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Thanks to all who've replied so far. Here are my lists of reasons as to why I am done having kids: I've spoken to him about this, though he doesn't bring it up all the time (at least once a week when he's home), when he does bring it up, I'm to the point where I get pissed at him. He has asked me repeatedly WHY NOT? Well, as anally specific as I've gotten with him in the past about it, I've told him that it's now HIS problem if he doesn't listen to my explanations, and I'm not going to keep explaining myself after 6 whole years of the same answer. So, he can either accept it and love us the way that we are as a family, or divorce my ass, though I'm staying right where I am, and find another woman to have a brood with, cuz it's not gonna be me. A large family decision should be made by both parties. I know of a few people, that when they started out, they wanted 4,5,6,7, even 8 kids. After the 3rd one, they figured out that, for them, that was enough. It's important to KNOW your limitations. I mean, what's the point of having such a large family, if you can't truly enjoy it all? Adoption is a fantastic option, for those that want kids and can't have any/more. But, not for me. I don't want anymore. I'm done, finito, completed, over and done, TYVM. With my c-section, it took me the whole 6 weeks to heal up where I could physically lay down and get back up. 3 weeks after the surgery, one morning I woke up and couldn't stand up all the way. DH was at work, and I had to call my Mother so she could come get me and take me to the chiropractor. I was soooo out of alignment that I just couldn't do it. I had to be on suppressive therapy with bladder infections. The first trimester, I had a bladder infection every 10 days, so they finally gave me one Macrobid a day, so I wouldn't have anymore. Then, every single month, I had a herpes outbreak. I refused to take the Valtrex that I was Rxed because there's no studies on how Valtrex affects a fetus, so I had to deal with that discomfort every month. We barely had sex during my entire pregnancy due to this! Plus I had some disease that I can't remember what it's called now, but it causes a dry patch in the cervix, predominantly in white women, and makes sex very painful, no matter if you use lube or not. It was over a year after our DD's birth, before I could enjoy sex again!!! Hubby was working the night shift at that time, and slept most of the day, so, indeed, it was pretty much just ME, and whatever help my Mom could offer me. Thankfully, she came everyday for a few hours, took me where I needed to go, and lifted the carseat for me to her car and back, so I could heal. I was tired ALL the time, trying to keep her quiet, breastfeeding, and having to sleep in a recliner, with her in my arms cuz I couldn't manuever myself to reach over and get her. Twisting and bending was IMPOSSIBLE for me for 6 weeks. And, I BLED those 6 weeks, just as they warned me that I could do. I had told my OB after, next time, tell my body it would bleed for just a week....that was reasonable!! LOL Now, DH is indeed away a week at a time, and my nerves are already frazzled to begin with. The Hurricane really took a lot out of my patients/stress levels, and adding another child ontop of all that isn't fair to the family, our daughter, myself, financial situation, as well as the baby itself. I'm either puttering around the house, on the internet, or cell phone, as therapy. I find it relaxing. LOL I mean, it cost us almost a thousand dollars to fly his oldest DD here for a month! Granted, we got reimbursed half over a month later, but, we're pretty stretched out as it is. Plus he needs a new truck. His has almost 200k miles on it, and it's getting expensive to keep putting parts on it (Dodge 3.4 tone HEMI). And the animals.......well, we're getting by, but there's no way we'd be able to keep all the horses, get a new truck, and afford to do a bunch of other stuff we do now, with another baby. Plus, I MISS helping out financially! I love getting out of the house, go to work, and get a paycheck. I miss being able to contribute financially to the family! I'm a SAHM now, and yes, I do a lot here, but I'm ready to move on to a paying job, as well as still having my family. Hell, when I first met my now DH, I told him that I wasn't even sure I ever wanted kids! When he asked "why not" I said that I was too selfish with my time, and it was very true. I don't think that's a "sad" statement, but an open & honest one. If a person isn't ready or wanting to have kids at any point in their life, then it's their choice. I know of people that have made these statements, and stuck to them, and they're just as happy as those with families. It's a personal choice that shouldn't be entered into lightly. "Surprise kids" can be blessings in disguise, or they can stir up resentment in the mothers that they don't deserve, but, you can't help how you feel either. I would hate to give in just to shut DH up, only to resent the child I didn't want. It wouldn't be fair to anyone, especially the child. Anyway, looking forward to more responses.

I have one rechargable one, and although I love it, I always forget about it, and when I remember it, it's when I want to use something NOW, so I rarely use it. I also have 2 of the USB vibes from TT too, but I rarely use those either. I don't look at internet porn, and, with my computer so near to the epicenter of the house, I usually go into the bedroom to masturbate. I keep a variety of AA, AAA, C, and a few D batteries always in stock at home (with kids & hurricanes, you can never have enough batteries), so I'm usually good to go! LOL I guess battery ones are just more convenient/quick.

OK, here's something new...... This is one of the things that's been bugging me lately. My hubby & I use to have fantastic sex, before our DD was born. Before we planned for her, I sat hubby down and told him that I would more than likely only want ONE child....that I don't believe that I have the patience or stamina for anymore than that. Plus, he already has a girl from his previous marriage. He was all set with that, and said ok. Though, he did say that I'd probably change my mind when the child was about 4 or 5. Well, I had a hard recovery time after DD, and, on top of that, some other health issues. Our sex life suffered. Then, not soon after I was healed enough for sex, DH started pressuring me to have another baby. I was breastfeeding at the time, exhausted ALL of the time, and told him to kiss my ass. Fast-forward to now. Our DD is almost 6 (OMG!!), and I am STILL of the mind that I am ok with just the one. We are at a point where he's catching up on his back child support in good time, and able to go do stuff with our DD, without 500 lbs of baby gear. I love having a slight break while DD is at school and am looking for a Mother's Hours PT job. I love being able to pay attention to her the way I can. I love going to her school functions & her karate lessons with just me and some camera gear to worry about. If there's more than one child around, I get irritable, and I KNOW it. I'm a big enough person to know my limitations. Most people agree that I'm doing the right thing by sticking to my guns. My DH calls me selfish for not wanting another child. He KNOWS of all the issues that I had with the birthing (c-section), and afterwards. Not that I would trade my DD for anything in the world, but I just don't want to go thru all that again JUST so he can try to have a son, which there's no guarantee that we'd have a boy anyway! It's not like I wasn't totally upfront and honest about this when we decided to have a child. He was OK with it at the time, probably cuz he thought I'd change my mind. When we have sex, it's great. But, I use 2 methods....the Pill and after I put foam up there too. I had dental work done the other day, so I have antibiotics, and he's pissed that I will make him wear a condom ontop of being on the Pill. I tried getting the Mirena put in, but his insurance opted not to cover it. So, I am doubling up. He will NOT go get a vasectomy, and I would LOVE to have my tubes cut, tied, and burned, but we can't afford the deductable for that yet. He's teased by saying he'll poke holes in the condoms, and I tell him that if he gets me pregnant like that, I would probably divorce him on fraud. I don't think that kinda joking around is at all funny. It makes me NOT want to have sex at all. I love him, but he's really pissing me off this way. Even his FATHER told me the other day that I was selfish for not wanting another child! I told him that men produce sperm til they die, so he can get off his ass and go have another kid of his own if he wants to have a baby around, and to leave me out of it!! Don't get me wrong, when we DO have it, it's GREAT! I've spoken to him of how he makes me feel like I can't trust him, and that when he says that I'm selfish for not wanting another child hurts me. I've gotten so pissed at him one time I told him that if he wanted another child, he'd better leave my ass and find some hoochie to have another one with, cuz it's not happenin' here. He just doesn't get it, and, IMO, he's the one being selfish.

When the husband finally died his wife put the usual death notice in the paper, but added that he died of gonorrhea. No sooner were the papers delivered when a friend of the family phoned and complained bitterly, "You know very well that he died of diarrhea, not gonorrhea." Replied the widow, "I nursed him night and day so of course I know he died of diarrhea, but I thought it would be better for posterity to remember him as a great lover rather than the big s--t t he always was." An elderly couple were on a cruise and it was really stormy. They were standing on the back of the boat watching the moon, when a wave came up and washed the old woman overboard. They searched for days and couldn't find her, so the captain sent the old man back to shore with the promise that he would notify him as soon as they found something. Three weeks went by and finally the old man got a fax from the boat. It read: "Sir, sorry to inform you, we found your wife dead at the bottom of the ocean. We hauled her up to the deck and attached to her butt was an oyster and in it was a pearl worth $50,000. please advise." The old man faxed back: "Send me the pearl and re-bait the trap." A funeral service is being held for a woman who has just passed away. At the end of the service, the pall bearers are carrying the casket out when they accidentally bump into a wall, jarring the casket. They hear a faint moan. They open the casket and find that the woman is actually alive! She lives for ten more years, and then dies. Once again, a ceremony is held, and at the end of it, the pall bearers are again carrying out the casket. As they carry the casket towards the door, the husband cries out, "Watch that wall!" When I went to lunch today, I noticed an old lady sitting on a park bench sobbing her eyes out. I stopped and asked her what was wrong. She said, "I have a 22 year old husband at home. He makes love to me every morning and then gets up and makes me pancakes, sausage, fresh fruit and freshly gr o und coffee." I said, "Well, then why are you crying?" She said, "He makes me homemade soup for lunch and my favorite brownies and then makes love to me for half the afternoon. I said, "Well, why are you crying?" She said, "For dinner he makes me a gourmet meal with wine and my favorite dessert and then makes love to me until 2:00 a.m." I said, "Well, why in the world would you be crying?" She said, "I can't remember where I live!" Two elderly ladies had been friends for many decades. Over the years they had shared all kinds of activities and adventures. Lately, their activities had been limited to meeting a few times a week to play cards. One day they were playing cards when one looked at the other and said, "Now don't get mad at me....I know we've been friends for a long time.....but I just can't think of your name! I've thought and thought, but I can't remember it. Please tell me what your name is." Her friend glared at her. For at least three minutes she just stared and glared at her. Finally she said, "How soon do you need to know?"

I agree with your friend, the bullet is a sex toy staple! Most are easy to use, fun, simple to care for, inexpensive, and, the most important thing....they WORK! Some are insertable, others are just for external use (like the wireless one). But, the ones with the wire are usually waterproof, and therefore, insertable. People usually use the wire to retrieve the bullet. Though, it's not like a bullet could get LOST up there easily. Some people like to insert wireless ones, almost like ben-wa balls, and are able to get them out with little effort.

Why not have one made especially for him? There are lots of places that do that sorta thing! Anyway, what a great story! It's wonderful that you put so much time and effort into it all!!

When I started reading this thread, that movie, Memoirs of a Geisha came to mind for me as well. After the selling of their virginity, their sex is NOT for sale, at least, not the traditional one. Their sex is for their "dahn-na" (sp), which is like their protector, and the Geisha their mistress. Many cultures, even our own, revere virginity on some level or another. I mean, what man DOESN'T like to say "I had a virgin", or "I was her First"? I know of none that aren't proud of at least ONE virgin they've helped bring into womanhood! Anyway, I heard of a girl that was selling her virginity (probably the same one) to put herself thru school. Where this is "morally" wrong to many people, hey, it's quick, and a good solution to her problem. If she got that $$, and was able to put it all to school, she wouldn't be in debt, be able to make a better living faster (no loan payments), and not worry about that part of her life, financially speaking. If she doesn't want a commitment, & expects none from the de-virginizer, even better! Hey, she has a goal, and will use it! I say that it's her business, and nobody elses.

Next time you think your hotel bill is too high you might want to consider this: A husband and wife are travelling by car from Key West to Boston. After almost twenty-four hours on the road, they're too tired to continue and they decide to stop for a rest. They stop at a nice hotel and take a room, but they only plan to sleep for four hours and then get back on the road. When they check out four hours later, the desk Clerk hands them a bill for $350.00. The man explodes and demands to know why the charge is so high. He tells the clerk although it's a nice hotel the rooms certainly aren't worth $350.00. When the clerk tells him $350.00 is the standard rate, the man insists on speaking to the Manager. The Manager appears, listens to the man, and then explains that the hotel has an Olympic-sized pool and a huge conference centre that were available for the husband and wife to use. 'But we didn't use them,' the man complains.'Well, they are here, and you could have,' explains the Manager. He goes on to explain they could also have taken in one of the shows for which the hotel is famous. 'The best entertainers from New York , Hollywood, and Las Vegas perform here,' the Manager says. 'But we didn't go to any of those shows,' complains the man again. 'Well, we have them, and you could have,' the Manager replies. No matter what amenity the Manager mentions, the man replies, 'But we didn't use it!' The Manager is unmoved, and eventually the man gives up and agrees to pay. He writes a check and gives it to the Manager. The Manager is surprised when he looks at the check. 'But sir,' he says, 'this check is only made out for $50.00.' 'That's correct,' says the man. 'I charged y ou $300.00 for sleeping with my wife.' 'But I didn't!' exclaims the Manager. 'Well, too bad,' the man replies. 'She was here and you could have.'

FINALLY, THE 6 ANSWERS WE'VE BEEN WAITING FOR: Q: WHAT ARE THE SMALL BUMPS AROUND A WOMAN'S NIPPLES FOR? A: It's Braille for 'suck here'. Q: WHAT IS AN AUSTRALIAN KISS? A: It's the same as a French kiss, but 'down under.' Q: WHAT DO YOU DO WITH 365 USED CONDOMS? A: Melt them down, m ake a tire, and call it a Goodyear. Q: WHY WERE HURRICANES NORMALLY NAMED AFTER WOMEN? A: Because when they come, they're wild and wet. But when they go, They take your house and car with them. Q: WHY DO GIRLS RUB THEIR EYES WHEN THEY GET UP IN THE MORNING? A: Because they don't have any balls to scratch... AND: Q: WHAT IS A MAN'S ULTIMATE EMBARRASSMENT? A : Running into a wall with an erection and breaking his nose.

Welcome to the site, and I hope you've been having a lot of fun perusing it, and trying to get some ideas. As far as this post goes, well you got a lot going on here. Your wife is honest according to your post, and wouldn't do things that she would be "ashamed" of in the bedroom, that she wouldn't feel comfortable enough with to admit to her friends. This is a double-edged sword. It's great that she talks to her friends about sex (women do that). However, you can't life life for the approval of everyone else around you. Nobody'd be willing to have a good time if everyone lived that way. And how does anyone learn that they like something, whether in the bedroom, or life in general, if they don't try it out at least once? And, yes, her self-esteem comes into play greatly here. If she's comfortable with herself, then she probably would be more willing to be a bit more adventurous. Talking about desires, fantasies, and so on, requires not only self-esteem, but TIMING, which someone already mentioned. Talking about this stuff while making love can be bad timing, but it depends on the situation. HOW you bring it up is especially important! For example, if she wears a gorgeous, sexy piece of lingerie that she loves, make a BIG deal about it. Tell her what part of her that you really LOVE in it. Like "Oh honey, I just LOVE how that cami accentuates your breasts". This is a huge ego boost for anyone. Plus, appreciate the fact that she wears it for you! If you'd like to see her in another color, say so "I'd LOVE to see those breasts covered in black", or even "your ass looks soooo good in that! I'd love to see it being carressed by some leather/vinyl". With porn, she may like to watch it, but feels uncomfortable about being the one to suggest it, because her upbringing has made her feel that porn is bad or for perverts. Or maybe it's the kind of porn that she is seeing that she doesn't like. I would get some different types of porn. One of my faves, is directed by a woman, called Island Fever 4. This is wonderful, no plot, or cheezy sets. It's gorgeous island location has beautiful scenery and wonderful sex scenes that are sensual. Ultimately, it's up to HER to WANT to change. One thing she has to learn, is that she should be comfortable in the bedroom, AND willing to try new things. Now, being "kinky", that also have different definitions. Have you asked her what she'd be willing to try and do, and what she WON'T do? Does she think that being kinky involves illegal activities? Or morally reprehensible ones? BTW, NOBODY can ever have so many sex toys that should be considered "normal"! LMAO She may HAVE the sex toys, but just having them doesn't make you willing to try. USING them is! She may not use the toys she has often because they just don't work for her. I've had several toys that I thought looked really fun, only to fail in the trial time, but then, when I used them a few more times....OMG!! Practice makes perfect! She also may feel that "Catholic Guilt" for enjoying sex and sex toys! Many religions stress that sex is for procreation, and if you enjoy sex, and are female, then you are sinning, and going to hell for it. My response to that sort of thinking is, that if your God wanted you to NOT enjoy sex, then he never would've created you with a clitoris, feelings, free-thoughts, and free-will. You would've been made into a bug or jellyfish, something that doesn't seem to get any pleasure from having sex. Heck, dolphins and pigs have orgasms! Some monkeys have casual sex with members of their troop to gain closeness. What better way of feeling bonded to someone than to have intimacy with them? Hey, if the monkeys can figure that out, then........ Changes won't happen overnight. There has to be communication between the 2 of you. Let her know that you're not going to go around announcing to people what you do in the bedroom, and that it's nobody's business but your own, what you do in the bedroom! Enjoying sex isn't a sin, it's not an evil thing, and it's a loving experience between 2 lovers. Wanting to please your lover is important, and wanting to learn to please them as well as teach them how to please YOU is also essential in growing sexually. Changes such as these will take time, and patience, as well as be a gradual thing. Don't go from romance and sweetness to wanting to tie her up and crack a whip over her head. That's gonna scare anyone! LOL It's gotta be a gradual thing. Say, if you want to try some bondage, which can be scary unto itself, there has to be a few things happening. She needs to feel that you won't pressure her, or guilt her into submitting. She needs to feel that she can trust you implicetly. She also needs to know, as do you, that the one being tied up (the SUB), is actually the one in total control. If the SUB says STOP, then the activity the SUB isn't liking STOPS immediately. Don't push your luck. As far as tying her up, try it with a cute pair of fuzzy handcuffs that have a security latch on them, so if she wants to get out of them, she can. Or the velcro bands. Pink or fuzzy, they are more user friendly (who can associate danger with pink or fuzzy! LOL). Be patient, LISTEN to her desires as well. You may be surprised by what she wants to try too! Best wishes.

Dan was a single guy living at home with his father and working in the family business. When he found out he was going to inherit a fortune when his sickly father died, he decided he needed a wife with whom to share his fortune. One evening at an investment meeting he spotted the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. Her natural beauty took his breath away. "I may look like just an ordinary man," he said to her, "but in just a few years, when my father dies, I'll inherit 20 million dollars." Impressed, the woman obtained his business card and three days later, she became his stepmother. Women are so much better at estate planning than men.

New use for Windex I haven't checked 'snopes.com' to see if this actually Works or not . . . . But they say, If you ever get the sudden Urge to run around naked, You should sniff some Windex first. It'll keep you from streaking.

Let me also chime in, that if you have allergies, sensitivities, or an STD, L-Arginine is a big trigger for flare ups. Sorry that this product didn't work very well for you.

You know you're from the Gulf Coast when…. 1. You have FEMA's number on your speed dialer. 2. You have more than 100 'C' and 'D' batteries in your kitchen drawer. 3. Your pantry contains more than 20 cans of Spaghetti O's. 4. You are thinking of repainting your house to match the plywood covering your windows. (Or painting the plywood to match your house!!) 5. When describing your gutted house to a prospective buyer, you say it has three bedrooms, two baths and an open air feel to it. 6. Your SSN isn't a secret, it's written in Sharpie on your arms. 7. You are on a first-name basis with the cashier at Home Depot. 8. You are delighted to pay $3.50 for a gallon of regular unleaded. 9. The road leading to your house has been declared a No-Wake Zone. 10. You decide that your patio furniture looks better on the bottom of the pool. 11. You own more than three large coolers. *so far we have 2 really big ones, 2 of the "day" size ones, and a couple of small ones....that count?* 12. You can wish that other people get hit by a hurricane and not feel the least bit guilty about it. BTDT 13. You rationalize helping a friend board up by thinking It'll only take a gallon of gas to get there and back 14. You have 2-liter coke bottles and milk jugs filled with water in your freezer. OMG!! YES!! 15. Three months ago you couldn't hang a shower curtain; today you can assemble a portable generator by candlelight. 16. You catch a 13-pound red fish - in your house. 17. You can recite from memory whole portions of your homeowner's insurance policy. 18. You consider a vacation to stunning Tupelo, Mississippi. 19. At cocktail parties, women are attracted to the guy with the biggest chainsaw. (this could be a redneck thing anyway) 20. You have had tuna fish more than 5 days in a row. 21. There is a roll of tar paper in your garage. 22. You can rattle off the names of three or more meteorologists who work at the Weather Channel. 23. Someone comes to your door to tell you they found your roof. 24. Ice is a valid topic of conversation. 25. Your drive-thru meal consists of MRE's and bottled water. 26. Relocating to South Dakota does not seem like such a crazy idea. 27. You spend more time on your roof than in your living room. 28. You've been laughed at over the phone by a roofer, fence builder or a tree worker. 29. A battery powered TV is considered a home entertainment center. 30. You don't worry about relatives wanting to visit during the summer. 31. Your child's first words are "hunker down!" 32. Having a tree in your living room does not necessarily mean its Christmas. 33. Toilet Paper is elevated to coin of the realm at the shelters. 34. You know the difference between the good side of a storm and the bad side. 35. Your kids start school in August and finish in July. 36. You go to work early and stay late just to enjoy the air conditioning. 37. Your garage smells like gasoline. 38. You're more concerned about someone stealing your generator than your car. BTDT too!! 39. You get excited when you see a bucket truck in your neighborhood. **It's almost orgasmic!** 40. You get really excited when you see the cable guy. 41. Adults chase power company trucks with greater enthusiasm than a 6 year old flagging down an ice cream truck. **I SAW this happen too!** 42. You can create memorable meals with a can of SPAM and one gas burner. 43. Waiting in line at Starbucks for 2 hours to get a cup of coffee seems perfectly reasonable.

Congrats darlin!! I hope it all works out for the best! And, it's GREAT that you've finally taken a risk! Good for you!!

I have tried a couple of pumps. I like them. They're the same basic idea as a penis pump. They suck and bring the blood to the clit and lips, to make them more sensitive. Now, some people like a lot of suction, others, not so much. You have to learn your preference, learn the toy, and what it does, as well as the safety features (like the release valve). If you want to try it, go for it, though I would look for something a bit more um, of quality. That one you showed just seemed a bit cheap IMHO. I've found that if there's a sex toy you WANT to try, are seriously curious, and have a positive outlook on it, the toy works better. So, go for it!

Some people get confused between "natural body scent" and Body ODOR. My ex MIL loved to be au naturale'. However, she was also a cook, and if you're working in a HOT kitchen, you definitely need some help controling that funk! I love a clean fresh sweaty smell, so long it's due to some work, workout, or a vigorous romp! However, you can definitely tell if the sweat, even if the person's been working, is also mingled with some unclean parts too! I'm also big with colognes, but more so with oils. I LOVE the smell of vanilla oil on a man....I get wet just thinking about it!! Or CK One! *drool*

LMAO I mean like on the bed, car, in a chair, bathroom, office......where? OK, I'm kinda boring.....usually it's one of 2 places (but not always). Either on DH's recliner watching porn, or on our bed.

So, where do you masturbate the most?

You know, these things can happen. This is why, my rule of thumb is that, when I started a new relationship, I'd say "baby, OMG, or the infamous OH YEAH!" It wasn't that I wasn't into the new guy, but, out of habit, saying a man's name, other than the one I was with then, would be bad. My ex husband, while we were dating called me Melissa, which was his ex's name, that he'd broken up with to be with me. My name's Meaghan, and he said it was the "M" thing that threw him, though he never said that when we were having sex. He did it twice in one day, and needless to say, he didn't do it again after that. Chances are, it was an honest mistake, especially if your names sound similar, or if he broke up with the girl a short time ago. It's a habit he's got to break. If it continues, then I'd be worried about it, but, unless he's an insensitive ass, I don't think it will because he'll be making sure that he stays away from her name, especially at that point! LOL

I LOVE candles!! I have a candle making machine that I got a couple of years ago, I just need some more molds and wicks! I reuse holders. Good for you AK! I hope that you can make a great go of it!! If there are craft shows in your area, you should try to go to one or 2. Craft shows are great around the holidays, and candles are always a favorite gift to give (and recieve!!).

What an idiot. Yeah.....that'll teach the SCHOOL! Though, I bet that it brings up a lot of concerns. I can see WHAT she was trying to prove, but there should've been a different way of doing that.

The Decathlon Vibe Are you ready for a good workout? Have you completed all of your stretches? Trained hard? If you’re up for the vigorous activity, then this vibe’s for you! Proving what happens in Vegas doesn’t always STAY in Vegas, Las Vegas Novelties has created this wonderful red vibe is wonderfully simple, yet effective too. 4, yes, 4 AAA batteries power this almost 7” hard plastic vibe. And power it they do!! Twist the vibe at the middle, just a bit, to open it up, put the batteries in with the negative side touching the springs, twist back on, and you’re good to go. On the backside (in the vibe) of where the batteries go, there is even a list of the vibe’s functions. I did notice a small rubber gasket that usually means that the vibe’s waterproof, but the package didn’t say anything about it, so I would go the safer route and say it’s not. The 10 vibe settings are very strong, whether is low, medium, high, or the different variations. The 2 push-buttons are at the very bottom of the vibe. There’s a separate ON/OFF button that can control the power, and the great thing about that is that you don’t have to go thru all of the settings to shut it off. From the bottom, to 4” up the vibe, there are ridges that help grip the vibe too, which is always a plus. Turning it on, and having some fun with the settings, I really loved how stimulation the vibes were. Plus, the hard plastic makes the vibes a bit more strong, which is what I prefer. Now, I did notice that this toy is kinda loud, however, with what it does, I was willing to sacrifice a bit of quiet for my workout. Doing my reps, I went thru the vibes paces. My reward wasn’t a medal, but a couple of fantastic orgasms making me cross the finish line! Since this vibe is from Christi Lake’s Star Spangled Banner Series, I felt almost compelled to salute it after! I give this a 4 Tyger Paw Salute!! With the clit at attention as well! Go for the RED!

It most certainly is cheating if you're in a relationship and it's understood that you're exclusive. Whether is straight or "gay" sex, if you wouldn't like your SO doing it with another person, then you shouldn't do it either. Sex is sex is sex. So is having oral sex with someone, giving hand jobs, and even kissing someone else (romantically, not-peck-on-the-cheek/hi-how're-you-doing? kind), is all cheating. It's being intimate with another person no matter what gender.