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From what I have read and heard the only real method of penile enlargement involves surgery. Keep in mind this comes from an episode of Manswers. It really comes down to what youre doing and how you are doing it. From the best of my knowledge the first thing to do is simple, do plenty of laborious research. I suggest avoiding Yahoo answers unless you are looking for leads. If you have something that seems to be a well written article convincing you to buy its product, close it and move on. Finally when all your research is done, maybe consider talking to your doctor. I remember reading once that there was a method of enlargement that involved getting partially erect, pushing the blood towards the head, essentially stretching it and repeating this over a period of time. I even for a short while tried doing it. I caused no injury, realized there was nothing wrong with me anyways, and stopped. In retrospect it sounds quite dangerous, something as simple as bursting a vessel or vein can lead to permanent injury. Heres an article on the topic that may help: http://men.webmd.com/guide/penis-enlargement-does-it-work Branching a bit off of the article and where it notes looking bigger. Another tip I found is shaving the area down there not only makes it look and feel larger even if it isnt, but its a nice thing to do for her if she likes it. Now to address the issue at hand. Keep in mind I am a lot younger, have only had one partner, etc etc. Stuff i like to make clear so people know I know where I am coming from. I am nowhere near a professional. However what I do know is generally us men tend to let something get us down in the bedroom and assume it is us. I dont know you or what your actual size is, but what I do know is that very little of the actual pleasure she will feel is going to come from length and width (ladies correct me if I am wrong) and that it mostly comes from clitoral stimulation. Its as simple as trying new positions to see what works best. One of my favorites that I cant use cause I am one of the ones considered "lucky" at a little over 7 inches is putting her legs up. It puts you much deeper, is a great position, and if she is looking for it to go deeper almost any size will do in that position. In my case it hurts her cause it's too deep. I am assuming you have a partner so if you do, talk to her and see if she feels the same way. If girth or width is an option TT has some great options available, especially cock rings. The We Vibe is a more expensive purchase but it adds a whole new dimension to great sex. If you dont have a partner then maybe change your routine. If you dont generally work out, go to the gym. This decreases body fat, makes you healthier and more sexually capable as well as increasing testosterone levels which help produce pheromones making you subliminally attractive to the opposite sex. Eating foods with zinc also helps testosterone flow. Avoiding fatty foods increases blood flow resulting in a harder erection. Finally foreplay. I know that one sounds simple but so many times I have suffered through thirty minutes of working for nothing, both of us worn out and depressed because we forgot that we still need that time beforehand. The cuddling and the kissing makes a huge difference and while a couple years ago I wanted to last to thirty, now doing it in three always feels like an accomplishment for the both of us. Hope this helps in some way and that I didnt go too far off of the original question =).

I think the difference is maturity level. In my own case I dont have a cell phone but for a while I had a prepaid and when I was interacting with others or in an important situation phone was down. My girlfriend doesn't pick up her cell phone when we are out at a restaurant unless someone texts her and I don't mind it as long as she is not having a conversation with them while ignoring me. Others I have met are quite the opposite, I have even heard of dates texting each other. If someone is immature enough to rely on their cell phone on a date then they aren't worth dating, they will learn quickly enough.

Gonna have to try the spankings now =).

Or change the sheets after =).

Lady, I thought we were talking back massages lol. I would never put icy near the nether regions, that would not be sexy (unless youre into that of course).

To begin with, I am writing as someone who enjoys mild submission stuff, like receiving anal with her wearing a strapon, being tied down, teasing, etc, so I am writing from a male point of view without real experience in the more "extreme" side of BDSM. That being said, I have picked up quite a few tips in my time that I think may be helpful. The first addresses how to get her to go further. It is simple and you will see and hear it everywhere on this forum. Talk to her. Something as simple as sitting down and saying what you want done to you, and asking what she likes done to her is very productive. Also, if you both enjoy watching porn together (which I think is great for couples) try suggesting videos that you like because they represent what you want done, or something similar. Make sure she is comfortable with it as well. If she feels uncomfortable address those issues, just pushing ahead only makes problems. Communication after is key as well, if she did something you loved, tell her, if you wanted her to go further tell her that as well. One thing I noticed in my own relationship is that while I love her fingering me back there, she rarely does. I keep clean as much as possible but often we just don't bring it up, and it is much easier when we are both turned on. As I told her that I enjoyed it a lot, she started venturing further. It might be helpful to think of it as positive reinforcement. As far as playing with what youve got, a lot of people dont realize there are plenty of "toys" in the home. When was the last time you saw a steamy sex scene in a movie and they pulled out a vibrator? Chances are they used something like a tie instead, or a scarf as a blindfold, rope to tie them up, or a duster to tickle. Some things that work great are incredibly cheap and easy to find, and things like a tie or scarf or bandanna you might have in the home. Tying rope or a couple ties to bedposts are easy restraints, combined with a blindfold is quick submission and heightens the senses. Another thing is ice, incredibly versatile in the bedroom. Great for foreplay, sense play, and teasing. Another cool trick (that I havent tried) is putting a butter knife in ice and then running it lightly along the skin. It gives the feeling of a sharp blade without being dangerous at all. Sensory deprivation is easy for BDSM, more often than not this will be orgasm denial or teasing, but forcing someone to watch while not touching them works. Finally for safety issues, pain will be your safeguard but research is a good backup. If youre not sure do the research. If something hurts badly (and proceed with caution in BDSM) then something may be wrong so be careful. Nothing black and white, even anal techniques for some are easy while painful for others, so listen to your body. Also keep a safeword, something that wouldnt come up like "harder" of course but feel free to be totally random and respect the word. For me and my girlfriend it is RED. Here is what I mean about respecting the word, she started using it randomly as a joke and thus I started thinking she didn't mean it. It lost its effect so now when I think I am being sexy she says it and I keep going until she says it seriously. Its dangerous ground to tread on (yes there is rape within a relationship or marriage) and it illustrates the risk of forgetting the need for communication. Some good ideas and tips on kink: http://www.thefrisky.com/photos/7-kinky-sex-tips-for-curious-vanilla-girls/kink-one/ Short but some good info: http://dark.delusions.com/stormcat/starting/ Seems to be worthwhile, a website devoted to the topic: http://madisonkink.com/inside/page-3/ Blog on BDSM: http://bdsm-advice.com/

Baby oil and icy hot. Never tried it myself but its the only idea I have ever gotten from the mouth of my parents lol.

As ladylove said heart attacks are something to keep in mind. I couldn't imagine this would help with sex, especially because all the items within the 5 hour energy are giving you a sort of "free energy" but this energy will come at a cost. First of all, when aroused and having sex your heart is beating faster, combine this with an energy supplement and youre really straining the muscle. Second the stimulant is particularly for mental awareness and I cant imagine this would help with sex. A quick search on google mainly turns up that energy drinks + alcohol lead to more casual sex but it also brought another good point. Stimulants have an effect of limiting our fatigue even when we are exhausted (that is their purpose in the first place) and the sexual fatigue most people experience is when their muscles have no energy left, or their heart cant continue supplying enough blood. When you add a stimulant you are taking exhausted muscles and pushing them further. There is an obvious risk to this. My suggestion is that if you cant keep going, have her take top or if you are both exhausted try different positions. Me and my girlfriend found that if we both got tired, going sideways, or taking a break where we were intimately together but werent moving as much we could relax enough to gain enough energy to keep going. Another thing to keep in mind is that if you are having troubles keeping up a good diet and plenty of exercise will help. Sometimes these signs are just letting us know that we need to take better care of ourselves.

Happy to hear a happier outcome than i expected with a situation such as yours. Good luck and I hope you find ways to stay happy =).

Nevermind on this, meditation actually helped. I found other sites recommending it and it ended up working!

Three years ago i wouldve never thought i would be asking this, because i was always getting off too early but now i just cant get off. I know it isnt a physical condition because during masturbation I can get off (though sometimes with a bit of difficulty) but for the past two or three weeks it takes me a really long time to get off. Not the normal kind of taking time either, it just doesn't feel like it should. Normally I can hold back and have her play while i cool off then keep going, but instead im not building up whatsoever unless I really work at it and run through different fantasies and sometimes even have to have her talk dirty about anal. Less than a week ago we finally did do anal for the first time in a month and usually its around a 30 second thing where I cant last much longer but i ended up going much faster and harder and lasting three or four minutes. I think part of it is stress, I worry that i cant please her properly which results in anxiousness and I lose feeling and that turns into a vicious cycle of worrying about the erection then losing the erection so on so forth until she thinks I am not turned on by her and it just crashes and burns. Could that be it the only thing though? I know I am turned on by her, so as far as i have read stress could be really the only answer. Anyone have any ideas or advice how to turn this around? I fear if it continues any longer our sex life is just going to fizzle out, shes already losing interest and making excuses for why she doesn't want to have sex and i dont want to lose that part of our relationship.\ Anything helps, thank you.

Awesome! It makes things so much easier to find when on a budget or looking for a very specific product. Its also super useful with the new lingerie category =). Thank you! Also, i am loving the Lingerie being added to the site. My wish list is overflowing lol.

Today i used my new toy from TT "rough Riders #1" and when I was cleaning back there after i noticed a bit of blood. The toilet paper was only tinged pink, not red, and nothing hurts back there so is that "normal" in the sense of it happens but no worries or should i be concerned? I think i know why it happened, two days ago when I got the toy i tried using it in the shower and didnt have any lube, i lost my balance and instead of lowering onto it I got the full thing. I had to stop because something hurt so badly that trying to pass gas or spreading the cheeks caused pain. Today everything felt fine though so i gave it a second run with lube this time.

Its definitely not what you would normally think of when hearing the term but IMO its still anal sex. It is incredibly sexy to have a finger in there while going at it =).

So I have known since i was very young that I have OCD, not like most people expect where i have to do one thing repeatedly but instead small things like playing one game endlessly until something interrupts the cycle and i find a new fixation. I also tend to do everything by fives or multiples of two, even if it makes something more difficult. At times in car rides I would even convince myself there were patterns in the numbers on roadsigns and figure out nonsensical equations in order to equalize them. Well for a long time I have really disturbing (in my opinion) thoughts. These thoughts range from physical violence to sexual desires along a wide range of subjects. Often I appease them by thinking of plot ideas and have never ever considered actually acting on them. My girlfriend thinks im loony sometimes (by the different plot ideas i have) and finally today I looked up why these thoughts might be happening and if it is just me. Turns out theyre called intrusive thoughts and though most people have them, in the case of OCD they become a disturbance, often so much that the person with them has to act them out to avoid the grief of the thoughts, and then faces guilt of the thought afterward. However apparently that makes the thought more compelling. The part that reassured me and brightened my mood is the fact that the difference between someone with intrusive thoughts and someone who actually needs a mental evaluation is that someone with these thoughts may even act on them, but will feel badly for doing so while someone with a mental condition thinks it is okay and doesnt feel remorse. So yay for me cause I can come up with all the twisted plots I want because i know socially most of the ideas definitely are not okay.

Putting anything homemade up there (without being a doctor, and an engineer with a second professional opinion) is just plain dangerous. I understand the reasoning behind it, and on the surface it might seem like a good idea, but remember that the sex toys we buy are designed specifically for the purpose of insertion. Theres many variables accounted for. Heck its possible to even injure yourself with a tested and perfected toy. Using a toy you made yourself only increases the risk of injury, and unless you have a masochistic desire to harm yourself unintentionally, throw that away and forget the thought.

Ive considered this myself. I have fantasized about threesomes but never wanted to because of the emotional entanglements and thus the doll became an option but as far as pursuing it? I dont think i would, I do have to agree that the unresponsiveness would feel weird. It might even feel creepy in a way, but each to his/her own.

I tend to browse all the categories of interest when i have a large sum of money coming and treat me and my girlfriend. Otherwise if i dont have money but am looking for new toys i add things to my wish list for later. I have around 153 things on there right now =). I review toys so i get quite a few for free, enough to keep me content and try new things. When i can buy new toys though i generally purchase them in groups of 20-60 dollars. Hopefully ill eventually have a decent income and at that point ill probably splurge monthly =).

No problem, glad to help. Yes, pegging is the term for it but some people dont know it so i dont tend to use it. It did take some warming up to, but I am most definitely proud of it, it is just so much fun. It is odd for a female to understand the social stigmas (as i have seen at least) and its even odder as a male to understand the source of the social stigmas...because they make no sense at all. Hopefully he will learn that pretty quickly. One of the things that helped me was these forums actually, just knowing other men tried it, or wanted to try it and who were secure in their sexuality made me realize it was okay and i could relax. In the case of the finger rammer, this is the one on the TT site http://www.tootimid.com/finger-rammer.html. The only rammer i have i got from spencers and its just a simple toy you attach to the end of your finger (mine can vibrate but i dont like the vibrations). Its similar to fingering but has a different feel to it, mainly the stiffness and the width, but it comes down to personal preference. Hopefully things work out well the first time, keep us updated if it goes well, would love to hear that yet another man has realized anal does not equate to homosexuality =).

Yay! The spam is gone...i think. Thanks Rob.

Oh and P-spot isnt a concern for a newbie, thats when youre more comfortable. I tend to have strong orgasms from just having it inside me and stimulating myself whereas others can rock to orgasm after an hour and love it. So when hes comfortable doing it for a while and really hitting the spot for a long time, then get something like that.

I can totally relate. When my gf first said she wanted to use a strapon on me i was like "HELL NO" because i thought only gay men did that and even though i knew i was straight, i didnt want to be viewed as gay. When i finally caved in and let her buy one and try it, i didnt hate it, but it was only intriguing. Now i love it. The best way to approach this is small>big . Youre best off with a variety of small toys some that vibrate, some that dont. However i understand ideally one to two toys is best for most so i would suggest those beads, especially if they vibrate, and maybe a finger rammer. They fit on your finger and are nice (and clean). I personally like fingering, penetrating or not. Latex gloves arent weird, i did that my first time on my gf, but since then i learned to just be clean (in and out) and i dont have to worry. If you want him to be clean inside, just have him eat fiber, go do his business, then shower (or shower together). This will make sure everything is clean (fecal matter tends to remain in the rectum only when its about to be released). Lube is great, itll make things easier and more fun. Color doesnt matter (or at least not for me) but i had the whole "too realistic" thing too. In time he will likely get over it. Heck a year ago i wouldve never thought id like my girlfriend pounding my ass, now i brag. Once hes comfortable feel free to try new things, plugs, orgasm balls, maybe even a strapon too. Its a hell of a lot of fun.

From a male perspective, i know once i start working i cant stop until I am forced to. At one point i was working a 2nd shift job directly after a full time course schedule (6 courses) and getting ~5 hours of sleep a night. It came to the point that i was dead on my feet, and that my father noticed when i had to help outside with yard work. Even though i was tired i still ended up doing more work than my brother and my father because it was how i was mentally trained. Finally when i had to quit the job i was doing anything i could find to do around the house for the first two weeks because i didnt have work to do. Its a mental condition you slip into. Even though he may have slippped into this condition, try talking to him. I havent read any of your other posts so i might not know the full situation, but i know i was open to people letting me know i was working too hard, and he might be too.

I understand where youre coming from with your fears but dont worry. The dangers with inserting something anally is mainly with sharp objects, or doing it violently. If you use lube on a plug (one designed for this kind of thing) and you go to your comfort levels you should be fine. Something to keep in mind is be prepared to go with a smaller plug and work your way up. This varies from person to person, but its easiest to start small and get bigger. Even though i like things anally quite frequently, i still sometimes need a small plug to loosen me up. Dont use numbing creams to make it easier, if it hurts stop, it means youre not using enough lube, or youre going to big the first time. Youll also want to make sure the plug your going for is good for extended wear. There are some specifically for long periods of time, but most work for 30ish minute periods. The reason for this is gas buildup. I didnt understand this at first, but i spent fifteen minutes with beads in and quickly realized how quickly gas accumulates. Anal is a learning experience. Feel free to ask questions, do research,try new things. It awakens you to a whole new side of sex.

Aww damn! My girlfriend wanted this so bad as our next review toy =). Guess ill have to save up some money and make it a suprise present instead.