Jen

I LOVE when good advice is passed along by the masses! Ladybug, listen to the advice of these wise people. We all want our husbands/wives to be good in bed, but to make it a prerequisite to a marriage proposal? I don't think so! If your boyfriend (and that's what he's acting like-- a boy) really loved you the last thing he would be doing was laying down ultimatums like this. Instead he would be respwcting the fact that you were a virgin and not ready to jump into bed. My guess is that you haven't even been sexually active with this guy (or anyone else) so why the need to jump right to having sex? Grow up--menatlly, physically, and sexually before you give up a very special thing about yourself--your virginity. Jen

Find a photographer that you are comfortable with (try speaking with a woman) and explain what you are looking for and why. Although they might not do the photos that you are seeking they probably know a photographer that would fit the bill! Good luck! Jen

I'm sorry to hear that the medication end of this problem can not be changed (you're sure talking with your doctor about an alternative medication is out of the question? Maybe there is a replacement to your current drug that wouldn't have the same side effects on you). I don't have a sure fire way to promote ejaculation, but I can give suggestions that may help. I've never been a fan of arousal gels and creams but I do recommend toys. You mentioned being bruised by some masturbation toys. Might I suggest a vibrating toy that your wife can use on you? Vibrating Massage Glove This is a great way to enhance hand stimulation of the penis and genital area. Bullets are very versatile and can be used in various ways such as on the scrotum during oral stimulation or even on the outside of the anus. I suggest trying: Cyber Flicker I have been told on more than one occasion that anal play (even just the slightest) can double pleasure for the male. Even if you've never tried it before yo might want ot give it a whirl--can't hurt, right? Much luck to you! Jen

Ok, let's set something straight. Sex with your sister? NOT OK! You say you are sexually attracted to her? You're nineteen--you're horney! Get out and meet girls (other than your sister). I'd be willing to bet that you've got some pent up sexual desires and your focusing them on your sister because she is the nearest (and most attractive) person in your life. None of this, "Let her catch you masturbating" and what not...that's not a turn on! To her she'll have caught her brother jerking off. Go forth and find new interests and leave your sister alone. As far as cousins go. Doesn't anyone meet people outsside their family anymore? Jen

It is difficult to find that your husband (boyfriend, partner) has been finding sexual gratification on the internet rather than simply in your own bedroom. I suggest that you talk to him and find out why he enjoys it so much. I do like the suggestion of sitting down with him and reading or typing along side of him. I also REALLY like the suggestion of playing with him while he is online. Of course I also believe he should do some playing while you do some web surfing! As far as webcameras, etc right now--hold off. I think that is jumping the gun right now. Of course who knows what lies down the road... Good Luck Jen

Kudos to you for asking your wife to indulge you in your fetish! There is nothing wrong with your fetish (or for most people's fetishes either). Of course these days we know all too well how bad smoking is for our health. Jen

Keep your eye out for an article I just wrote, for TooTimid.com, about introducing toys and new ideas into the bedroom! I hope it will help, Jen

Although everyone is different I am a big believer in peeing after sex. Although it does not occur all of the time, often if I do not pee after sex I wind up with a terrible urinary tract infection (UTI). And if you have ever had one you know how painful it can be. So my advice? Pee. It's not going to do you any harm, but not peeing just might. Jen

Good stuff guys! I especially love this position because it takes some of the strain off of the legs--which if you don't have the strongest muscles works like a charm! Keep having fun. Jen

You might want to check out this strap on: Ultra Harness Set If you are looking for something that stimulates both people rather than penetrates I really enjoy: Diving Dolphin Good Luck Jen

The best advice is to listen to your instinct. If you think using something as a dildo might not be a good idea--well, then don't use it because it probably is not. When it comes to using food items as dildos use something that is firm (ie carrots, cucumbers). I advise against hot dogs and the like because they can easily break. Whatever you choose to use you best use a condom--always think hygiene. I will tell you what my new favorite toy is (I promise a review very soon) that won't even get your husband to bat an eye. I Rub My Duckie I've got mine sitting on the edge of my bathtub and you wouldn't even know it's a vibrator! Good luck Jen

Oh jeez. Looks like it's time for some drier panties! Jen

I'm actually not sure how anyone could want to share. While jealousy might not rear it's ugly head right away--it will, eventually. Jen

The smell of anti bacterial soap. The only reason I can think why it does it for me is that back in high school the first guy I liked used Dial soap. It was the beginning of my sexuality and I swear it's stuck with me all these years. Or maybe being clean is a turn on. Either way. Jen

Alas...local, not Major. Jen

When we want to greet someone we say, "hello". When we want to tell someone how much they mean to us we say, "I love you." When we want to try anal play we say......... Well, what the hell DO we say? Hunny hit on something--you kow your wife best. Is she usually open to knew ideas? If she is then it should be fairly easy to bring up. But if she is more closed minded then it may be more tough. Try explaining to her why you'd like to try anal play: to experiment, curiosity about the male g-spot, it helps you reach a better orgasm, or what ever reason you have. Most often people fear change or something new because they don't understand it; try helping your wife understand. Good luck. Jen

Home plate on a baseball field...back when I was wild and crazy (and not worried about getting caught with my panties down!) Jen

Prostrate orgasm? Oh boy, I'm going to have to bow to our readers for this one because I am at a loss. I will admit though, you've peeked my curiosity and I'll now check this stuff out! Jen

Bread bags and spit??? If it works for you... If you'd like to step it up a bit though I would recommend the Flesh Light Flesh Light Guys have raved about this toy for quite a while. Check it out and let me know what you think! Good luck. Jen

LadyPC- Wishing you a complete recovery! Make sure you take it easy and listen o your doctor. In no time you'll be good as new! Jen

The possibility of rimming never crossed my mind until I had a conversation with one of my more conservative friends. "I love having my asshole licked" she mentioned one day over drinks. I don't know how long I sat there with my mouth hanging open. I wasn't going to rush right out and try it but it did get me to thinking, "What's it all about?" One word of advice...use a dental dam while performing (or receiving) oral on the anus. It's all about cleanliness and staying healthy! Good luck. Jen

I got my tongue pierced once and it lasted all of one day. I came down with the flu, my tongue became swollen and I couldn't stop throwing up. Miserable I tell ya! As for tongue piercings and blowjobs--I think it all depends on the guy. Some men prefer to feel the nub of the piercing on their penis while you perform oral. Different textures can do different things to an erect penis. There is also an extremely high erotic feeling--which if you have ever been pierced you know what I am talking about. Of course different strokes for different folks, many of my guy friends are not huge fans of the tongue piercings during oral. Good luck. Jen

First, I saw this as some advice..."Don't forget to blow on her clit once in a while - warm, slow, moist breath." Not the best idea and one to be avoided. While a slim chance it is still possible to create serious trouble my blowing during cunnilingus. An embolism--or gas bubble in the blood stream--can be created. Although a slim chance I still like to suggest not blowing during oral sex. Second, if you haven't seen the recent article please check it out: Cunnilingus Tips Good luck! Jen

Deflower a virgin...why do I have an image of a girl lying in a field of wild flowers, her pink floral dress slowly being unbuttoned by her dream boy??? AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Only in the movies. When I lost my virginity it was with a friend, who was also a virgin. Our whole sexual escapade was goofy, fun and exactly how I would have wanted it to happen. I never bled--I few too many bike accidents had taken care of the hymen years before. Yes it was uncomfortable, but I think a good deal of that had to do with nervousness. 1) Make sure the girl (or boy) really wants to have sex. This is important for so many reasons. The desire to please the person they are with so often clouds judgement (this really applies a lot to the younger crowd, teens-mid twenties). 2) Keep it simple. You don't want sexual overload. 3) Remember that if this is their first sexual experience they are ALWAYS going to remember it! Be kind, gentle, and caring. 4) If they are not ready then they are not ready. They will respect you a lot more if you hold off and wait until a better time. I hope this helps. Good luck. Jen

And maybe you should realize that I am giving advice to women and men and not complaining about my own FABULOUS sex life. It's called advice and it sounds as if you and your partner are doing just fine with what you have. Good luck. Jen