Newbie atltri4food Posted April 9, 2011 Newbie Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 My wife and I like to spice up our sex life by watch porn every now and again. Most of the time, we will lay on the couch together, naked, under a blanket and we’ll both touch each other after a couple of scenes. It’s absolutely great for foreplay. For the last year, I’ve noticed that when a girl/girl scene comes on, my wife gets a lot wetter than normal. It has become pretty noticeable. Should I ask her about this? My wife is not the most open person and most of the time I have to really work on her to talk about her sexual fantasies. I mean, I don’t want to ruin our time together by asking her questions about if she is bi-curious but she seems to be getting turned on a lot more by the girl on girl scenes. Just curious as to what you guys out there think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted April 10, 2011 Members Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Maybe you could start with an indirect approach, something like "what types of scenes do you like the best?" Also maybe do it outside the bedroom (or off of the couch). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Many women, myself included, LOVE watching girl on girl scenes. I freely admit to it. However, even if a woman likes porn, she may be hesitant to admit to liking it. Why? Because then our lovers may think that we may want to actually be with a woman instead of them, which is normally not the case.Does this mean something bad? NO!!! It doesn't. I think most of us women are, on some level, bi-curious. Meaning that she may wonder what it would be like to be with another woan. Let's face it. For most men, even the most "studly", the woman's body is a mountain of mysteries. No 2 women are exactly alike. We aren't like cars, where all the parts work & respond the same. Our equipment may be the same, but it may take a different kind of technique to get us off from your last lover. Women that sleep with other women KNOW what a woman likes, and aren't afraid to ask.Is it a bad idea to ask her about it? Depends on how you ask. If you have an accusational tone to your voice when you ask, then you risk shutting her off to porn all together. I think it's fantastic that she's open-minded and willing to watch porn. I believe, and this is my personal opinion, that women are brought up to believe that porn is degrating to women, and that if you enjoy watching it, then there's something wrong with you and you aren't on the "Feminine Bandwagon" so to speak.If it were me, I would find an all girl DVD, put it in as a surprise (cuz most of us women KNOW that men like to watch girl on girl action), and see if it triggers any response from her, verbally and physically. She may want to watch just that one! Where The Boys Aren't has a bunch of levels to it, and I have about 3 of them. ALL girl on girl action. Also, there's the Hot Pink series, I believe there are 2 of those, and those are really good as well. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted April 11, 2011 Members Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 I agree with Tyger---you should come out and ask her. (in the right way) I have always loved watching porn and especially watching women. It is a HUGE turn on for me. It does take awhile to build up the trust needed to talk openly about this. For some women, they may think that there is something wrong with them---or think perhaps they may be bi-sexual or even a lesbian if they admit they enjoy watching women and are turned on by it. It's completely normal and trust me---- there are LOTS more women out there who enjoy watching other women than are willing to admit !!It will definitely add to your relationship if you can share some of your fantasies. Maybe start out by telling her that you think it's really hot watching 2 women together. See if you can get her to gradually open up to you about how she really feels about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 12, 2011 Members Report Share Posted April 12, 2011 Direct approach is the best. Make sure when you bring it up it's a generic time, that way it may feel less threatening to her, and she'll be more open and communicative in the discussion. Let us know how it all works. Good luck!*just an afterthought:Because someone get turned on by something, anything doesn't necessary mean want to indulge in the activity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Review Team sass Posted April 18, 2011 Review Team Report Share Posted April 18, 2011 I agree with what the others here have said, and would only add that sometimes we get excited by things that we were not aware would have that affect until it happens. I never thought male-on-male would do anything for me until I watched a movie (not a porn but very spicy) that had a non-gay male-on-male scene. I nearly had to change my panties! And I never thought I would get anything from being with a woman until I talked to someone about it, and then tried it. So don't assume that your wife just doesn't want to talk about it - she may not have realized she would be aroused by girl-on-girl until it happened. If you have had a similar experience with something, that could be a way to open the subject. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mudshark Posted April 23, 2011 Members Report Share Posted April 23, 2011 My wife and I love to watch different porn scenes to correspond with how we feel at the time. Often, she wants to watch women on women. She is admittedly very bi-curious, and we fantasize together about it. Why do I like porn? Maybe it's 'cause I'm a sucker for happy endings! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie Nebrakadesra Posted July 13, 2011 Newbie Report Share Posted July 13, 2011 To be honest, you have nothing to worry about (assuming you have a healthy sexual relationship). Most women I know (myself included) are turned on by girl-on-girl action and some (... myself included) have even tried it on for size. In one of her blogs on this site, Mikayla stated that women in today's society are bred to be more open and connect easier with other women which is why you tend to see women exploring their bi-curiosity more than their male counterparts would. This is very true! Women know what women want and when we see things such as lesbian scenes in a porno we tend to... long... for those same touches because we know it gets the job done the way we want it done. Now, I am in no way saying that men are incapable of giving us what we want and satisfying us (God knows you men do!). But there's a certain satisfaction that comes with having someone read your mind. My advice? Follow what Tyger said and surprise her with an all-girl DVD. Subtly study her bodily responses (No, don't put on your galoshes and check to see if the water main between her legs has blown). Watch for quickening breaths, dilated pupils, and fidgeting (Such as her legs are moving more then normal; maybe there is a noticeable rhythmic shifting?). Does she lean more towards the TV during certain scenes? If you notice these things pay attention to what is on the screen and take mental notes for later so you can reenact that particular nibble or tongue flick for her.In summation, quell the insecurities. I highly doubt your wife is looking to taco bump. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mudshark Posted July 16, 2011 Members Report Share Posted July 16, 2011 To be honest, you have nothing to worry about (assuming you have a healthy sexual relationship). Most women I know (myself included) are turned on by girl-on-girl action and some (... myself included) have even tried it on for size. In one of her blogs on this site, Mikayla stated that women in today's society are bred to be more open and connect easier with other women which is why you tend to see women exploring their bi-curiosity more than their male counterparts would. This is very true! Women know what women want and when we see things such as lesbian scenes in a porno we tend to... long... for those same touches because we know it gets the job done the way we want it done. Now, I am in no way saying that men are incapable of giving us what we want and satisfying us (God knows you men do!). But there's a certain satisfaction that comes with having someone read your mind. My advice? Follow what Tyger said and surprise her with an all-girl DVD. Subtly study her bodily responses (No, don't put on your galoshes and check to see if the water main between her legs has blown). Watch for quickening breaths, dilated pupils, and fidgeting (Such as her legs are moving more then normal; maybe there is a noticeable rhythmic shifting?). Does she lean more towards the TV during certain scenes? If you notice these things pay attention to what is on the screen and take mental notes for later so you can reenact that particular nibble or tongue flick for her.In summation, quell the insecurities. I highly doubt your wife is looking to taco bump.Yes.......yes..yes...and yes, Neb, to answer a few of your questions! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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