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Ok, my gf and I are listening to the radio in the car yesterday. The song "Squeezebox" from the "The Who" come on. She listens to the lyrics and asks "are they saying what I think they mean."? I tell her the song really has strong references to titty fucking and not vaginal intercourse as most people think. The Who had many songs with sexual tones that is still amazing got through for their time. I was surprised when she asked me what titty fucking was, so I told her. My ex let me do this now and then to her and it was a blast, but she liked it to. Any woman out there who let their man do this to them who hasn't done it before, and what got you over the hump (pun) to let him do it if you were apprehensive? Telecom

Even though my gf is a lot different and more open than she used to be...she told me she just can't feel like she is really into sex like I am, or her being more assertive, or to be more vocal during sex because it makes her feel like a slut. She says she likes sex, but this slut thing really holds her back. She again goes back to telling me it must be from the way she was raised. Beside professional help, who does one grow out of that? Telecom

Howard, She is my girlfriend, not wife. No plans for me to get married again for awhile. Telecom

Many of you have seen my past posts about the issues I've had with my gf of two years and her hang ups with sex due to her upbringing, bad relationship with father, was taught sex was bad, bad long marraige where her ex only cared about himself, her depression, etc. She has always had problems with orgasms to. When she does have them they are very light and quick. She calls them "micro-orgasms". Well, one Sun morning a few weeks ago I got her into a position that has payed off. I'm laying on my back with my legs spread, and she is laying on me missionary position with her legs together. This is tight for both of us, so I'm sure I feel bigger to her and she is tight for me to. During this first time to do this she starts breathing very hard after a couple of mins and is saying "Oh God" many times until she is moaning a lot and then starts to go limp trying to get her breath back. She tells me after it was the best orgasm she has ever had. I'm sure the tight penetration and our pubic bones rubbing hits her clit just right. Now she is wanting sex a lot more often, pretty much everyday if possible. What a change! I've even heard her in the bathroom tub with the jacuzzi on getting off. I'm sure the water jets are doing wonders for her. I didn't tell her that I know she has done that, which is very sexy. And now I get an email from her telling me not to exercise (training on my bike) to hard this evening because I need to save energy for her tonight. Life is good. Telecom

timid and shy, Is it cheating if your husband is banging or getting banged by some guy? Of course it is. Your sexual preference is your choice, that isn't the issue here. Telecom

Hello All, I haven't posted in awhile, but wanted to pass on something that has always been important to me and get your feedback. I would say my last marriage failed because my ex-wife ceased to want to communicate, thus decided to have an affair with our daughters husband. Obviously that devastated our family. The ex (she is 46) now pretty much lives in poverty after blowing her settlement on her young (he was 19) lover who hit the road once the money was gone. Ex now works all the time and barely gets by and is severely depressed and is still an ourcast from both families and she lives alone. I've been with my gf for about two years and many of you know her past. She has been living with me now for about three months. She is not the type of person who communicates and will clam up unless I press her. I'll say how I feel in the most positive manner I can without being in your face. Sex has still been an up and down thing with us. Kind of like out of sync and not knowing what the other really wants. She still has the orgasm issue which can be frustrating. I told her of a dream I had about her last week where I was going down on her and she was so wet, telling me how she liked it and telling me what to do. Very sexy! She then told me she has some dreams sometimes but they aren't with me in them. She says it is some guy but she really can't see a face and she is having good sex, is uninhibitied, and just letting go. That is something she wishes she could do with me. There probably is a face, but she just doesn't want to tell me. I know woman dream about things like that, so it didn't really bother me. This out of sync thing just gets me, so last night while in bed watching TV I just started to slowly kiss her, take control, and let things build. I asked her this morning about last night and she said... "I was feeling happy yesterday and you were extremely sexy to me last night. Plus, I like you being aggressive." How do you all communicate with your signficant other? Do you like you man to be aggressive? Are you just up front about issues, spin things, etc? Telecom

My gf just doesn't seem to be into toys that penetrate. We have a Fun Factory dual action toy that we have only used twice, and she told me she wasn't into the penetration part of it. She is fine with vibrators and uses them freely in front of me. I loved seeing the dual action one with her. I was thinking of getting her a dildo to, but after seeing her reaction to the dual vibe, its probably not a good idea. Other women have similar feelings? Telecom

How does Timid get the models that are on the home page? Just curious. The model in red holding the rose on the home page is very hot! telecom

I once caught my then 16 yr old son jacking off in his room late at night. I saw a dim light on under his bedroom door when he should have been asleep. I opened the door to tell him to get to sleep and there he is doing his business. He actually looked at me and said "c'mon dad, do you mind"? I just looked at him and said "damn Jordan, keep the door locked". The next morning I told him I have no problem doing that and its normal. I told him I did it at his age to. Its still a funny subject for us to this day and he is 21. Telecom

Mikayla, That is true what you said about the money. She said she is comfortable accepting a gift from me, but her picking something herself out isn't comfortable for her. Now Valentines Day is coming up to

My gf had her 46th birthday on Sunday. On her birthday, I usually always take the time to get her a gift and a card. I decided to do something different this year. I really couldn't think of anything to get her and she would never tell me. So, on her birthday morning, I made her a nice breakfast in bed and then said I'm taking you for a nice lunch at an upscale restaurant, some drinks, and a shopping spree for her to pick out something she would like. I really thought this approach would work and be something different. Well, was I wrong!! She acted kind of strange the whole day and wouldn't really say anything and didn' seem excited about it. We talked last night and she said she was dissapointed I just didn't take the time to get her a gift and that is what she would rather have. I didn't forget or not have time to get her a gift, I was just trying something different. She was appreciative of what I tried, but likes the traditional protocol better. And she said a simple card means as much as anything else. Again, a lesson learned...STAY traditional. Telecom

She is 45 and doesn't plan to have kids, and I certainly don't. She has told me that her ex never told her "no" or put his foot down with limits on her dogs. It was if she was telling me she wishes her ex would have said enough is enough. Emotinally delicate is the word. VERY sensitive. I let go on her (just being honest, not yelling or anything) the other day and told her it annoys the shit out of me when we're on the couch just trying to snuggle with each other and her dogs are all over the couch on us. Like you said, they are dogs, not people. In the end, I know I'm second in her life after her dogs, but thats something I have to deal with. Telecom

Tyger, Wow!! Your description was SPOT on about my gf and her relationship with her dogs. Its not to any ultimatum thing yet, so I'm not worried about that. She does feel bad about how they are stinking up the house and tries her best to remedy it. I lived alone for a year after my divorce, so I guess I need to lighten up more. I just wish she would have more discipline with them so I wouldn't have to say anything to her or walk around and see what they've done. They aren't destructive or anything. And yes, I knew what I was getting into, so I have to deal with it. Thanks all! Telecom

Hello All, Since I last posted, my gf has moved in and things are better sexually. She has changed a lot. Ok, moving on to the next issue now. She has two small and very high maintenance dogs, that to be honest, I do not like. They are hairless dogs and the ugliest things you've ever seen. I have a bigger dog of my own that stays outside and I love that dog very much. One of the concessions she agreed to when she moved in was they could not sleep with us like they did at her apt. They whine, lick themselves all the time, and always kept me up. They now stay in our spare room at night, and also during the day when we are at work. I recently had new carpet put in that room also. They pee on the carpet during the day and now the room smells like urine. When you open the door, its bad. She has tried to clean it up, but it won't go away. When ever I bring it up to put them in a cage during the day, she gets upset, withdrawn, etc. She even had to pay $700 to pay after she moved out of her apt for carpet to be replaced in her bedroom since the smell was so bad. She will even cry sometimes telling me the dogs "are the only things in life" she has. Come on, they're just dogs. She has never had kids, so I guess I can see some of that. These dogs are spoiled rotten and they follow her EVERYWHERE she walks, are all over us on the couch when I would like some private time with her, etc. Its very annoying. When I let my dog in, he'llbe to himself on his blanket and leave us alone. She takes it personal when I ask her if she can put the dogs in the room for awhile so we can be on the couch to ourselves. Dogs are wonderful pets, but have to have some limits just like kids do. The dogs issues are actually starting to put stress on out relatinship. And, she has told me in the past that her dogs would always win out in any relationship. That scares me to and I take that personal. How can I deal with this more? Am I out of line? THX! Telecom

Hi, I posted an update on here about this, but don't remember where. Things are much better. She is now living with me, and she is more willing sexually to. She is able to have orgasms more now, and I can tell she is into it. We have four vibes now, and she will even use them in front of me. Big time turn on!! I've learned that I just have to take control more with her, and that seems to turn her on. We're still dealing with her depression and she is a sensitive women, but I have to deal with those day-by-day. Some days are great and I can tell she is ok, other days she is quiet and has things on her mind. Those are not the days for sex, as she just isn't relaxed. I'll just be patient with her and let her know I'm here if she needs me. I'm a health nut freak and believe a healthy and in shape body can get you get you thru life easier. She is now working out with me and trying to deal with her diet better. The worst part now is my ex and my kids (17, 19, 21) don't really think she should have moved in with me. Only my 19 yr old daughter lives with me sometimes and I think she is jealous. I've been divorced 2.5 yrs and have moved on. My ex hasn't even though she is the one that had the affair (with family members husband) and that is why we're divorced. Divorce continues to create drama. Telecom

I'm curious as to what some of the other guys out there experience with sex & performance when drinking. I love my Jack Daniels and water when the time is right, and had to many when celebrating on Sat night. Sex is always better with 1-2, but after more than three the old Johnson doesn't want to cooperate. Ended up taking care of the giflfriend in other ways. I know its common to have some difficulties with erection with to many drinks, but curious as to how this impact some of you. I know, don't have to many drinks if you want to have good sex. Thanks... Telecom

Is it common for a woman to sometimes get "hot flashes" during orgasm? My gf sometimes gets hot flashes as the normal part of being in her mid-40s, but told me she had one during an orgasm yesterday. She felt a little clammy (sp?) to the touch after. My ex would go flush in the chest, neck, and face during exteme orgasms, with hot flashes only sometimes. Thanks, Curt

My gf recently told me that a fantasy of hers was to think she was having sex with a stranger. She told me we could do this by me waking her up in the middle of the night to have sex, but don't talk to each other. I've read in some magazines that this was a common fantasy for women, so it doesn't bother me. I look at it as positive since my gf is continuing to open up more sexually. My question is this. I know women say "stranger", but I'm sure there is someone they really may be thinking of? Comments ladies? Telecom

Let me give more background. This is her third pregnancy. First time was a miscarraige, second time an abortion, and now this time. I did originally freak out with the threats, etc. Recently my ex (her blood mom) and I sat down with her and talked calmly about the options. She has agreed to look at the adoption route. I love my daughter dearly despite all the hell she has put me through over the last five years with drugs, getting in trouble, stealing from me, running away, etc. She has been clean for over a year now and I am very proud of her for that and I tell her so. She has never worked a day in her life and I believe in my heart she cannot take care of herself. Her mom is broke, and since I make a decent living, I will be the one who will end up rasing and supporting this baby because she will not be able to support herself. I am certain of that. My daughter will be there to, but I'm not in a state of mind to do that. The father is a loser and doesn't work, so he won't be able to pay child support. I know how that is supposed to work, but in reality it doesn't. I've already spoke with two lawyers about it and both told me since he doesn't work and he has no assets, getting any money from him is a long shot at best. She has a lot of psychological problems from when she was on the street when she was 18 and left for Florida, resorted to prostitution for food, and was also raped. As a father, knowing she went through experiences like that sadden my heart and soul so much. I have tried to help her get her GED and drivers license, but she won't put any effort to get them. She is living with a friend now since we just don't get along with anything. Telecom

I've told my current gf that some of the things I've done with her I never did with my ex, which was a lie. I made the mistake early in our dating by telling my gf that my ex and I had great sex when our marriage was good. For some reason that made her think she had to "measure" up. I would love to titty fuck my gf to, but not sure how she would take it. She has never had kids, so her tits look great for a 45 yr old women, and I tell her as often as I can. She has the most perky and stiff nipples I've ever seen when excited.

Ok, this is not really for this forum, but I've appreciated the comments and suggestions I've got here in the past from what I consider virtual friends. My 19 yr old daughter is four months pregnant. The father (25 yrs old) is a loser big time, almost never works (odd jobs, no regular paycheck), sometimes does drugs, no car or money, etc. In fact, he has already taken off and no one knows where he went. I'm sure he'll be back though. He has three other kids from two other women and he doesn't take care for or support them either. I've told her I'm not raising any kids and that she won't be living with me with a baby. Mentally I just couldn't take it and it would create major stress betwee my gf and I. She has no support herself to support it or raise it. She doesn't work, has no money or car either, and a 10th grade education. The family is trying our best to convince her to put it up for adoption, but she is against it. She is not responsible and cannot even take care of herself. She has already had one abortion a year ago. She is sometimes talking to a Baptist adoption agency, but she misses appts and counseling sessions on purpose. I am very serious (I'm 47 yrs old) that I am not raising kids and she wil be on the street. I have to be this serious and firm with her to make her realize how serious this situation is. Comments?

You sound a lot like my gf. She sometimes gets right to the edge with lots of moaning and hips moving, and then tells me to stop as the feeling went away. She then feels bad for me. It used to make me feel bad to, but it took me awhile to realize that is has to be worked through with a lot of patience. Her lack of orgasm seems to happen more when I'm just doing oral on her. When she uses a vibe on herself during penetration, it is easier for her to orgasm. I think just doing oral makes her focus to much on trying to orgasm, thus it won't happen. We're both into the moment more when she uses a vibe during penetration, so she isn't thinking about it as much and an orgasm happens easier. Learning about yourself with a vibe is so important. I've bought my gf three of them over the last year to help her "discover" herself and what works for her. Some guys may be intimidated by a vibrator in bed with them. I love it. Ask your partner. Telecom

From a guys point of view, I wouldn't move back. Since you love him so much, your decision will be painful. But from what you've wrote, he truly isn't ready for the comittment. Telecom

Thanks everyone for your replies. Even since I posted this email ten days ago, she has changed\opened up even more. Its been years since I had sex three times in the same day, much less a Sunday like we did this past Sunday. Its obvious since she is having orgasms now, so she is willing\wanting to have sex more. We got another vibe (Fun Factory Sally) http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=4824. Its expensive, but she loved it. This is her first dual action and I told her she would like it. She guided me every minute of using it on her and I've never seen her moan or move like that. Pure heaven, and what a turn on!! If you have the $$, I highly recommend any of the Fun Factory toys. We even viewed a porno together for the first time, but it was really bad and did nothing for either of us. I actually think this one was to soft core, and she wants something more. That surprised me. She is communicating back to me now during sex to, which is all I ever wanted. Its still hard to believe. So, things are going very good! Happy Thanksgiving to all....... Telecom

I wanted to give an update on my gf and I. I came on this forum about a year ago as a very frustrated guy to vent and get some advice. My gf and I are both in our mid-40's. My gf of about a year then was very timid sexually, non-verbal in bed, and just had a lot of issues about sex. She was brought up Catholic and that mastubation and sex were bad, awful sex life with ex-husband of 20 yrs and hated sex with him, no intimacy or romance with him, and a host of other smaller things to overcome in addition to her state of depression. I've always been patient, caring, and it took me awhile to ease her into all of this with romantic intimacy that she has never had in her life. We've been dating for almost two years now. So, where is my gf now? She is not embarrased to use her vibe with me anymore, will try different positions and actually participate in sex now, communicates a little more during sex..but still has a way to go, initiates sex more often, and will just do simple sexy things now in private and public. Sometime she will let me read passages of erotic novels to her to. And today she told me very excitedly that she wanted to go a a strip club to see what it is like as she has never been, and she really wants to watch porn with me to "get really turned on" as she called it. We'll be at the sex shop tomorrow to look for a couple of flicks. Should be interesting to see how she reacts when we watch it. I'm an ex-bartender and make bad ass margaritas at home, so we'll have one to loosen up before the porn flick. I want it to be a positive experience for her. There were several times I just didn't want to deal with it anymore over the term of the relationship, but sometimes love just pushes you on. I've been as patient with her as best I could often under some difficult circumstances. Mikayla and some others really provided some nice advice and feedback, and I appreciate it very much. Thanks! She seems to have changed for the better even more since she is moving in with me in a couple of weeks. I'm thinking the commitment thing puts her more at ease and is easier for her to see into the future now. Is sex perfect now? No it isn't. But at least I can see her trying, and I feel she is enjoying sexually intimacy a lot more now. Its wonderful to start to be able to experience sexual intimacy more with someone who is dear to me. I'm certainly a lot less stressed out to. Regards, Telecom