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It is frustrating not being satisfied. I would suggest you do a lot of foreplay, stimulation and pleasuring before intercourse. Young men sometimes are quicker to orgasm than women are and as such more time focusing on your pleasure may be in order. You may want to spend time with manual stimulation, oral pleasuring, or other types of sexual play to get your arousal to a peak. I know for me a woman's pleasure is the most important thing in a sexual encounter. If you have not talked to him about what you want, desire and need, I suggest you do so. Remember sex is play time. Enjoy the touch and caress. Tell him what you want in a positive way (I like it when you do that and it would be even more arousing if you would include a little this). I hope the two of you find the pleasure you seek.

H Housewife, welcome to the site. kinkster, that has to be one of the best ways to find out your partner has a new toy. Love the story ?. Embarassing story: going through TSA at the airport and having the agent pull out the dildo, cock ring and anal plug then ask what they were and waht they were for. This happened several years back.

?????? Maybe you should join me on a beach or at a resort pool if you want to see more. Thank you for your appreciation.

Since some one found an old photo. I guess it is time for a new one...

Ouch, that is a total turn off. A better partner is absolute. If you do decide to try again talk about it first. It is much better when you know what to expect and what you and your partner are doing.

While anal play can be great fun and provide great pleasure, it is not for everyone. That is a personal decision. If you do try it again there are a few things to consider. First I suggest be with a partner that you are comfortable with, A partner who listens to you and is caring and one who knows to be gentle. Engage in lots of foreplay. The more aroused and relaxed you are the better. I suggest starting with playing with small toys or fingers. Remember to use lots of lube. Lube is your friend when playing this way. There should be comfort in everything you do. If you proceed to anal intercourse then take it slow and easy, lube, lube, lube. Last, if you don't find it pleasurable then stop. When many people find great pleasure with anal intercourse,not everyone does. Listen to your body and your pleasure.

I offer my compassion to you. That pain of a lack of physical intimacy is difficult. I know there are many factors that keep the two of you together. The lack of a sex life is frustrating. I don't know it the two of you have had an open and honest conversation about your and her needs, desires, wants and expectations. If not that may be needed. This conversation needs to happen away from the bedroom. I usually say have a conversation about sex and intamcy at the kitchen table. Is is much more than do you want to have sex. It is more about what is important to you about sex, pleasure and connection. Talk about what you like, what she like and what you both like together. As much as you think complements are helpful, they may not be if she doesn't believe them, or believe them to be true. If she is closed and guarded about sex,,is there a reason for it, past abuse, negative messages from parents or religion, fear of pregnancy, or lack of trust. Sometimes the lack of sexual desire is a product of anxiety or depression. If that is the case then she may have to address that. Sometimes the lack of desire is physiological, if so that may need to be examined (thyroid problems, ovarian problems, etc.). Sometimes lack of desire may be rooted in more issues with guilt and shame, if so that may need to be addressed. If all of that is not an issue, remember foreplay is not the 10 minutes before sex. Think of foreplay as 24 to 48 hours of sexiness before sex. Suggestions, touches, words of interest, doing things together playfully, and more can be types of foreplay. Spend time together doing sexy things. Maybe read erotic together, watch a sexy movie, play a sexy game; all can enhance mood. Maybe schedule a "date", with the idea of physical intimacy being a part of the date. Sometimes just looking forward to sex can get someone in the mood for sex. If you are morning and she is evening, look for a time that you are closer together such as middle of the afternoon. Last, if nothing make a difference, think about getting professional help. The lack of sex can be a larger issue that is marked by her saying she has no interest. I know this is all difficult. I wish you the best.

Mi.Georgia.peach, that is a wonderful description of great oral pleasure. The build up to the explosive desire make oral delights that much more stimulating and fabulous.

Welcome on to the site. Enjoy. There is much her and several people who are willing to share.

Welcome to the forum. A hollow vibrating strap on will give your partner the majoring of the sensation. I am going to hope you have talked to your medical professionals about all your options for erectile functioning. While pumps and cock rings work well there are not for everyone. And, you have to be aware that you can over pump which can cause other problems. So talk to a professional who knows your health and sexual functioning concerns, is my suggestions, before going to far with pumps or rings. Other wise there are lots of toys to play with to give stimulation to your partner and toys for you as well. All the best to you...

While the heat of the moment can be intoxicating, I find good sexual communication to be even more erotic. I absolutely love giving oral pleasure to a woman. Aggressive, soft, genial, wild, no matter. It is about what she wants and desires. I love changing it up. Going from oral stimulation to intercourse to oral is wonderful. For me it is all about her pleasure. And the more I know about what she likes, the more discussion we have had about her pleasures, the more willing I am to do what she desires. So if she says I want gentle and romantic, great! If she says throw me down and tie me up, dominate me, wonderful! I'm pretty open to doing almost anything as long as there is full consent and knowledge of what is being done. Of course this means we are talking about it days ahead of time, not seconds ahead of time. My greatest satisfaction is her pleasure, climax, and joy. I'll offer suggestions, many suggestions of what to try or do. All I need to know is what is her yes.

Moving forward is the most important part of a new life after the end of a relationship. You will learn what is best for you. You will become more confident each day. You will trust your feelings more and more. The dating scene is crazy. I am cautious out there. I can only imagine how more crazy it is being a woman in the dating world at times. But, learning you and what you like/dislike, learning your passions, discovering your talents and skills is an amazing thing. If you have been devoid of sexual expression for some time, this new found freedom can be both exilerating as well as sometimes confusing. Trust your body and your feelings. Most of all give yourself love.

First, congrats on finding your renewed confidence and comfort. As you continue to grow in this new life I hope the confidence and courage grow with you. Your sexuality is as important as all other areas of your life. May you find pleasure and strength in your own discoveries. Follow your passion and your passion will up lift you.

That is quite the visual, Ms. Peach. Welcome to the forum. Enjoy the posts and stories.

First welcome to the site. Interesting desire, I would suggest talking about fantasies the two of you may have. Be playful. Talk about what would be fun, interesting and what might be fun to make real.

Spanking is traditionally a part of kink. Either way, communication is the key. How much, how hard, how long need to be determined before you begin, I suggest. The dominant one can get carried away with the activity if things are not talked about first. As for what to use, I'd say start with an open hand. If that is good then maybe a paddle or crop. If you are more comfortable with a spanking over your panties, start there. If that is good, then move to bare skin. Remember do only what you are comfortable with. Impact play can be fun and arousing. Last thing to remember, 50 Shades is NOT a good example of what to expect or what really happens. Having said this, go explore, have fun, and talk about everything with your partner.

First, I would suggest the two of you do your research on BDSM behavior and safety. Remember everything needs to be safe, sane and consensual. Then have open honest conversations about impact play. Next have a safe word in case things push you over your comfort level. Talk about open hand spanking, and the use of paddles, crops, floggers, and more. What are you comfortable with. Remember you are giving permission and that permission must be respected. Start slow and easy and talk about the experience after each time.

Welcome to the forum. Have fun.

If you are going to get a cockring, first make sure you have the right size. Too tight a ring is painful and can cause damage, too loose and the effect is not what you hope for. Personally I am not a fan of the dual vibe rings. One good strong vibe works well. LELO has a ring that is good and has power to it. It is a bit more pricy that others out there. There are other vibrating rings. Most I have seen are not large enough for the total package, so read and research well before purchasing.

Welcome to the site. Jump in and enjoy.

Welcome. It is a good place to ask questions and discover and gather knowledge.

Welcome to the forum. I suggest you take a look at the topics, read some of the posts, and then comment on what you find interesting. If you ask questions there is always someone here that will give you an answer. Enjoy!

So glad you are feeling better. I see that you are feelings my much better. The wonders of glass and lust...

Enjoy the forum. Welcome

That is great. I may have new ideas for all of us.