LilGreenPuffer

Okay, I had my appointment. The verdict: I'm fine. I have "bladder spasms." It's not common, but it's normal and there's nothing wrong. The position of my urethra is also normal, not even atypical. The options for fixing the problem: I could let it be, or I could take medication. I followed her recommendation and will let it be for now; it doesn't happen every time, it might actually go away on its own, and there's no one else (i.e. sexual partner) being affected by the spasms. Later on, if it doesn't go away, or if it begins to bother me more, I can take medication, but for now, she doesn't see the point in taking medication daily for a problem that only affects me sometimes and isn't unsafe. I agreed. I had to tell my mom, of course. Her reaction: "Oh, you could have told me! I would have been able to tell you that you're fine. That happened to my friend; she called it her 'little sparkling fountain'!" So, after the initial embarrassment, it was all fine. I'm so glad this is all over with.

If the kids have ample opportunity to try whichever one they want, then I think it's fine. I have more of a problem with teaching obedience and dominance. Respect, though, makes perfect sense.

That's more what I was thinking of. I don't think I could do full-time, but... If I did, I would want it to be like that. I wouldn't want my kids to know more than "sometimes Mommy and Daddy do things differently from other mommies and daddies" until they're much older. And even if they did know, I just can't see raising a daughter to think she has to obey men or raising a son to think he will control his relationships. That's just a disaster waiting to happen.

Wow. If he wants to lead a poly lifestyle, he's going to have to communicate and maintain trusting relationships, especially with the primary (his wife, to whom he's made a lifelong commitment). Even if I was okay with my husband being poly (which I would not be - just not for me), I would NOT be okay with it after he'd broken my trust like that.

Woah, I would NEVER raise my children to believe in gender roles as strong as that. A woman can be a dom and a man can be a sub (and you can have same-sex couples, for that matter), and, far more important than that, being in control or relinquishing control isn't for everyone. I would not want my children to believe that my relationship must be theirs. I just don't see that as an appropriate way to raise children. Shouldn't that lifestyle be a CHOICE?

Is it possible to have a 24/7 BDSM relationship and still have kids and a plain old normal life? I mean, in such a way that no one would ever notice?

What, he leaked it?

Mia WOULD be if it had more power. It's doing the trick, but I'd like it to do its trick faster once in a while - a gal with a roommate can't always spend half an hour on the process. Liv is too big for good direct clit stimulation, I think. That's what I prefer about Mia - a small end. But I hate how Mia's USB cover tends to start slipping off. I worry about ruining the USB.

Sure! Here's the one I got when I was 8-9: http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-American-Library/dp/1562476661 I got this at about age 10: http://www.amazon.com/Period-Book-Updated-Everything-Dont/dp/0802777368/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1282959720&sr=1-1 I got this at about age 13: http://www.amazon.com/Girls-Women-Bunny-Mccune/dp/0890878811 The last one covers lots of things - periods, men (father figures, romantic relationships), sensuality, sexuality, and so on. It's not scientific; it focuses on women sharing their experiences with girls.

I was taught from a very young age that sex is a very important and good thing, whether you're male or female, and learned that it's important to know my own body. I was given puberty/body/sexuality books at three different life stages - the American Girl body book well before I hit puberty, a book on periods just when I was starting to develop, and a book on sexuality and just generally being female (written by adult women as advice for girls) when I was began my teens. My parents have a really good sex life, better than I want to actually know about, and my mom really wants the same for me one day. I got raised up right. That being said, I really hope I don't wind up having to explain exactly what's going on to my mom. Awwwwkward... I couldn't even say it out loud to the very sweet PA-C - I actually wrote it all down and just handed her a note when she came in!

I saw the PA-C at my school. She'd never heard of anything like it. She did an exam, mainly external, but also a little manual stuff to check for fistulas. No fistulas... Instead, she found that my urethra is very low, almost in my vaginal canal. The urine sample came back normal - no infection - so she's theorizing that the muscular contractions from orgasm combined with the placement of my bladder/bladder opening might be the problem, but she wasn't going to try and judge this on her own, so she referred me to the OB-GYN I originally had an appointment with.

I have heard that the smooth back side of an electric toothbrush actually makes for a very good vibe.

Glass dildos FTW. CyberSkin is sort of boring. Nothing special.

I believe that abortion is wrong in 99% of all circumstances and that the right to life trumps the right to control one's own body... But as offensive as I found that statement, too, I don't know if that's really an issue right now. I'm still wondering what your boyfriend has said about your concerns, hm7380.

I don't have most of the above items, and I'm going to try out some new materials, but for now, I'll say that I prefer a smooth, hard material for external vibrators (bullets, etc.), and I like whatever TooTimid's water-based lube is made out of, for general use anyway. I want to try some silicone lubes soon, for shower/anal use, but I haven't gotten to yet.

Oh, by the way - Mia is VERY quiet!

Yep, some people would really hate the things I like, and vice-versa. That's what drives me crazy - reading reviews can't tell me for certain all the time.

Neither of them was as strong as I was hoping. They don't pass the "perfect toy" test. Whether or not I like them is still TBA. Seeing the doctor on Tuesday.

Have you guys talked about it?

Depends on what you say. Would it make you hot if, after you came, I cleaned your come off of my face with my fingers and swallowed it and gave you a taste too?

Yesss. Would it make you hot if I asked you to come on my face?

Liv got here. Mia is due tomorrow (my birthday!). I'm not totally sold on Liv yet. Doesn't seem strong enough. But I'll forgo passing judgement until I've got that possibly-medical-problem resolved and I'm able to relax a bit (okay, a lot) more when I masturbate.

Has he asked you if you're willing to do it? Is he serious about going through with something like this? If so, don't do anything you're not completely comfortable with, okay? What about trying some role-playing? You could play the part of a really young foxy lady, maybe even a schoolgirl with a short skirt. Or maybe you could bring a male toy, one of those fake vaginas, into the game, and pretend that someone else is there. One of these, or a similar scenario, might be a good compromise.

Move out.

So did I...