Your Top 3

[Mikayla1]

Hey guys....so, today I was having a girlie chat with my BFF and we were discussing our TOP 3 lovers. She asked me, 'Mikayla, who is in your Top 3 and why?' - Surprisingly, I knew exactly who they were and WHY! I realized that we usually do have some criteria that determine what makes someone a good or great lover (or a bad one). I also realized that I have a mental checklist of what makes a good lover (actually 2 if you consider that I am bi-sexual).

So, my question is to you:

Who is in your top 3 and WHY? What did they do to call attention to themselves or make themselves set apart from the crowd?

After a few answers have been recorded I'll put in my Top 3 too....

[Tyger]

My first #3 is my husband, of course. We've been together almost 10 yrs, and he was the one I was with when I found out I had herpes, and he stayed by my side thru the whole ordeal of the first outbreak. He was really positive, when he could've ran for the hills! He's also been very accepting and willing to try A LOT of new things with/for me too.

My second #3 is my FWB. I've known him since I was 14, and he encouraged me to explore new things. We were wild together. And we're still friends, even though we've moved on from each other sexually. It's nice to have that connection.

My third #3 is "Junior". He was 8 yrs my junior, he was young, full of, um, energy, was very "attentive", made me feel sexy, and we had a lot of fun together too.

[mudshark]

Hey guys....so, today I was having a girlie chat with my BFF and we were discussing our TOP 3 lovers. She asked me, 'Mikayla, who is in your Top 3 and why?' - Surprisingly, I knew exactly who they were and WHY! I realized that we usually do have some criteria that determine what makes someone a good or great lover (or a bad one). I also realized that I have a mental checklist of what makes a good lover (actually 2 if you consider that I am bi-sexual).

So, my question is to you:

Who is in your top 3 and WHY? What did they do to call attention to themselves or make themselves set apart from the crowd?

After a few answers have been recorded I'll put in my Top 3 too....

Good question and I would love to answer it. I've had many lovers, but my #1 would, hands down, have to be my wife and lover of 25 years. She and I have experimented in a wide array of sexual variations. She is phenomenal in bed and knows exactly what to do to satisfy me, as I do with her. The others, although a few were rather "talented", still run a distant second and third behind my wife. But, if I had to choose, there was one girl who I spent a three day weekend with that had the most extraordinary control with her pussy. She was able to contract the muscles in her hot little cunt and squeeze it around my rigid shaft like nothing you have ever felt. Then, there was one other girl who, as I was on my way to use her bathroom (we had never even kissed before), stopped me from behind and yanked down my pants and wrapped her lips around my cock after throwing me down on the bed.

[SensualWoman]

I would answer, but I have only had ONE lover, and he is now my husband. So he is my number 1,2, and 3? lol

[mailahn97]

I have only been with 3 so instead of Top 3 I will do Top 1...lol

He is very patient, caring and understanding. My previous experiences were very sheltered and vanilla. We explore and have a blast doing it. A clear understanding that we will always try just about anything once. I have learned so much about sex and myself. I am much happier as well. I remember in fact to explain how sheltered I was...a time we got into talking and he was asking if I liked it from behind. I was like no way no how...not gonna happen. I was thinking he meant anal due to my lack of knowledge. Come to find out he didn't and the funny thing is neither of those am I a no on now....lol. Helped me to keep an open mind about things.

[sass]

GREAT question!

#3 - OK, it might seem like a cop-out but I have a tie between FWB (I have several old posts about him for anyone who cares) and another guy who I will just refer to as Yankee. ( ) I have to rate them a tie because I was only with Yankee once, but oh what a time we had! I am sure if there were more times with him, he could have claimed #3 by himself. FWB was a sexual partner for a couple of years at a time when I was just starting to peak sexually. We had some very nice times (and some not-so-great times) and he allowed me to start exploring my inner sex freak.

#2 - Wow, let's call him Roy. Looooong, complicated story, but he took me to places I had never been before, or honestly, since. He is an experienced Master and even though we didn't really practice BDSM the few times we were together, it was obvious that he was very in-tune with my body and knew exactly what to do and how to do it. It's really hard to explain any better than that.

#1 - Of course that would be my husband. Those who remember my past and such will understand why I say "of course." He and I have taken sex to a different level - explored BDSM heavily (another long story for another time), tried other new things, actually MADE LOVE, etc.

I have only been with one woman, and it was great and I want more, so if I over-thought this I would probably end up placing her here some place too, but my puppy is attacking my fingers as I try to type so I guess I better leave my list as it is and go play with him.

[mailahn97]

Thanks MS I wasn't thinking same sex I was only thinking opposite sex....oops my bad. I have been with just one woman as well and the adventures we had during that time. To explore with another female that knows exactly how things feel are great. Definately wouldn't mind repeating it. So I am thinking I will then have a top 2. #2 would be the woman I was with and #1 would that wonderful man.

[sass]

GREAT question!

#3 - OK, it might seem like a cop-out but I have a tie between FWB (I have several old posts about him for anyone who cares) and another guy who I will just refer to as Yankee. ( ) I have to rate them a tie because I was only with Yankee once, but oh what a time we had! I am sure if there were more times with him, he could have claimed #3 by himself. FWB was a sexual partner for a couple of years at a time when I was just starting to peak sexually. We had some very nice times (and some not-so-great times) and he allowed me to start exploring my inner sex freak.

#2 - Wow, let's call him Roy. Looooong, complicated story, but he took me to places I had never been before, or honestly, since. He is an experienced Master and even though we didn't really practice BDSM the few times we were together, it was obvious that he was very in-tune with my body and knew exactly what to do and how to do it. It's really hard to explain any better than that.

#1 - Of course that would be my husband. Those who remember my past and such will understand why I say "of course." He and I have taken sex to a different level - explored BDSM heavily (another long story for another time), tried other new things, actually MADE LOVE, etc.

I have only been with one woman, and it was great and I want more, so if I over-thought this I would probably end up placing her here some place too, but my puppy is attacking my fingers as I try to type so I guess I better leave my list as it is and go play with him.

OK, I need to clarify: I was with Yankee once, as in one general time, but we had variations of sex more than once during that time. Let's call it a vacation-fling, if you know what I mean.

[mailahn97]

Here is an interesting point. I was talking with the #1 on my list and we were discussing this topic. Now I am curious as to the rankings on a few levels. First off if your current partner or spouse wasn't your #1 lover would you be honest with yourself and admit that. I know some would probably say that their current partner or spouse was their #1 out of respect. Even though you have married that person or are with them doesn't mean you owe it to them to name them your #1. You could have had someone in your past that understood you on a totally different level and that placed them #1. This does not mean you do not love or care for your current lover but instead are being truly honest with yourself. Also what criteria do you use to figure out where you would rank them? Is it the emotional side, physical of pleasing and being pleased, longevity of the relationship or have you possibly mixed a lot of factors together to come up with your conclusion.

I thought that he raised a valid point and it ended up being a very interesting discussion back and forth on how people may or may not decide where to rank their lovers. So in talking we thought we would see where everyones conclusions on their ranking came from...possibly what formula they used to figure it out.

[sass]

Here is an interesting point. I was talking with the #1 on my list and we were discussing this topic. Now I am curious as to the rankings on a few levels. First off if your current partner or spouse wasn't your #1 lover would you be honest with yourself and admit that. I know some would probably say that their current partner or spouse was their #1 out of respect. Even though you have married that person or are with them doesn't mean you owe it to them to name them your #1. You could have had someone in your past that understood you on a totally different level and that placed them #1. This does not mean you do not love or care for your current lover but instead are being truly honest with yourself. Also what criteria do you use to figure out where you would rank them? Is it the emotional side, physical of pleasing and being pleased, longevity of the relationship or have you possibly mixed a lot of factors together to come up with your conclusion.

I thought that he raised a valid point and it ended up being a very interesting discussion back and forth on how people may or may not decide where to rank their lovers. So in talking we thought we would see where everyones conclusions on their ranking came from...possibly what formula they used to figure it out.

I love the way you two read my mind! I wonder about the whole ranking of current spouse thing too. I mean, it is possible that you had totally awesome sex life with someone who you just could not marry or stay married to. Would you admit to your current SO, or yourself, that there was someone better than them? That would take a lot of guts, and down-deep honestly, I think.

I personally had to think hard on that when I ranked my #2 and #1. I think, and this is probably way too much honesty, that if my #2 and I had been together more than three times, he might have been #1. He and I connected on a mental level, I think because of his BDSM experience, that I have had with no other man, not even my husband (and he knows that). He took such incredible notice of every moan, whimper, move, and acted on it before I knew what he was doing. He made love to my mind and my body, that is what makes him rank high.

My husband ranks #1 because of the connection we have in and out of bed. He always makes sure I am satisfied, which isn't always easy, and he has explored so many areas with me, with very good results, that our time together is so much more than sex quite often. There are times I tell him "fuck me like you bought me" (I know you loved that one, LL), and he does. Then there are times he makes love to me without even having to use his cock. It is the range of what we experience that got him the top ranking.

With my two #3s, it had a lot to do with the timing that they were in my life. They both, in their own ways, helped me to learn a lot about me, and I am all about self-knowledge. So what each of them gave me was much more than just great sex, they gave me knowledge.

I don't know if that answers your questions, Shorty, but it was kind of fun to think about and write about.

[Mikayla1]

OK, so now that a few answers have been added, I will add mine.

I am sure that many of you might find this to be an interesting and oxymoronic answer, but here goes.

(#3) The third position on my list of lovers has to go to by ex-GIRLFRIEND, Mia. I have to consider her one of my top 3 because she was my best female lover. We shared an intimacy that has been unmatched by any other. She showed me the sheer enjoyment and range of female sex. She allowed me to come to terms with my own bi-sexuality. She showed me just how different and magical female sex could be. She was extremely tender, loving, intimate and erotic. I had an attraction to her that has been unmatched by any other female. I was extremely comfortable with her. In some ways she showed me how important it is to sink into your own sexualness - to be who you are sexually speaking. She was not my first female lover or lover in general, but as far as my top 3 goes, she will always hold the spot as someone who brought me closer to myself.

(#2) The second spot has to go to my ex-fiance (the one I was engaged to before my HB). He and I were rawly sexual. I was his mistress (don't judge people, there is a lot of information to go along with that including that his wife was cheating on him and I knew it). When I got into a room with him I just wanted sex. I was extraordinarily attracted to him. We had that 'rip your panties off and fuck for hours' kind of sex. He was in-tune with my body and could make me cum in seconds with his tongue or fingers. He was extremely sexual - touchy - and no afraid to experiment sexually. He had a HUGE cock - and was very good at using it. He had stamina like no other lover I have had. He literally could have sex for hours and hours and hours. He would bounce back quickly from orgasm, and in the meantime was very able to bring me to climax with his other assets. He would leave me breathless and sated but always wanting more. The problem with him was, I wasn't enough - he cheated on me (and yes, I think it was Karma) and to this day whenever we speak or run into each other, we both KNOW that we were so perfect in bed and both miss it (cause hey, I am nothing to smirk at in the sack either!)

(#1) Ahhh, the coveted first spot. No, it is not my hubby. Listen folks, I love my husband. He is a good lover. He is a tender and caring lover. However, he is not and never could be my BEST lover. Why? Well, the first spot goes to Bondage Guy - the man I had a 7 year DOM/sub relationship with. yes, he was the devil incarnate and took liberties with me no man should ever take. However, sexually speaking he was THE BEST lover I have ever had. He introduced me to sex - real sex. He introduced me to multiple-orgasm. He introduced me to the pain/pleasure connection. He introduced me to what it means to be sexually connected to your body and mind. He showed me how to sink so far into myself that my entire body felt like it was on pins and needles with excitement. He introduced me to toy play. He introduced me to porn. In introduced me to voyeurism and sexual freedom. This man was completely responsible for who I am sexually. I know, without a doubt, that he formed my who sexual identity. I became an overt, sexual, pleasure seeking woman because of his influences. He was extreme, he was rough, he was demanding - but, at the time, that was what I needed, wanted and desired. The most important thing that he did that causes him to slide into the Number 1 slot was he allowed me to be ME. He allowed me and encouraged me to masturbate, to seek out what makes me feel good. He taught me the value of a good blowjob. He taught me the value of seduction. He taught me the skills I needed to be a very, very good lover. So, without him, I would not be me. He has to take the #1 spot!

My husband is in a class by himeself, but as for being 1 of my top 3 - nope, not even close. Sorry honey - you know I love ya!