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I've read you should put a cock ring on with your penis about half hard. The one I have has a loop for your penis and another for the jewels. I put it on when totally hard and lock the blood flow in, as putting it on half hard did not let anymore blood flow in to get totallly hard. Just looking for some feedback. Some of you may remember my posts about my gf, her demure nature, lack of response, etc. She is getting a lot better, and will even use a vibe on herself now when I'm busy on her. Love that! She has a ways to go and is still not as verbal as I would like, but its been worth the wait and I'll keep being patient. Its hard to believe its been almost two years to get her thru some of these issues. We're moving in together in two weeks, so that has made a big difference with her to due to my comittment. Telecom SORRY. Posted in this section by accident! Telecom

Ok, my gf has finally agreed to watch a porn with me. So, I need something woman erotic friendly. No anal or cum shots in face, at least for now. Yes, something romantic if possible. I understand Candida Royalle makes them along this line for women. I've looked around the web and she has made a lot of movies. I want this to be a postive experience for us. Years ago when I introduced porn movies to my ex, our sex got a lot better. My gf is much more laid back and timid than most women. Thanks, Telecom

Sylvina, You are only 21 and very fortunate to start having these experiences so young. Some women go most of their lives (if not all) not being able to experience sexual freedom and pleasure. My current gf (45 yrs old)sounds VERY much like you and just can't ever really seem to relax, though I am patient with her sexually and would do pretty much anything she wanted me to. I hate the "wham-bam" stuff... that isn't any fun. She is getting better depending on her mood. Her past sexual experiences were EXACTLY like yours. She will finally be moving in with me soon, so maybe me showing the added commitment that she wondered about will let her relax. Good luck to you and have fun! Telecom

Sylvina, What was preventing you from having orgasms, and how did you start finally having them? Was it a mental or physical issue, or both? Telecom

My legs. Defined and cut from years of training and racing (cycled about 65k miles over ten years) bikes, and cross training with weights. Telecom

Many of you have seen some of my posts about the relationship with my gf and dealing with her depression. Outside of sex and the sexual side effects of the Prozac she is on, its to the point now where I really can't deal with it much longer. Am I a bad person for saying that and feeling like that? I'm mentally an upbeat person and physically active person, and her ups and downs are opposite of me. Some days she is so sad that I can't take it. I've been patient with her for over a year and a half, and do a lot of research to understand the illness, and to be compassionate and understanding. I love her dearly and treat her very well, and she says she loves me to no end, but its like a yo-yo. I don't want to leave her (I know her depression will become worse), but I'm seeing that the long term effects of her depression on our relationship are not positive at all. Her self-esteem continues to be low and wonders why am I with her. Its getting old. Ourside of sex, how are some of you dealing with your partner who is suffering from depression? Have you left someone in the past you really cared for, but couldn't deal with it any longer? Telecom

You would be able to converse and relate well with my girlfriend big time. I've thought several times about leaving the relationship and she has told me many times I deserve something better because as she puts it "our sexual incompatibility". Sometimes love does win over many obstacles. I just wish she would stop talking like that. I mean, how sincere can a guy get? She internalizes A LOT to and hates any confrontation. I don't like confrontation either, but you have to voice your opinion when necessary. Her parents told her the same stuff.. "don't let him touch you, sex is bad, don't masturbate, blah, blah". Her mother even once told her she hated sex with her father. Its amazing how all those things during your youth can impact a person 25 yrs later still. Telecom

OrgasmicallyChallenged, Wow! You sound very much like my girlfriend, except for the fact that my girlfriend will not fake orgasms if it isn't happening for her. We just quit and maybe try again later, or just not worry about it. She has a VERY hard time asking for what she likes, but is getting better in small baby steps. She has little confidence and self-esteem is low. I will take any coaxing she wants to give, but very little comes out of her. She is 45 yrs old and her sexual experience is really almost zero. Due to her lack of experience, she thinks she'll say something stupid or embarassing to give me feedback. Being able to RELAX is all. Sounds like you really can't either. Over the 19 months we've been together, its been a long haul for me trying to get her where she would like to be. She thinks something is "wrong" with her to and she is messed up, and feels intimidated with my sexual experience. She pretty much can get off by herself (most of the time) with her vibe, but with me its hit and miss. She did grow up in a family with an unloving father, and mother who was controlled by the father big time and limited the love and affection she could give her kids, because he would get jealous. She is on Prozac (I hate AD meds) to, so thats part of the sexual issue to. But, her upbringing had a HUGE impact on her sexual well being and relationships in my opinion. Its like I'm training a person how to make love, so I try new stuff with her when I think the time is right. So far all has been ok to her with what we've tried. I remember the first time I aked her to sit on my face. She was like "OMG, what!". She still wo'nt do oral sex on me either, and says its a mental thing she needs to overcome. I just show her as much love as I can and be patient. Lots of foreplay before, and lots of cuddling afters always helps. Communication is all of it! If you can't tell each other what you like or don't like, it won't go anywhere and both will have some resentment of some sort. I know I do sometimes since my girlfriend just won't tell me, since I'll do almost anything with her she wants. Good Luck! Telecom

I have a sister who I love very much, and her husband has been in Afghanistan for six months. I feel her pain while talking to her about missing her husband. Its all the worse since he is in special forces and lots of things are not talked about or where he is. He is in combat often to, so that makes it worse for my sister knowing he could be killed or wounded at any time. So far he hasn't had a scratch. She has gone back to work part time to help time pass, and is also taking a class a couple of nights a week. Their 16 yr old son is a very talented football player in high school, so she enjoys all his games and such. She tells me her quiet time alone is the worst, because her mind rambles. Out family tries to support her as best we can and none of us live by her, so lots of email and IM chatting helps get her by. I think he has a couple of months left before he comes home. No matter what any of us think of Iraq, Afghanistan is the frontline on terrorism and we're very proud of his service. Keep your faith, as you're not alone. Telecom

Is this weird, and who else does it? My gf has never had this done to her. After sex with my gf, we always try to have a moist clean towel by the bed to clean up. After sex, I will often will slowly clean up her genital area while laughing with each other and making jokes about it. It seems fun to me and she goes with it, but curious about it with others. To me its just post sex play. Telecom

Sometimes my gf will taste different at times, and I attribute it to something she may have ate. But, it has never bad bad enough to not do it. I guess I've been lucky that I've never had a woman who smelled except one time in high school. We were 17 yrs old at the drive on a warm Texas Sat night and I went down on the floor board between her legs. I came up real quick. Telecom

Anyone ever tried this vibe or have one... Layaspot http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=4823 Telecom

I'm not a reviewer but would like to make a comment. I see TooTimid is now carrying more of the Fun Factory vibes. These are great toys, especially for the woman who may be intimidated by the phallic look of a lot of vibes, and they're a lot of fun. They are more expensive, but the quality is worth it. My gf has one of these and loves it. In fact its the only one she will use and I have bought her two others. Anybody want to buy two vibes that were used only once? JUST KDDING. Telecom

I agree with Mikalya about the water thing. Most people are in a constant state of dehydration, and it will show how well a woman can produce lubrication and how her skin looks. A friend of mine is a nutritional researcher and recommended people drink about half their body weight each day in water. My gf drinks ONLY about 12 oz water a day if she is lucky, and she needs a lube most of the time and her skin looks older than she is. That sucks. My background is in nutrition and sports, and smart hydration has always been part of my protocol for training while competing. Lots of water daily is the single easiest thing you can do to lose weight, cleanse your organs, eat less, not be constipated, have better looking skin, and more energy to name a few. Telecom

Thanks for everyone's feedback, it helps alot. My gf was taking 20mg\day Prozac up until about eight monhts ago, and then went to 10mg\day to see how that would do. During this 10mg period, her libido seemed better and sex has been improving. Yesterday she told me she has been feeling more depresseed and often hating everything. So, about a month ago she went back to 20mg\day. I'm a very upbeat and positive person, so dealing with someone I love with this depression and drug is difficult and frustrating in and out of the bedroom. I try to deal with any depression I may experience with a good diet and lots of exercise, and so far that has worked, and God I've been thru a shit load (divorce with wife cheating, mutiple family deaths, drug addicted daughter, mental health issues with son, and others) in my personal life over the last two years. I just try to remember to not take her depression and effects personal and give her the most loving support I can, and not pressure her sexually. I'm concerned her libido will become even worse now that she is back on 20mg. How do those who have a significant other deal with their loved ones depression in and out of the bedroom? Telecom

Just a few to be aware of in my opinion, not in any order of importance. 1. Wears different clothes. 2. More cell phone activity, voice and text paging. 3. The amount of sex you have decreases. 4. Working late, or going to work early. 5. Has less money. 6. Wants to suddenly lose weight. Telecom

I think you have to have a pretty opened minded female partner who would accept and enjoy doing anal activity to a guy. I'm sure it gives the female some sense of power to, which is fine. The homophobic things does kick in with most guys to. I used to have a very close friend who said he was going to let his gf give him anal, but he knew she was just a gf and didn't ever want her to tell someone about it when and if they broke up, so they never did it. If a guy is into it with his woman, that is their pleasure. As for me, I can see how it can enhance orgams for a man, but it just isn't my thing. I won't fault a guy if he wants to do it, but don't fault me if I don't want to either. Telecom

This topic has come up several times before. My gf is on Prozac, and in the end I still think this is a lot of her problems with her libido (she is getting better) and orgasm capability. She has tried Lexapro, but it didn't work for her at all. She was really off the deep end. So, she is convinced Prozac is for her. I'm trying to convince her to try Wellbutrin (sp?). She is reluctant to try another AD. I'm wlll aware how anti-depressants effect sex with men and women. I was listening to a dating and sex show on the radio last night and the doctor on the show really made a big deal how ADs kill orgasm capability and sex drive, especially Prozac. My gf's best friend is on Prozac and she has no issues with libido or orgasm, and my gf wonders why. My gf is 45 yrs old and has been on Prozac (not sure of dosage) for about six years. I would like to hear from other women out there who are on Prozac and what it is doing to their sex life. Thanks, Telecom

We did talk about it a little bit. I told her pussy is pretty much the standard word in bedroom and I only use it because she gets me excited, and never mean to offend her, but its used all the time. I did say that I didn't like to say cunt and she agreed that she really didn't want to hear that word, so now I don't think pussy is such a bad term as she thought it was.

I remember when my ex and I got our first toy. I told her I was ok if she wanted to order a dildo. She got one online and it was bigger than me. About an inch longer and half inch wider. I was intimidated at first, but got over it when we started to use it together. She never told me how often she used it alone and I never asked. Its very normal for guys to be intimidated by big big toys that we can't compete with. It is what it is. Actually, my ex didn't like to use it that often with me, it was more exciting for me to be plunging it in her while I was doing oral on her. In all honesty though, I do feel some women do like there toys more than there partners and most won't admit it. There is probably a physcial and emotional element lacking in the relationship to cause that. I mean if a woman gets that full feeling from a toy that she may not be able to experience with her partner, then thats black and white. And, no pressure or distraction when using a toy alone. Again, communication is key. Telecom

My posts are pretty much the same topic about my gf, and being able to post here is a real outlet about my experiences, and with the things I've never encountered with a women before. As you all know, my gf is still pretty shy about sex, but getting better in small steps. I'm still shocked at how little she knows at 45 years of age and being married for 20+ years. She had several sex partners after her divorce before meeting me, and said they were all pretty uneventful since her sex while married was very, very plain and she hated doing it with her ex-husband. She said none of these guys even did oral to her and her ex didn't either, but I LOVE doing it. I told her this weekend we're just going to play, explore and have no expectations about having an orgasm and not even try to get to that point. I told her I would love to do 69 with her and she has agreed to let me show her. We're going to do some other things to that I want to show her in a patient, loving manner. I think I'm on the right track mentoring her about making love, but any additional advice would be nice. Is this more common with shy women out there than most of us think? Telecom...

She told me this during some email exhcanges yesterday. This is positive. Me: I like to talk dirty sometimes to you and romantic at other times. There is an appropriate moment for each. I just don't know what your limits are on the dirty words. Her: Don't worry about my limits on dirty words. Go for it, ok? The more you talk, the chances are that I'll respond.

I like to talk dirty sometimes to my gf when getting into it. I mean I don't go crazy or anything, but my gf told me last night she doesn't like the pussy word and finds it degrading. We were just laying in bed (no sex) and she told me to feel her "crotch" to see how her hair is growing back since her wax weeks ago. I said "your pussy still feels nice to me". That is when she said "I hate that word'. A asked her why and she said it was degrading. Most know she is still coming out of her shell sexually, but I didn't know she felt that way. While making love I may say things anyone else would. "Your pussy is tight", "God your pussy is wet", etc. While having sex or after, she has never said anything to me about the word when I said it. Should I quit saying it during sex? I'll just ask her. I always say romantic and other sensitive words to her also to mix it up. Telecom

Someone posted this awhile back.... #1: Make sure she goes for a tinkle (urinates) just prior to this. The best way to “experiment ” is for the woman to relax over a bunch of pillows, face down, bum up in the air and legs comfortably wide apart. In that position with her guy either at the side, straddling one leg or sort of in the middle, the best way is with his thumb - inserted and pointing down towards the bed. If you press the thumb into the vagina until the heel of the thumb is pressing into her lips the GSpot will be right under the fat part at the end of your thumb. It’s no harder to find than that. It is a small bump roughly the same size as that fat part at the end of your thumb too so it feels a little like there’s another thumb pressing back. (ALL women have this - all women may not react the same way) Start to rub it. You can rub like you’re trying to get a spot out - back and forth or sideways or in a circular motion - it doesn’t matter. DO NOT do it too hard at first but once it puffs up and gets a little hard, that's when you can get rough with it. She'll feel like she has to go for a pee about then. Ignore her. Hold her down. Tell her to go ahead. Ladies you aren't going to pee. It just comes from some kind of build-up and "about to release" feeling. Just hang on and tell him harder or faster to increase that feeling. The first time or two it takes a few minutes. Once you've done it a few times you can usually get the first orgasm in under two minutes - no matter what and then repeats every 30 seconds to a minute for as long as she can stand it. An average night means between 8 and 15 giant "O's". A marathon brings between 35 and 50 !!! Trouble walking the next day but Man) Man is it worth the shakes the next day. I want to try this on my gf and see how she reacts. Has anyone actually tried this, or will and post back? 'm very curious. Thanks, Telecom

Thanks all for your replies. Bondagejunkie hit it right on the head. My gf has told me several times that she doesn't want to depend on anyone. She was married for 22 yrs and worked the whole time, but now that she is divorced and on her own, she has certainly become more independent, and I'm proud of her fot that. Trickychick, what is a "Diamond Geezer? Is that the equivalent of what we call a "Sugar Daddy? That certainly is not me! Many of you know the sexual side about my gf from my posts here. She is becoming better, and is very close to the point of even telling me how she likes oral sex while doing it. I know that sounds trivial, but that would be a huge step with her. She uses her vibe 2-3 times a week now solo, so that is good. A few times recently she even said she wanted to do doggie. That is something she didn't care for in the past and almost never did. And to see that ass up in the air. Heaven! It is still baby steps with the sex with her, but I'll continue to wait. Kiss the eyes and you kiss the soul.... Take Care, Telecom