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I know that at least one of the Aneros toys has been reviewed, and the one that has been reviewed is the Aneros Eupho, by an experienced anal/prostate toy user. The Progasm, looks to me, to be a toy that is also for someone that is is an experienced (aka use to having anal toys go up inside of them) toy user, because of the girth of it. Not to say that you can't get use to it, because you will be able to, I'm sure. Anyway, I know that the Eupho worked well, and here's a link to the review to that: Aneros Eupho review

1. Wow, and your feet are so big! 2. Ahhhh, It's cute. 3. Why don't we just cuddle? 4. You know they have surgery to fix that. 5. Make it dance. 6. It's OK, we'll work around it. 7. Will it squeak if I squeeze it? 8. Can I be honest with you? 9. (giggle and point) 10. Maybe if we water it, it'll grow. 11. At least this won't take long. 12. I never saw one like this before. 13. But it still works, right? 14. This is why you're supposed to judge people on personality. 15. Maybe it looks better in natural light...? 16. Why don't we skip right to the cigarettes? 17. Are you cold? 18. It's a good thing you have so many other talents. 19. Is that an optical illusion? 20. I guess this makes me the "early bird."

Abso-freakin'-lutely!!!

Congrats on using condoms for so long. That's GREAT!! I will also echo the whole pantiliner usage recommendations. That's usually what they're there for anyway. Of course, they won't put that on the packaging, but, you can get either scented, unscented, and even baking soda ones. There will be a slight scent to the discharge. I lovingly call it my "After Sex Smell". There will be leakage afterwards. Depending on what time of the month in your cycle that you're in, how much he cums, and how well you can get the semen out (you can push a lot out afterwards yourself, using your vaginal muscles). But, there will be some there left over. It happens, and it's normal. Don't worry. If you're using panty liners, shower regularly, and obviously change your clothes everyday, you'll be fine, and nobody will guess.

I will also echo Mikayla's recommendation that you go and get checked out with your first PAP exam. They're not overly fun, kinda embarrassing the first time since you don't normally stick your legs in the air, but, after a while, you get use to it, and it's really not a biggie. Since you're sexually curious, you really should have this done, and possibly look into forms of birth control as well. Safe sex is happy sex! And, remember, the Pill, or other "women only" forms, don't protect against STDs, condoms are the better bet for that. As far as having difficulty with the vibrator, if you're not thrusting hard, and, assuming that you haven't already torn it, you may be hitting your hymen, especially if you feel a slight pressure when it goes up inside of you. Chances are, is that, since you ARE in fact, using insertable toys, then you've probably already torn it, or it was already torn (it can happen with strenuous activities, bike riding, horseback riding, and other activities). Be comforted in knowing that the cervix is, indeed, stretchy, because, of course, it's designed not only to accomodate a male's genitals, but to push a baby out. There may be some slight discomfort when a man goes inside of you, either if it's because it's your first time (my first was only 6", but he felt HUGE), or that the man may be larger than what you may be use to. But, it will stretch out, and retract. If you're insistent on using a insertable sex toy, let me recommend that you get a toy made of silicone or jelly. They're bendable, and, if you have a tipped uterus (which can affect the angle of the cervix), these sorts of toys will bend and contort to your specific body easier. AND they do have several that have vibrations in them too! Plus, since you're experimenting, you're probably not relaxing as much as you should. This takes time, and patience. Just try and do some deep breathing, and try to relax more.

I KWYM about the usually unrealistic portrayal of HOW a woman can get her O on, by either just with a stiff dick, or with a slight tickle here and there, nothing overly intense. It's usually all about the jism on the face shot. This film sounds like a MUST have, especially to younger couples, where sometimes, the only "sex ed" they think they're gonna get is via porn, KWIM? Great review~

DANG!! I missed it!!!

Have you noticed that many businesses may promote good customer service, but yet, their associates don't really give a rat's ass if they give good customer service or not? I've stood at a counter, with the associate hired to help me, staring off into space, or taking an obviously personal phone call, I don't know how many times. Do I keep quite? Absolutely.........NOT!!! How does one handle this? Well, it depends on my experience with this company, and possibly that same sales associate, with how I will approach this. Everyone has bad days, and I understand that. I've been politically nice, and then, other times, overly assertive, which I'm sure I was called a "bitch" for, by the offending associate. Never have I become insulting, and I also know that they ARE there to help me, but not take my shit either. I don't demean someone, or insult them, however, when lodging a complaint, I DO let them know that I've done what they're doing, and I KNOW how I'm suppose to be treated as a valuable customer. Then I ask for management, and I let THEM know who, what, and when all this happened. Some people just complain to the associate, and that's it. No, don't do just that. Cuz, do you think for one minute, that the associate that you're complaining to is going to admit they did wrong, and possibly loose their job by opening their mouth to thier supervisor? Not hardly. Plus, when you talk to the manager, or immediate supervisor, the problem is usually addressed and resolved, cuz they know that customer relations are extremely important to their jobs and bottom lines of the business. I am one of the few people I know of, however, that also takes the time to compliment GREAT customer service too! Too many times, people rarely take the time to actually compliment great service. Do you know how GREAT it feels to be told you're doing a great job? You try and strive to do better, right? If people only hear the negatives in their jobs, they tend to start to not care about trying harder. So, I make sure to compliment too. And, I compliment the associate, and then make sure to tell their supervisor too! FLIP SIDE: I've been mostly IN the retail business since 1991. I've also had the pleasure of being a waitress for over 3 yrs too. BIG customer service jobs, that are positions that are usually underpaid jobs!! I took my retail training (and yes, they really DO provide training) to heart. Being polite is a MUST. However, I also learned to stand up for myself and the company I am representing in a mature, professional manner. I've been promoted in all my retail jobs to upper middle management, and still, have had to tell a customer NO, but as nicely as possible. I even had a lady run over my foot diliberately, with her shopping cart, because we were doing inventory, and I was told that we couldn't sell stuff in an area we had counted. The store was closing, I was the manager of that area, and the lady got severely pissed off at me cuz I wouldn't sell her a baby toy (yes, really), and she ran over the side of my foot, and ankle WITH the cart. I kept my mouth shut, for the most part, but I did tell her not to come into my department again until she could act civilized. Fortunately, security saw her do that, and they banned her from the store, and told her that she was lucky I didn't press charges. I've had a ton of rude customers, people trying to take advantage of policies, liars, theives, and users of all shapes and sizes. Some of the stuff that customers get away with, and try to get away with is just shocking to me. However, over the years, learning, and studying of company policies (which, they're basically all the same for the most part), has shown me a tactful way to stand up for my department, as well as myself. I have had a few complaints lodged against me, usually when I said NO to someone, but with the exception of one time, I've always been backed in my decisions. I've also had many compliments from customers. My whole point is, well, you usually have to deal with retail in one form or another. It's great to have a company that backs you, but always remember, that the customer may not always be right, but, enevitably, they DO pay your paycheck, so it's best to be nice. Treat a salesperson/customer how YOU would like to be treated, and shopping can be a thing to look forward too, even during the Christmas rush! Trust me!

Wow! Where to begin! I love this forum, and I hope that others respect my opinion, as well as any others here too. Ok, so I am a semi-active animal rights person. I'm not as HOORAH as I use to be, with the PITA flyers and such. But, I try and stay away from products that I KNOW are animal tested and such. Anyway, I FULLY understand that, due to the lack of natural predators and so on, that hunting is neccassary to keep populations of some animals down, like deer, moose, bear, rabbits, and the like. I get it. I don't like it, but I get it. HOWEVER, what I do consider "murder" of these wild animals, is when people shoot the animals for trophey only. Only taking the rack, head, hooves, or pelt, or to mount the body on a plaque, just to prove that their inner cave person has once again, conquered nature is ridiculous to me. Now, if someone successfully hunts (without the use of feeders that are allowed here in TX-which I was taught as a Mainer, was "baiting") and kills an animal, and takes and uses AS MUCH of the animal as they possibly can, or pass on to someone else that will use it, I find that perfectly fine and also, respectful of the animal that surrendered its life for that person that killed them. It's hunting season most everywhere. I don't mind that. But what set me off this time, was that I saw a deer, or what was left of one, on the side of the road, without it's head. It was obviously CUT off (not ripped like a truck could possibly do), and the deer was a buck. Maybe, just maybe, the deer was hit, and the person took the head. But, if it was hit, why not take the whole thing? Not only was it callous, but gruesome as well. I fully expect to tell my daughter about hunting, and explain where meat comes from. I allow her to eat meat (though I only eat chicken and fish), and enjoy it for now (hey, she's almost 5, and loves her steak). I want her to try new things, and form her own opinions, but I hope to also teach her to respect nature, whether it's thru the lense of a camera, or a scope.

The Obedient Wife' There was a man who had worked all his life, had saved all of his money, and was a real 'miser' when it came to his money. Just before he died, he said to his wife...'When I die, I want you to take all my money and put it in the casket with me. I want to take my money to the afterlife with me.' And so he got his wife to promise him, with all of her heart, that when he died, she would put all of the money into the casket with him. Well, he died. He was stretched out in the casket, his wife was sitting there - dressed in black, and her friend was sitting next to her. When they finished the ceremony, and just before the undertakers got ready to close the casket, the wife said, 'Wait just a moment!' She had a small metal box with her; she came over with the box and put it in the casket. Then the undertakers locked the casket down and they rolled it away. So her friend said, 'Girl, I know you were not fool enough to put all that money in there with your husband.' The loyal wife replied, 'Listen, I'm a Christian; I cannot go back on my word. I promised him that I was going to put that money into the casket with him.' You mean to tell me you put that money in the casket with him!?!?!?' 'I sure did,' said the wife. 'I got it all together, put it into my account, and wrote him a check.... If he can cash it, then he can spend it.'

It doesn't say how old you are in your profile, but I am assuming you're maybe 18, 19-ish? Fresh out of the nest, so to speak. Honey, parents, especially mothers, do this. My mother STILL baby's me, only once in a while now though, and I'm 34!! You just have to, nicely, remind her that she needs to treat you as an adult, please. Many times. I don't know what kind of person she is. Some mothers get it, others don't. My father's mother babied him until the day she died!! And he was in his late 40's when she did! Try not to get mad at her. She is only wanting to know and assure herself that you're ok, even without her being right in her life 100% of the time. If you're an only child, or at least the only girl, this may be harder for her to do. As far as when you're doing business (like at the bank), I would suggest that you either not take her, ask her to stay in the car, or, if she insists that she go in, that she MUST keep her mouth shut, and opinions to herself. Tell her that you need to do these sorts of things on your own, and you need to learn about these things as an adult. It was disrespectful, in a way, for her to do what she did, however, she was probably just making sure you were taken care of appropriately. As far as her asking you if you're getting married; it's more acceptable, by today's standards, to live with someone first, before marriage. IMO, this is actually better, since you actually learn to live with someone else's quirks, idiocyncracies, and so on, BEFORE committing to them legally. May I suggest that you do what I did with my first live-in BF and my mother? Tell her that you're not ready for such a LARGE & legally binding commitment, and that you want to see if things work out this way first. And that you would appreciate her not asking that anymore. If she keeps asking, just remind her that you explained yourself, and again, please stop asking. There is nothing wrong with telling your mother, kindly, to back off and allow you to grow up. But, be kind, because she is going to have a hard time with her baby leaving the nest.

Please allow me to also welcome you to the site! Also, let me repeat that if you purchased your toy within a year, from TooTimid, please contact Meaghan (aka Meg) at the 888# at the top of the screen, and she will gladly replace it for you! She's wonderfu, friendly, and willing to help! Sex toys, like any other type of electronics, do break down, so you're not alone! With the vibe you're looking at, if there is no product review at the bottom, then none of us Reviewers have recieved it yet (or haven't posted our review on it yet). But it's always a great idea to see if anyone else has experience with the toy! Also, even if you DO find a toy either on another site (how DARE you!! LOL jk), or at a sex toy store that you visit, and what you're looking at is cheaper than here (which I have found now & again), even with S&H, PLEASE REMEMBER THE 1 YEAR GUARANTEE!! It is usually the cincher for me, since I know at another site/store there is NO such guarantee. And, well, when you purchase a $60+ vibrator, you don't want to loose out if it decdes to crap out on you in 5 mos or so!! And, BTW, I DON'T GET PAID OR ENCOURAGED TO WRIE THESE THINGS, even though I'm a Reviewer. We are always encouraged to speak openly & honestly here.

Well, I would suggest either allowing your hubby to hold the rabbit, or maybe, if you're in the doggie position, resting one shoulder propped up on a pillow, one hand to brace yourself, and one hand on your rabbit. Best wishes!

Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate. A Message by George Carlin: The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete... Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

As a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom), and the one that does 98% of the housework and yard work, I can definitely echo the sentiments of Mikayla as far as parenting goes, and how a Mom can feel. I only have one child, who's almost 5, and I still get worn out!!! I can only imagine the stresses of 2! Does she stay home with the kids? Sometimes, it's seemingly impossible to get OUT of "Mommy Mode", as Howard directly and accurately put it. A woman sometimes feels as though a "Mom shouldn't DO those sorts of things anymore" after having kids. Make the mother of your kids not only feel sexy, but AS A WOMAN too. Not just a mother. AGain, 4 years may seem like a long time, but, it's really not. How long did you 2 date before you had kids? I don't mean to sound patronizing or rude, but you had your first child when you were 22, right? That's really not that old to have kids. Granted, they're here, and you love them, I'm sure. But, when you are first dating, and are THAT young, well, sex is extremely intense, and sometimes seemingly desperate. You have sex to almost MAKE a connection, KWIM? In new relationships, people tend to be a bit more adventuresome than those who are in long-term ones, to impress the other partner, and to make them want YOU, and only YOU. Not to say that those in long-term relationships can't or aren't so much, cuz there are definitely those out there that are, or are learning to be. Things usually calm down a bit, sexually, once the "newness" wears off. Granted, you may not have all of the explosive sex that you once did, but that doesn't mean that it has to completely die out either. Plus, IMO, sex between a couple that's been together longer, is more emotionally intense, then those that are just starting out, relationship wise. Make sense? Being honest in a relationship is great. I'm not sure how exactly you worded that you're checking out and becoming interested in other women, but wording is important. And I'm not sure if that was really neccassary in admitting to her at this point. It may have made her feel guilty and really bad about herself as a woman, like she can't keep her man's interest, so why bother? At least that would be how I felt if my husband told me that, due to a lack of sex, he was looking at other women more and becoming more attracted to them instead of trying to seduce me.

Nothing to forgive Pappy. If some of what I write helps at least one person, then I am happy!! I LOVE the tribal hippocampis tattoo too!! Very cool! What color(s) is it? Nothing wrong with a little more flesh than bone either!!

The husband leans over and asks his wife, 'Do you remember the first time we had sex together over fifty years ago? We went behind this very tavern where you leaned against the back fence and I made love to you.' 'Yes, she says, 'I remember it well.' 'OK,' he says, 'How about taking a stroll around there again and we can do it for old time's sake?' 'Oh Charlie, you old devil, that sounds like a crazy, but good idea!' A police officer sitting in the next booth heard their conversation and, having a chuckle to himself, he thinks to himself, I've got to see these two old-timers having sex against a fence. I'll just keep an eye on them so there's no trouble. So he follows them. The elderly couple walks haltingly along, leaning on each other for support aided by walking sticks. Finally, they get to the back of the tavern and make their way to the fence. The old lady lifts her skirt and the old man drops his trousers. As she leans against the fence, the old man moves in. Then suddenly they erupt into the most furious sex that the policeman has ever seen. This goes on for about ten minutes while both are making loud noises and moaning and screaming. Finally, they both collapse, panting on the ground. The policeman is amazed. He thinks he has learned something about life and old age that he didn't know. After about half an hour of lying on the ground recovering, the old couple struggle to their feet and put their clothes back on. The Policeman, is still watching and thinks to himself, this is truly amazing; I've got to ask them what their secret is. So, as the couple passes, he says to the m, 'Excuse me, but that was something else. You must've had a fantastic sex life together. Is there some sort of secret to this?' Shaking, the old man is barely able to reply, 'Fifty years ago, that wasn't an electric fence.'

Well, first off, welcome to the forum. Contrary to popular belief, there WILL be times, for some reason, that a man can't orgasm, just like women. Whether he may be tired, has to pee, or just can't for some reason, this does happen, and I wouldn't take it personally. I don't think there's anything medically wrong with him since he CAN cum other ways. He may not get overly turned on when you take the initiative, since, as you said, he prefers to be the dominant one, however, there are ways to make sure that he does. Dirty talk, position changes, allowing him to SEE you (men are visually stimulated more), and letting HIM make some decisions, even if you initiate it, may help. Life happens honey. Having kids, getting older, working and not having time to go to the gym, these things happen. You can try harder to loose weight if you want. Or accept how you are. If he says that he loves you just the way you are, then just go with that. If he found you unattractive, then he would probably not be able to even have sex with you. I've said this many times: if you're feeling bad about yourself, find something that makes you feel better. Say, you're having a great hair day (yes, those DO happen ), allowing yourself to think that you look great doesn't make you arrogant, it makes you more self-assured, and darlin', there's nothing more sexy than a secure woman! When we feel more secure in our skin, we stand up straighter, our breasts stick out, and there's an added wiggle in our walk! What straight guy can resist that? My ex SIL was close to 350 lbs at her heaviest, she was under 5'4", and she STILL felt great about herself, walked with confidence, put herself out there, and had to turn men away! He may be more tired, since you're working now, and he has to do more at work and/or at home. This shows that he's trying more, which can be a good thing. Maybe you have on your favorite pair of jeans......show off that money maker!! Makeup looks bangin' today, awesome! Find something that makes you feel good, even if it's just a spritz of your favorite perfume, and go with that. Think of something, at least one thing a day, that makes you feel like a natural woman, and have fun with it! Only YOU can make yourself feel better INSIDE. Though, it's great to hear compliments (sincere ones). Don't fish for them, but, one day, ask your hubby why he doesn't compliment you as much anymore. Sometimes, we get so use to the view, we miss things that may be obvious to someone else. Compliment him more too. Men love compliments just as much as women do. But, sometimes in different ways. Like, if he takes out the garbage without being asked, thank him for that. If he helps get the kids to bed, thank him. Daily grinds can make us forget how much we appreciate the little things. If my hubby does something that I've asked him to do, and it's a reasonable amount of time (he's infamous for forgetting stuff I ask him to do), I make a big deal about it. But, not so much that it sounds insincere/patronizing either. I hope some of this helps.

Great question! Guess I didn't make that overly clear. Aside from the switches, there are no "moving parts" on this toy. It only vibrates. But, the vibes are great and strong!!

Personally, I don't believe that Howard was trying to sound like he was writing a porn or anything. Just simply using basic terminology to get his point across. Sometimes saying the basic words hits the point across better than writing the "technical" terms. Trust me, knowing Howard's extensive vocabulary of both "crude" and technical words, I bet he could have written that to sound more like a medical journal, than a response to a question. The way he wrote that was, to me, non-offensive, but informative. And, no, I'm not saying or suggesting that we have "stupid" people here either, just that using big, technical words sometimes looses a person's interest to a response. Most of us, in fact, do use "pussy, cock, clit, balls" instead of "vagina, penis, clitoris, testicles". It's not like he was personally flirting or hitting on anyone, or trying to talk dirty to them to get off. He was being as basically informative as he can be.

Stick 'em up!! Let me tell you about one of the most interesting dual actions I’ve received in quite a while! Resembling an extra long-handled pistol, the i5 has an insertable vibe at the top, and then, in the middle, a intense clit stimulator where the “trigger” would be. It’s definitely a trigger for me anyway! But I get ahead of myself… Made of durable purple plastic, this non-waterproof vibe has 2 controllers, which takes 2 different types of batteries. The dial controller on the end of the vibrator at the top, takes 2 AA batteries (not incl.), and the controller on the very bottom is powered by a 9 volt battery that the box said was included, but that’s a misprint. Luckily, I have some of these on hand for my smoke alarm, so I wasn’t out of commission! This toy also includes a soft, pliable, removable stimulator “sleeve” that goes over the clit stimulator, made of futurotic material. Opening the box, I see that the toy itself is wrapped in sealed bubble wrap. You have to love extra care for sanitary toys! The sleeve is also individually wrapped. I got the vibe out, inserted all the batteries, turned the vibrator on first, using the dial controller, and OMG!! What strong vibrations you have! All the better to please you with my dear! The whole toy steadily vibrated with just the top on its highest setting! So, I slide on the controller on the bottom, and, the pulsating vibes start, 5 levels of OMG again! What mega vibes & patterns you have! All the better to shoot you to the moon, my sweet! Oh yeah, great strong vibes baby! OK, I turn that off, and unwrap the stimulator sleeve. Now, I am all for realistic feeling toys, however, when I pulled this out, it just felt, um, EW! It really does feel like a flap of real skin, however, not in a good way, to me. The material is soft, stretchy, and has pleasure nubbies on the part that goes over the clit stimulator. It just felt like I was handling a flap skin, even though it doesn’t look like it, being of the same color as the vibe, but still. I couldn’t bring myself to put it on the toy. So, using the toy was easy, has grips on the handle, and, even though it’s kind of loud, this thing works! Women love clit stimulation! This toy gives that, and a nice touch of vaginal stimulation with the vibrator. To the toy’s effectiveness: OMG OMG OMG! Talk about vibration stimulations! This thing really hits its mark! I love having my clit and the inside of my labia stimulated, and this thing really did the trick! Definitely a must-have for any collector! Easy to use, and effective, this thing will hit your target! Hit Me With Your Best Shot! November's freebie 2007

I don't really have a set or regular time that I get horny. I know, I suck. LMAO

Two prostitutes were riding around town with a sign on top of their car which said: "Two Prostitutes -- $50.00." A policeman, seeing the sign, stopped them and told them they'd either have to remove the sign or go to jail. Just at that time, another car passed with a sign saying: "JESUS SAVES." One of the girls asked the officer, "How come you don't stop them?!" "Well, that's a little different," the officer smiled "Their sign pertains to religion." So the two ladies of the night frowned as they took their sign down and drove off. The following day found the same police officer in the area when he noticed the two ladies driving around with a large sign on their car again. Figuring he had an easy arrest, he began to catch up with them when he noticed the new sign which now read: "Two Fallen Angels Seeking Peter -- $50.00."

Bullets on men can be just as exciting as with women! On men, bullets can be rubbed on their nipples, all along the penis (gently), and on/under their balls. Using a bullet right underneath their balls and between the anus and balls while giving your man some oral lovin's is a special way of saying HELLO! Also giving them a massage with a bullet on their backs, legs, shoulders, necks, wherever you wanna rub, is a great treat!

A death in the family definitely makes people take a hard look at thier lives, and can really put some things into perspective. If she has said that she has fallen out of love with you, there's really not much you can do. Love can be forced. You've been together a long time, and, most likely are just really close Friends with the occassional benefits. Which, if you do decide to divorce, can be a good thing, remaining friends, especially if there are children involved. She may be feeling guilty at the pleasures that toys help give her, which can be, sometimes, a bit more intense than just "regular" sex. But, if she's not able to orgasm with regular sex, maybe because she's no longer in love with you (and most women need to have a mental connection/feelings to be able to orgasm. It's more personal). She may feel bad that the toys can do what she knows you can't since there's no Love anymore? I would suggest that the both of you go into couselling, to see whether or not this marriage can be saved, or if you should just part ways, with no hard feelings.