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oops double post sorry

I was too

I whined a little LOL I can't find another one like it either!!! But I do have a new one that is pretty rad!

Nice! Did someone refer you here?

Just wanted to mention... I am fairly certain that the 'cyberskin' toys are made from a silicone derivative. So no silicone lube on those either... I found this out accidentally when some silicone lube leaked a bit in my goodie drawer and MELTED my favorite ribbed pink friend!! booooo

It is so nice and actually comforting, to see how things have improved for you! Maybe you should write about the whole journey you have been on, to where you have landed! I know I have had my own personal journey as well and I would be interested to read!

This is very interesting! Sorry you are dealing with this!! There are a couple things on the market that are supposed to help with feminine arousal. Some are topical and I have seen some supplements. I have not used any of these so I cannot recommend personally. Here are a few you might want to look into... Zestra K-Y INTENSE Arousal gel Provestra oral supplement I have a 2 year old and after I had him I was very nervous and tense to have sex, because of tenderness, stitches, scars, things feeling different etc. It was definitely an adjustment!! I found I had to really concentrate on relaxing. Like deep breathing closing my eyes relaxing. It helped and in fact I had my first g-spot orgasm during this time! Maybe a glass of wine or something could help get things flowing! Try to get as aroused as possible before hand! Maybe watch a video, masturbate a little before (or a lot) to make sure you are as engorged as you can be. Maybe then things will take off!! Best wishes to you!!

I get that! I used to prefer girl girl porn (when I would watch) also for some reason. I think it was the taboo factor for me. Everyone is different! It's all good! Ufunny... I think it may be just because you are young... (no offense please!!!) I used to giggle and shy away from looking at a mans penis or get grossed out even. Now, well the mere sight of a hard cock can make me wet!! (and my mouth water!!! ) ...and a money shot DAMN! Sometimes we have hangups we don't even know about! I bet you will see changes the longer you are married, that will surprise you!! I know I have!!!

I think its fun when you do things outside the normal routine! Sometimes he will grope me in the kitchen, Some days he has sneaked into the bathroom while I was in there just to make out for a minute with the door locked. Kissing me in public. Whispering the naughty things he wants to do to me later... naughty texting to each other in plain sight, like at the in laws house!! Kinda fun and silly! Definitely gets things flowing!! Also there have been a couple times where he just grabbed me, bent me over and took me! Now there was not much foreplay but it did NOT take me long to get on board with that kind of show of desire!

My link Thought this was a great article!! Empower yourself before you take on a new relationship!

Ditto that Wendy!!

ABSOLUTELY!!! and IMO as it SHOULD be!! Turning him on, knowing he wants me is a HUGE turn on for ME also! Win/win! <3

You KNOW it!! LOL some of the most random things get my mind going!

absolutely!

maybe...

Mirroring your post! I think it is in fact because you use a laptop because that sign in toolbar thingy is always there at the bottom of the screen on mine...

Hi Marsha!! welcome!

WELCOME!!!

I think it is looked down upon by the prudish and also because typically. Prostitution is used by men in secret, cheating on their wives. Which again is an unfortunate sign of a bigger issue at home...

"But what do you think: Is being so stressed out they can't cope why men feel the need to seek out inspirational graphics and take matters into their own hands?" I didn't really see anything in the article that addressed sex or porn addiction. I mean it just sounded pretty typical. It talked about pros and cons to porn and yadda... I didn't agree or disagree although I do wonder sometimes if "stress" is a real reason to masturbate. I think horniness is! I mean granted I am a woman but if I am stressed the last thing on my mind is, "gee I really need to cum right now" It IS an escape for sure so maybe that's it. However, I prefer to escape with my SO. It has its place, it can be a good thing in moderation, and it can also be a very bad thing for some people. It all depends on your situation and what you like, I feel. For me, my house is porn free and I am happy with that. Our sex life is crazy, unbelievably satisfying like I never dreamed, in fact... we make our own videos!!

Thanks everyone she stopped her meds and now she is much better. Trying the natural route I guess!

I think the thing that bothers yo the most is the secrecy right? Now most people on here know I have issues with porn... now I am going to TRY not to push my feelings on you... Porn has its place, yes. It can be fun to incorporate into a relationship and useful for solo time. There is such a thing as too much however and the first indication of that is when it becomes something that divides you instead of unites you. The hiding... I would feel the exact same way! If he were openly watching or telling you about it then maybe it wouldn't have been such a shock. I think a lot of the time men hide this behavior because of their upbringing etc... They feel it is taboo and deep down feel guilty. Which could also be his issue with oral sex... Could you feel comfortable enough to watch with him? discussing YOUR fantasies could bring about his! Watching too could inspire you both! Now about the porn/low sex drive thing... that is tricky... I mentioned too much being a bad thing, well for some people, if they are really sort of 'obsessed' with porn... excessively masturbating looking for more and different and harder-core it is possible for someone to become desensitized. When you are continually looking for stronger stimulation like hardcore porn with crazy situations etc... it can be difficult for some to feel the same way when its just one on one... I am talking about seriously excessive here like, a person would rather masturbate than have sex with a loving partner at any given time. Not a low sex drive per se but an issue nonetheless. NOT saying this is your situation but it a very real issue out there and since you asked, I wanted to share my thoughts. Porn in and of itself can be fun but too much of anything can have negative results. Talk about it try to get him to open up about his wants and desires (maybe even via what he is viewing in particular) he might be embarrassed to share, thinking he is weird or dirty or something. Reassure him that you want to do things with/for him. You want to be his porn star!! Best wishes to you!!

WELCOME!! We love new friends!!

Mikayla... Spot on!! Hyokahey also! I think you owe it to yourself to be able to express yourself in bed! If you were to indicate a curiosity or desire and were met with a negative response then I would try to talk about why you are curious etc... And if they still were negative then honestly I'd say maybe move on. Now there may be other factors in a relationship but it's no fun going through life repressed...