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Ginger J that was classic! My cat used to reach waaaaay out like that and pet my cheek to wake me. Good thing I never had a bat around... Very funny!

Sorry to hear about her nausea Billy. If I remember correctly, she is just early on in her pregnancy. It is very common for some women to have no desire (for anything...not just sex) because of the high progesterone levels early in pregnancy that cause nausea. To answer your question, there are several things that can help control the pregnancy nausea...Ginger being one of them. There are actually some clinical trials that show ginger to be more effective at helping nausea than some prescription drugs. Some vitamins also have been shown to help with curbing the nausea and vomiting in pregnancy. B6 has been shown to help w/ nausea and Vitamin B12 has helped to reduce vomiting in pregnancy. There are specific doses that are recommended in pregnancy, but she needs to talk w/ her Doctor or Midwife on whether this would be a good treatment for her, and how much they feel would be safe for her to take. Also, some women feel that accupressure is helpful in easing nausea. There are some pressure points on the inside part of her wrist, that when pressed, can ease symptoms. You can buy special wrist bands, called Sea-bands (becuase they also help w/ nausea associated with ocean or travel sickness) that have a little plastic stud in it that provides the pressure exactly on the Nei Kuan acupressure point on each wrist. Aside from the high hormone levels being the cause of nausea in pregnancy, there is also good evidence leading to a belief that low blood sugar is also a factor. Hence, why women get nausea typically in the morning after they haven't eaten all night, and late afternoon (say 4-4:30pm) because they haven't eaten since lunch and its not dinner time yet. One of the other typical cure for nausea in pregnancy is to eat small frequent meals or snacks. Even if it is just a few bites at a time. Over stretching her stomach will also trigger nausea, so eating too much at one time can cause gastric distention and trigger more nausea. Sometimes eating and drinking (all those 8-10 glasses of water a day) at seperate times may help in preventing this overstretching of the stomach. Some women also feel that nothing tastes good, or that they have an increase in spit (the fancy medical term for that is Ptylism) that leaves an aweful bitter taste in your mouth and every time you swallow makes your stomach feel worse. Think in terms of a really bad 'fuzzmouth' from a bad hangover. What can help women that have this sour taste and increase spit is to suck on tart things, lemon drops, sip lemonaide, eat granny smith apples, etc. Basically all the things we would typically avoid if you had nausea from a cold. There are even some products on the market that target this symptom: called "preggy pops". Nausea is such a common symptom in pregnancy that women typically don't get a lot of sympathy. But it is very important to keep a few things in mind. If she is past 13 weeks pregnant and still having significant problems she should let her provider know. Also if she is vomiting more than 3 times a day, can't keep ANY food or fluids down, if she seems to be losing weight, and if any other symptoms start appearing: pain, fever, blood, etc. As these could be a sign of something MUCH more concerning. Bottom line, there are some GREAT resources out there for pregnant women (including our 2cents here at Too Timid) but books, forum friends, and websites cannot replace the one-on-one support by her provider. And as far as her interest in sex...hopefully that will return in a few weeks once she gets to the second trimester! Good luck!

I have tried quite a variety of lubes, all in the name of science of course And I thought I was more a "liquid girl" than someone leaning towards the thicker gels. But I have to say, I am impressed with the Too Timid Pleasure Gel. It is a nice thick consistency, more like hair gel than a Vaseline, but did not run through your fingers like some of the more liquidy gels. It stayed where I put it, clit, vaginal opening, toys, husbands penis, whatever. It was a bit tricky to get out of the bottle though. A little dab will do ya, but a light squeeze and nothing comes out of the bottle, and a firmer squeeze gives you a big glob. What I liked most about this gel is that although I never gave it much thought with my "old standby lube", the Too Timid Pleasure Gel has NO sticky residue when you are done. And it lasted though a sex marathon without needing to reapply. Nice thing about water-based lubes though, is that if they do 'dry out' during play, you don't have to add more lube, just add a spritz of water and it will reconstitute! Sweet huh! Most importantly, you can't beat the price! Which leaves extra money for, what else? More Toys! Too Timid Pleasure Gel

I like a clean toy as much as the next person. But I am a bit cheap by nature...antibacterial soap and water are usually my cleaning method of choice. However, I have to say I was very impressed with these Top Cat antibacterial wipes. First they come in a super compact package that would make any marvel comics fan envious. Discreet enough to bring anywhere, but with the cartoon Top Cat sex kitten climbing over the cover in a bodysuit barely covering her breasts, it is clear, this is not a kids baseball card collection. I was very skeptical at first, as all of the antibacterial Germ-X, purell and other waterless cleaners I've used, have a high alcohol content, that not only put a lot of wear and tear on my toys, but do a number on my hands as well. I have eczema on my hands and when I took the wipe out of the package I braced myself for the inevitable sting...but there was none! It was very mild on my skin and did not leave a sticky residue on the toy or my hands. There was plenty of moisture to clean my toys prior to play, and amazingly, there was still lots of moisture left afterwards to do a clean up wipe. The fabric of the wipes were super strong, and I could really scrub without worrying about it tearing or leaving lint or fabric pieces behind no matter how bumpy or grooved the toy. Just for good measure, I also tried one to clean myself! The soft wipe and nearly nonexistent odor made quick work of after sex clean up, and a lot less cum-rags in the laundry. The moisturizer infused in the wipe also helps keep my thighs, buttocks and pussy nice and soft. I would recommend this antibacterial wipe to anyone with toys that are not easily washed with soap and water, or anyone who just wants an easy clean up. Top Cat Antibacterial Wipes

Hustler My First Butt Plug This swirly colored iridescent pink flexibly soft Jel-Lee material plug was a little larger than I would have expected for a “first time” plug. I liked the suction cup base, it held very strong when I put it on the counter to get my anti-bacterial wipes. It even defied gravity when I stuck it to the wall, just to see if it would stay...hmmm, gives new meaning to “having your back against a wall.” Although the name implies this is a good “first timers” butt plug, I found that it was a little uncomfortable. If you like the feeling of a slight stretch to the anus as well as a fullness to the rectum, then this may be a good toy for you. I found that the tapered base didn’t taper quite enough for me and left a burning feeling, as if it was trying to ‘pinch off’ but just couldn’t quite close. The middle of this toy widens to 1.25” which made a nice comfortable fullness against which vaginal penetration from my husband created a wonderful pressure. This plug is only 3.5” long which helps it seem less intimidating to fully insert. However, one other problem I had was it kept popping out. Either I have great Kegal excercise abilities, or the tapered base that allows it to slide in so smoothly also allows it to zoom right out the other way. Both my husband and I tried to make it work, and neither one of us had any success. This may be a very good toy to go with a harness to keep it in place. But for us, it was a big bust as a solo toy. Hustler My First Butt Plug

Racquel's Award Winning Sex Vivid has put together 4 hours of what can only be described as a smorgasbord of delight for Racquel Darrian fans. Even if you are not familiar with this porn diva, there is something in this DVD for everyone. Short sequences of "the best of" Rachels films, get right to the point without any story-line to get in the way of good sex. There are luscious beauties pleasuring each other at the pool in two's and three's. There are down and dirty sex on motorcycles with an added voyeuristic pleasure of all the other bar patrons present. If voyeurism is your thing, there is also a naughty seen of a boss and his secretary with a window watching peeping Tom. For those of you who prefer a house party, there are many to choose from: girls on girls, mixed pairs, and a little light bondage to mix it up some. Looking for a little romance with your porn? There are some delightfully sensuous scenes with gentle stroking, kissing and interesting sex techniques from a four-poster bed MF to a fireside FFF. With all these wonderful choices, my favorite part of the disc is the ability to chapter search, so you can get to your favorite of the 22 scenes quicker. You can also watch on TV or computer as it is DVD-ROM compatible. For those of you that feel bereft without with out a story-line plot, do not dismay. This compilation video comes with a 90 minute bonus film set in a wild west venue. Sex to saloon music, lots of cowboys and bar maids, and one damsel in distress of course. Overall I felt Racquel’s Award Winning Sex was a complete package to please all fancies. Racquel's Award Winning Sex

Yes, this is true. In fact, many women choose the pill specifically because they are looking to help control heavy bleeding or deal with PMS symptoms in addition to, or irregardless of their birth control needs. There are some medical conditions that are also treated with these pills, endometriosis for example. And there are some types of pills that also help with specific PMS symptoms: acne and depression for another example. If you are having heavy painful periods, it is best to check with your provider for what is the cause, and what may be your best treatment options.

Although I agree with a lot of what Howard had to say about talking with your husband and finding a time when it is more conveinent to have sex (rather than at night when you are exhausted), I have to disagree with his perspective on what you can do to get your libido back. Sending him flowers, calling him, and generally stroking his ego is just one more thing on the daily to-do list of a new mom. Its not that these things aren't important and wonderful in a relationship, and they ARE. However, if what you are saying about your mind being elsewhere during foreplay is looked at, I would guess that it doesn't involve how can I find more time for him, or a better way to please him. Sex shouldn't be viewed as another chore to be completed for the day before you can finally sleep-but for many women that is what seems to happen. What I see here, and correct me if I am wrong DragonMistress, is that the demands on your time of someone (your daughter) that cannot do anything for themselves is exhausting. Most of the women I deal with in my practice (I'm a midwife) are concerned about the loss of their sex life, and their libidos, but more than anything they are mourning the loss of their freedom from complete responsibility of another human being. And no matter how much their husbands may be supportive sometimes sex to please him is just One more thing that she is now responsible for. So I ask the question...what about the thought of turning the tables? Not finding ways to please him, but helping him to know what would please you?? Him watching the baby so you can take a long shower or bath to relax and have You Time? a massage? morning sex after a good nights sleep? How about sex Before dinner and have it ordered in? How about a simple thing such as watching the baby so you can go out for a little alone time. Much of what I hear is that the triad of being a woman is very difficult when trying to balance being a Mommy, Wife, and Woman. Hard to feel wifely when you aren't even sure you have the energy to be an individual woman...and not someones mommy. The pill is also a very real possibility of the cause. I'll spare you the long winded medical explaination, but Any hormone pill taken by mouth lowers our hormones resonsible for libido. The patch does not, IUDs do not , and I have to agree with Tyger, the Mirena IUD is an excellent choice for a lot of moms. Now, I want to play fair, so I will also put in a note that I don't know what your husband is expecting or wanting...but then again, do You? Are parenting roles and responsibilities something you two have discussed? Sex talk is extremely important, as you will see in most of the posts here. But so are the dividing of parenting roles? Who works, who does laundry, dishes, dusting? Who gets up with the baby at 2am? do you take turns? How were you both brought up to view parenting and marital roles? and do you both agree with those roles? or is it something you are willing to work on together? And very important: what was your sex life like before children? I'll step down off my soapbox now, but I just wanted to let you know that it is not just about him, and it is not just about you. But, together you can talk about where you would like to be, and then work on how to find a way to get there together. Good luck with your upcoming appointment, and let us know how it goes.

Ohh, Good questions! After some review of the package I found the instructions (I had missed it, but Mr. SP found them). They were 5 picture boxes describing use of this toy. (I did forget to mention that it comes with a condom to use with the product-which the package describes as a device to "Store semen".) We didn't use it as our birth control comes from a different source, and being mutually monogamous safe sex isn't an issue...and we really didn't want to "store any semen." Having said that: Box #1 shows and arrow ripping open the condom Box #2 shows said condom being rolled onto the penis Box #3 putting the ring onto the base of the penis Box #4 shows where to put the battery in the housing of the ring Box #5 shows throwing everything away So I think that answers Howards question on replacing the batteries...you don't. Besides, at less than $5 for the whole toy, it would probably cost more to buy new batteries than it would be to buy a new toy. I finally figured out how to link the picture, so to answer Tygers question...it was pink. It was a quiet buzz. Not sure if it was waterproof. It didn't look like it, but Mr. SP said "in the name of science, we'll check it out." Thanks again for your great clarification questions!

Vibrating Erection Ring Having a vagina I needed help with this product review. My husband was only too happy to act as “Stunt Penis” (thats Mr. SP to you). The Vibrating Erection Ring is made of a very flexible jelly material and has a cute little kitty double fisting his erection. Something interesting to look at when giving a blow job, and has a nice smell to the plastic without being an overwhelming scent. There is a nice vibration, Mr. SP described as a mild buzz. I liked that it didn’t shake my fillings loose during the BJ. The whole ring is smaller than I would have expected. It reminds me of those candy lollipop rings, its about the same size. The center hole is a perfect fit for my pinky finger if I don’t stretch it, but once you stretch it...Look out! It will fit my whole fist! Mr. SP said that it was a nice squeeze to his erect cock, but surprisingly with such a stretch, not too tight. It has a small vibrating mechanism at the top and comes with two button sized batteries that pop right in-one to use and one as a spare. The plastic housing that holds the batteries do not look like they open to be able to replace worn out batteries, but with 2 included in the package, they will likely last a long time. We tried many positions for the ring, on the base of shaft with kitty on top, had the best vibrations for Mr. SP. But kitty nestled into his balls or at the tip of the penis also had merit. Kitty also serves another interesting purpose-his face and erection make a nice nub to rub my clit against. The vibrations were strong for such a small device, and got me rocking on top. Mr. SP said he liked the sensation when I was riding him with deep in and out strokes, it vibrated down his shaft and into his balls. But if I was grinding away on kitty, he didn’t get as much of the buzz for himself. sorry SP. The snug fit helped maintain his erection for a long time, and even delayed orgasm for him. Vibrating Erection Ring

Essence Pure Energy Vibe The instructions looked easy but the twisting arrow sign was misleading. After spinning the device in circles for about a minute, I tried gently tugging-no luck. Eventually I discovered it pops open if you hold the base firmly in one hand and pull the top part down as if you are peeling a banana. One AA battery later and it was humming away-Almost. Here's how the Essence works. Under the "on" label there is a 1/4" wide strip of metal. When you twist the top this metal will contact an 1/8" metal tab on the bottom. Once contact is made the electrical path is complete. However, turn it too far one way or the other, or accidently bend the tab away from the edge, and it will not vibrate. It doesn't take much to move it off either. As my thighs tightened with the first wave of my orgasm it shut off! No kidding! Mid-"O"! Talk about frustrating. And it happened several times. To turn it off (on purpose) you have to twist both halves-tough when all lubed up. Not a plus for me, but some people prefer this twisting mechanism to a button, dial, or cord. On the positive side it is waterproof and the vibrations stayed strong completely submerged in the hot tub. The Essence is slightly under 1 1/2" wide at its thickest part and is only 5" long. Nice travel size. I liked the ribbed base as it allowed a firm grip for deeper penetration when looking for the G-spot with its slightly curved tip. It is a hard plastic which gets slick and slippery easily, especially with a little lube (use silicone lube for the tub or shower for long lasting waterproof fun). There is only one speed, but on the soft flexible patch of nubby material, the vibrations are absorbed slightly. If you are looking for a quick strong vibe for the clit, use the hard convex back side of the device, the vibrations are stronger and get right to the point. For a strong waterproof toy, the Essence does get the job done quick. But with all the technical glitches it was a little disappointing. Essence Pure Energy Vibe

Hi ladies, Sorry I didn't reply yesterday. Yes, I am a midwife. Its nice to know that there is such tight follow up on "medical claims". It just reinforces more and more how much I like this site. I always try to make sure I never tell people what to do or not do, because I can't examine them and get a full health history on line, but I am happy to offer what I can. Again, Good Luck Billy, and Enjoy!

Congratulations Billy (and Wifey)! Mikayla's article Positively Pregnant is a great place to start. In general sex drive is always a very individual response-pregnant or not. Much of her drive can also depend on body changes during each trimester as well. First trimester:some women are too nauseous to think about sex, others love to celebrate their fertility success. Breast tenderness can be very acute in some women and make it too hypersensitive to touch, while others find it adds to the erotic pleasures of sex. Second trimester: this is when there is often an increase in pelvic congestion from hormones, and pressure of growing baby. One way to relieve that pressure is a nice strong orgasm. one caution though...what is an orgasm? During arousal the muscles of the uterus, pelvic floor, and anus contract and tighten up...orgasm is the sudden release of all the tension, and it is usually 8-12 pulses (or contractions) of these muscles...SO, it is not unusual for pregnant women to have a continuation of these rhythmic contractions for up to an hour. Definitely check with Doctor or midwife if you are concerned or if they persist over an hour. I usually tell my patients they can have "one free hour" of contractions after orgasm then they need to call me if they don't stop. Third trimester: pelvic congestion still there. But we also tend, towards the end, to have more pressure as the babies head comes down. Again, no problem for baby, they are in their own impact resistant water balloon, but sometimes the extra pressure feels good, and sometimes not. Bottom line: Experiment, go slow, and Communicate with each other. And most of all, enjoy the changes as you both grow towards parenthood!

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I love my Hitachi. We have an extention cord permenently mounted under the bed just for this toy! But you neglected to mention that there are multiple attachments that you can buy for this toy: small nubs just perfect for the clit, or under the head of the penis. As well as curved or straight inch wide dildos that fit right over the tennis ball sized head for perfect penetration opportunities. a loud toy, but clearly our favorite!

I would have to agree with your OBGYN. In my regular job, I am a midwife, and it is extremely rare for an IUD to become dislodged. Rule of thumb with any toy...IUD or no IUD...if you start to feel pain or pressure (that you don't want to be feeling)--stop! Personally, My IUD had not been a problem, other than an occational "poke" to my husband (the string is like fishing line). If you are worried about the string getting tugged, it can easily be pushed up deep into the vagina and out of the way (there is a handy little crevice behind the cervix at the very top of the vagina). Have fun!

thats awesome!

I have to agree with that...I especially like the sound it makes just before it makes contact. mmmmmm