booboo130

We have three clubs near us and we go to two of them a few times a year. Not sure where you live but if you are by any metropolitan area I'm sure there is a club are two that would fit your needs or wants. There is a club I've heard of in Chicago where you have to send the admin's a full length picture of yourself and spouse so they can determine if you fit what they want at the club. My wife and I have never done that. Most clubs have some kind of "ambassador" that shows you around and explains the various rules for the club. I am surprised the club that you are talking about is non-girl on girl, that is usually ok.

Some clubs will have several fitted sheets on the beds. When you are done simply pull the sheet off for the next couple to use. If she squirts alot I would recommend a towel or two. Some friends of ours have used puppy pads believe it or not...

Two weekends ago my wife and I met with a couple we like in Chicago. We spent the night at their house and the wives had made some plans for all of us. We got to their house at about 4 pm and talked for a while. We decided to order dinner (sushi, one of my favorites) and play prior to going out for the evening. The ladies told me and the other husband they wanted a quickie so we didn't have to get them off...that would come later. Needless to say clothes were on the floor quickly and we got to some good sex. We were each on the bed and had some hot sweaty quickie sex. About a half hour later the door bell rings and the food was there. We ate quickly to make it to a show. The wives had found a show that does burlesque in Chicago. It was a Star Wars burlesque show. We got there just in time and had a blast watching it. After leaving there we went to a BDSM club. This club was so hidden you could drive by it a dozen times and never see it. You have to sign up to get sent the address. My wife and I have never been to a BDSM club and the other couple only once or twice. It was interesting to say the least. Lots of heavy duty furniture for tying someone down, or up as the case may be. There ws one woman with her hands hooked in some kind of overhead suspension device. She was naked and had clothes pins on her breasts while being spanked with a lether strap. Then her dom put clothes pins on her clit. The woman seemed really into it. While that was going on they had a registered nurse on scene who was intorducing people to what I believe is called "blood play". Surgical needles were being used on a womans breasts. Don't ask me about it; I am deathly afraid of needles and did not watch enough of it to determine what was going on. On another table a gentleman was using a hand held "tesla coil" to electrifiy a rope that had metal in it. The rope was on a woman who was laughing at the feeling. We stayed for two hours I think but just watched what was going on. My wife wants to get into the BDSM stuff and I am slowing her down as I like to take things slow. After leaving the club we went back to their place. We had a snack and then did something I have never done or seen. The other couple pulled some parafin candles and cheap hair mousse (I believe that is how you spell mousse ). We would spray the mousse onto each other in various patterns and then light it. Before anyone asks the other couple had seen this done at the club before trying it and we kept it away from any body hair. It was a weird feeling to say the least. We then dripped hot wax on each other. I really enjoyed that. A very intense burst of pain that spreads and diffuses quickly. Before you try it do some research to find what type of candles to use so you don't burn yourself. We used that stuff for a while just experimenting with it. The mousse on nipples seemed very pleasurable to my wife. We then had sex a few times before finally falling asleep at 4 in the morning. It was a great time. Boo

I enjoy reading, mostly history and science fiction, although I am also getting into the zombie/post apocalyptic genre too. I play board games whenever I can and also like video games. I run and work out three or four times a week. I would like to get back into role playing games (no...just the normal dungeon and dragon kind, not the sexual kind) if I ever get the time too. Occasionally I draw, more like doodle, and I try to spend as much time with my wife and kids as possible. Boo

Very hot and descriptive post Wendy! Sounds like you guys had a great time. Thank you for sharing it with us. Our last experience with our new couple was very fun too. They live in Chicago and invited us over for the evening. My wife and his wife went to the Lalapalooza concert that was going on while we stayed home and watched the olympics. They were gone for maybe 3 hours so we just relaxed and had a few beers. When they returned we all stayed in the living room; I gave the other wife a nice back rub (she likes it hard...) while he rubbed my wifes legs. We had some nice mood music on too. Soon we were on the couch making out; my wife was on a love seat making out with the other husband. I hiked her dress up and started kissing her chest while holding her arms above her head; I wanted her to squirm a little. After doing my best to tickle her I pulled her panties off and started slowly licking her pussy. (As a side note I really LOVE to lick pussy. She told me I do it very well because I know the "spot" to hit. It is always nice to know when someone thinks you are good in bed. ). While I was doing this my wife was enjoying sucking the other man. When the other wife came she needed to take a break so we went into to kitchen to have a snack. My wife continued on the couch with the other man. It is funny standing naked in someone else's kitchen with another guys wife while having a hard on. We soon moved to the bedroom. The other wife was giving me a great blowjob while my wife was fucking the other guy. The other wife then told me she wanted me to paint her. I kinda got a little lost then as I was trying to figure out what in the world she was talking about. Then she told me she wanted me to paint her with cum. LOL. Whew I thought she was going to break out some latex thing and I would have been completely out of my element. I started titty fucking her. My wife had cum already and they were watching us. Soon I exploded all over her chest and she rubbed it all over her body. Since then my wife and I occaisonally paint... It was a great weekend and we are seeing them this coming weekend. Apparently the two wives are preparing the entire weekend so it will be a surprise for me and the other husband. Boo

I have been away from here for a while due to life and work. Since my last post we have met a new couple that we like very much. We have been with them three times now and it is always an enjoyable experience. The first time was at a local swingers club. They have a bondage and s&m room that you can reserve for an hour. We were the first couple to do so since we got to the club at about 8PM. My opinion about going to the club is play early and often if it all works out for everyone. Some of the couples at the club are there to drink and party but we want to play. So we met the couple and talked for a few minutes. My wife was wearing a nice sun dress and I was wearing what my wife calls my "nice package" jeans. The other woman was wearing a nice sun dress too. So we all go into the s&m room and start making out and striping. We tried out a couple of the different bondage toys but didn't really use any of them for any length of time. So we all got down on the bed. I ate the other woman to orgasm twice; giving oral is a very very hot sexual act in my opinion. When I can make a woman cum with my mouth and then as I continue she starts to laugh because she is so sensitive I know I am doing a good job. My wife is enjoying what the other man is doing to her also. The four of us then have sex for the rest of the hour that we have the room. Everyone got off at least once. We then went out into the club area and relaxed, listened to music, had a drink or two, and talked. An hour or so later we decide to go to the upstairs area and find a different location. This clubs has all kinds of hidden areas for you to play in. We find a semi-secluded room and start playing again. Throughout this people would wander in and look at us while we were playing. It was very hot although when someone would stick their face in a little too close we would ask them to back off... Other than that it was a great time and we have really enjoyed meeting this new couple. We have been with them twice since then and had good times all around. Those are stories for another day however... Boo

I definately have the higher sex drive in the relationship. My wife and I have been together for over 20 years. We used to have sex all the time but then kids and work started getting in the way. Since July I have been put on a diet by my doctor and have lost weight and my sex drive has really kicked in. I literally want sex a few times a day. I believe it has to do with the amount of protein I eat every day. I easily masturbate twice a day and sometimes three or four times. The problem is I work an afternoon shift and my wife works in the morning. I start working when she is getting off work. It can be difficult to have good quality time for sex. On our days off we try to have sex as much as possible. What bothers me is when we are off together she and she is tired and not in the mood. If I am working on a Friday night she has no problem going out with her friends until midnight or later but if I am off and we stay home she is in bed by ten and wants to go to sleep. When I am off and she works I try to initiate sex as soon as she gets home and before our daughter gets home from school. I also try to initiate it if I am working in the afternoon and she is off by detting her going in the morning. What bothers me is when I want to take my time and enjoy the experience and she seems like she wants to get it over with. It really starts to bother me as we do not get a lot of time together. I want to enjoy her and the sex time we get. Boo

Was it a natural progression? I don't really know, LOL. We started with some light spanking and have slowly worked our way up to using a paddle. I made my own flogger out of leather which she says she likes. We talked about it a lot to try to make sure we were both on the same page throughout. It is still weird for me as I am not a very dominating person in the bedroom; on the job is different as I have to be dominating at times. I am trying to be more dominating because she wants that but that does not make it any easier. Boo

Well, I read a book on BDSM stuff that showed me the basics. I am certainly no expert on spanking. If you spank too high you could hit the tail bone or lower back area which can be painful and dangerous. Too low and you hit the backs of the thighs which can hurt. If she is enjoying what you are doing you are fine. If you start using a paddle or flogger I would read up on it and maybe watch some videos. On youtube there are several videos on how to spank/flogg someone. When I spank my wife I usually give her a good smack and then rub her cheeks, wait a few moments and do it again. I don't spank repeatedly over and over as that dulls the pain and allows her to get used to it. I want her to feel every smack. Also, I don't go for extended periods of time; I do a few smacks do something else for a while, a few more smacks, do something else, use the paddle, etc. There are some in the BDSM community (again only what I have read) who really into pain and want marks to be left on them by whoever is using the paddle/flogger/riding crop, etc. I want my wifes cheeks to be red but no bruising. She likes the pain but I dont want her bruised and battered from it. Boo

My wife enjoys being spanked and likes to be dominated. She likes to be tied up and enjoys the feelings of the ropes on her wrists and legs. However, before I tried to really spank her I read up on how to do it. There is a difference between erotic spanking and corporeal punishment spanking. She does like it when I use a paddle on her or just my hand. There is nothing quite like when I am spanking her and she sucks in her breath after the smack and then I watch her cheeks turn red. Or when she is giving me head while I use a flogger on her bottom, makes her suck even harder. It can be a lot of fun. Boo

Wendy, My apologies for not responding. I did not get an e-mail that anyone had posted in the thread and just happened to check it this morning. Your fantasy sounds very hot! Hopefully it will come true for you guys. And yes make sure you talk to your husband about everything. Good luck! My wife and I usually ask a couple if we have seen them a few times and nothing has happened if they just want to go out but no playing or are they just nervous, etc. We love having new friends, whether we play together or not, but just like to know what the other couple is looking for. Sunday, My wife and I have talked about Hedonism several times but just don't have the money to go. Maybe when my kids are finally out of the house we can go. Boo

Well my wife and I had a pretty good weekend. We tried out the new club; the club has been around for years but we have never been there so it was new to us. We drove there with another couple. We were one of the first couples there and got a tour of the place. Needless to say the place is pretty big with lots of different rooms for play, including a bondage room. We then started talking and since we have not seen the couple for a while just chatted. I then suggested we go find some place to play upstairs. The four of us found a room with a large bed that also had a loft that was over our room. There was another couple up there so we had some background music. The other woman and I started on the bed while my wife pushed the other man up against the wall and started giving him a blow job. I was licking the other womans pussy. She is very vocal which is a turn on and completely cool there. We could hear a lot of people having sex in the place. After licking her pussy for a while she wanted me to fuck her. By this time my wife and the other man were on the bed next to us fucking. We got down to fucking and were pretty sweaty when we got done. I was having a little trouble cuming so my wife started pinching my nipples, which I really like, and I finished. All of us went back downstairs and had some food and drinks. My wife and I are actually very shy and the new place made us even more reserved so we did not meet anyone new. The couple we came with met another couple and decided to play. My wife and I decided to play alone so we found another secluded spot and had some fun. We then walked around the club and watched several couples having sex. Live porn is fun! It was a good weekend for us and we got to blow off some steam. Boo

Yes, we are certainly hoping for a fun weekend. Work has been brutal for the last few weeks for my wife and I and we could use a little relaxation. BooBoo

My apologies. I have not had much time lately due to work and one daughter being home from college on spring break. My wife and I have not had any chances to play either. My work schedule is terrible lately and I have not had too many weekends off. This coming weekend we have plans to go to a new swingers club (well...new for us as we have never been there). We invited two couples we are friends with and hopefully it will work out. If so I will have a story or two on Monday. I don't have HBO so I can't watch that show Swingers. Is it any good? I always think reality TV is not really reality. I too would like to hear what Flyme's fantasy is. It is always good to have inspiration...

Well, I have tried to type this in twice and both times my computer had a bit of a burp. Maybe third time is the charm. Last Friday my wife was getting off work early and our daughter was staying late after school. I decided I would surprise my wife with a little fun when she got home. After she was home I led her to the bedroom and put a blindfold on her. I then undressed her. Some candles were lit for some ambiance. I then tied her to the bed. She was bent over the bed with her tummy on the bed, feet on the floor and her arms tied to the opposite side of the bed. She likes when I tie her up but we don't have much time to do it and are not alone very often. I then got out our whip. It is a rubber whip with dozens of little tails on it. I use it to tickle her back and legs. I started slowly tickling her until she was squirming real good. I then kneeled in front of her and her her suck me while I continued to tickle her and occassionally slap her ass with the whip. She was sucking really hard while I did that. I then got up and got our paddle. I started with my hands by spanking her then would switch between the paddle, whp, and my hands. I know I am doing a good job when she sucks in her breath while I am spanking her. After her ass was good and red I fingered her until she came and then fucked her good until I came. It was great! We had just enough time to get cleaned up before our daughter came home. Later that night we get a call from a couple we know. The husband was busy but wanted to know if we would be OK with just his wife coming over? My wife and I decided it would be OK if they were both OK with it. She arrived a while later. (My daughter had since then gone over to a friends house to spend the night) My wife and I gave the other woman a nice massage to start. We used oil that heats up as you rub it on your skin. After she was all warmed up and relaxed we started kissing on each other. Before I realize it I am on my back with my wife sitting on my face and the other woman giving me a blow job. I then licked both my wife and the other woman while they kissed each other. I then fucked the other woman whle kissing my wife and did the same to my wife. It was a great way to start a weekend. Boo Also, here is a picture of the rope I tied my wife up with.

My wife considers herself bi-curious. She always tells me that she doesn't mind being with a woman but prefers dick. LOL. She is talking to a couple on one of the swinger sites and the wife is very bi-sexual. She has told me if she was looking for a girlfriend it would be her. I have seen pictures of her and can see why. My wife has "gone all the way" a couple of times but doesn't go out of her way to do it. If she feels like it she does, if not then she doesn't. She did have a woman use a strap on on her once. I know it sounds weird but it did not turn me on but I believe it was because the whole dynamic of the situation was kinda weird. I think normally it would really get me going. Boo

My wife and I had plans this past weekend but it turned out to be a bust. Friday she was going to get off of work early and when she got home I planned on tying her up and doing some mild S&M stuff on her. She enjoys that. I was going to use some toys on her also. Well, she stayed home from work Friday because she was not feeling good. We were suppossed to meet a couple for fun on Saturday night but because she was sick we did not get any playing in. So the stories will have to wait for a while.... We were both kinda bummed about it too...

Another fix huh? Well, at a local swinger club (that has now unfortunately closed) we met a woman there who was helping out one night. When we walked in the club she was wearing bra and panties with a fishnet body suit over it. She is very, very attractive. Beautiful blue eyes and gorgeous breasts. Her outfit was leaving little to the imagination. My wife told me later she was one of the first women that she was immediately attracted too. I told my wife that I hope her husband was there. It turned out he was not and she said she wouldn't play without him. We still got to know her and decided to meet them both for dinner one night just to get to know one another. Needless to say we hit it off right away and got along very well. The next weekend we met the couple at the club. At the bar we each got ourselves something to drink and the other woman started rubbing up against me while my wife and the other guy started to make out. Well, I was very excited and she decided to give me a blow job in front of everyone. Next thing I know my wife has joined her while her husband is fingering both of them. We then decided to go upstairs and find a room. The club was pretty busy and there were no rooms available so we went to an area that has couches and curtains that we can close. There was also a massage table there. Me and the other woman started rubbing each other down while we stripped off each others clothes. My wife was being eaten by the husband and was enjoying it by the moans she was making. The other wife and I were in a 69 on the massage table for a good while. My wife enjoys her ass spanked and the other husband was taking care of her. We then start fucking. Me and the wife are on the couch next to my wife and the other husband. While we are fucking them my wife and her are making out and pinching each others nipples. It was a great time. For some reason I could not cum. I am not sure why. When my wife and I got home we fucked like crazy and I was able to get her off and she took care of me. It was a memorable night! Boo

How to say no to a couple can be interesting. If someone e-mails with a request to meet we always ask for face pictures to see what they look like. If we both feel they are attractive we may try to meet depending on schedules, if not then we send a polite no thanks and are done. We have couples ask why we don't want to meet them and my wife always blames me and I am ok with that. For us there has to be some physical attraction to the other couple and then we look for the friendship. We want to see face pictures and will send face pictures to couples who ask. In person we are always polite and respectful with another couple. We normally meet for a drink to see if there is any connection. This allows us to talk and see if we feel there are any "red flags" that might make us not want to see them. Plus it lets us see if the couple looks like they do in their pictures. Everytime we have met a couple they always say, "Wow, you look just like your pictures." Some people we have met have pictures that are several years old. After drinks we leave and talk about whether we want to see them again. If no we send an e-mail saying we are sorry but did not feel a connection and that is it. If we are at a club and we are not interested in someone we just move to a different area of the club. One time we were talking to a couple and the guy mentioned he had brought all his wives to swing clubs. I asked how many wives and he said this is his fourth and he has been divorced three times. We quickly left that couple alone. Two quick notes. First, at clubs when some men meet a woman they will basically ogle them while talking. I am not saying I don't look but I don't do it blatently while talking to her. I want to find out who this person is and what she likes. When she is not looking at me I will check her out. I am very respectful with other women. I hope that makes sense. Second, I am hoping I am not sounding like a complete ass. I am just a normal average (average in every way by the way) guy who is trying to have fun with his wife. We are not looking for Ken and Barbie and we are not Ken and Barbie. We are trying to meet couples with similiar interests and maybe have some hot sex if it gets to that. There are swing groups that you have to be allowed in after showing pictures to the members. Those groups only want the ultra sexy people and that is not us, at least in their eyes. As far as negative experiences go.... Our very first time with another couple was not good. We had met a couple online and then met them three, yes three, times before deciding to sleep with them. By the way that was three times in person. Well me and the other woman are having a good time and yes I was nervous but was able to get Mr Happy to working. The other man was having trouble performing and then decided to make a comment about my wifes weight. As I have said we are not Ken and Barbie and we had met three times before. My wife and I got dressed and left and have never talked to them again. And yes I did think about punching his lights out but did not want to go to jail.... Another couple we met seemed very compatible with us. We were in similiar stages in our lives, kids with similiar ages, etc. The other man was texting my wife a lot and I am ok with that. I asked if it would be OK to text his wife. He said sure and numbers were exchanged. We started texting and realised we had a lot in common. Well, the other woman started getting turned on by us texting and would attack her husband when he got home from work. He got upset about this because he did not like that she was so turned on by another man. It was OK for him to get turned on by my wife but not the other way around. This lasted over a three month period and thankfully we never slept together as I think it would have been a bad experience. One last one. If I am going out and I think there might be a chance to play I then have a strict 2-3 beer limit and that is usually with dinner. I do that so Mr Happy is ready to go if needed. We met a couple and went back to their house to play. I did not realise how much he had had to drink and he was unable to perform. I completely blame myself for this as I was not watching what he was doing while there. The couple called us up later and wanted to try again to make up for it. We agreed and said no drinking. Two hours after we were there he had consumed a lot of alcohol and we decided to leave. He chased us outside and said everything was fine and to come back in. We said no thanks and left. And to end on a good note.... My wife would occassionally be a bartender at a club we went to. After work I went to the club to meet her. I wasn't planning on doing anything since I just got done with work and did not smell too good. Well one of our couples wives was there also bartending. She looked at me and asked if I wanted a massage. My wife said it was fine. Next thing I know she is rubbing me down with oil in all the right ways. Soon she is giving me a blow job with my wife helping her. We then move to the couch and I am fucking my wife while the other woman is sitting on my face. My wife was also kissing her. I believe a small group gathered to watch us. It was awesome. BooBoo

Well, when some couples swing they just want to fuck and that is it. They go to a club, meet a couple (or single, or whatever they are looking for), have sex and that's it. No names, nothing. My wife and I have tried this and dont really like it. We enjoy meeting couples that are in similiar places in their lives that we are. Plus I like the flirting that comes with meeting a new couple. I like to know if someone is attracted to me and let the other women know I am attracted to her. My wife is the same. With couples that we are friends with it is not all sex either. We actually talk to each other about work, family, etc. I guess there is an emotional attachment but nothing like what I have with my wife. I have been upset about the two times we had to tell couples we no longer wished to see them but it was more of a loss of friendship then any type of loss I would feel if my wife left me. It has caused us to be very picky with who we want to be with. Any "drama" and we are usually out. I have heard tales about couples breaking up when they meet another couple and all that. We always tell any new couple this is extra, we love each other dearly and have fantastic sex with each other. This is just to add some spice and variety. The best way I can describe it is dating for couples. At the last party I was at I noticed a couple standing alone. It was just a get together before going out to a bar kinda thing but all the people there were swingers. My wife had stepped out to get some fresh air and I noticed this attractive woman. When I see someone I think is attractive I then look at the husband to see if I think my wife would be attracted to him. When I saw him I knew my wife would so I went over and introduced myself. When we went to the bar we were all over each other and had a great time (no sex by the way). Just a lot of flirting and touching. As far as "Painting you a picture" I am not sure how good I will be at that. The last experience we had we met the couple for dinner. Of course we sit in a booth across from each other so I can sit next to the other woman and my wife the man. It was pretty dark in the restaurant so there was some groping and rubbing going on under the table. Throughout dinner we would continue to brush against each other or rub each others leg. I even put my hand down the back of her skirt. She was wearing lace panties by the way... After dinner we head back to the hotel. My wife drove with him and her with me. A little kissing and groping before we leave the parking lot. When we get to the room there were two beds in it. (We like to be on the same bed if possible but learn to adapt ) I then started to slowly undress her while the other man undressed my wife. She then undresses me, all the while we are exploring each other. She started out giving me a great blowjob while I watched the other man eat my wife. I then licked her pussy, which was dripping wet. I get really turned on by hot sweaty sex, and I mean that literally. I like to be dripping with sweat from my exertions and very soon we were all dripping with sweat. We fucked like crazy. It was one of the hottest experiences we have had with another couple. At the end of the night the sheets of the bed were soaked. We ended the night by taking a shower with each other and then going home after. My wife and I then had sex when we got home. It was a great time. And before anyone asks, yes protection was used. My wife tells me she loves to watch me please another woman like I please her. I also enjoy watching her being fucked. For us it is a ver big turn on. BooBoo

You are most welcome! I am very much a lurker on this web site. I normally look through the site for advice on how to please my wife in different ways and sometimes to look at different and new toys we can play with. When I say your post I realised I could give some advice. As far as the swinging goes we started to add some spice into our sex life and just have fun. After almost 20 years of marriage we both were in a bit of a rut. Not that the sex was not good but it became a lot of the same. We then looked into swinging. Our sex life since then has become more varied and fun. We both feel we are the best when together alone but just enjoy the moment when it happens. When we first started we figured it would be perfect if we could meet "to play" once a month. We have since realised that that can be difficult due to our work schedules. Now, if we get the chance and we are both in the mood we play, if not then we play alone. We have a few couples that we see and occassionally meet new couples. There are two couples that we enjoy the most. One thing I forgot to mention in my previous post is there are numerous articles on the web about swinging. There may even be some on this web site. I am one of those guys that, if I need to repair something at home I read 20 different articles about it before trying to do it. I can't remember how many I read about swinging and talked it over with my wife before we started. Some articles are very negative and some are very positive about swinging. As far as experiences go, that will have to wait as my daughter is waking up... BooBoo

My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years and started swinging about a year and a half ago. We talked about it for a few years before actually trying anything. We discussed certain rules (condom use, playing in the same place, etc) before actually going to a club. We then found a swingers club near our house that was having a meet and greet. The club was new and they were trying to attract local swingers. There would be no playing at the club that night. We went and met some very nice people and had a god time. From there we started going to the club to meet new people and just have fun. most of the time we played by ourselves at the club because we were not interested in anyone there at the time. We have met, and played with some fantastic people that we now consider good friends. We have also had several bad experiences with couples that we no longer talk too. I guess it is all what you make of it. A couple of things we have learned about swinging: If either of you are jealous don't swing. It can get bad real fast, I know because I have seen it happen. this will not fix a problem in a relationship. When you go to a club you can just play alone. The club we went to had a no pressure rule. No meant no and it was respected for the most part. Sometimes just having sex in the same room with others is a huge turn on. If you find a club you want to try see if they have a meet and greet with no playing. You can go there and see what the club has to offer and dont have to worry about seeing a bunch of naked peope running around. Plus it will let you see if the place is clean and smells nice. There are some clubs where the sights and smells turned us off and I am not talking about the people there, just the building in general. Do not give out any personal information to anyone who sends you and email. You will probably get numerous emails from "couples" that only want to see naked pictures of you or maybe do some web cam stuff. If someone immediatly asks for naked pictures we end the conversation. Expect some drama from other couples. You will very quickly meet the same swingers in a local area if you go to the same club a few times. Expect people to discuss you while there too. We have met couples before and after talking with them they say, "Oh, you are the couple that so and so was talking about last weekend." It can be kinda strange when people are talking about your sexual exploits. Figure that sooner or later the male you are with, or perhaps even your husband, may have trouble while playing. It has happened to me and can make you feel real bad. When it happened to me I kept thinking why wasn't Mr Happy working, which got me nervous, which in turn made me think more about it, which got me more nervous. It happens and there may be nothing you can do about it. My wife and I never take one for the team. If I am interested in the woman but she is not interested in the man we move on and vice versa. Sorry for the long post. My wife and I haev had some fantastic times swinging and plan to continue it for now. We just try to enjoy the moment and relax. Hope this helped. BooBoo