Members telecom69 Posted October 11, 2005 Members Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 My girlfriend (44 yrs old) is finally starting to experience orgasms on her own now with the vibrator I bought her to learn about herself in private. She said she is learning how and where to touch now, is very grateful I got it for her, and how patient I've been so far to help her learn about all of this. Believe me, she knew almost nothing. She has had almost no sexual experience in her 44 yrs and is almost like starting from scratch. We love each other deeply. She still can't orgasm from her own hand, my hands or oral. I consider myself pretty experienced, so hopefully that isn't the issue. I guess all guys say that though When I ask if we can use the vibrator together, she says she is to embarrased and won't do it. I have been pretty patient thru this process oven seven months to help her self esteem, show her that sex is wonderful and fun, and that sex is not bad or immoral. She has come a long way with my support and patience, and tells me so often, and that she feels she is living life more now because of me. I tell her she can use it on herself while I hold and kiss her, or I can use it on her while having intercourse, none of which she will do. I'm almost to the point where I don't even want to have sex now. I guess I'm feeling left out. Is she hooked only on the vibrator now? I admit it, I'm getting frustrated with this. I've told her she is more important to me than sex, but I believe now the vibrator provides her physical relief, and me only the intimate emotional side.I know, give her more time Help.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members libragirl2564 Posted October 11, 2005 Members Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 just give her some time to become familiar with it and how it makes her feel... she will give it up soon and want you, your touch, your caress and the intimacy that you have been sharing... she is finally exploring and learning what she likes (which is what you have been wanting)and than she will become comfortable with all that and she will share it with you,, you wait and see!! BEEN THERE DONE THAT....GOOD LUCK,,PS: I love reading your posts,,, was me about 2 years ago and really nice to know I am not the only one,, I am in my forties as well... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members telecom69 Posted October 11, 2005 Author Members Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 Thank you libragirl2564! Your reply was very reassuring to me and prevented me from saying some things to her that may have hurt her, which is the LAST thing I want to do. I would like to hear more on your similar experiences if you don't mind. The positive posts on this forum are excellent. When I first found this forum and posted here, I thought it would all be porn based flame posts back, but the posts have been mature, postitive, and constructive. When falling deeply in love, we sometimes become blinded by it and what is truly happening around us. I know it has me. We've agreed to take a two week break from any sex to see what happens and take some presure off us. In my case, patience is truly a virtue. Thx.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sexysandra Posted October 11, 2005 Members Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 (edited) edited Edited January 15, 2006 by sexysandra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.