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Hmmm if I could change one thing about me I would have to say, I would want to the temper I have when I get really upset. The reason why is that I can control it only to an extent, after having a few bad days and things just not going right, for exsample having a neighbor steal from you out of your own garage, lie about it ext. It was very hard for me to control my temper. At times my temper can get me into alot of trouble and I tend to say things that are hurtful to others when I am really mad and I can say sorry afterwards but the hurt in the words still takes time to mend. Although it is very rare that my temper gets EXTREMELY out of control, but when it does it not only worries me but scares the I am upset with. That is what I would love to change along with the scars and damage done to my body from a past relationship, the reason why on this one is so that others don't ask what happened. Those are mine.

Well the only fight I had with my SO about is sex is that awhile back he got to use to it. I mean he always wanted to do it the same way, I told him that is wasn't doing anything for me. Which lead to of course a aurgement about it. He got so irritated that he said,"Fine I will show you not boring" Which is what I was looking for anyway. That night we had some serious, what I call angry sex, hot nasty sex. Which is what I was looking for the whole time. I wanted him to take total control and if it ment him getting upset to do it then oh well. When we were threw, he said to me,"WOW now that is what I call fun, did that do something for you ?" Well needless to say I was just a little sore. We only had that fight once, in fact it was not to long before I found this form and got advice and help from the people here.

I myself have only gotten 1 Personal message that was asking to hook up and for sex. I wrote back and told them I am not interested in anyway and that I am happily married. I never heard from them again and since that one time have never had another problem. If it continues I would let Rob know or PM Mikayla so she can tell you how to block them for contacting you. I also have never let my personal email address be viewed by others.

HI Matthew, Well I am glad to hear everything orally is going much better. As far as losing the V card that, you know is up to you. Have you ever talked to her about why that is so important to her? I understand you wanting it to be right etc.. and basically with that special person. Once you lose the V card as you know it is not something you can take back although at times I wish I could Since I wish I would have lost my virginity with my current husband. I would hate to see you lose it just to make someone else happy. I believe that you should want to, with your complete heart etc in it, not just because it will make someone else happy. Also find out why this issue is so important to her, when she decides to talk to you again. I am sorry to hear that she is upset over the issue of you not being ready to go to that step. To me that sounds a little selfish on her side. The decision you know is yours, my opinion is that unless YOU are ready to go that step, I wouldn't do it just to make someone else happy. This is a hard decision and I wish you the best of luck. I had to give you my opinion on this situation. Good Luck

Sorry Mikayla I have been dealing with some family emergencies. Anyway my very first toy was a hot pink slim line. She is way retired now, and even if she wasn't she couldn't be my favorite anymore, poor girl. My favorite toy,hmmmmmmmmmmmmm I can't choose Jessica's strobing probe, anal beads, Head twister, Top Cat butterfly, Okay to hard to choose. Sorry I would have to name all in box under my bed.

WOW, glad to hear he is your X!!!! My husband nor my x's have ever talked that. I mean they have looked but have never blurted or said anything like that out loud. Now if I asked, that is another story. I find what your x did to be rude. I mean now would he have liked it if you were sitting there and this HOT guy came on the screen, and you said wow I would like to see what his cock can do or what is in his pants. Sorry I hit this topic a little late but home life does that to me at times. Now my husband and I both like to look but who doesn't we are all human. If I ask him, hey you think she is pretty he will answer but NEVER in a sexual or anyway that your X did. Have to say I am glad you dumped that one. He really needs to grow up.

Although it is true that yes the side effects of that pill should only last a few days, but remember that is on the average, every womens body is different. If the bleeding hasn't stopped I would call my DR to be safe, it also is possible that it jumped started your period to. The best thing to do is to call the DR if it hasn't stopped. Good luck and keep us Updated!

YES it really is that GOOD looking!!!! Actually the picture doesn't do it justice. I bought the unltrarealistic one. I used LOTS and LOTS of lube, I used the whole little bottle of Tootimid lube just to be on the save side, a bit of an overkill though, with all the foreplay we were having. I guess I can say,"I SURVIVED HOLMES". I will be writing a review on this just to give you all the details and also I think it would be great for others that come here to know what they are getting into. Although I must admit I do have some 2.50" girth vibes, so I firgued this couldn't be to bad. IT wasn't but it was OMW JOYFUL. I had so many O's I lost count and was seriously exhausted, I don't think I have ever in my life been this exhausted from sex. Review on this toy coming soon, I need to play with it again!!

Hi is08, You know to me it sounds like maybe a little tear or something, since you said it was only a little bit and it isn't your period. Although Sometimes different positions can cause a little tear, exspecially if there is not enough lubrication. You did state that at one point it was uncomfortable, that is when it could have happened. I know that with my husband when we get a little wild and crazy, I will notice a little blood, I know it is not my period since I can't have one anymore This is my opinion since you said that you already were both checked out for STDs, positions along with how hard you are going at it can cause a slight tear, exspcially if there is not enough lubrication. Anyway if it does not going away I would call my DR if it doesn't go away in a couple days. If it is from a little tear then it should stop, unless you were having to much fun and caused your period. I know that when I use to have my periods sometimes rough sex would cause it to come a little sooner. Well Good Luck I hope this helped some!! Keep us posted

Hiya Tyger!!! Sounds like things are going well. Waiting as patiently as possible to hear what room gets broke in first. Have a great time at the wedding and we hope to see you back soon. Hey eat some lobster for me would ya!!

Depending on the toy, I use antibacterial soap on all my toys, then a long night of drying. My cyberskin I clean with antibacterial soap and sprinkle it with cornstarch, and Mikayla is right cyberskin picks up OMW everything in the house and then some. They all go back in their box once they are dry. Mikayla THANKS you just gave me a great way to store my cyberskin now, I was putting my cyberskin sleeve back in the box, but now I am going to store him in a plastic baggie with the cornstarch. THANKS

Mikayla you are adding more to my list Since the Jessica's strobing probe, my hubby has been into LIGHT UP toys, great now he is gonna see this one and say,"babe your next purchase should be this". Thanks Mikayla!!!!!!!!

I just had to buy it, curiosity maybe I don't know but I thought I was gonna pass out, when I opened the package, but I am gonna test it out tonight. My hubby saw it and went OMG I am extremely excited though and a little worried, wondering if it is going to split me in two I will let you know, I am thinking I might write a review on it. This toy is certainly NOT for beginners. I had to write this since I am so excited to try it out, and I have nobody to share this excitement with but my hubby and all you here at Tootimid. Don't worry I know to use LOTS and LOTS of lube. I will keep you all posted. Wish me luck with this big boy http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3129

Yep I have to admit I have wet dreams, it is kinda funny that I find this topic now, since I woke up this morning wet. from a dream. YEP WE HAVE THEM!!!!

If I was tied spread eagle on the bed WOW I would want everything my little heart could desire Tease me to no end, caress me, spank me every now and then cause I would mis- behave just to push you a little. Lick me, suck my nipples, my clit, use my toys, be dominating and control the play. Use candle wax and Wow I can think of a million things that I would want done to me. I could write forever on this question I could write forever on, basically do as you wish just dont hurt me and pleasure me in every way you can think of. Double penatration woohoo now we are talking heaven.

Depending on my mood really depends on how I like it. Long stressful day I like to start of soft and then hard. I believe that timing is everything. I will express to him to go harder or deeper, it really all depends I think.

I am constantly trying new things to, there is not just one favorite way or certain way to get my hubby off. I love new things so therefore I agree with Howard and Mikayla

Hi Curlie! Well I agree highly with the other post. Swinging is a life style, it works well for some but others NO. I have to put in my two cents worth though, being that you both, if I read right are coming out of a bad relationship, also if you were cheating on, then swinging I feel is going to put more stress is this relationship. I also thing that maybe he is trying to be that teenager again, the no strings attached sex, before the plunge into a deep caring, loving relationship again. Now if you are agreeing to the swinging live style then it isn't cheating at all, I myself would not be able to handle this kind of lifestyle, I am a selfish girl . I share my toys and stuff with my hubby but other then that NO WAY!! I mean I use to have 3somes and stuff before I was married but now I have become selfish. This decision is yours of course and this is only my two cents worth, I believe that sometimes fantasies are better left as just that, you know toys come in great for this to. Do some research, talk to other swingers, find out what it has caused or not caused in their relationship, I think to have this lifestyle takes unbelievable trust and security in a relationship. Have a talk with him, see why he wants to do this, also tell him that you might be a selfish girl like me and like to keep him all to yourself. I am also going to have to say that I third Mikaylas advice, if you are going to give it to him do it now so that way you will know if your relationship is really go to be able to handle this or not. Good Luck and keep us informed!

Sorry to hear gumby about the "boy". Of course you can still have the big O. Yes and I know that we all know that getting our heartbroken sure does make us a little tougher not only on ourselves but who we are with. I Ivibe is a great toy, with wonderful dual action. Mikayla is exactley right, you know I have found that when I very first starting masturbating which was a long time ago I am not talking about when I was a kid though and experimenting. I still to this day will start off in the tub, lights off, candles around my tub and my favorite ocean Cd playing which has nothing but the sounds of the ocean and the birds, very relaxing. Mikayla is right on when she says get to know your body. What you like, what feels well, rub and play and explore your body. Just to let you know as long as your vibe is waterproof in the water you want to use a silicone lube, but DO NOT use it on a silicone toy it will destroy it and be a heartbreaking day. Just thought I would throw that in there as a little FYI. I myself love to play in the water, tub, hot tub, pool etc..... I am sure you will get to that big O in no time, just make sure your mind is free, not think about other things while you play, think about you and how good you feel. Also have you tried some of the articles on female masturbation they are really good and helpful. Good Luck and keep us posted!!!

The only thing I can think of but it is not remote, I know it is quiet but it is not yet listed on the site. I am not sure how quiet this one is but it is the same thing that I wrote a review on just not the Top Cat Erotic Butterfly. Here is the link to a product just like the Top Cat one I tried, just a different brand name. Although it is not wireless I found that the wire is just long enough for the remote to fit in your pocket without being noticed,as long as you are wearing a shirt that covers the very tip of your pocket. I wish the Top cat one was on the site since that one is very quiet and I have worn it out, and about. http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3401 Sorry I haven't tried this one, and I hate to assume that they are the same, since I am not sure on the quietness on this. I think the bullets would be great even if the do have a small wire, I mean if worn right I think that the wire would prolly be long enough just to fit in your pocket and not noticed. Sorry Hopefully someone else might have some more ideas. Here is a remote control butterfly, I just happen to search and find http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=3341

I tied his wrist to his thighs and his legs to the bed post. As far as how long I teased him, hehehe about 30minutes to an hour. My husband has recently within the past year gotten into anal for him, I have always been into anal play. The tease with the egg is OMW, if your wife takes the vibrating egg and slowly rubs in up and down under your balls and my your anus, it will drive you mad. I am also a big fan on sucking and teasing, when he is harder then a rock, I lick around his head, then suck him DEEP in my mouth quickly and stop. I have tortured/teased him, with the feather tickled under his scrutom etc... There are many ways and many things. We are just getting back into it. I wrote a review on Rachels thigh cuffs they are great, we used them on me first then on him, I used those to tie his wrist to his thigh then I used a rope to tie his legs to the bed post. Another great thing is he loves for me to slowly lick and suck down his body to his shaft. Depending on how well he behaves depends on what he gets. Here is a link to the thigh cuffs I loved them and so did he. http://forums.tootimid.com/index.php?showtopic=1234 Good luck and yes this place is wonderful. Keep posting and keep us updated.

Welcome CynfulDesire!! Very nice story, very erotic.

Bendable woohoo, thanks Mikayla time to add another to my wish list, it seems that I finally start to catch up and get my list down some when here comes a bendable one. Hehehehe my poor list!!!!

Welcome gumby!!! First off quite trying so hard From the sounds of it you are and are also worring yourself which may be delaying it. Here is a few links since this topic has come up alot. Hope this helps along with some basic toy information and how to masturbate links. Here is a post from Howard one of the sexperts here and a link to masturbation tips that are very helpful. Mikayla is another GREAT sexpert here and I am sure she will have some more info for you. http://www.tootimid.com/sex_education/fema...information.htm Howards Quote: Folks: I have written about this standard relaxation technique so many times, I am reluctant to do so again, But, IT WORKS! While you are being sexually stimulated- manual, oral, etc. breathe in slowly and deeply, to a measured count, and then exhale slowly, and deeply. You should like you have pushed or pulled your navel into your back bone!, and the diaphragm up to your heart. When you exhale as completely as you can, count slowly to 5. Then, and only then, slolwly inhale again to that count. Repeat this and you will feel your body relax. Somewhere during that 5 count exercise when you have exhaled hard, you will lose control, and you will take a big gasp of air. Your brain will let you go over the top and orgasm in the process. To experience multiple orgasms, ask your husband to continue stimulating you through the orgasm. You will go from one to another, to another, etc. until he stops stiulating you. Once you have experienced this a few times, your body will learn to relax in anticipation of the exciting feeling about to happen, and climaxing will be easier. Multiple orgasms will also be easier to have, and to have more often. Your nervous system will be sensitized, resulting in you being able to respond to stimulation of other erogenous zones. with simple caresses and light touches from your husband. You will even learn to have orgasms when none of your genitals are involved, or being stimulated directly. Next, you can learn to control your pubo coccygeal muscles ( PC muscles) and use them to bring both you and your husband to orgasm without either of you moving any other part of your bodies, just by sitting on his cock and working it with your muscles. The original Ben Wah balls are good training for this aspects of sexual pleasure, but you first need to learn to relax, and then learn to enjoy climaxing. Please have fun. If you still are having trouble getting there, let us know and we will try to help some more. Not everyone gets this the first time they try, although I have had great success with lovers using this relaxation technique, or rather teaching them to use the technique during our love making. Howard Hope this helps!! Keep posting and Welcome again

desireinme, this is the best place. and you a VERY WELCOME, that is why we are all here is to help one another.