Thankfully he hasn't been gone like that in a couple of years, but my DH has been gone for 6 mos at a time, a couple of times. It sucks, I know. I just think if you can keep up w/ the emails, maybe even snail mail, and care packages, it would help both of you. They looove care packages. The first time he was gone that long, I worked and went to the gym. I lost weight, too. I also lived close to my parents. The second time I worked and had a brand new baby to care for. That time was actually 8 months. Also, do a search on boards "military spouces" or "military girlfriends" and you'll find someplace to connect w/ others that are going through the same as you. The no sex thing sucks, too. Back then I would never have considered toys. I just suffered Hang in there. You're not alone so check out those boards. Plus, you always have tootimid boards ETA: I just realized the OP was written back in OCT.