We feel the same way in public places, and then we get home and forget that we were even in the mood. Hubby and I have been talking about this recently as well, and we both agree that there are things to try to avoid when trying to be in the mood. But, you gotta take the good with the bad, and that takes years to get utterly used to. My biggest turn off is when he over-does it on the burping and ball-scratching. I understand that this is a normal man-thing, but when I am thinking about how good he looks and he starts scratching, it doesn't help my mood. But overall, he is attractive to me, especially wearing a suit or just wearing his 'birthday suit'