Lacey607

I think I'll start with a fully clothed shot, I'm a little self conscious around strangers. lol. The first one is about a year old I think... A friend of mine took the other shot of me at an abandoned train stop. I got to play Model for a Day. haha.

Howard, I apologize for any misconception, we are in a committed relationship and will be married in june of 2009 (after I graduate college), I don't often use the term "fiance". We have also been living together for 4 months. I'm also sorry if I came off as not being truthful, but as the post grew I thought I should probably share the whole story...Since this is an open forum, and not a law office, I guess i was afraid to bare all to a bunch of strangers. Thanks for the input though. Tyger, Thank you for your insight as well, you've been extremely helpful. I guess I may have said it in another thread, but all 3 incidents occured outside of our home and were drunken mistakes, and he has no interest in talking to any of the women involved. Thanks again everyone.

Howard, I'm glad you think there is nothing going on outside of the relationship, thank you for your honesty and comforting words. Tyger, he did confess and feels really bad...but I guess i DO keep rehashing the whole thing once in awhile and bring it up and get upset all over again. Just some things trigger me to think about it and bring it up, and then I feel the need to talk about it. I found out about 5 months ago, I don't know if i'm getting over it too slowly or what but... I still think about it every other day and have a full out crying episode maybe once a week. I finally realized it wasn't my fault, but i'm still a little insecure. He has given me truthful answers about every question i've asked him, even down to the gory details. Its just the trust re-building that really needs to get rolling... Although he's made efforts, theres not really good advice anywhere on how to re-build trust. He's printed out his work schedule for me so I know when he is at work, he calls if hes going to be late, and he always asks me if he is allowed to go out without me (although i usually say no, he understands why). Just time I think... and we'll be fine, I'm just going to attribute his lack of drive to stress at work for now. Thanks!

Yea, they used to ask me this at the front desk when I checked in for my appointment. YIKES. I never thought anything about it until my answer was "right now", (that is embarassing...) i realized that it wasn't OK to ask me that in front of the waiting room... So in my semi-PMS state i said "Do you really think that is an appropriate question to ask right here?" and they said "very well...". I got a few girl-power looks on the way out. lol.

I really think that we have a mostly normal relationship, i'm begining to think the problem is me. I'm having a hard time letting go of him cheating on me. So, when he declines my sexual advances I get REALLY self-conscious that he's getting it somewhere else. I know he's not by becoming semi-stalker but i still have that little insecurity. We're in the midst of working on re-building trust in the relationship but there are still certain triggers that make me think about it all over again.

Thanks for your input everyone. Howard, I knew this had some effed up underlying psychological issue, Thanks for clearing that up. He does perform oral sex on me before sex and after if I dont orgasm at the same time as him. I've read all the tricks and put most of them to use, he's only climaxed this way maybe 3 times in our 4 yr relationship (all of which he ended up jamming it down my throat himself, not a happy ending for me needless to say). He's a little weird about anal touching to say the least, but I'm slowly talking him into it. Now, for the past 3 days he has declined BJ's everytime I offer, (I've recently become really interested in it.). I don't know what the problem is. I feel like I'm spending every spare moment of my free time researching how to make him more happy in that way, and to no avail. This is really taking a toll on my self-esteem and I'm half tempted to go give a complete stranger a BJ just to reassure myself. Another complaint he has is that he feels "pressured into finishing" because I used to get tired after about 20 mins. But now I'm really enthusiastic about it and still nothing, he usually gets frustrated halfway through and sticks it in me... I'm so close to just giving up on the whole idea and giving him nothing at all. URGGGHHH.... I tried altoids, mini-vibe on my cheek, mini-vibe on the "million dollar point", deep throating, ball sucking...its endless. I dont know what the heck is wrong!!!! Its really disconcerting to try SO HARD to do something special for him with no results. I'm just going to end up telling him whats really up, "Dick can be replaced with plastic, good luck trying to find a hot wet hole to stick your's in."

Personally, If i look at a naked man and a naked woman... I definitely will admit that women have much more beautiful bodies. =o) its true... i'm not a lesbian, i just think women are better looking over all physically.

Ok, I'm not really that conceited...I'm probably the most self-conscious person I know. lol. Just thought I'd share anyways... So here's the face behind the words!

My fiance cheated on me a year and half ago... We're still together now. It happened 3 times with 2 different girls (sex once, oral twice). I was a livid emotional mess! I am totally about commitment and fixing things before making assumptions and breaking things off. After a month of digging, and with the numerous psych classes under my belt, I found out the true honest to goodness reason WHY he did it. He lost his virginity to me and freaked out when we started getting serious, thinking I was going to be the only sex story he'd ever have. He never got to make his young drunken mistakes like most of us have. Things weren't going good at the time and he had a weak period. Although NONE of these are an excuse, a level of understanding came to me that has really helped in dealing with the problem. I am confident it would NEVER happen now, but on a bad day I still think theres always a possibility. All in all, I'm sure that in a situation like mine, it's curable. But trust-building is a LONNNGG road... it's really important to evaluate how important the relationship is to you, in my case- we have a 4 yr old son together, so that's what motivated me to make it work.

I guess "lie" may have been too strong a word. Lets say I wouldn't put it past him to "sugar coat" the situation in attempts to save my feelings. Thanks for the advice. LOVE the forum.

Hi, My boyfriend can't orgasm during a blow job unless he is standing up. He says that it's because he needs his feet to be planted on the ground. Is this problem common? He can orgasm during sex in nearly every position. Do I just suck at giving it to him and he's trying to protect my feelings, or is it just a weird quirk he has? This situation makes me very self-concious, although he says he's had this problem before with other females. He says I'm amazing at it, but I wouldn't put it past him to lie about my "skill". Any insight?

Sounds like you are going to have to give it to her straight. Say exactly what you're feeling. Something along the lines of: "I need to be touched and hugged and kissed to feel loved, if you can't provide me with that, then i may need to look elsewhere". If she realizes this is a genuine need for you, she'll change if she loves you. I regret to say I was the un-loving one in our relationship, for some reason i wasn't interested in hanging all over him all the time,and it was hurting him. He told me that he needed that for him to feel like I loved him and just like that I changed. It meant so much to me for him to feel loved that i would do anything for him. Now, I dont know what I would do if he didn't kiss me b4 he left for work, it would ruin my whole day probably. lol. Hope everything goes well, dear. Good Luck!

I had this problem b4 i started having sex. 1 1/2 inches wide might be a bit much to start with, my favorite toy is only about an inch... I would say you should ask you gyno how much of your hymen still remains intact. If you are getting pevic exams or using tampons it isn't covering the vaginal opening anyways. the pinch you feel is most likely from the streching of the opening and not from disturbing the hymen. The hymen is merely tissue without pain receptors and shouldn't pinch, but feel more like a tug, i would describe. Any pain would be from stretching the opening, just relax your muscles...and go a little bit at a time. Hope this helps!

I like being the submissive one. Very submissive. Outside of the bedroom I seem to wear the pants, but inside of the bedroom I think it is soooo sexy for him to command me to do his every bidding.

I was a little hesitant at first too. My bf tried doing it a couple of times and I promptly stopped it. My main concern was...well, poop comes out of there. lol. After discussing it and the hygiene of the idea, and knowing he was educated in what to expect etc... I was much more OK with it. I'm being subtle, frankly, i LOVE it.