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My husband and I lived on 7 secluded acres last year in central Texas and the kids were with their grandparents for the summer. Hubby and I were hanging laundry outside and we just went at it like rabbits. It was awesome. I wanted it so bad that there wasn't much foreplay required. KWIM? We actually took advantage of our seclusion quite a few times last summer.

That's really not that difficult: YOU DUMP THE GUY! NO does NOT MEAN NO in bondage, but the safe word does. ALWAYS AND EVERYTIME!

I love wearing it because it makes me feel sexy and I love it because he goes crazy. I'm pretty choosy about what I buy, and I've never gone wrong with what I've brought home. The other night we were webcamming and chatting and talking dirty and I mentioned buying crotchless underwear and he had to take a bit hard gulp after I mentioned it.

Having those tingling stimulation creams is AWESOME for this. I did this as a surprise and he loved it! I bought a bunch of stuff and didn't tell him what it was. I just blindfolded him and used my new bag of tricks on him.

I also liked Iha's advice. Although you may feel your husband is rejecting you, when you discuss the unused gift with him, you MUST accept a portion of the blame (even though you may not want to). If you point the finger of blame completely in his direction, you could turn him off even more. Be sure to give specific examples of where your behavior may have contributed to your current situation, and explain what you would like to do to remedy that. What do YOU want to do about your relationship and the intimacy you share? If you can answer me when I ask that, then tell him! Tell him how you feel about all of it. Tell him what you told us in the beginning of this thread. Let him know that you are frustrated and you want to make things right, and then remind him that you need his help. He probably already knows that you are not comfortable when talking about sex, so if you just open up a bit, he should recognize that this means a lot to you. If he doesn't then tell him that too! I know you said your husband is in school, and I'm guessing he's incredibly busy and stressed also. This will of course contribute to your problems. Why not surprise him with a hot love note stuffed into one of his books/notebooks that he uses on a regular basis? Be sure to use a sticky note or tape it into the page you know he will open that way it doesn't fall out of the book and someone else gets it.

Because often all the signs point right to it, but the one who is being betrayed lives in denial. Even when they are actively searching for evidence, subconsciously they are hoping that they find nothing. When it's staring you in the face is when the truth, and the shock, hits.

Oh my husband LOVES it when I do that. The only requirement I have is that he keep them well groomed! I don't want to be sounding like Donald Duck down there because I'm choking on a hair. It gets me off nearly as much as him when I do that. He loves it that much!

Oh lord we women are so weird sometimes. I am the same way. Most (not all) women need the tenderness to feel love(d). While we do see sex as a way to express love, tenderness is a way to bring 2 people emotionally closer. Maybe while you are sitting and talking to her one night you could discuss options with her. Ask her if you'd like to preface your actions with a request like; "Honey, I'd love to show you how much I love you by JUST brushing your hair or giving you a massage (or whatever intimate act it is) tonight." Maybe she could ask you for what she wants. I know it's often more fun when it's spontaneous but we really can't relax and enjoy a nice massage when the it requires the reward of sex at the end. Your wife wants to be loved without having to return the favor.

Ignorance is not always bliss. When an affair is happening, the primary relationship totally changes. It's very obvious that something is going on even though you can't put your finger on it. You'll drive yourself insane wondering what it is until you know the truth.

It's funny that this was the first topic I found in here. I joined this forum because my husband wants it all when I am being the dominant one. I am not shy about doing it, but I have no idea how to get started with the really rough stuff and I don't want any uncomfortable moments. My husband is a very strong guy and has a very high threshold for pain. We have a bit of experience with it but he wants a lot more than I am currently capable of providing. It's thrilling to see him react the way he does when I'm doing it, and it's even more thrilling to have him dominate me. I have about 5 months to get schooled because he's deployed right now, so any advice of where to "get my learn on" would be greatly appreciated. I did just order Nina Hartley's guide to Sensual domination for me and for him and I'm going to see what I can learn from those. After I feel I am ready, I am thinking about ordering her Guide to Erotic Bondage if I like her first DVD.

Hello all! I am thrilled to have found this place because I really do want to add some serious fun to my marriage. My husband and I have been together for 3 years, and married for 1 1/2. We are not often shy when it comes to expressing our needs or wants, but I do want to learn how to fulfill his fantasies and surprise him with some cool new tricks.