Members ladylove Posted April 25, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Alright, think about this:What kind of sex life can I expect to have when the son of my former SO is moving in with me?? HIS kid in the next room??I guess its back to the good ol back seat when the time comes, huh? A quiet one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 25, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 He goes to bed around midnight since his first class is at 9:00am . I have to get up at 4:30am to go to work. At least we have Fridays and Saturdays to get our groove on . Maybe once or twice during the week when he goes out I Guess your just going to have to grin and bear it until he goes off to college. Which will be in a blink..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted April 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 A quiet one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted April 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 I Guess your just going to have to grin and bear it until he goes off to college. Which will be in a blink.....Yep, I think your right about that. Thank God for the Vegas trips Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 25, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Yep, I think your right about that. Thank God for the Vegas trips Too funny, we go to Atlantic City some. Have you ever gone to the spa in Palm Springs,where the under water springs were discovered by Indians....... I can't remember the name of it off hand right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted April 25, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Too funny, we go to Atlantic City some. Have you ever gone to the spa in Palm Springs,where the under water springs were discovered by Indians....... I can't remember the name of it off hand right now.No, we haven't. We do go to some of the local Indian casinos, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 29, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 No, we haven't. We do go to some of the local Indian casinos, though.On one of you R&R weekends you and your wife should try a spa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 29, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 Sounds as though your SO has experienced a year of horrible trauma. I can't even imagine. Has she had any therapy? Maybe she or both of you need to go and get some therapy to improve your situation. If it can be improved. Are you willing to work that hard, and if you do what if nothing changes? How are you going to feel then. Are you willing live in a sexless marriage, if that's what it come to? Will resentment and angry depressive feelings build over time? You may not be the sort of man to show anger towards the women you love, but my dear Sunday, depression is anger turned inward. Can you live there?Sunday, you are the only one that can decide what it is you want and need for yourself. What is it that Sunday needs in and from a sucessful relationship in order to be happy and content. Good luck. You are in a tuff spot!It was several years of something I guess it wasn't too traumatic or she would have left the guy. We go to couples counseling and I go to a counselor myself, but she says she has straightened out all her issues and she doesn't need any help so she doesn't see anyone. Things are better now. I'm finding other outlets for my sexuality (you've seen some of that in the stories forum) and my energy. I care less and think less about her and the relationship so I don't take it so personally that she has little desire for me. Plus, due to her lack of interest I don't desire her so much now, so it's less frustrating for me. It's her loss, really. I'm good in bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 29, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 It was several years of something I guess it wasn't too traumatic or she would have left the guy. We go to couples counseling and I go to a counselor myself, but she says she has straightened out all her issues and she doesn't need any help so she doesn't see anyone. Things are better now. I'm finding other outlets for my sexuality (you've seen some of that in the stories forum) and my energy. I care less and think less about her and the relationship so I don't take it so personally that she has little desire for me. Plus, due to her lack of interest I don't desire her so much now, so it's less frustrating for me. It's her loss, really. I'm good in bed. Are you going to be happy with a sparse sex life? Or will you end up taking your needs else where? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 29, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 29, 2009 It was several years of something I guess it wasn't too traumatic or she would have left the guy. We go to couples counseling and I go to a counselor myself, but she says she has straightened out all her issues and she doesn't need any help so she doesn't see anyone. Things are better now. I'm finding other outlets for my sexuality (you've seen some of that in the stories forum) and my energy. I care less and think less about her and the relationship so I don't take it so personally that she has little desire for me. Plus, due to her lack of interest I don't desire her so much now, so it's less frustrating for me. It's her loss, really. I'm good in bed. Are you going to be happy with a sparse sex life? Or will you end up taking your needs else where?My own relationship issues have grayed my initial response. I would like to say:I'm glad you have found other outlets for your sexual energy, I've along with others have enjoy your stories. However caring less about her and your relationship doesn't sound good at all. It almost sounds like you may be disengaging, which will only hurt both of you in the long run. Be carful how much you try to compartmentalize some of your feelings. I hope you've found your happily ever after. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted April 30, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 On one of you R&R weekends you and your wife should try a spa.Good idea . Will give it a try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 30, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Good idea . Will give it a try.when you do, book your treatments ahead of time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members garry Posted April 30, 2009 Members Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 when you do, book your treatments ahead of time.Thanx for the tip . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 4, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 It was several years of something I guess it wasn't too traumatic or she would have left the guy. We go to couples counseling and I go to a counselor myself, but she says she has straightened out all her issues and she doesn't need any help so she doesn't see anyone. Things are better now. I'm finding other outlets for my sexuality (you've seen some of that in the stories forum) and my energy. I care less and think less about her and the relationship so I don't take it so personally that she has little desire for me. Plus, due to her lack of interest I don't desire her so much now, so it's less frustrating for me. It's her loss, really. I'm good in bed. Both your losses..... the tuff question is are you completely happy.**If you ever actually get married, think about a pre-nup.** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted May 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 Both your losses..... the tuff question is are you completely happy.**If you ever actually get married, think about a pre-nup.**At this stage in our lives it's an absolute necessity. Between us we own several houses and commercial buildings, 10 vehicles of various types, two dogs, three kids, a business, and who know what else. Neither of us is crazy enough to potentially let a court sort it all out. Oh, and 8 goldfish. Gotta remember the fish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted May 4, 2009 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 Both your losses..... the tuff question is are you completely happy.Is anyone ever completely happy? Like a lot of people, I'm doing my best to be happy with what I've got. I've had incredible, exciting, mind-blowing sex. My wife used to excite me to the point that I thought I would lose my mind - I couldn't think of anything but doing nasty things to her body. She rewarded my desire by sharing amazing sexual experiences with me. That's more than a lot of people have ever had. Instead of looking at what I don't have now and feeling sorry for myself, I'm looking at what I once had and feeling very very lucky - and (pretty much) happy. Yes, it would be great if my SO and I desired each other the way my wife and I did, but I've decided not a to make it a prerequisite for happiness. Thank you, BTW. Comments I've read on this board have done a lot to make me feel better about things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 4, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 At this stage in our lives it's an absolute necessity. Between us we own several houses and commercial buildings, 10 vehicles of various types, two dogs, three kids, a business, and who know what else. Neither of us is crazy enough to potentially let a court sort it all out. Oh, and 8 goldfish. Gotta remember the fish.Good! you never know how people will react to the pre-nup question. I think they are imperative in some cases.Is anyone ever completely happy? Like a lot of people, I'm doing my best to be happy with what I've got. I've had incredible, exciting, mind-blowing sex. My wife used to excite me to the point that I thought I would lose my mind - I couldn't think of anything but doing nasty things to her body. She rewarded my desire by sharing amazing sexual experiences with me. That's more than a lot of people have ever had. Instead of looking at what I don't have now and feeling sorry for myself, I'm looking at what I once had and feeling very very lucky - and (pretty much) happy. Yes, it would be great if my SO and I desired each other the way my wife and I did, but I've decided not a to make it a prerequisite for happiness. Thank you, BTW. Comments I've read on this board have done a lot to make me feel better about things.Your glass is always at least half full It's a wonderful way to live life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 6, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2009 Not nearly enough, but vacation time is just around the corner, so I'll be making up for lost time...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted July 7, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 7, 2009 Not nearly enough, but vacation time is just around the corner, so I'll be making up for lost time...... At least you have something to look forward to. That's more than I can say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted July 7, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted July 7, 2009 At least you have something to look forward to. That's more than I can say Dry spell, huh..... take her to you hunting look out house thing again. You never know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted September 29, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 Since there are many new-bee's here I thought this was a great topic to resurrect...... so lets have some fun with it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members crossroads123 Posted September 29, 2009 Members Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 Not a complete newbie around here but I have to stay gone for weeks at a time so sex is all but never!!!!!!!! DAMNED ECONOMY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted September 29, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 Not a complete newbie around here but I have to stay gone for weeks at a time so sex is all but never!!!!!!!! DAMNED ECONOMY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Yea, but the I bet your like the ever-ready bunny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members HisAngel Posted September 30, 2009 Members Report Share Posted September 30, 2009 Hi all, Great topic,Reading through the thread I love the bits about the passion being more important to some than the frequency. I've been with my SO for about 14 months, living together for the past 2. Our sex life is amazing, its where we connect and communicate. Which is diffficult when we have 4 children between us. We usually have sex everyday, but my favourite day is a sunday every other week as we are child free and the passion and intensity is around us all day and we cant keep our hands off each other (gotta feel sorry for the neighbours). Yes, very happy with how things are, if the amount of sex did dwindle I'd be ok with 4/7 maybe as long as the desire was still there. Its about the guestures during the day, little texts, touches, the way you look at each other, its so much more than "wam-bam - mark off todays session"xAngelx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 6, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted October 6, 2009 We all talk about sex, needing it, wanting it, getting it, not getting it, new things old things etc... But if it were up to you how many times a week would your realistically like to have sex with your partner? How many times a week do you have sex now. Why the discrepancy if there is one. What changes would you like?Lots of new people, lots of new input...... come on new-bee's share Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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