trickychick

Sadly, I never did this when I was a B cup, and 3 kids later Im a AA and although we have tried, its just not possible....slightly embarressing even... So I suppose there is a size requirement, as stated above, which would be 'big enough globes to enclose a cock'...!!

Hi, Ive been with my man for 8 years. We are quite different. I am the eternal optimist, always wanting to do stuff, being positive for the most part, sort of 'seize the day' type. He is often tired, pessimistic, negative, miserable, angry, and tired again. He has little positive comments to make and sees the bad side of everything, even food. For the first 4 years I found this such a pain, but I have learned to see him through all his negativity, and I have kind of learned who he really is, why hes like that, why he does it. For a while, it felt like he was dragging me down (it always seems that the negative wins, its easier to be down than up, and misery loves company) And I did actually leave him. But we got back together (we have kids), and I learned ways of dealing with his pessimism, and NOT being dragged down, and staying the way I am. I try not to let him hold me back. For all I know he does have some sort of depression, but he says hes not depressed and is against the idea of counselling (hmmmm...) I know its not exactly the same, but Im saying its possible after alot of experience with your SO, to get to grips with their behaviours. I think accepting the way they are, and not becoming like them but continuing to be yourself may be hard, but possible. I have noticed over the years, my SO has changed in some ways, because I never stop being positive to him. BUT if I become miserable myself, its truly hell, two miserable people together is not good, you feed off each other and go plummeting down, thats the only problem. I can never have a problem of my own, he doesnt know how to support me emotionally, which is a worry, but that is HIS problem, not mine, and not my fault. Ive learned to recognise these things, and work round them. He has his good points, dont get me wrong, Im ONLY talking about stuff relating to your post. I completely understand how you feel. Its hard. Good luck x

Hmmm...bondage fascinates me, and comes into my fantasies alot, but much of it stays there, I dont think I could be completely tied/immobilised, put in a body bag, cut, humiliated, electrocuted, stretched or fisted....! I prefer light bondage, dressing up/down, playing with ideas but not going too extreme...Also, I dont know how far he could go anyway, Ive a feeling he couldn't go beyond a certain point either. Some things I find disturbing, medieval torture, and blood/surgery type stuff...everyone has a cut off point I suppose. As for fucking machines, I think they look awesome fun (but what are they trying to do, make men obsolete??!!!) Would I get one...yes, but would I ever use it? or would it end up in the garage with the exercise bike and rowing machine?

We use Wet Stuff, I dont know if you guys have that over there..Also we have some flavoured lubes, but some of it is TOO flavoured and very strong, especially the orange one, which annoys me...! We mostly use it for hand jobs and sometimes anal. I dont usually require extra lube, but sometimes use it with a toy.

Last night my man was going crazy, he had to have sex. It HAS been a few days, as I came off the pill and had my period(long story) but I said 'why havent you just had a wank?!' he said he hates doing that, its no good, he wants to have sex. I said 'i dont understand that' ...he didnt elaborate. He just said he really wanted SEX, it was making him angry not having any (not a violent angry, a frustrated angry). I dont understand why he doesnt masturbate when he feels like that?? I dont think he does it much at all. (We are both in our 30's BTW) Any ideas?

I would agree with the 'gut instinct' thing...it has its basis in reality. 'Gut instinct' is based on subtle observations of body language, that your subconscious brain recognises, but your conciousness may not (we are not really very conscious of body language in this age). So if someone 'feels' wrong, the chances are they are giving off body language (aka vibes) which you subconsciously know is not quite right, so the best bet is to trust this instinct, without trying too hard to control it.

I do think it has to be built up slowly. A while ago I asked my man 'what about me using a strap on to do you, dear?' of course the answer was 'err...no thanks' I see that was not a great suggestion!lol So instead, I started just touching/tickling his arse, then progressed more into rubbing, and then a bit more exploring, to the point where more recently he actually asked me to rub his arse while we were doing some foreplay. I think thats quite and acheivement for him, and am happy to continue with this slowly, as we have no need to rush, really. I just like the fact that we are both trying this stuff for the first time with each other, which is nice after 7 years, to be still trying something new. I dont really know about why alot of the male population are so 'eewww' about it. Maybe its the last taboo act

According to one of Howards posts, it takes 20 minutes of arousal for the cevix to tilt up and out of the way. Maybe make sure youve been having foreplay for a while and are really raring to go before trying this position again.

Well (considered boring, but) Im going to say any variation on the missionary, as I love the closeness, being able to see/touch him, all the right spots get stimulated and I almost always come that way. I also like a sort of 'scissors' position which I dont really know how to describe, will have to think about that. If I fancy a bit of hard and rough, any of the doggy styles.

smariette - In general (as they do differ) I get a creeping tingly sensation which works its way up my thighs and down my stomach area towards my pussy, which is like a gathering tension...then is the best bit when the O hits which feels like a slow, hot 'bursting' or 'blossoming' sensation when the 'wave breaks' which is what it reminds me of like, a breaking wave....followed by a massive feeling of relief and satisfaction and relaxation. Then there is a cool down period where its just feeling nice. Then just carry on and do it again, and again....etc!!! I find the third one is usually best of all. Just dont stop!!

I think I know what you mean. When exploring down there I could feel like a short 'finger' shaped... err....thing sticking out, beyond the gspot, which i could feel all around and which moved about a bit. I believe its the cervix. I only noticed mine recently!! Links below about the cervix and its location. HTH. xx http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/vagi...vulvalprobs.htm http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cervix http://www.asccp.org/edu/practice/cervix/anatomy.shtml

Hi, You are a lucky woman!! Im sure I know what you mean, and it has happened to me during times of extreme mental and emotional happiness (very rarely), where absoloutely nothing is wrong, and EVERYTHING is right. Sounds like thats how you are feeling right now, you are in paradise. Whatever you are doing, keep doing it! TC

I have heard that some women have a thicker hymen than others. Sometimes it can make the opening very small. Here is some general info about hymens, the second link is a bit, err... sarcastic, but still has some relevant info! : http://www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/hymen/

Yes, a deepthroating article would be handy... I just dont get the whole idea of it, this stuff about the angle, the mechanics, sword swallowing, the techniques, why do it and whats so great about it, how to stop gag reflex, humming... I have tried it but I dont know if I really was deepthroating, does he even know, and I cant ask with my mouth full, anyway what is deepthroating?? Its a complete mystery. I have a real blank patch with deepthroating, like thinking about 'how big is outer space'. Not against doing it, I just can't work it out. Suffice to say, diagrams would definately help.

Hi, It means totally sound / sterling / a top guy / the best sort of man.

I think you are a Diamond Geezer as we say over here...! If your GF is happy with that arrangement, and you are, I cant see a problem. If she wants to go for it without your help, let her, and just be available to help if needs be. Ive lived in a few rough areas, and its seriously no fun, so I would recommend to anybody that if they can get away, then do. Good luck

I appreciate what you say, Mikayla. I personally am not interested in post quota really, I was making a comment to allit. I am just glad to have found somewhere to get my questions answered, I have found this site, and its articles/reviews particularly, very informative; and the views of other posters very valuable and helpful. I have spent time reading through older posts, and am slowly getting the 'feel' of this forum. Whether there are loads of new posts or not doesn't concern me, Ive got other places to chat!!!! TC

My man originally could come from nipple stimulation whilst having oral/sex/hand job....eventually, we discovered he could come just from playing with his nipples alone, which we do often as it always amazes us! I guess its a kind of gradual conditioning. Allit, I appreciate many of your posts and agree that there are not a vast quantity of new posts here, but Im sure there will be in time, especially in winter.

Yes, this is one of the things this poster couldnt understand, the idea that the sub actually does have control...this guy maintained that this was not dominance if both parties had control, and said that a discussion about limits before hand was more like role play which they said was 'not sex'. Actually, this poster said alot of contradictory things, but he was very good at english and writing, so what seemed coherent at first turned out to be rather ignorant and closed-minded. He absoloutely would not accept what I was suggesting. Also, he was also only 19! I despaired when he finally said 'we will have to agree to disagree'. Exactly, but he could not get this. I think he wanted dominance to be like all the things he hasnt tried, bondage, roleplay, swinging, (his words) as he said he had used blindfold and restraints and given oral during this but didnt consider it dominance just typical sex...because (as howard said 'we like to think what we do is normal, and what others do is abnormal') he had done it himself so it couldnt possibly be bondage or dominance by his definition only.

Hi, Im in a discussion on a UK board about dominance. Someone wanted to try being dominant and I suggested for a first go, to try very light bondage arm restraints, blindfold and then teasing. I happened to use oral sex as part of my suggestion. Another poster has said that dominance is not {as above} its getting the other person to do whatever you say, and perform for you; and that oral sex is a 'typical' sex act and dominance is somehow not a sex act, and removed from sex, and only the dominant can get pleasure from dominance, its not a mutual thing...it went on I dont think we were talking about the same thing really....As far as Im concerned dominance can be anything from tying someone up to tease them for 10 minutes or 24/7 slave and master. He disagrees. So now its quarter to one in the morning and my brain has gone fuzzy. Anyway what I need is a concise definition of the indefinable, to illustrate that there is no exact definition of perfect dominance to stick in his dominance shaped pigeon hole...!!

I did chuckle when I saw the title...I didnt think you would actually ask though!

I have 3 kids age 6, 2 and 10 mnth, and I have to say *ahem* none of them were 'planned' but I love them all theyre great, if hard work. I worry about future finances, as my partner has a son from a previous relationship as well, and it could end up costing us a fortune so based on that alone Ive finished having babies. Also I dont want to be pregnant AGAIN, give birth AGAIN, have no sleep AGAIN, nor end up destitute. The smallest has only been sleeping through the night for a few months and its nice to have my body back (my partner agrees) and my bed and our room to ourselves!!! I would have liked to get my tubes tied but someone said they get really heavy periods from that, so I will probably stay on the pill. I wouldnt ask/tell him to have the snip, that would be up to him, same as getting my tubes tied is up to me. TC

I thought the effects, if any, were temporary? A guy told me recently that when he gets a hard on in a pair of tight trousers or jeans, it tends to go a bit fatter and not so long because space is limited. He found a way to somehow hold it and replicate that during foreplay with no trousers on, so it will be a bit fatter, but the size changes throughout foreplay and sex anyway, and depending on how aroused he gets.

Great, it has worked. I spose its a sort of diary thing?! Thanks katprr

Why does no one ever ask 'how deep is your vagina?' On another board, a guy was asking about good positions to use because his dick was 10 inches long. Ten inches! No one really answered.