Members Mikayla1 Posted October 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 6, 2009 Hi Everyone!Lately I have been going over some of my older posts and re-reading some of the opinions I have given here. I also am remembering why I can to TT in the first place. My hubby and I were in a sexual 'funk' and I came here looking for toys to spice up our marriage. This was 4 years ago, and I can say that our marriage is much more spiced now!Anyway, one of the issues we had was Erectile Dysfunction - OK, well I didn't have that issue, but 'we' did as a couple. For my hubby it was mostly stress induced (although, after seeing a urologist, having tests and a doppler scan done) we found out he has a blood flow issue with one of his valves, which is one of the most common causes of mild ED. This luckily could be treated with some understanding from his wife, and with some of the common ED pills, Cialis was our 'drug of choice' for its 36 hour window of opportunity (and the low side affects - of which my hubby had none).After a few 'successful' times - he found himself needing the pills less and less. However, when stress rears its ugly head, he sometimes pulls one out. At least we have them, we understand that it is not 'me' or 'him' - but just a medical condition. Anyway, he was talking to one of his friends, who in a drunken moment, admitted to having some ED issues. My HB told him what to do, who to see, etc. His friend was petrified to see the doctor and didn't want to explain to his wife. My question is this: who hear has experienced ED and has found success with the medicines? Did you find that they worked well? What about side affects?All thoughts are welcomed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted October 6, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 6, 2009 Hi Everyone!Lately I have been going over some of my older posts and re-reading some of the opinions I have given here. I also am remembering why I can to TT in the first place. My hubby and I were in a sexual 'funk' and I came here looking for toys to spice up our marriage. This was 4 years ago, and I can say that our marriage is much more spiced now!Anyway, one of the issues we had was Erectile Dysfunction - OK, well I didn't have that issue, but 'we' did as a couple. For my hubby it was mostly stress induced (although, after seeing a urologist, having tests and a doppler scan done) we found out he has a blood flow issue with one of his valves, which is one of the most common causes of mild ED. This luckily could be treated with some understanding from his wife, and with some of the common ED pills, Cialis was our 'drug of choice' for its 36 hour window of opportunity (and the low side affects - of which my hubby had none).After a few 'successful' times - he found himself needing the pills less and less. However, when stress rears its ugly head, he sometimes pulls one out. At least we have them, we understand that it is not 'me' or 'him' - but just a medical condition. Anyway, he was talking to one of his friends, who in a drunken moment, admitted to having some ED issues. My HB told him what to do, who to see, etc. His friend was petrified to see the doctor and didn't want to explain to his wife. My question is this: who hear has experienced ED and has found success with the medicines? Did you find that they worked well? What about side affects?All thoughts are welcomed!I have a lot of thoughts, so here goes:At 55 I started having trouble with ed. I went right to the pills. I was single and was - how to say this ... - there were a couple of women who were ready to have sex with me as soon as they found out I was available. But I was stressed due to the marriage break-up (hugely complicated) and I was not really into the women emotionally. The pills worked great and after a couple of times I didn't need pills with them. I think it was the added stress and anxiety of being with someone new that caused the little fireman to be shy when called to duty. As Forrest Gump would say, going to bed with someone new is like a box of chocolates - you never know what you're going to get. I think I got performance anxiety because I always want to be the best at everything.I subsequently tried to engage in a real relationship and found that at first even the pills weren't enough. It was incredibly important to me that she think I'm the greatest at everything (yeah, I put a lot of stress on myself) as a result, the anxiety of possibly failing guaranteed that I would fail. I got over that, but other issues in the relationship kept me on cock-enhancing pills.I've tried Cialis, Levitra, Viagra, Mydicksaflop (OK, little joke there). In my recent situation I liked Viagra best because the pills are large and you can cut them in half. To the extent that she liked sex at all, my SO like it by appointment, so I usually knew when to take the pill. In a more easy-going sexual time, I liked the Cialis because it gave you more time options. Levitra and Viagra kick in in about an hour and last about 12 hours. Cialis kicks in in a couple of hours and lasts 36-48 hours.As to which pill I used most, it all came down to economics. They are all about $15 - $20 a pill. I like Viagra over Levitra because a 100 mg Viagra can be cut in half and that is enough for me. The Levitra pill is plenty powerful but too small to cut easily so I don't know if half of one would work.With Viagra I get the effect I need for half the money.Cialis works great and I could have sex three or four times on one pill. I made a couple of women very very happy back in the day. Cialis can be cut in half, but half a pill doesn't do it for me. As I said, my ex SO didn't want sex more than once a month and by appointment only so spending $15 to get a stiff dick four times was a waste. Half a Viagra was all we needed and it cost $7.50. I do admit taking a Cialis on occasion, servicing my SO and then having a major league bat to play with myself the next morning was a very enjoyable experience. Better than fucking her to tell the truth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted October 8, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted October 8, 2009 OK dudes, now I KNOW that more of you have had some issues or have experimented with some of these medications. Admit! What about those who haven't taken the medicinal road? What has worked for you? Oh, and Sunday, thanks for the reply! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted October 8, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 8, 2009 Before my hubby and I married, there was a few issues here and there with his ED, but nothing major. About a year ago, there was a spell were it was starting to become a major issue. I think it was mostly due to stress, then it became more of an anxiety problem for him. So he would pull back, and any intamincy at all became a no go. Our family doctor sent him to a urologist and a battery of tests. After everything came back normal she prescribed him cialias. It worked OK, but not what he needed. My hubby's issue was not with getting it up, but losing it half way through, or reaching orgasm very quickly, then had no ability to obtain an erection after he orgasmed even after 30 minutes of foreplay. The doctor then gave him Viagra. No problems there, except things that are white in color have a blue tint to them. He lasts much much longer, and can either maintain his erection after an orgasm, or will have another one very shortly after. We have VERY good insurance, and even with that it's about $30 for 3 pills. so they are used sparingly, and he usually breaks one out for the "special" occasions. They are not needed any longer for "every day" sexual encounters. I think just knowing they are there makes a huge difference. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 14, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 14, 2009 Gentlemen,This is an excellent subject for those starting to have difficulty, have continued difficulty and do not know where to turn, how to start the process, or what to expect once the process starts. I understand the difficulty one may have in admitting and talking about ED, however you have the opportunity to help someone who would not/will not find help otherwise for what ever reason. I implore you to share your experiences and what you know with others. We women have put out loads of questions and problems we have had difficulty with, that could be considered embarrassing, and have always been met with kindness and support. This is a venue for learning, teaching and helping. Lend a helping hand, well okay maybe not a helping hand, but share your experiences so the next guy will know he's not alone. MAN UP! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted October 14, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 14, 2009 come on boys!! I can see why a man would hesitate though. I mean, it was very hard for my hubby admit that he had a problem. He usually goes to a woman doctor, but for this he made an appointment with the male doctor. But, if more men would speak up, it could help someone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members crossroads123 Posted October 15, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2009 Come on ladies you don't really expect we men are going to admit to something like this. You all know we are solid studs ready to go at the drop of a hat, yeah right. Some of you will remember about 18 months ago I went through a terrible break up which caused me to seek professional help. Part of the medication would not prevent me from becoming aroused, but prevented me from cumming. Terrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eminatic Posted October 16, 2009 Report Share Posted October 16, 2009 well i'm not a guy, but my ex had serious issues with this. sometimes he would have an erection for upwards of 2 hours, but not be able to cum and then randomly lose it and just walk away. (which was always horrifying for me because i knew that it meant i'd have to face him again for another 2 hours in about 15 minutes and i would just want to crawl into a hole and die) he had viagra but it never seemed to work and i think most of the blood was going to his head because he always complained about having severe headaches when he took it. To this day i still think there is something....wrong...with his semen and that it is most likely related to the issue. but he got mad whenever i brought it up and refused to bring it up with a doctor, even though he was already seeing a urologist for ED. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted October 16, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 16, 2009 well i'm not a guy, but my ex had serious issues with this. sometimes he would have an erection for upwards of 2 hours, but not be able to cum and then randomly lose it and just walk away. (which was always horrifying for me because i knew that it meant i'd have to face him again for another 2 hours in about 15 minutes and i would just want to crawl into a hole and die) he had viagra but it never seemed to work and i think most of the blood was going to his head because he always complained about having severe headaches when he took it. To this day i still think there is something....wrong...with his semen and that it is most likely related to the issue. but he got mad whenever i brought it up and refused to bring it up with a doctor, even though he was already seeing a urologist for ED.I never gave much thought to my hubby's funky semen could be a contributing factor to his ED issues. It did however contribute to both of our fertility problems. My hubby's semen is very thick and concentrated. It does not 'shot" out, more like comes out in one blob, sort of like that slime in an egg we used to play with when we were kids. My hubby's boys are horrible swimmers, most of them don't even swim, and with the fluid in his semen being so dense, it made it near impossible for the somewhat decent swimmers to break through the fluid if that makes sense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted October 17, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 17, 2009 Any ED issues in younger days were due to stage fright. Once I got comfortable enough with the present wife, not much of an issue any more.Except last year there was a time when Mr. Happy didn't cooperate through to the end, which triggered a round of performance anxiety. Followed by my libido heading south for much of the winter. Came back in the summer. (It has always tended to diminish in the winter and be stronger in the summer, but last winter seemed to be a bigger diminish.)Maybe age is catching up to me, and along with age seems to come more responsibility and stress and headaches at work. In any event, have not sought medical help. I am due for an annual check-up and finger in the ass with the urologist, so maybe I'll mention it, but not really ready for medical intervention yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eminatic Posted October 17, 2009 Report Share Posted October 17, 2009 well my ex's semen was completely CLEAR. like...no color in it whatsoever. on top of that it smelled HORRIBLE and burned. my skin would turn red wherever it touched me, and i think i described before it tasted like bleach, mixed with that wierd sweet ish taste in vomit. and he would shoot ALOT of it...like...more than a normal amount which makes me wonder if it is even semen? on top of that, he says it was not always that way, and when he was younger it was white and stringy and then suddenly changed, which makes me suspect even more that this is part of the problem. ah well, he refuses to see a doctor and i guess its not really my problem anymore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chloegirl Posted October 17, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 17, 2009 We've had to live with this to some extent for more years than I want to count. Meds can help but there's still alot of other issues involved...performance anxiety can become so ingrained that the "hurry before I lose it" syndrom becomes the routine. The meds (and he's tried them all) leave his head funky and stuffed up the whole next day. You just learn to work around it however you can. Believe me.....he has NO complaints! I make sure at least he is always satisfied. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted October 17, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 17, 2009 . . . it tasted like bleach, . . .[a bit of a tangent, here, but me and the misses both find that it has a bleachy smell to it; not so much a bleachy taste, though] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest eminatic Posted October 17, 2009 Report Share Posted October 17, 2009 [a bit of a tangent, here, but me and the misses both find that it has a bleachy smell to it; not so much a bleachy taste, though]yeah i know its normal to smell/taste mildly of bleach because of the ammonia and alkaloids that are in semen. but it shouldnt be like....acid...lol (I've always suspected this but now i can finally say for SURE that this was a trait unique to him lol!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 19, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 19, 2009 Any ED issues in younger days were due to stage fright. Once I got comfortable enough with the present wife, not much of an issue any more.Except last year there was a time when Mr. Happy didn't cooperate through to the end, which triggered a round of performance anxiety. Followed by my libido heading south for much of the winter. Came back in the summer. (It has always tended to diminish in the winter and be stronger in the summer, but last winter seemed to be a bigger diminish.)Maybe age is catching up to me, and along with age seems to come more responsibility and stress and headaches at work. In any event, have not sought medical help. I am due for an annual check-up and finger in the ass with the urologist, so maybe I'll mention it, but not really ready for medical intervention yet.Glad Mr Happy is finding his way still Thanks for sharing.We've had to live with this to some extent for more years than I want to count. Meds can help but there's still alot of other issues involved...performance anxiety can become so ingrained that the "hurry before I lose it" syndrom becomes the routine. The meds (and he's tried them all) leave his head funky and stuffed up the whole next day. You just learn to work around it however you can. Believe me.....he has NO complaints! I make sure at least he is always satisfied.Can completely identify with you. Its a frustratingly lonely road. Thanks for sharing.yeah i know its normal to smell/taste mildly of bleach because of the ammonia and alkaloids that are in semen. but it shouldnt be like....acid...lol (I've always suspected this but now i can finally say for SURE that this was a trait unique to him lol!)Ouch! Yuch! You have had many negative sexual experiences, hopefully your luck is changing. Thanks for sharing. All very helpful and enlightening. I sure there are more stories out there, be brave enough to bring them forward to help your fellow poster / lurker. This is an incredible helpful tool, and remember your anonymous. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kirk Posted October 19, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 19, 2009 I am a lucky guy, approaching the big 5-0 and have never had an E D issue more than a few times and ONLY when I was overly excited with a beautiful new woman for the first time. Even then each woman was quite understanding of it after I would go down on them until they would have a few orgasms. After that I would be more relaxed and no E D probs. My question is, I no longer stay hard after the first orgasm and it takes maybe 30 minutes for another erection, would a viagra pill work for those "special occasions" on an otherwise healthy person? In other words I was given one pill, should I try it or are the possible side effects not worth it since I already have some eye problems (glaucoma). All opinions welcome... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted October 19, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 19, 2009 I am a lucky guy, approaching the big 5-0 and have never had an E D issue more than a few times and ONLY when I was overly excited with a beautiful new woman for the first time.Glad to know other guys have had this issue. My question is, I no longer stay hard after the first orgasm and it takes maybe 30 minutes for another erection,That's a problem? What's the rush?would a viagra pill work for those "special occasions" on an otherwise healthy person? In other words I was given one pill, should I try it or are the possible side effects not worth it since I already have some eye problems (glaucoma). All opinions welcome...Cut the pill in half, for one thing. Yeah, they'll help you recover. Remember, the brain has to be there first. The pill just helps your little friend follow your brain's instructions, so if you aren't there mentally the pill won't do a lot of good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 Good man Sunday. Thanks for your open-ness. Okay men, who's next! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 Good man Sunday. Thanks for your open-ness. Okay men, who's next!Me! Me! .... Wait a minute. What are we lining up for? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 Me! Me! .... Wait a minute. What are we lining up for?There is a line already started behind me check out 'women on top'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted October 20, 2009 Review Team Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 There is a line already started behind me check out 'women on top'.So, that's where you prefer the line, behind you? Hehee! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 So, that's where you prefer the line, behind you? Hehee!behind, ontop, under, next to..... as long as I'm first Now men, who's next to man up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 behind, ontop, under, next to..... as long as I'm first Now men, who's next to man up?My man still gets up just fine thank you.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 My man still gets up just fine thank you.... And if I do recall....there was a certain picture under a certain thread with the proof Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted October 20, 2009 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2009 And if I do recall....there was a certain picture under a certain thread with the proof BLUSH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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