enjoy the intensity of sharing each other's soul DURING lovemaking. I don't know how else to explain that.

The 20 minutes reciprocation was on purpose. It takes me longer to "calm back" from almost cumming since I'm still learning. Basically, after the initial session, I lay back and did some deep breathing excercises, his body up against mine, our fingers entwined and bodies antwined without kissing or touching either's genitalia (bad word, I know...) anyway, then he slowly rose and turned the cd player on.. (sounds of the ocean) and opened a window. The coolness of the night air on my skin and the heat of what had just happened left us both even more drunk in each other. It was my choice the 20 minutes, to answer your question. Time to center myself whilst he opened my hands, face-up. He smiled and placed his hands over mine, and without touching rubbed them- an "aura massage" if you can call it that, over, under, through my fingers, up my arms, his legs on either side of me. I closed my eyes and could feel the warmth of his hands as he led them from my hands to my shoulders, whilst looking into my eyes, telling me all the wonderful things he sees in me and what he loves about being with me.. He didn't just say this words, he whispered them into my mouth, into my ears, until the humming of his voice and the heat of his skin had me blazing again. "Breathe my love" he said, chuckling, (because I'm still learning all this stuff given some really tough childhood experiences) and he went on breathing into my mouth, teasing my mouth with the tip of his tongue, my ears, my neck, ever so slowly and almost excruciatingly softly.. . we talk about soaring together and truly its what it feels like. Then he lay me down and began to kiss every single milimeter of me from the nape of my neck down whilst he held my hands in his above my head, the drawing them lower down my body as he went lower. He alternated the flicking of his tongue on my breasts with just breathing on them, breathing his breath over the cool, wet kisses.. with those same "almost touching" kisses, sometimes making contact and that would send me spiralling.. All the time, he kept seeking my eyes, and the connection of doing that is just awsome. Sitting up, he pulled me closer by placing my legs over his thighs and crossing his feet behind my back (imagine being cross-legged but latched into each other) whilst his fingers softly teased my outer labia and inner thighs. By the time he eventually inserted his finger, then another, watching my face and telling me what he wanted to do for me, how much he loves me, etc, I was dripping wet. using one hand to caress my breasts, he moved again, positioning himself between my legs where he could best tickle and tease me with his tongue. Just when he felt me about to cum he told me "not yet love.." and moved off to my shins or thighs , talking me through what he saw, what he could feel from me. He moved back up along my thighs and gently sucked on my outer labia, then inner, kissing and caressing my clit with one hand whilstusing my own wetness to lubricate his finger which he then inserted into my anus. It felt absolutely incredible.. the slow, soft, then deeper sucking and teasing of my clit with his tongue and fingers and then feeling his tongue in me whilst he fingered me in the anus. A gradual speeding up brought me to an absolute climax, after which he didn't stop, but slowed back down just long enough to get the juices flowing so he could fuck me properly. And by properly I mean from various positions until I came over and over and over again.

I hope that's not too much detail, but how else to describe it? In those three hours, he and I both almost came half a dozen times, building to a crescendo until we did.. he about 3 times and me *blushes* about 9. There's nothing subtle about subtle touch, and build up...hope it answers your questions and helps anyone out there.

[Nuffsaid]

Thank you for all those explanations, Howard. I have to admit I was beginning to think there was somthing quite occult to our lovemaking! It IS as you say.. he remains "hard" even after and yes, I enjoy teasing him tremendously when he is. Lotus, ei? Now I know!~ Alot of the things we do seem to come naturally, since we were both in loveless marriages before and I think its years of repressed emotions. I often find we are so drunk with just being together that we'd be arrested if we tried to operate ANY machinery, heavy or otherwise. I've had a difficult time with sex all my life since at the age of about 3 it was really messed up for me, but finding myself - with this man that I love so intensely who is also my spiritual guide, in many ways, is a blessing I can only thank God for time and time again. ("Oh GOD!! means a HECK of a lot more to me.. LOL!!)

I'd like to learn a lot more about tantra from the sexual perspective - I know there's tantra on other levels, but I honestly want to make my man feel so loved, so pleasured, so absolutely satisfied that the normal "waxing and waning" of love which is present in most relationships just doesn't affect us much. Beyond the bedroom, I feel if he continues to edify me as he does, with such natural kindness and I can reciprocate, perhaps there's a recipe for success, God willing. Despite all the intensity of that one night, I really believe we've only just scratched the surface on how to "melt" into each other. I find our bodies are a great tool, yet the lovemaking that takes place at soul level I cannot describe. It's like meeting in the air just between our bodies, fusing, dancing, melting into each other. Reading your response gives me hope that we're not at all crazy.. only discovering stuff some people have known forever. I've also given him a full body on body massage with almond oil after waking him in my mouth, which got a terrific response. He's studied up on all his Kama sutra positions and taking excercise classes has helped me "keep up".. any advice on positions to try or where I can read up more on the topic of tantra? I'm not into the religious aspect of it; we are both very devoted to our shared faith and students of a branching out mystic path, and we'd both like to explore the outer limitlessness of this love. So any advice would be appreciated. And thanks again. Now I "get" the little "guru" thing at the bottom of your name.

Suzi

[Mikayla1]

I have to applaud your lover for being able to withhold his ejaculations....this is a VERY hard thing to do...even with lots of practice. I also love your description of Tantric sex - that is, in a nutshell, what it is without all the 'dictionary' explanations. In Tantric sex, a couple is brought together with the purpose of loving, sharing, connecting on a spiritual level - orgasms are secondary and thought to be "etherial" as opposed to the 'ultimate goal' of the session. So many people misunderstand what Tantra is - and it sure seems as if you two have an understanding and a fun way to practice it.

Thanks for sharing...

[KentJ]

Nuffsaid,

I am slow to read your initial post, but boy am I happy that I made it here! You post is exactly what I aspire to, for my wife and I. My only problem is that my wife is not "on-board". unfortunately, she is quick to state that we have so many other things in our life, that something has to give - sex. Real bummer, but I refuse to "abandon" the notion that our sex life is going to remain linked to "quarterly reports". I have got to get my wife to read this site, without her feeling that I have betrayed her.

Thanks for sharing with all of us!

Njoy

[chloegirl]

Ahhh if only! Alas, I'm afraid that no matter how much "education" and encouragement some people get they are just never going to be willing to try THAT hard and their partners are doomed to a sex life of mediocrity. Damn!

[chloegirl]

Yes Howard you're right! We're working on it....but I can't in good conscience just throw away 25 years when every other aspect of our life is good. Things are moving along slowly, but they are moving and I'll give it some time to see if it will progress ENOUGH. You all are a big help and inspiration in the process....(now don't scold me unless you want to include a spanking in there! ha ha!) Luv ya!

[chloegirl]

You got it...life would be a whole lot easier for us all if everything was in black and white. Decisions would be easier to make. Mostly though it's shades of gray and you've got to figure out which side of the balance scale is most important to you but still remain true to yourself and your needs.

[SilverStiletto07]

To Nuffsaid and Howard:

I have to say I am nervous after reading your posts. I'm new at all of this stuff, and I had no idea the depth and energy that could go into lovemaking. It makes me a bit nervous about it all, and it feels a little overwhelming!

I have never had sex yet, because I am kinda conservative in that I don't want to have sex until I am in a serious relationship and can trust the man I'm with. And, since I have never had any serious relationships, that has not happened yet until recently. I am with this amazing man, and I know that it won't be too long before we finally have sex. We have already been almost naked with each other and have used our hands on each other and have made each other orgasm that way, and just recently, I gave him a blowjob- my first blowjob ever! And, it was incredible. I never knew I would enjoy that experience so much, and I didn't realize how soft the penis is (as I have very little experience with them. ) Anyway, it was over in like, 2 minutes because it was our first time doing anything oral and I had been teasing him about what I wanted to do to his penis for a few days and there was just so much anticipation- you understand, right? In fact, I'm really glad it went down that fast because I really did not know what I was doing and I had told him that and I told him that I needed a little guidance. I took some initiative, becuase if there's one thing I do know how to do, it is that I know how to get him hard, I just wasn't sure as to how to get him off. So, I did what I felt to be "natural" and invited his input durinig the whole thing and it was amazing!

Anyway, the point is that I realize it won't always be this easy, and I hope to take some of your advice and take the effort to build the anticipation as time goes on, but what I am nervous about is how will I be able to read his body? I cannot tell what feels good on him and what doesn't. Is that something you learn over time as you get to know one another? I really want to be a good lover to him, because he is such an incredible person and I want sexual pleasure to be a gift to him. But in reading your post, it just seemed to be such a natural flow of events, and I feel like I could never be that smooth! Ah! Help!

Also, that night after my first time going down on him, he expressed a strong desire to reciprocate the favor, however he is always really careful about not pushing me into doing something I do not want to do. The thing is that I am really self-conscious about my body. I know he cares for me, and after reading your story, Nuffsaid, it makes me want to allow him to do it all the more! But, I just don't think I'll be able to enjoy it because I'm so self-conscious. How do I get over that?? Have either of you had that problem before? I mean, obviously it's going to be harder given that this is my first time with oral sex, but I would like advice on how to get past that if you have it.

Finally, I just want to say thanks for sharing your advice! It is nice to read some sex advice that is... holistic? It feels like everything is so "body only," if you know what i mean, and doesn't seem to incorporate a person's soul and personality, which is the bulk of Justin's and my relationship. We have a connection that is more than just physical, and he is the onlly guy I've experience it with so far. And, once I introduce this type of lovemaking to him (once we actually MAKE love!), I'm sure he'll jump on board with it, as I know him enough to know that he would be totally into this stuff.

I was wondering, do you have any books that you would suggest to us that we could read as a couple that would help with technique? I really know nothing about this!

Oh, and p.s. Justin is like I in that he hasn't slept with many people outside the two long-term relationships that he has had, and from what I can gather, his sex life in those two relationships was not all that good. He had told me before I went down on him that he wasn't keen on getting blow jobs because he had never experienced a good one. After reading this post, this motivates me to make it REALLY good for him!!!

Thanks!

Andie