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I had it done half a dozen years ago. I think on a Friday morning, laid low with frozen peas for the weekend, and back to work on Monday. A little slow in walking for several days, but no big deal really. Some novacaine was all, no sedatives. I don't think I needed any pain pills afterwards. To do my part to save the world, we only planned on two kids. Then I dawdled, then BC pills failed and wife got preggo again (she was pissed for two weeks), and that spurred me to get it done before #3 poppeed out. Not wanting a number 4 (and since kid was just born anyway), I would not risk sex until the spermees were all gone. I was amused leading up to it by all the guys, upon learning I had a 3rd one coming, who came up to me and whispered in a confidential voice, "You gotta do what I did; it's called the big 'V' ." It became apparent that vasectomies are pretty common. The doc said there is a 1 in 4000 chance of failure, that is, the spermees can find a new way out. So I'm supposed to get sperm tested once a year to make sure I'm still OK. (My fertile wife could also count as a sperm tester; so far I haven't gotten her preggo again.) The thing I hated the most was the shaved nuts, with the feeling of rubbing and chafing in my pants till the hair grew back. I also had on and off epiditymitis for about a year (since subsided; basically a nut hurts with a dull ache). The doc said there was no way to tell if it was related to the vasectomy, but guys who have had vasectomies tend to have epididymitis more than guys who haven't. Still, I'll take that pain over another kid. I love my kids, but I'm spent with the one's I have. Life is a bit easier not having to worry about BC or more kids. But any increased horniness is probably because the kids are a little older, so we're not quite so tired all the time, rather than the vasectomy itself.

If a spermicide is used, it can be an irritant with some people.

A couple of thoughts. When you are together, do you have fun, giggle, goof on each other, play stupid little practical jokes, etc. ? Has she quit calling the co-worker on the other side of the cell phone? --------------------- "She thinks that me being happy doing my own thing is going to make us happy. I think it is the other way around and we to make each other happy and ourselves happy at the same time. " --------------------- Not sure this is applicable, but I'll throw it out anyway. Back in my "swinging bachelor" days, I would feel like I'd be happier if I had a steady date, and I think I gave out a negative vibe as a result that girls would pick up on, and they'd run the other way. At some point I decided I needed to find a way to be happy on my own, without having a girlfriend first. A few months later I had a steady honey, and ended up marrying her.

Although I've done it (anniversary at a fancy get-away-from-the-kids-for-the-night place; had it planned for months), mark me down under the "no thanks" column for this one.

For me, a few women at work, a few of the moms where my kids go to school, Kari on MythBusters, a few of the models in some of the clothing catalogues. Also a couple of made-up-in-my-head women. And occasionally an old girlfriend. Not that I miss any of them; just remembering some of the physical, sexual enjoyments. I usually have a little bit of a story line in the fantasies, and don't like the idea of cheating on my wife, and don't really see us ever getting divorced, so in the fantasies she usually has to have died some time previously. Not that I want her to die in real life, mind you, it is just something to make it OK to do whatever I do in the fantasy. Wife says she doesn't really fantasize about other men, but she does about some of her female friends. And thinking of her with another girl I find quite arrousing. She is also not crazy about me having her "bumped off" in my fantasies, and would prefer that I lose some of my cheating inhibitions, at least in fantasy land (not in real life).

I like pizza and spaghetti and lasagna and hamburgers, etc. And while I may like one a little more than the others, I would not want to forgo the others. As for preference between oral and poking, I like both; oral I would say is a bit more intense during coming, maybe too intense sometimes. But I like both. And while I prefer oral or doinking over masterbating, I still like to jerk off once in a while as a change. My wife would probably say she prefers receiving oral, since she generally will not orgasm during doinking alone. She particularly likes oral with me working my thumb in there. Also likes the G-spot (index) finger action/licking/orgasm (found out how to do that over the summer from reading this web site . . . thanks). But she also likes me to switch from licking to poking at the very end while she orgasms. Generally, it's all part of the package, going back and forth between licking and poking. So while she may prefer licking, she also likes the poking mixed in. And by the way, physical-sensation-wise, forgetting about any passion or romance, I would prefer jerking off to doinking with a condom. Hate 'em.

For what it's worth, despite using oral contraception: - We ended up with two of our kids (wife started a day and a half late for one of those, but no mix ups for the other) - wife's mother had kids number 3 and 4 - woman across street ended up with twins (cried for two weeks when she learned she was pregnant) - lady up the street had a kid - lady around the corner had a kid - secretary at work had a kid, didn't even know she was preggo because she was still getting her periods There are a few others I know of, but can't remember right off. There was a commercial on the telly for the pills my wife used (a common pill, I believe), saying they were 98% effective, "and for the other 2%, contact your health care provider" they said in a giggly voice. That commercial didn't run for very long. Probably got a bunch of angry calls.