Newbie jordan12 Posted January 2, 2009 Newbie Report Share Posted January 2, 2009 So I have this really strong fantasy about fucking my girlfriend in the ass while she pleasures herself with a dildo, but I don't really know how to bring the subject up. We've tried anal in the past and at first she didnt really like it but I think its grown on her because shes seemingly enjoyed it more and more when ive fingered her ass while fucking her, and shes let me stick my cock in there since (as long as we go slow she seems to really like it). Anyways, i dont want to do this with another man, just me and her (wouldn't want to share her). Any advice on how to broach the subject would be much appreciated.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 2, 2009 Members Report Share Posted January 2, 2009 So I have this really strong fantasy about fucking my girlfriend in the ass while she pleasures herself with a dildo, but I don't really know how to bring the subject up. We've tried anal in the past and at first she didnt really like it but I think its grown on her because shes seemingly enjoyed it more and more when ive fingered her ass while fucking her, and shes let me stick my cock in there since (as long as we go slow she seems to really like it). Anyways, i dont want to do this with another man, just me and her (wouldn't want to share her). Any advice on how to broach the subject would be much appreciated....Hmmm....Why don't you start out light and just casually ask her to tell you about one of her fantasies, if she's resistant, just tease her into it. If she tells you, she'll probably make you promise to tell her one too. Sounds good to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie jordan12 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Newbie Report Share Posted January 2, 2009 Hmmm....Why don't you start out light and just casually ask her to tell you about one of her fantasies, if she's resistant, just tease her into it. If she tells you, she'll probably make you promise to tell her one too. Sounds good to me.Thats not a bad idea... im just a little nervous because ive been dating this girl for three years and shes THE ONE, and i don't want to scare her off. At the same time this is something i really want... I guess i just have to try it, and see how it goes? If she says no, i guess its just back to porn lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 2, 2009 Members Report Share Posted January 2, 2009 Thats not a bad idea... im just a little nervous because ive been dating this girl for three years and shes THE ONE, and i don't want to scare her off. At the same time this is something i really want... I guess i just have to try it, and see how it goes? If she says no, i guess its just back to porn lol.You've been dating for three years, I doubt you are going to scare her off at this point. If she is very conservative, you may have to work up to all kind of stuff very slowly. If you love her and she's the one be patient she'll come around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie jordan12 Posted January 2, 2009 Author Newbie Report Share Posted January 2, 2009 You've been dating for three years, I doubt you are going to scare her off at this point. If she is very conservative, you may have to work up to all kind of stuff very slowly. If you love her and she's the one be patient she'll come around.Its not that shes conservative... its more like she has had a VERY bad (forced) experience , and I dont want to make her do something that she doesnt want to do, but at the same time i think she would enjoy it and i know i would go crazy. Its pretty selfish of me to even be trying, but its literally what i fantasize about every time i get horny... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted January 3, 2009 Members Report Share Posted January 3, 2009 Its not that shes conservative... its more like she has had a VERY bad (forced) experience , and I dont want to make her do something that she doesnt want to do, but at the same time i think she would enjoy it and i know i would go crazy. Its pretty selfish of me to even be trying, but its literally what i fantasize about every time i get horny...No not selfish at all. In lue of her prior experience you may have to be very, very patient. She'll come around in time. If I did she will. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MarieMarie Posted January 3, 2009 Members Report Share Posted January 3, 2009 No not selfish at all. In lue of her prior experience you may have to be very, very patient. She'll come around in time. If I did she will.My first time was a very bad experience. I wasn't forced, but my partner just didn't realize what he was doing (and neither did I) and he basically just shoved his way in and I collapsed from the pain. With my second partner, I knew better. He asked once whether I would be up for it, and I told him about my previous bad experience. I said that I would be up for trying it again under the right circumstances (e.g., lots of foreplay, a couple glasses of wine, and a lot of lube). The times we'd tried it after that, it was fabulous for both of us.I agree with Ladylove. Work up to it slowly. Maybe pick out some small, unintimidating ass toys together. I bet she'll come around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 I am of the opinion that conversation should proceed action when it comes to this type of experience. I am with the other poster who suggested you discuss fantasies. If you say to her, "I really want to please you sexually. I want to make sure I am doing any and all that I can to make you sexually satisfied. Are there any fantasies or activities you want to try?"Then, you can tell her what you would like. Tell her it not only really turns you on to think about her having this much pleasure, but the act itself is something you want to do with HER - cause she is THE ONE for you. Make sure she is comfortable with the idea, tell her you want to make sure she enjoys it. Distinguish yourself from her past bad experience by letting her know up front that it is for HER pleasure as well, and that you will be careful and go slowly.By having this type of conversatio first, she will feel nurtured and loved and may be more willing to try it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members KentJ Posted January 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted January 4, 2009 Find out now if this woman is willing to listen to and explore your mutual and individual sexual desires now; once you have gotten married you don't want to be in a bad situation like I am with a wife who has "shut-down" sexually. Communication, communication, communication is the sexiest thing about any relationship!Njoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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