HisAngel

I think its brilliant that you are loving and caring enough to seek advice with this. Does your wife explore and play with herself to know what she likes and what helps her reach orgasm? The pressure to perform might be a factor to her (self-confidence) as it is with many men. Does your foreplay start outside the bedroom? I've read somewhere (probably here with all the great advice I've seen) that a woman orgasms in her mind first and the body follows. Being in different positions may help her, one when you can be in her and she can use a clit stimulator on herself (is she is open to it) Relaxing and making any experience special is a good aim, sex doesnt have to end with cum, intimacy is a great helper (IMO) I've gone on enough, sorry if I've missed the point.

Its pvc with some little chains and ties. Well I like it and I'm gonna feel damn horny in it. Cant wait for it to arrive.

I'm looking forward to some serious role-play wearing it. OH is going to go crazy! Just hope I can pull it off. What do you think?

I'm another that find the cum-dribbling off putting. That and when you can clearly see the female in a multi-male situation isnt enjoying it (probably more one of my issues than anything else though)

I'll let you know me and OH have been together since Jan 09 (although known each other for around 9 years) and its the best relationship I have been in and the honeymoon period is still blooming So hopefully it wont fade any time soon.

I am a bit of a sex texter (lucky for my so is SO) we text about previous sessions, how it felt what we liked and what we'd like to do next time. Its fun and make us horny when he comes in from work. I dont know what terms you use but always make it your own. We use cock and pussy, others dont. I like it when he writes things to me like "I loved it last nite when I felt you cum, makes me want to fill you with mine" And I'll write back something like "how could i not cum with your gorgeous hard cock in me and sexy body beneath me, I love the way your solid cock slides into my wet eager pussy" "The way you hold me and suck my nipples sends me wild" "I cant believe how amazing it felt last night" "I was thinking I might wear the maids outfit again and serve your every need" You probably get the point. Also a little suggestion, head over to the story part of the forum and have a read of the great posts there, maybe that could help give you some food for thought. And pics are always a good thing! Although SO site manager did catch a glimpse of one once, god knows what I'll say if I ever meet him lol. Basically go with the flow and enjoy, its a fun addition. Just remember to always recheck who you are sending them to, your folks may not want to know how much you like it when your love juices are flowing and mixing together. Have fun

peace ... Silence

Great to read your update Jess. Enjoy your new found sexiness (and WTG with the workouts!!) x

Desire

I love sexy undies so I dont go commando that often but when we go out I love fresh naked and smooth feeling and so does SO when he touches and gets a shock! (bit cold here at moment to be commando doing the school run lol)

lol we're not, might be a big part of it. I've been with him for 14months (known him for 8+ years, so he's always been my friend) Do I expect things to change in the future? Yes, I guess in a way I do. For now I enjoy it though so I hope it continues.

Good points! Our relationship is: I'm a SAHM, he works full time (construction), he comes home we eat together, he does football a few nights a week (so gets his me time/male time) on weekends we have his two children so friday nights are a family night. One saturday every other week is our night, sometimes we stay in and watch a movie, we might go for a meal/drink just do something fun. We like each others company and feel that this alone time helps us get through the busy week. One sunday every other week is our day, just doing whatever, having a lay-in, lazy mornings chilling together curled up in bed. We text each other quite a bit during the day, anything from general chit-chat, what the mail-man brought, to kinky suggestions to what we've got planned when the night time comes. I dont go out alone (dont have many friends either) but my "me" time is when he's out, be it having a long soak in the bath or doing a workout, talking to my mum on the phone or doing ironing (dont laugh I enjoy it) I'm happy (and I think he is) right now. He's my friend and I love to laugh and hang out with him

I'm happy you've found love, its never easy but you sound devoted. all the best for the future.

Sorry for the epic post there guys, felt great to write it though.

I'm a been there, done that girl. I was married for 8 years, the last 2 sexless (possibly once or twice in those 2 years) Its not a clear cut situation. Our sexlife was never amazing and I can look back now and say honestly that I was never sexually attracted to him. That got worse over time, and I hope that even though I am going to be honest from my POV I hope I dont sound too crushing and bitchy. I tried lots, really did, toys, books, porn, sexy lingerie but it just didnt work. I had my eldest a year into our marraige, yes I put on some weight, let myself go. After a few months I sorted myself out and looked (IMO) better than before i pregnant. I still didnt desire him, never got that feeling of absolute lust, the thoughts of "I need to rip your clothes off and have you right now" so maybe that makes me at fault, but I did try I didnt want my life to be a failure, I faked and lied to myself but it didnt work. So it dwindled, he'd stay up later than me, fall asleep on the sofa, work longer hours and go out more. Part of me was glad, I felt I'd been let off having to try. Then I found out why, he was having an affair. We tried to recover from it, but I disliked him more, more than visual, inside I thought "you never tried to change, I lost weight, sorted my attitude out, tried to change for us". We stayed together for a while longer, and had sex for a month while trying to concieve our youngest, as soon as I was pregnant, it may has well been over as we didnt talk, never touched, neither of us tried. I did councilling he wouldnt) all therapy told me was I had to leave. I deserved more and so did he. My youngest was not quite 2 when I sat him down and said it was over. I just didnt love him and we both should be happy. He never asked to try, so I knew it was the right thing. We split, I moved out and the weekend after he moved his new girlfriend in. So guess it was just me with the sexless marraige, not him. So after all that garble from me I guess you call it quits when you are unhappy and unable to try to carry on. Looking back we werent even friends in those last years there was nothing to stay for. Now, however, I know how love/life is supposed to feel, and I'm sorry I wasted my time (and my ex's) by being stuck and unhappy. How long can you stay with no desire or passion?

Not a man but I love to be shaved, bald and smooth for my SO and I know he likes that aswel. Nothing beats him licking my pussy when its been freshly shaven. Its very erotic for me to have him doing the grooming for me aswel. On the other side of the coin, I like him to be trimmed (not stubble length a little longer so the hair is softer) with shaved balls and arse (great for sucking and licking) Get a supprise when he gets out of the shower totally shaved, but I love that too. Its all about the care you take, it seems to show your SO that you care about them too.

They arent my thing. I can see why people like them though but they seem so time consuming. If my SO had accounts (he doesnt he thinks they are silly) I'd be wary if he didnt like me looking or tried to hide things. I dont have many friends at all but I figure if I was meant to I'd be talking to them IRL rather than on the web. I have an issue with people posting pics too, especially when I saw a couple of my own children, I'd rather I was asked for permission before my kids were posted on the web.

I can see your point here, I have been in the same situation previously. It helped me to build up the foreplay and remember that sex doesnt just happen in the bedroom. A lot of my orgasms start in my mind and build from there. I like to be on-top with my SO slightly sitting (like laying back on his elbows if that makes sense) I find that the best position without use of toys or fingers to arouse my clit at the same time. I love it. Maybe a few foreplay sessions, take turns to explore each others bodies. I like sexy underwear for when I'm feeling self-conscious (if as LadyLove wrote this could be an issue) giving is good, but so is receiving, so I hope you relax and enjoy going with the flow (so to speak) Have Fun x Angel x

I'm glad this has been raised, the first time I had anal sex with my SO I had an orgasm but didnt really know if I could of. We'd had great foreplay and vaginal sex first so I was totally hot and turned on, I wonder if the point that I was on a high from that made the anal sex feel that much different. I'm happy to read about others experiences. And I thing think that the OP is a great bloke for helping out a friend in need. x Angel x

Hi all, Great topic, Reading through the thread I love the bits about the passion being more important to some than the frequency. I've been with my SO for about 14 months, living together for the past 2. Our sex life is amazing, its where we connect and communicate. Which is diffficult when we have 4 children between us. We usually have sex everyday, but my favourite day is a sunday every other week as we are child free and the passion and intensity is around us all day and we cant keep our hands off each other (gotta feel sorry for the neighbours). Yes, very happy with how things are, if the amount of sex did dwindle I'd be ok with 4/7 maybe as long as the desire was still there. Its about the guestures during the day, little texts, touches, the way you look at each other, its so much more than "wam-bam - mark off todays session" x Angel x

Me 99% him 100% I love my sex life now and I love my partner even more x

have a great time when you get the chance, relax and go with the flow. x

Hi hun, even though I've been reading through the tt forum for ages I've registered because your post really struck me. I know exactly how you are feeling right now. For a bit more confidence if you are worried about your body I'd suggest wearing some sexy underwear, I love to have a basque or teddy on (if you know what I mean) I used to think "how could he enjoy me being in this osition seeing my stretch marks and wobbly bits" but seriously he doesnt care. Its one of my favorite positions I like the control and I love looking at my sexy man beneath me. I've got weak hips so sometimes its physically uncomfy but there are a few ways to have your legs (remember those space hopper toys lol) Enjoy the feeling of sitting on him naked with your parts touching each other without him entering you, you'll find the ways you like it and will end up wanting more and more. I love that you write that your partner is supportive of you, shows you how much he cares about you, that communication is priceless. He'll let you know how it feels for him too, so dont worry that you might lower down and break him off (lol) I hope you relax and really enjoy yourself. x