Members Draven Posted July 31, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 31, 2006 my 13 yr old son found my porn stash. what should i do? i have had a talk with him about it not being wrong and nothing wrong with watching it. its more the fact that he came in mom and dads bed room. had a talk about that too. maybe i answerd my own question but kinda curious what you guys think. oh and yes i should have had it locked up and i didn't before any of the women reply to that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ambrelyn Posted July 31, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 31, 2006 I don't have a child that age, but I think you pretty well covered it. Explaining that he doesn't need to be snooping in your room, but that there's nothing wrong with having these things, or wanting to look at them. That's how I think I would handle it if in that position. And maybe find a new, better hiding place for your stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members VALERIE Posted August 1, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 1, 2006 my 13 yr old son found my porn stash. what should i do? i have had a talk with him about it not being wrong and nothing wrong with watching it. its more the fact that he came in mom and dads bed room. had a talk about that too. maybe i answerd my own question but kinda curious what you guys think. oh and yes i should have had it locked up and i didn't before any of the women reply to that THE TALK WAS THE IMPORTANT PART, & YOU COVERD IT. AS LONG AS YOU TOLD PUT A LOCK ON STUFF LIKE THAT YOUR ALL GOOD. KIDS HIS AGE DO UNDERSTAND THAT THINGS LIKE THAT ARE FOR ADULTS, BUT THE CURIOUSITY IS NORMAL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members telecom69 Posted August 2, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 Lets all not be to gullible and naive. Many of your kids probably have found your porn stash, or heard strange buzzing (vibes) sounds coming from your rooms when you thought they were asleep. You just don't know it. Sure, its disrespectful and an invasion of your privacy, but it happens. My now 20 yr old son when he was 15 found our porn stash. Ex wife did not push the lock in all the way. I was pretty sure a porn video was gone, but we didn't approach him about it then. He told us a couple of yrs later. Your kids will look and think of you in a different way. Mom and dad aren't supposed to do that in their minds.Telecom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted August 2, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 Well I have been there a few times. My children are 17,16,15,9, and 3. They are all boys but the nine yr old. I have to agree with Telecom 69. I am sure that, exspecially teens have gone threw their parents room etc long before you caught them. I have my stuff locked up now and under the double doors of my bed, the doors are locked also. You did the right thing with talking, that is about the only thing you can do is have a talk with them, and you know I also have a key lock on my bedroom door. I know that sounds a little extreme but hey it is my room. Here is my little story, my 16year old son asked if he could use our bathroom since his sister was in the one downstairs, well not only did he use the bathroom but I noticed later that day that a few porn movies were missing. So I talked to hubby and we went to my son. He didn't deny it in the least. In fact he knew that he wasn't in trouble for that but was waiting to find out what we were going to do about him going in the closet. I told him he wasn't in trouble for that it was a little bit of our fault to. We left it out in plane view on the shelve in our closet, he didn't have to hunt for it, it was easily viewable from the bathroom mirror. Well we talked and got threw it no problem, in fact we had a talk with all the older ones that night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Valntyn Posted August 2, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 Talking about the respect of privacy is probably the best thing you could do. A teenager's going to be a teenager -- full of curiousity. I remember sneaking into my mom's bedroom to poke around (disappointingly finding nothing of interest *chuckle*) when I was a teen. Sounds like you already know you need to do some shopping for a lockbox or something, so I won't comment (much) on that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Draven Posted August 2, 2006 Author Members Report Share Posted August 2, 2006 OH i grabbed all the movies and put them in the foot locker that we have in the closet< but they do keep askin about the big eye hook in the ceiling (thats for the swing) but i keep telling them its for plants . yes kids will be kids. this kinda new territory for me my dad and me where not very close and i made a promise to myself that i would be close with my boys. it was very weird for me to talk to him cause i didn't know how to approach it. and thank you for all the comments on this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Valntyn Posted August 3, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 3, 2006 but they do keep askin about the big eye hook in the ceiling (thats for the swing) but i keep telling them its for plants Hahahaha -- quick thinking! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted August 3, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 3, 2006 Hey Draven, being that I have 5 children, 3 are teens. Talking about this kind of stuff has become easy to me the very first time I talked with my children it didn't seem weird or hard for me since I am extremely confidant in myself and my sex life, and have always had that open door policy. The best advice I can give to talking about sex, along with all that goes with it, is make sure that you are honest about everything even with the questions that might come up. For exsample my son asked me if I have ever been in a FFM situtation I of course told him the truth. I find the easiest way to talk to children is first you have to be calm, and feel extremely secure about your sexuality and what you do in your sex life, let the child see that you are not emberassed in anyway. Heck I had to talk with my 9year old girl who has started PMS way to young in my eyes. We talked about the horney(per say) feeling ect, covered masterbation,sex and everything that comes with it. Yes I am sure I am going to catch a little grief from somesone, but hey with puberty comes alot of responsibility, we can't judge what age it will come at. When I grew up my parents didn't talk to me about anything, I learned it from my friends and that I think was the worst. All my children now have had the TALK, except for the 3year old, think he is alot to young Start slow and never lie to a child or mislead them when it comes to sex etc.. Heck he has already found the porn, and most children do regardless of what we do. Anyway, I just wanted to give you a few little hits on how to talk to your child, I know it is hard for alot of people exspecially when the children are at such a young age. Good Luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members allit Posted August 4, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 4, 2006 I remember when my dad found my porn supply when I was 13. I had to sit him down and have a long talk with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kcoxsuckah Posted August 8, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 I can remember finding my dad's nudie magazine like it was yesterday. It was summer break and I went to work with him and had a girlfriend tag along. He had to go to the office on the hill and left us there alone and of course not LOOKING for what we found, it was great finding it. Right to the ADULT FORUMS and I've been hooked ever since. That was 1976. You do the math. I'm forty now I love ADULT FORUMS. I think a healthy attitute is also required with a healthy sex life and if you've taken the time to write, I'm sure you have both. Relax, it'll be alright. Just don't show embarrasment. Or act like it's a forbidden subject. My mom wouldn't let me see ANY sexual ed classes the school offered and I think I turned out alright. I have a porno collection most men are envious of. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Draven Posted August 8, 2006 Author Members Report Share Posted August 8, 2006 the math doesn't work out. i was born in 1970 and i am 36 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kcoxsuckah Posted August 9, 2006 Members Report Share Posted August 9, 2006 Okay, so I was ten. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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