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That was the first shop I ever went to! Small world! I really like the Megaplexxx in south Austin.

I've taken many a friend on their first trip to a toy shop

Iha!! <3

Nope. It's my problem, not his... just something I'll have to work on.

That's kind of the point, although if he can't get another erection it could be a problem. At his age I wouldn't think it would be an issue. Maybe I am misunderstanding the stop-start method, but I've never heard of it "curing" anything... I don't think it gets better gradually if you keep using that method, I think you just use that method to prolong each individual session. In other words, that's not magically going to fix the situation long term. Honestly, it seems like you're just making up excuses for not confronting this problem and trying to get it resolved. It might be easily fixable if you would just talk to him about the methods I've mentioned and discuss with him what he thinks may or may not work. Obviously his self-esteem is suffering because of this, and it's just making things worse. You need to find a real solution. EDIT: My BF says to tell him to try thinking about something completely unrelated to sex ("like kittens" was his example ,) and to slooooow doooown. Going at a pace slower than what he is used to should definitely help.

I tried to fry some last night just for kicks, but the pan hadn't heated up enough and it spread out too much before it started cooking so it burnt. I'm sure we'll try again, I'll keep you posted!

We've been talking about it forever and finally did it!!! Usually I'm the one driving so an opportunity hadn't arisen, but for my birthday we went on a trip that required a lot of time on the road... about 10 hours by the end of the day! So, on the way home, it was his turn to take the wheel. We were on the highway and there were cars passing by, and we drove through some pretty well-lit areas... it was all very exciting. I had to grab my 12V plug-in vibe before we made it back!

Whew, just looked it up and they are saying now that earlier reports that the woman miscarried were unfounded, she was only hospitalized for observation. Thank goodness.

Congrats! Maybe there's hope for me yet then, I can never cum from oral.

Oh God, was that the 8 month pregnant lady? How horribly sad if so, I hadn't heard that she miscarried. Merry fucking Christmas indeed. People have completely forgotten what it's supposed to be about.

Yeah, I agree Suzy. Orgasms are definitely good for your health as a women too though, they can actually lower your risk of breast cancer, and I'm sure there are other benefits I can't call to mind at the moment. For men, orgasms can dramatically lower their chances of prostate cancer... up to a third!!! Sexual health is firmly linked to overall health.

Most of these problems and disagreements disappear when you stop thinking of people as men and women and just start thinking of them as people. Seriously. Everybody is different, and there's more variation person-to-person than there is between the genders. Not all men hate/like the same things. These are what we call "broad generalizations," and they are very frequently wrong. For the record, I had sex with my BF on the second date, I give great head and enjoy doing so, and we have sex every day with few exceptions because we both enjoy it. And yeah, I've met his mother.

If it makes you feel any better, I was a member on SuicideGirls.com for a while, and I adore those ladies. I met some of them at a tattoo convention, and let me tell you... they're more "real" than most porn stars, but their photosets are airbrushed just like all the others. They're attractive, sure, but would they stop you dead in your tracks if you saw them on the street? Are they any hotter than the rest of the population? No, not really. They are real people, but the photos he's looking at are not... they're fantasy. Those women, as perfect as they appear in pictures, do not exist in real life.

If that's true, and the relationship is great in every other way, he may just not realize how much it bothers you. I've always had male friends moreso than female ones, and when I hang out with them, they talk about girls a lot and I get into it with them. I'm used to saying something about it when I find someone attractive, especially if they're female, and yes, I do this around my BF too. He's my best friend, it just feels natural. Sometimes I worry a little about it making him feel bad, but he's never mentioned it, and here's the kicker... I feel like he knows our relationship is strong and I don't actually want to be with these other people, and that makes it ok. I also tell him all the time how sexy he is to me. If he ever told me it hurt him for me to say those things, you can be sure I'd stop, along with reassuring him that it means nothing. So, like DADT said, tell him how you feel. Make it a serious conversation so he has no doubt it really bothers you. If he's as great as you say he is he should bend over backwards to make you happy and he will understand. If the behavior continues, drop him.

The only time my guy and I are ever too tired is when we've fallen asleep watching TV or something like that. We get up, move to the bed, and if we don't immediately fall asleep when our heads hit the pillows, sometimes there's a little half-hearted touching before we drift off . When this happens we usually make up for it in the morning. If we are *almost* too tired, we'll do it in a position in which we can both lie down, like spooning or cross; that way it doesn't require much energy and we can still get the job done.

Stop-start works, but there are other things you can try that don't involve him having to stop and take a break right in the middle of sex. If he has already had an orgasm earlier in the day, it'll most likely take longer for him to achieve another. Get him to masturbate an hour or two before you two have sex, or if you're super nice, you can help! Cockrings are another option you can try, they typically help delay male orgasm. You should also suggest that he try to change his own behavior. PE is often caused by tension... he gets nervous, unconsciously tenses his muscles, and this sort of primes all the biological processes necessary for ejaculation to occur so it happens faster. Tell him to try to be aware of this, and if he is, he may be able to force himself to relax, which should help. Best of luck

I'd agree with that. Hell, with my guy, we used to be "adventurous" more frequently. We were always trying to think of things we hadn't tried that would be fun and exciting. Now that we've gotten more accustomed to one-another, we have fantastic sex no matter what we do, so a lot of times we get lazy about it and have vanilla sex just because it's easy and we don't have to come up with any ideas. If he thinks the sex is great already, he may not necessarily be inspired to initiate anything more wild. I say she should sit him down and talk to him about it... don't make it about him, just tell him that she wants to spice things up. Get her to initiate something kinky instead of dropping hints and hoping he'll take the lead. Chances are, once things get started, he'll enjoy the experience

I wonder if this has more to do with behavior than biology though. If a man doesn't masturbate for a period of time (how long it takes varies between individuals,) it will trigger a nocturnal emission... sort of the body's way of clearing the pipes to make sure all reproductive processes will be in peak condition should the guy have a chance to procreate. From what I've been led to understand, men tend to masturbate more frequently than women on average, so perhaps this is why they have fewer nocturnal emissions? ... After the point at which they begin masturbating regularly (puberty) anyway. Just a thought I've personally never had many orgasms in my sleep, and have had even fewer lately, since I'm having sex pretty much daily in addition to masturbating. I can definitely see a negative correlation between how often I orgasm while awake and how often I orgasm in my sleep.

Haha, yeah, I love how so many people went along with the joke in the reviews. The book obviously isn't serious but claims to be, and the reviews took the same approach!

Someone posted this on another forum and I just had to share, it was too funny. I already ordered my copy, haha! Natural Harvest - A Collection of Semen-Based Recipes

- You can't help someone who isn't motivated to help themselves. This is a big one for me since, for some reason, I tend to be attracted to the poor defenseless puppy types with mediocre self-esteem, which often comes with more serious underlying issues. - If you're incompatible, you're just incompatible. If you go into it wanting different things from the relationship, it's hard to find common ground. Realize that early before it goes sour and you can still get out of it with a great friendship, though. - I know what I want now.

No, but I've made that mistake dead sober JK. He's not the greatest looking guy ever and certainly not my type, but he's a friend of mine and was a safe way for me to have a little fun between relationships.

My dog is like a parasite. She loves me to death, and is asleep on my lap right now... she wants to be with me at all times. Luckily, she's also tiny (4lbs) and can't jump so I don't have a problem with her interrupting sex, she usually just goes to her bed and takes a nap when we're doing... um... adult activities. She seems to instinctively know that she can't get on the bed when that's going on, so she doesn't beg or anything. She does sleep on the bed at night, but even then, if we have morning sex she just stays at the foot of the bed and doesn't make a peep if we forget to put her down first. The cats, on the other hand...... They won't interrupt during sex... again, they seem to instinctively know... but Diva will jump up on the bed with us and cuddle up against me as soon as the action stops. It's not that bad, but it's kind of unsettling when you're naked and cuddling together and all of a sudden there's this warm fuzzy cat body snuggled up against your back :|

Nice pics ladies! I already posted this in an old thread, but I'm too lazy to take a new pic

That's the sweetest thing!