AndreaPurple

Well since I don't know what TMJ is I'll have to say no, I don't have it (i'm assuming the J is for Jaw). Thanks for the input though vtnympho.

Thank you Howard!!!!! I'll be using this little gem next time.....hmmmm, hubby will be home from work soon....

Thank you Mikayla and Howard! Actually I do all that stuff, but in order to get him off I have to go at it for a longer stretch...I guess I better let my hand do more of the work then I have been. I have actually read the article but I don't retain stuff I read very well, I better go back and read it again, maybe I should print it out and read it several times! LOL

My husband read it and found it to be very informative, he hasn't had the opportunity to show me what he's learned yet though!

Ok ladies....the one thing about giving my husband head that bothers me is that I get uncomfortable and my jaw always starts to hurt and it's very distracting and I can't enjoy it as much when I'm uncomforable like that. So I am wondering ladies what have you found to be the most comfortable position and is there a position where it might not hurt my jaw so much?

Yup, that'd be my situation right now. My husband and I have the best relationship possible, outside the bedroom. He's the greatest man, husband and father that I know and I know he thinks the world of me and would do absolutely anything to see me happy! But we have issues in the bedroom, we are working on them, but still they are there and it has nothing at all do with our relationship in general. Kinkyguy, I guess you would say our "pool" needs some repairs, you can still swim in it but it's just as much fun as it should be! How's that for an analogy!? LOL

I recently lost 40lbs, so I think part of my excitement has to do with that, I just feel really great about what I've accomplished and I admire the fuits of my labor (so to speak)! I just get excited looking at this body that I never thought I'd ever have. And as an admirer of the female body, I've always had a thing for tummy's, flatter, more toned ones (not that a woman with curves isn't attractive) it's just something I like. So looking at my tummy, which is pretty flat (of course not completely, I have had 3 kids, but I've gotten really good at holding it in, it's just happens naturally now) just excites me, I love the way it looks, and I got my belly button pierced to celebrate my weight loss and I've always thought that was really hot on woman too. Does this make me a vain person??? Because honestly I've always considered myself to be pretty average in every way, and now I just have a little higher opinion of my body (not that it's perfect), but still think the rest of me is average. Oh well, as long as I"m sexy to me and to my husband that's all that really matters right!?

katpurr, I am so, so sorry to hear about your son!!!

Ok, I was just replying to another post when it came to me to start this one. Do any of you other women get turned on just looking at yourself in the mirror? Sometimes I'll be getting dressed, and I'll be putting on something sexy for my husband and I'll look at myself in the mirror and think "Damn, I look hot!" That usually leads to me running my hands all over my body and then to my toy drawer and ultimately a really good orgasm(usually, I am challenged afterall). Please say it's not just me!

Me too! There's just something hot about it! I think I just have an appreciation for the female body, I think it's a beautiful thing. I'll be honest, I get hot looking at my own body sometimes....hmmmm, I detect a new post!

I was 14 and it was horrible. The guy was this popular guy in school and I thought he'd like me if I slept with him. I was very niave and gullable at the time....I've learned a lot about guys since then.

krazikris, There is nothing wrong with you, I am 37 and didn't have my first orgasm till I was already in my 30's. As you can tell from my name, I am orgasmically challenged as well, it's why I came here in the first place. I don't really have advice for you, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and you will get help here, they are all very knowledgable and just great!

Let's see, to answer your questions, yes I did use lube, as a matter of fact it was Astroglide! I'm pretty sure I used enough, it seemed to slide in easily enough. Yes, I did read Mikayla's article on anal sex, but I think I will read it again, just to see if I can figure out from that what I might need to do differently. A friend of mine told me that it would be easier if I had an orgasm before doing it so that I would be more relaxed, so I did do that, so I think I was pretty relaxed, I'm pretty sure I was in the same position also. Well I am not done trying! Thanks Katprr. Thank you also to Sylvina!

Ok, I tried anal once, many years ago with a boyfriend who obviously didn't know what he was doing, I hated and refused to do it since then. Until now! I really want to try it with my husband, so I got some lube and a small butt plug to start getting it ready for my husbands cock. I've only done it twice, the first time I was ok, it felt pretty good while I was doing it but it just felt funny after. Well I tried again and this time was just like my first experience, not good. Ok, this is really hard to talk about, it's really gross, but it just feels like I have to poop, so I have 2 questions, first why did it feel like that this time but felt ok the last time? And the other question is, anyone else experience this and is there a way to make it not happen? Thanks.

Let me start by saying Thank you all for all your great advice!! And the next most important thing I wanted to say is that I am pretty much over the resentment thing, I was having a rough few days there, I think it was the meds, but whatever it was, I am feeling better now and thinking more clearly. And I did know that the resentment thing wasn't fair, I just didn't know how to shake it, but it's gone now, so nevermind. We are trying new things and having fun doing it. In the past I just didn't have a sex drive, but now I do, I am pretty sure that is the meds I'm on, because honestly, I just don't remember ever having a sex drive at all before now. Someone asked if I talked about the problems in the bedroom with my therapist, the answer is yes. It hasn't been discussed in great length, but it has come up once or twice. It is something that I am working on and hopefully things will just keep getting better. And Yes, my self esteem issues definitely contribute to every aspect of my life. So this is a big focus in therapy. Thanks again everyone! I will keep you posted.