Am I sick for liking these things?

[Cookie360]

I love watching rape porn but I feel like its a strange and bad thing to do. I don't want to be raped by a stranger and I don't want anyone to be raped. whats wrong with me?

[RC4BLUE]

It seems to be a fairly common area of erotic interest. Only in fantasy does it work for most. The reality of rape is horrible. It may be that you are attracted to the dominance (or the submission). 

 

Thsi is is not my areas of interest for erotic imagery. Personally anything without consent  is not attractive.

[Cookie360]

6 hours ago, RC4BLUE said:

It seems to be a fairly common area of erotic interest. Only in fantasy does it work for most. The reality of rape is horrible. It may be that you are attracted to the dominance (or the submission). 

 

Thsi is is not my areas of interest for erotic imagery. Personally anything without consent  is not attractive.

What do you mean Dominance or Submission?

[Guest Mrs.BettyCrocker]

Hi Cookie360,

Thanks for posting! "Rape" or "Force" fantasies consistently rank among the top fantasies that women admit to, so don't feel like you're alone in your desires. I *think* RC4Blue is talking about the giving up of control that many women find appealing. Dominant often refers to the controlling partner in a bondage or bdsm scene, while the submissive partner is the one who is being tied up (or forced in this situation).

Many women, myself included, find that the idea of being overpowered by a strong male partner appealing, but I obviously don't want to be raped by a stranger. It's a gray line of "consenting non-consent", the idea of saying no to someone with whom you've already established that no means yes. You should always use a safe-word in that kind of scene, so that there is no confusion if things need to stop. [Safe words should be something that wouldn't come up normally in the scene... ie. Screaming out "Broccoli!" during sex would be a signal to stop immediately] There is a HUGE difference between agreeing to a forced sex fantasy and actual rape, so don't feel guilty about enjoying one while understanding the terrible realities of the other.

Don't feel bad or "sick" about it at all! There are SO many others who share your feelings and understand the difference between two consenting adults acting out an erotic scene and a true non-consensual crime.

- Ali

[Cookie360]

 

1 hour ago, Mrs.BettyCrocker said:

Hi Cookie360,

Thanks for posting! "Rape" or "Force" fantasies consistently rank among the top fantasies that women admit to, so don't feel like you're alone in your desires. I *think* RC4Blue is talking about the giving up of control that many women find appealing. Dominant often refers to the controlling partner in a bondage or bdsm scene, while the submissive partner is the one who is being tied up (or forced in this situation).

Many women, myself included, find that the idea of being overpowered by a strong male partner appealing, but I obviously don't want to be raped by a stranger. It's a gray line of "consenting non-consent", the idea of saying no to someone with whom you've already established that no means yes. You should always use a safe-word in that kind of scene, so that there is no confusion if things need to stop. [Safe words should be something that wouldn't come up normally in the scene... ie. Screaming out "Broccoli!" during sex would be a signal to stop immediately] There is a HUGE difference between agreeing to a forced sex fantasy and actual rape, so don't feel guilty about enjoying one while understanding the terrible realities of the other.

Don't feel bad or "sick" about it at all! There are SO many others who share your feelings and understand the difference between two consenting adults acting out an erotic scene and a true non-consensual crime.

- Ali

Thank you I've been struggling with this for a while, since I grew up in a family where sex was wrong and masturbation was super wrong it was hard for me to really understand the whole thing. Its true I do like thing like BDSM and thing like that.

[Guest Mrs.BettyCrocker]

No problem! Thank you for posting! I know it can be difficult to put yourself out there, even anonymously, but for every person who posts, there are 10 who are too afraid to even do that! You may have helped many others who are feeling the same way but couldn't put it into words!

[eye4eye69]

personally I enjoy the "forced" aspect, but in fantasy only, one thing I like about pornography and erotic stories is you can explore your desires/thoughts/etc in a safe place/way

[Tyger]

No, you're definitely NOT sick for this!!!! There's a huge difference between fantasy and real life. Fantasies, even when played out, are with a trusted lover, that you are comfortable with, attracted to, and wanting sexually. The whole taboo with sex/masturbation, especially growing up, can be harmful to one's sexuality in the future.

Think of it this way: aren't some of the most happiest couples more sexually active, adventurous, and flirty with each other?

Getting excited out of porn is more of a closeted guilty pleasure. Again, it's a safe way to live some of your fantasies. You're really NOT sick.

[12GAUGE]

Cookie360 you should definitely listen to Tyger as she KNOWS what she's yakkin' about. HAY EVERYONE!! I'M BAAAAAAAAAAACCCKKK!!!  An email no 2 emails from TT I seen when checking my email acct today. I seldom check it as most of it (98% is spam or spam like) but I like to keep my hand in so to speak.

Cookie's predicament reminds me of my own youth. OK some history for newcomers here. I am retired and 63. I grew up in a very conservative household during the 1950s and 1960s till I was thrown from the nest at 21. Talk about a sheltered life. No sex education in school in 1970 good lord NO. Girls got the introduction to menstruation in the 5th grade. What did we boys get? We got 45 minutes of RECESS!!!!!!! YAY!!!!

I was 11 or 12 the first time I saw my 1st PLAYBOY while waiting to get a haircut. That was the beginning of my sex education in 1964. I found an old mayonaise jar in my heat vent in my room around 16 with 4 or 6 hand written pages of flat out EROTICA. I spent 4 or 5 days reading them before my Mom found them and they were gone from me forever. But the words and phrases were LOCKED IN MY BRAIN and I am 125% confident my LOVE for collars black stockings girdles with garters and extremely short pleated skirts with over the knee white stockings turned me into the sex crazed maniac I morphed into.

So getting back to the present I grew up sexually repressed so I think Cookie360 and I share a mutual bond. In more ways than one. Last year by an extreme train load of GOOD LUCK I found and met a retired lady who down the road wants me to do a scene with her whereby I rape her basically all night long. Now she like me loves the Kinky Lifestyle and were it possible as well as practical would live the Kink Lifestyle 24/7. She LOVES to be SPANKED which TBT makes my pecker hard as rock just thinking on it. I haven't told her this but I can't wrap my head around this. I'm a mellow old dude who don't go looking to hurt folks. Other than hanging out with friends I just wanna be left alone to do my own thing. But when I spent a weekend with her last year her and me did most of the stuff she said she wanted to do and I sure as shit had a most wunnerful time!! She loves a cock in her mouth and loves to be submissive. She is my first sub/slave type and I am sure it is due to my childhood my head is kinda broken. I hope that makes sense to folks here.

I wish Cookie did not live so far away from me. It wood be great fun for me to meet a young woman who is a closeted Kinkster. It wasn't until around 1993-94 I told a current at that time gf some of my guilty kinky loves and despite my misgivings for telling her  she was quite receptive to the point where we out shopping for super sexy lingerie and tho she was quite perfect in every way for me our lovemaking advanced to a higher level of epic epicness. I trust you know what I mean. Ask Tyger. I am a hillbilly country boy. I AIN'T apologizing. Some might say I am a Redneck. They'd be right. I AM A REDNECK I am just a mellow Redneck.

Cookie you might want to checkout this website FetishLife.com . It is where I met my ladyfriend who loves to be spanked and enjoys rape scenes.  Yo your advantage FL has what they call **Meet and Greets** all over America. I've been to several. Held in restaurants and cocktail lounges I always had fun. It's just like getting with your coworkers after a tough day in the salt mines having a couple of drinks and shooting the shit. You just might find the man or woman of your fantasies and wet dreams. Good Luck Cookie and don't sweat your sexual desires. 

 

[Tyger]

Thanks 12GAUGE. Welcome back!!!