Chris'sgirl

If my dh was feeling that way, he wouldn't WANT to do anything like that. You're poor husband. Does he know you posted this?

I think the Ashley Judd/ Sam Elliott combo applies to this household as well. OMG, MMMMMMM, Yummy Sam Elliott. There was a guy that looked a lot like him that used to come into the lumber yard I worked at in San Diego. MMMMMMM My DH I'm sure feels the same way about Ashley Judd.

WELCOME!!!

One thing that is a requirement is that whatever our comforter color is, it has to match the curtains. :-) He doesn't want to buy new curtains. They're not special. They're soft tan colored ones from Lowes. I know he doesn't like the girly themes, which is fine. We've had the silk sheets and comforter before and neither one of us were thrilled w/ them. We do have some idea of what we DON'T want. I will ask though if he has anymore input. Right now, our room is awful. Anything will be an improvement.

I need to redo my room. I've looked online and have a basic idea of what needs to be done, but I'm a visual person and would like to see some pictures. Does anyone want to share? Thanks, JMC

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Thankfully he hasn't been gone like that in a couple of years, but my DH has been gone for 6 mos at a time, a couple of times. It sucks, I know. I just think if you can keep up w/ the emails, maybe even snail mail, and care packages, it would help both of you. They looove care packages. The first time he was gone that long, I worked and went to the gym. I lost weight, too. I also lived close to my parents. The second time I worked and had a brand new baby to care for. That time was actually 8 months. Also, do a search on boards "military spouces" or "military girlfriends" and you'll find someplace to connect w/ others that are going through the same as you. The no sex thing sucks, too. Back then I would never have considered toys. I just suffered Hang in there. You're not alone so check out those boards. Plus, you always have tootimid boards ETA: I just realized the OP was written back in OCT.

So where and when do you see this guy? My suggestion is to stay the hell away. DO NOT put yourself in the way of temptation. If he's a friend of your dh, then make sure you aren't around when he comes around. If he's a co-worker, then make yourself busy and fake your not interested until you ARE NOT interested. If he's giving you cocky grins, then politely grin and walk away. You said you feel guilty? Then you know that the feelings you're having aren't right. I have been in your shoes and this is the way I've had to handle it.

I think this might be my first post :/ Anyway, my first thought was to call his first shirt. I'm thinking if he gets caught after the fact, life will hurt a lot worse. He needs some redirection. BTW, my dh is in the military. Too bad he's not here. I would ask him he had any thoughts.