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Ocean~ I'm sorry you had such a crappy night No matter how things work out, you can be certain you'll always find plenty of friendly support here! We sincerely wish the best for you in all aspects of your life, sexual or otherwise. I hope you have a great day today! TT

Before I read this post, I thought BDSM was a lot more about pain and stupid masks and scary outfits too. Too tell the truth though, I'd really like to try some of the things mentioned above (Mikayla's example for Kim was just orgasmically stimulating. I almost feel like waking my honey up to tie me up but she'd probably just fall asleep again right away anyway). We've tried some sensatory things before, being in almost complete darkness or very minor restraints, but I've always been afraid of pushing the limits with her (not to mention I'm not very confident in my abilities to choose just the right activity that she wants). On the converse, I loved every second I was in the restraints, and wish she'd do it again and again and again for hours on end. I love not knowing what she's going to do, and she's VERY good at doing things to me that are both pleasurable and quite surprising. She seems to have a lot of fun surprising me too, and I hope she continues to do so. In the end, I guess we've already experienced the basics of BDSM although we never knew it. I hope most other people will be at least willing to give it a shot, even if only once. Just make sure it's with someone you can trust completely.

I can last well over an hour, as long as we take pauses anytime we are doing some overly stimulating (doggy especially). The only issue I run into is that it often takes me forever to recover after the first orgasm/ejact to be able to provide a full erection again. I'm sure a lot of this is pressure, as it's some I really, really, really want to give her (over and over again), but some of it is probably because I just haven't found the right method to have a little fun and recover quickly too. I do remember one time I orgasmed without an ejaculation (or at least is seemed so), and I was able to keep going after that without any problems. Damn was that an enjoyable experience for us both! Otherwise, it just seems like we get tired out, painfully sensitive or sore before I can recover Getting a quick second erection is something I really want to do! I hope someone out there has a few hints

We've taken photos and videos now, and only started doing so recently. I've been very afraid of someone else stumbling upon our secret stash of extra-personal porn, but it is so much more stimulating than other random people that it is really worth it. Maybe you just have to create that extra-special stashing place in a locked closet or something like that, or even buy a small safe to keep them in (property deeds, birth certificates, SS cards, etc... don't take up much space anyway - might as well use the rest of the space). Whether she's here or gone, I'd rather see images of ourselves in sexual encounters any day. I'm still nervous when being filmed, or when seeing myself on film. But, if she sees me like I see her, then I have nothing to worry about! Lights! Camera! Sex!

I've had this happen from time to time too, although usually after a longer period of time. I'm not really sure why it happens, whether it's desensitization to the sexual experience or a byproduct of some other factor (lack of sleep, not enough of a refractory period, medications, stress, etc...). In the end though, although the experience is still very gratifying, it does lose some of that killer pleasurability. Yet, I'm still always happy to provide whatever services my loving partner desires, and still enjoy the experience whether I get to explode or not. Usually, after some cuddling time, a short nap with each other, or some other less stimulating activity, I can get back into the action and achieve a sizable orgasm anyway. When I don't, it usually just helps build me up for the next encounter, so it's a win/win situation. Test things out a little bit if you get the chance. I'd be interested in knowing what others think or have experienced as well.

Yep, we'd love to hear what happened whether it worked out or not. I had a lot of trouble bringing up new sex ideas with my partner at first too. I didn't want to come across too strongly, or seem like a sex-crazed nympho (either to her, and also to myself). As our sexual relationship blossomed and progressed (first sexual relationship for both of us), I gradually grew more comfortable, and started telling her what made me shiver in ecstacy and what was only so/so. She did the same, and with our mutual conversation, we both became much more open about our sex lives. This lead to a few new suggestions here and there, which we'd try once, and let each other know how much we enjoyed it, or disliked it. Now, although I am still always nervous about mentioning something new (and imagine she probably is too), we eventually let each other know about things we'd like to try. At this point, we're both willing to try almost anything once, and god does it feel good! I hope things work out for you. If not now, then in the future. You'll love finding out what you've been missing out on the rest of your life. If things don't work out with your partner, still experiment with what you like on your own. Buy the toys, test them out, explore every inch of yourself. In the end, if he can't accept your sexuality, then maybe he isn't the right guy. After all, your sexuality is part of who you are. It is not wrong, and actually sounds very healthy. Best of wishes! By the way, I'm happy to report that I have found I actually am a sex-crazed nympho, and have just been denying it my entire life. Although we tire each other out here and there, my lover and I enjoy our sexual openness and can guarantee we've benefitted from it greatly. I hope you can do the same TT