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Thanks for this advice, will look at the other toys you mentioned. Actually, so I dont forget, stuff from over there (US) that takes batteries- are all batteries universally the same or do you have different sorts of batteries over there? I have no idea. ^V^ I was thinking I should have credited the author and was on my 'to do' list!!lol. Its my all time favorite poem and I wanted all of it on there, but it takes up alot of room, so I settled for a portion of it with no author. Rest assured it will be done.

Wow -- looks awesome, mikaylas review is pretty convincing too! thanks

[font=Arial][b]Well, not sure what a blog is, how to make one or if it will have worked when ive done it, so just testing!!

Well, I consider myself sexy rather than hot, Ive never been conventional, and am not 'conventionally' hot (unless you are a goth, then we're talking!) what with white skin that will NOT tan , dark (non blond)hair, bit of cellulite, dry skin attacks, sometimes fit, sometimes un-fit, and having 3 pregnancies and the flat chest and slightly loose stomach, I am no Beyonce, BUT I have NEVER lacked male attention, and you know, the cream of the crop not any old guys, the most desirable guys in 'my scene' I had no problem, and I know damn well why, beacuse Im sexy thats why!!! So I know I dont need a perfect bod to be attractive.. I have noticed in music videos, that some women are very sexy and some just look hot but dont give off any sexy vibes....the pussycat dolls are a good example, I consider all but one of them to be sexy, but Paris Hilton - zero. Pamela anderson - sexy. Im SURE its the way you walk, talk, use your eyes and body, the vibes you give off.... So to answer the question, i think sexy is best, as hot is eye candy, and you dont have to be hot to be sexy...I know men look me over even now when dragging 3 kids round the shops on a saturday, and as that woman said, its BETTER TO BE LOOKED OVER THAN OVERLOOKED!!!!!!!!!

An all-in-one double penetration toy also with clit stimulator? If so, what are they called? Thanks

I recently read an annonymous article in a magazine, which has stayed on my mind and thought Id share. A married woman slept with someone else and eventually owned up to her husband. She said sorry, wont happen again etc., and the last thing she said was 'you can sleep with someone else if you like'. After a pause the husband said 'ok. on one condition. you have to watch.' She was obviously apprehensive, but also excited at the thought. So they went to amsterdam and sought a brothel, picked out a lady they both liked, money changed hands and in they went. The husband was shagged by the prostitute while the wife watched and joined in a bit. She said it was quite a turn on, watching her husband AND the prostitute. They went back to their hotel on a high, talking, laughing and discussing the experience in detail and he finally fell asleep. The article ended with her saying she got dressed and went back to the brothel alone, and found that woman again, leaving the reader to assume the rest. So, would this work? Am wondering if anyone has done this or knows of someone who did it. Would it really make things even again?

reading all these posts ive just relised ive never had much opportunity to be loud in bed, thers always been someone else about in the house, if not my mum or brother then his dad or brother or son and later our own children...and thats just my man now, not to mention the ones before him! How I orgasm varies, I used to cry alot with the intensity and am always much more vocal after a drink, I usually say half sentences like 'oh that is just...' 'god thats just...' and strangely just 'its..' or 'I...' on its own - words fail me I cant think of a word to describe, so one never comes out!!! I am a bit of a scratcher and nail digger, also he has long hair, so that gets pulled and messed up... my bloke is the one that writhes and bucks and laughs!!

Yes, I do shave, I only leave a landing strip, sadly he doesnt take notice of this or comment on it...dont really know what he thinks, hard to get him to say anything unless hes had a little drink. He shaves too. Last time he gave me oral, it was good, but I think he expected miracles straight away, and when I dont come he seems to clam up and not want to do it again. Youre right. It just seems weird to do this, I have tried but not very hard, as it feels so odd to talk constantly although I dont mind the showing part. Its something ive yet to try properly, maybe I will soon. Thanks

OK, my man has never been much of an oral sex giver, Im not really sure why, but in the past we got into this...rut, where if he went down on me I would freeze in anticipation and disbelief, making him think i didnt like it...bit of a catch 22. I emailed him something about it from here, and said, do you need me to tell you what to do? he said yes. i said 'you need to go there and have a good look around '(because he never has) he said he feels no need to stare at it, this surprised me a bit, I thought , being male, he would? We agreed, that as an adult, you meet someone and assume they just know what to do, and from what we've talked about, neither of us has really known what to do and in any case, everyone likes different things so we have been blind to each other for a good 7 years. This is sad. Ive never come across a man before who didnt like giving oral, and he tells me I dont smell or anything bad like that, which I knew anyway, but how to get him down there, enjoying himself (and me) more often?! The only idea I have is, once again, me being tied up and letting him loose with a spotlight!! lol! Seriously though, if he has unlimited access to these parts, maybe he will grow to like them more? Even telling him pretty bluntly 'i want more oral sex' has not made him put in loads of effort...maybe hes just not that sort? I dont know what to say/do.. PS i do love him, he's rare, and as sexy as when we first met, we have 3 gorgeous children and im not leaving him again, so 'working through it' suggestions definately appreciated!!!

Yes the first time was errr... 'uncomfortable', I wasnt warned, asked or consulted and there was no lube. But, since having 3 kids (im wondering if that makes things easier???!!)and a nice bloke, its no pain, more relaxed, no pain and no pain. I wish it had been painless the first time, it wouldnt have put me off for so long. shame.

UPDATE: I have had one orgasm from masturbating in a different position!! par-ty It took ages and was a pretty strange position (i might as well say, i was in the bath lying on my back but my knees were bent, so my calfs were trapped under my thighs(hog tie style) -I felt i needed to be immobilised!) it took sooo long, but I made it. Have also been experimenting with toys, but again that takes ages, I mean 30 minutes compared to my usual 3 is a pretty big deal. The fact that I seem to have recently lost my sex drive a bit hasnt helped either, but Im working on it. Also, another update, my partner and I had sex a while ago and he came so quick, and I just started to rub my clit afterwards, and I told him to use his fingers and I said 'Im not going to stop you know, til I come' and I didnt, it took about 20 minutes (ages) and I described where my g spot is, and he found it, and we went on like that til I came and then his arm fell off!!!!! well, not quite. Just thought you'd like to know.

Hi, Sounds pretty normal to me ...my man is like that...I noticed that when I wasnt on the pill and we had to be ultra careful, he lasted AGES longer than normal, but as soon as its safe and im on the pill he just lets it go after a few strokes because he knows he can...must be a mind thing....which does mean he can last longer if he tries?! I agree with mikayla, why not have a real quickie when he gets in, so theres more stamina for later? xx

Hi all, I just went back on the pill, not yet 3 weeks have gone by and boom, I am not interseted in sex. This seems too much of a coincidence, since before that I was well randy, now I couldnt care less. Ive tried to find out on the internet if the pill lessens libido, but cant really find answers that agree. Im on the mini-pill (progestrogen only) and Im really dissapointed, as I just emailed my SO some of the 'sex-ed 'stuff from here, which he has been trying, but Im just not interested, very frustrating! Any ideas?

If we're talking about fetishes, mine is fur...just thinking about fur touching my skin gives me shivery chills, that lovely cold-soft sensation...real fur is best. As for bondage, Im no expert, but I think its a great thing to try.

Mikayla, GREAT question!! My man once said it would not be so bad for him if I ran off with another woman, because it wasnt another man...very cryptic. Well my answer is from a sort of anthropological viewpoint here….(this explanation is given completely ignoring any social, cultural or religious boundaries and contraception) I think men ‘compete’ amongst themselves for women. They compete to mate with them, sow their oats and spread their genes through the resulting children, thus ensuring genetic immortality. This is basically what makes men capable of sleeping with a long string of women, this biological urge, or force even. Even sperm in the womb, if they were there first, are capable of fighting off a second mans sperm in the race to get to the egg and make a baby... (Ever seen film of this? Weird!) Passing on his genetic information to his offspring is what drives a male. They are naturally competitive with other men when it comes to getting women. It is therefore biological nonsense for a man to compete for women with other women because they cant impregnate each other, and I think that’s why two women shagging is so titillating for men, in a sort of ‘how sweet, two women not threatening our masculinity’ kind of way, as they cant possibly make babies (not YET anyway…) Whereas another man IS a threat and could potentially 'steal' their chance at genetic immortality, by sleeping with the woman and making her pregnant with HIS child. I don’t think in general many men would be too upset about a GF or wife having a very quick fling with another woman (probably be more upset that they had missed the occasion!), and much more upset about her going to another man... but then you get into the realms of love and marriage, culture and social rules… If a woman fell in love with another woman, and had for example, a long, secret affair whilst married to a man, this could/would be more upsetting to the man. It might make him feel less of a man, or inadequate in some way. And I think that’s definitely cheating, because its emotional and goes against the whole point of marriage or exclusive union. I also think its a whole different story if a bloke left his woman for another bloke. Of course there’s no SINGLE RIGHT answer to your question, (seems to be up to you and hubby)but that’s my thoughts!!

LOL where did you find that statistic?! My problem is exactly as Kirk said of his wife. Hence, boob job for me. But hey, thanks!

Most of my good lovers have been big, how big Im not sure....ranging from 6 to 7.5 possibly 8 inches? Girth is much more important for me! Girth is good. No pencils, thanks. As for boobs, all you 'Large Breasted Ones' are making me feel so inadequate, being 36 AA (Uk size, is it the same?) its no fun...size does matter, the feeling of being too small is godawful! I want a boob job! And am working on getting the money.... My ex was the biggest, he had big balls too, I distinctly remember that... ran off with a big breasted one... Theres the entire story of my life in a few short lines...d'oh.

Hi, after reading your other post, do you think this is why you dont want to have sex at the moment? I really dont know what to suggest having not been in this situation, but to me that sounds bad. You, him and baby....it sounds bad. I left (moved and set up a new life) my man for a much smaller thing than that, but similar, and the problem was a lack of communication. Now solved, through ongoing communication. Sometimes getting drunk can be an excuse, and it could be both of you are using his dunkenness as an excuse, him to get this dissrespectful sex and then say 'but I was drunk' and you to 'excuse' him because you love him and he was drunk. Just because you dont feel like having sex doesnt mean you should forgive him for being so out of control, either. Also loving a man to death does not mean he will love you the same, however upsetting that may be to you. Either get rid of him or get some serious communication going. If communicating doesnt work, get rid of him. So sorry if thats not what you want to hear, who wants to hear that? Abuse breeds abuse, dont do that to your child, you seem to hint at your fathers behabiour being somewhat wrong to you? Please stop the cycle. Hopefully others will give you more eloquent advice, but thats what I think. Best wishes xxx

Hi maples, Not weird!! 9 months in, 9 months out we say, infact it can take the body a year or maybe more to become fully 'normal' after having a baby (congratulations BTW ) Its probably normal for your BF not to understand, hes not a woman!!! Having a baby is a big deal, emotionally, phsically, mentally, and affects your life throughout. You were pregnant for 9 months, your body changed rapidly, you gave birth, then had a new person around needing constant care whilst you were recovering from birth, then the infection, your body has gone wild changing like mad, in and out, hormones sending you up and down...! You say you had sex straight after you got home, but it may have been a euphoric time and now the hormones are re-adjusting and the infection was a bit of a downer too I expect...All these experiences will have some effect on you, and at some point your body and mind might just say 'we gotta get off this ride'! Time and patience may help heal that one, but keep in touch with the midwives or doctors in any case. CL may be right about the episiotomy being a bit tight, but also I might add I know someone who had that done in the 70's when they routinely did it for every birth, and in those days they didnt always do it/sew up well and it can mean that sex is not the same afterwards (forever) and theres an awful lot of older women over here who havent enjoyed sex since having a routine episiotomy, all due to bad sewing or healing. Could be you got one of them? GET IT CHECKED and get a 2nd opinion too, and 3rd if youre not satisfied, tell your doctor things are not right, you may find theres another cause, but tis better to do something about it. meanwhile, you can still please your man as howard said, thats what I did! xxx very quick links here: Link about sex drive after baby: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/sexandrelat...ems/200653.html Link about episiotomy: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/sexandrelat...ems/201080.html

My partner and I were talking about this only the other night, as I told him a tasty bloke had knocked on the door asking for directions... We got talking about how men look at other women too, and he sees a lot of women in his job (marquee 'erection' what a mans job lol!! ) I am well aware that its a biological instinct for men to want to shag everything that moves, and he knows I know this, but he wont go on about it, sometimes we talk about women we have seen, also we look/talk about other womens breasts alot as mine are very small, mostly from having kids, but its out in the open, and we both like to look but take it back to the bedroom and iron it out there!!!lol! But he doesnt ever say how he actually wants to 'do' any of these women in a realistic way, if he did I would be upset, as its bad manners and disrespectful...just as it would be if I did the same, which I dont. So, good job he is your ex, obviously not grown up yet! To answer your question, I mind a little bit mostly because of my own frailties, but I also dont mind and understand, just as long as I look at a nice guy every now and then, to even up the stakes!!

Men who havent respected my wishes- Like, dont suck my toes (because I havent bathed) so he does it anyway. For ages. Great. Thanks for listening. Men who are thinking so hard about what a women wants in bed that they forget to be a man. Im not against men wanting to please women, but I do like a man to behave like, well, a man!

HI all, I read this, and is is not only interesting but has some basic anatomy information in it that I didnt previously know. Sorry , and the link is : http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/features/mainstreaminganal lol

Ok, firstly, my man and I had a massive session last night which reminded me of the old days before we had kids due to his consumption of a bottle of wine he was able to keep his erection for soooooo long! (it was awesome fun!) Anyway, we were very excitable, and we agreed I would try to massage his prostate with my finger up his arse, so I got lubricated and it was near impossible, he kept gritting his teeth and I told him to relax and breathe, I thought my finger was going to die it was being so crushed he said hes tried it himself and it was the same. What to do? Is it that he's not really relaxed at all? He said the 'in' feeling was ok, but was uncomfortable with any 'out' movement, we stopped in the end and carried on with other things; but what do we have to do, he thinks if it works it will be nice and he wants to know what its like. Any suggestions? Thanks.

Why, ever since Ive been making much more effort and really getting into giving my man oral sex, has he not cum? He used to, in about 2 seconds, but since ive been experimenting and actually trying, I get to a point where I cant carry on, my mouth aches, my arm muscle aches, my tounge hurts, and he has to finish it by hand himself (how embarressing, he could do that anytime lol!) I have been getting quite upset, this morning he said sometimes that just happens, he had no desire to finish what I started, he enjoyed what I did and then just got up, saying 'dont worry'...! I have always had a bit of trouble fitting cocks into my mouth & finding a good method, I worry about my teeth, have trouble moving my tounge and cant seem to find a technique that isnt uncomfortable. I love my SO's cock, but I cant seem to accomodate it very easily. I have tounge tie and cant stick out my tounge very far at all, but apart from that i dont know why I am like this! Any suggestions?

Well I dont mind actual sex during menstruation, but it can get a bit too goopy and wet, and I cant feel anything much then...And things are a little bit different since having children, too. But on day 3 of my period, lol , i have a dry day, we have sex then..! Toys are good to play with at that time, too. I never considered having him do oral during my period, I mean, I dont know if he would do that....It would be up to him.