pappyld04

An inanimate object is not a replacement so there is no need for the anger or jealousy. The lies should be addressed, though. Personally I buy toys for me and my partner. Although not every one of them lives up to the expectations, the ones that do are very enjoyable. You might as well give them to her and get your moneys worth. Joining her while playing with them will greatly enhance your sex life. I'd go buy her some more and get 1-2 for yourself.

I did forget ro tell everyone that if they feel I have misinformed someone to please eMail me and clue me in as to why I am wrong and I will be sure to go back and change it if I agree with your POV. I am only trying to share the knowledge that has taken me many moons to acquire. I know in some areas this info is hard to get without someone who has had to find it themselves!!!! Since I am an avid knowledge seeker you can believe that I do not post answers to things if I know nothing of them, so please back your posts with facts not opinions. Sorry if this comes off the wrong way, I just hate to recall the inexperience of my past!!!

Since they don't make things big enough to scare me, I feel the need to express thanks for stopping the BS that can arise on a forum such as this. I hope you forwarded baby rapers posts to the proper authorities. Glad to see that you guys are johnny on the spot with the weeding of the garden. I can tell you that I recieved an eMail from one of your people regarding my posts, nothing bad mind you, and I hope she got my message back to her. I would like to ask that people recieve notice that these are mostly open discussions not facts and some of the posters are using misinformation in them. I'll not give up names but it's not hard to find the ones I speak of. They are not educating others the way this was to do. I hope this forum grows in members because one can never gain too much knowledge.

Anal stimulation, for a guy willing to try it, will greatly intensify your orgasms. My partner stuck a finger in my ass while blowing me and I felt like I was going to blow her brains out. She even told me that it hit her throat a lot harder than normal.

I didn't see anyone mention the minty sensation that your man gets from this act. Now if that is your purpose then others have already hooked you up. And Howard already stated that breath is no matter in this event. Trust me he could care less.

You poor girl, there is NOTHING wrong with this. There is no need to feel guilty or ashamed. Your major problem appears to be the lack of communication in your relationship. Talk to him about what you are feeling regardless of the consequences. In this day and age women are willing to experiment with sex and have made great strides in worrying about their own pleasure also. You are risking a loss but nowhere near the loss you face by letting him bore you to death. Good luck!!!

I didn't see in your post whether you were using the toys as a warm-up to your husband or whether hubby just starts probing with no prior contact. The anus is very tricky in that you may enjoy a toy right up to the time of withdrawal and it may decide not to open back up. Do no tbe discouraged though. There are inflatable butt plugs that may help you to stretsh your opening to the proper size to accomodate your lover. Fingers may help also. One thing I know that helps is anal rimming. If you have no hang-ups about this. Having your ass tongued will relax it and feel good also. Awoman actually turned me on to this joy. I loved her tongue in my ass!

I would think textured might be a better description than rough. And yes dear I would say you've found it. Now I hope you have fun experimenting with your new discovery!!!

Definetely not a wallflower. I was wondering if you would go through with it, and ran into your other post. It is great that you talked first and set limits and safety ahead of everything. Very happy to see that your first was enjoyable. This seems to be the major problem with this fantasy. Sometimes neither party knows anything and ends up a burn for both. It is so sexy that you knew what you wanted and actually sought and found it. Congratulations!!! BTW, tiger it is almost obvious that someone as strong willed as you does like to let go of that control at times. You go girl!!!

This for most men is a voyeur fantasy not an incompetence theory as Howard seems to believe. It is basically the same thing as watching porn. You'd never think that watching someone else could do anything for you till you actually see that it does. Men are visual creatures so anything like this is going to work for them unless they are the jealous sort. There is no way an incompetent lover would share his woman because he knows that he would likely lose her. If you like watching your partner with toys I'll bet you'd like this fantasy also!!!

Maybe it's just me but I fail to see the excuses for not telling them. I hide nothing from my partner. This site is more of an educational forum than a sex forum. Just because 99% of the posts are about sex doesn't mean anything. There are always people who have questions and should have a proper amount of experienced people to lead them down the proper path. Since they say that curiosity killed the cat wouldn't it also hold true that a lack of curiosity could kill a person? With all the STDs, inexperience, and the problems that arise in relationships there is nothing better than a place that you can go to and see that someone has either been there and has the solution or may not have been there but can give you some ideas on how to fix a problem.

First, Kudos to you for trying so hard to be a fantasy come true. Most women freak out when it comes to age play. Some guys are the same. Just because it turned him on doesn't mean that he would really molest a little girl. And there are a million guys who love the schoolgirl fantasy. As long as you are open enough to understand that naughty side of his fantasy and you have actually found it by accident. GOOD JOB GIRL!!! Don't let it bother you. Fantasies take all different forms and it is up to you how far you go with them. I'll tell you honestly that every man in America wants a woman who tries as hard as you to be that fantasy lover. I'll bet you just hit the top of the Crush List for almost all the guys here!!!! Love your courage and daring!!!! He is a very lucky man!

I wonder if it may help for you two to set a day aside for each other. Get a babysitter and spend that night reminding him and yourself why you love each other. Sex is one of the best ways to show this but it isn't the only one. Baths together, massages, talking clean or dirty, dancing, fantasy, or whatever. If you don't remind each other that you are still in love then you are destined for trouble. I think a lot of people are so used to pursuing their partner that they start to feel that their partner isn't pursuing them. Slip love notes to him/her. Put them in their briefcase, the car, or anywhere you know he will look during the day. Unfortunately we appear to be addicted to the love feeling. When we've been together for a long time we start to forget and take each other for granted. Even if it is only 1 day a month that gets set aside for the two of you it is still better than nothing. Both of you have to work to keep the flames burning.

By masturbating to the edge and stopping repeatedly, he can learn to control himself. This stop and start can teach him what point he should be stopping at inside you. A lot of men think only of their orgasms. They do not realize how pleasurable it is to reach that point again and again before letting it go. If I remember correctly there is a section in the Kama Sutra book on this subject. Any articles you may find on men's multi-O will help on this also. While I've not felt this multi-O myself I do know that you can make it last for hours before actually cumming. You can limit his strokes also. By allowing only a few strokes per minute you can delay his peak points. Allow him only long full slow strokes in and out, and if he feels he is going to cum then make him stop. I will tell you that any movement here can set him off so remain still. When he thinks he is back in control he can continue. You may even have to get a bit bossy with him to get your point across. Good luck!

Hello my T-town neighbors! Congratulations on your first purchase. If you really believe that we need to tell you it is OK to own and use toys, you are sadly mistaken. There is nothing wrong with this. Actually it is your willingness to try new things that I feel should be encouraged. Buying your man a toy to play with may go a bit further than our words. There is a great masturbation sleeve that I bought for $5 that I have been enjoying for aver a year now. It came with lube and has lasted for a long time. It sounds like your man has a few hang-ups about anything other than procreation sex. Getting him over this may take a bit of work. You should get creative here. Strip him and make him watch you while telling him how it feels then ask him how it looks when you penetrate yourself. Ask him to help you. Make him think about how your pussy looks when he is inside you. If he is really into sex then you will have no problems. One of the best ones I bought my partner was the one long one with a clit rubbing tool on the shaft. She loves this toy. I love to JO with my sleeve while watching her with one of her toys. You may even try a bit of mutual masturbation to let him see that other things feel good also. By him fingering you maybe he can begin to see it as something other that a rival. I can't say that I have ever been jealous of a toy so my opinion may not be helpful to you. My partner had her first multi-O with 1 in her pussy and 1 in her ass. Talk about sexy. She spent an hour cumming almost constantly. And after calming down a bit also spent a great amount of time cumming while trying to remove them. Every time she would start to withdraw one she would cum some more. I really thought I was going to have to take her to the doctor or something. It was hilarious to watch the faces she would make knowing that she was trying to get them out but was enjoying them immensely. The one in her pussy had almost vacuum locked inside of her. It took a bit of work to convince her to relax her vaginal muscles to let her get it out.

It looks like the major problem is his ego. Anyone who pops of with "what's the use", has no clue what he's doing. You can either teach him or dump him, your choice. For some reason men think that women can come just by penetrating. Like that's all they must do. I've heard of some girls who went decades without orgasm. This is because women are normally not vocal about it. Congratulations on the fact that you are willing to express this to your partner at least. Once your man gets over his ego maybe he will learn that stimulating you to orgasm is not difficult. This can be done even while penetrating. I find that doggy style is one of the best ways to do this. You can reach around and stimulate her and help her to climax while still enjoying his own pleasure. Hope this helps you!!! BTW, there is no reason that you cannot touch yourself also. If your partner isn't too much of a prude. Watching a woman rub herself while penetrating is very sexy and will give him an idea of what it takes to make you cum also. There is nothing wrong with any of this so you just relax and enjoy the sensations. Eventually you may achieve orgasm without stimulation but there is nothing wrong with helping it along for now.

A virgin is something most people haven't seen in a long time. Since you are still a virgin I would encourage you to remain this way until you are married. I promise you your husband to be will treasure this. Just because you lack experience doesn't mean you have to be naive. It is a great thing to know for sure what gives you pleasure! Since women have the hardest time achieving a climax. For the most part this is due to a lover that doesn't know how to please a woman. You should be vocal about this if he is not soing it for you. It is the only way he will learn to please you. Another thing that may help is a collection of Penthouse Letters, Forum, or short story collections. Reading these will give you some idea of what other areas you may want to try.And possibly the best that you could learn is having an open mind. This doesn't mean that you have to try anything you don't want to. It is more a matter of not shaming or humiliating your partner. This can kill a sexual relationship quicker than anything. Just tell your partner you do not wish to try that at this time.

Go look at the reply I submitted to the poster asking about knot tying for the www to the supplier I got my book from 8 yrs. ago. I think it was greenerypress.com but if this doesn't get you there I posted to the other with the addy from the book!!!!!

I found a great book on Japanese Rope Bondage through greenery press. by Midori! Can't recall the cost as I got it about 8yrs. ago! It is very good book for the more advanced knots used in traditional Japanese Bondage. It is very easy to follow along with the text and pictures and come out with eye-catching bindings!!! ---->www.greenerypress.com

My sub and I have been involved in this lifestyle for 8+ yrs. Although her sex drive is completely opposite mine she is still available for whatever I please at any time. She's lost a lot of her enthusiasm & drive since her surgery, but is still available for a good blowjob any time I like. And Daddy does like it often. I love to grab 2 handfulls of her hair and pull her chin down to my nuts. I love the way it feels when she gags and her throat spasms. This works even better if I get on top and drill her throat long, hard, and deep. I actually came in her throat once while she was gagging on my cock. She half fought to get away but was fighting even more to keep it in her mouth. The first jets of come in her throat made the cum come back out through her nose. I love having my personal little sex toy to do anything I like to her. I really enjoy stuffing large toys, bottles, groceries, and a few of the more filling things I've found and made. I have almost gotten my whole fist in her before her surgery. Now that she's had it I will be getting it in there. She loved it the last time I bet she'll love it even more when I get it all the way inside. Although I don't recommend a beginner try this stuff it is a matter of personal perversions and pleasures. If you do decide to try it PLEASE do not just hookup with John Q. Public and let him do this with you. You don't want your first experience to be your last!!!

I bought some at Christie's Toy Box. There are 4 in a box and look like the old emergengy candles. My sub likes for me to hang her by her legs and insert into her pussy and light and let the wax run down into her pussy and ass crack. I will be trying 1 in each hole soon to see what reaction I get. This same technique with dildoes gave her her very first multi-O experience. She came for about 45 min. non-stop. Every time I moved she would cum. I had to leave them in till she calmed herself for a few minutes and as she was removing them she was still cumming every time she pulled on them. The larger one in her pussy was nearly vacuum locked deep in her. I'll bet she spent 30 more minutes pulling and cumming before she finally removed it. I was masturbating the whole time watching the faces she was making.

It appears that my gf & yours have an almost similar fetish. Mine like to rub it all over her tits, face and pussy. I have often had your same idea. I wonder if you could get a baby food jar or similar with a lid and keep it refrigerated while continuing to add to the pot. Just an idea. Sounds like you have a fine young lady on your hands, it would be well worth the time for you to do a bit of research through a scientific or medical site that deals with sexual research or treatments. USE CAMO CONDOMS. NEVER LET 'EM SEE YOU CUMMING!!!!

Even here in the Bible Belt there are groups in Tulsa and OKC dedicated to the lifestyle. Although some are GLBT, there are hetero and couple groups also. The even ts that I saw the last time I look involved workshops , seminars, picnics, etc.... that are set up to teach safe and responsible play. Though I've not been to any I intend to one day. Look in your local Yahoo Groups. One of ours is called Diverse Pathways. I found it under the state area. You'll have to do a bit of research to find yours but I'll bet there is one near you!!!

Old neckties, belts, strips of lacy or other cloth(buyer's choice)! Attach these to your bed while he is at work. Might cause problems if someone were to accidentally eye his present. Send him a handmade gift certificate for 1 night of servitude. You can also find your ropes at any vet or farm supplier. They have many colors sizes, and lengths. Do not buy a poly type rope. Hemp or sissal rope is better left to more gung-ho people. Since this type of rope tends to fray out and feel like fiberglass or something against your body. If you buy the cotton type rope, take it home and soak it in fabric softener and water(a gallon or so), let it soak for about half a day. If you have a mesh washing bag you can put the rope in this and run it through the washer and dryer to remove the excess chemicals. I ran mine through twice. ALWAYS, have a good, sharp pair of scissors near you in case something unexpecte happens. HAVE FUN BUT BE SAFE!!!!