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Emily

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  1. 1. Have you had a threesome? Did you enjoy it if so?

    • Yes, and I enjoyed it
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    • Yes, but I did not enjoy it
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    • No, but I'm open to trying
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    • No, and I have no desire to try
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Hey all!

In light of Demi Moore exposing Ashton Kutcher for pressuring her into threesomes while they were married, we thought we'd start a discussion on the topic of threesomes. Have you ever tried a threesome or group sex scenario? If yes, did you enjoy it and continue to seek more experiences out? Or was it just not for you? Did you feel pressured into one by your partner, like Demi? Are you too afraid to broach the subject with your partner for fear of how they would react? All answers are welcome, no judgment! Please share your stories and experiences! 

 

I personally have never had a threesome but my partner and I are open to the idea, for us its just mainly an issue of finding someone we like and trust. I'd love to hear from others who have had this experience! 

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I've always been open to the idea of threesomes but I never have because I got to caught up in the "what-if's" of it all and became really nervous. It's definitely not something that I am ruling out, though!

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I wish I could put a vote in for "I've done it and enjoyed it" AND "I've done it and haven't enjoyed it" - for the most part, I have found it enjoyable, but in my experience, it has always been problematic in some sort of way on my end, or the couples' end.

I have been in relationships where my partner wanted to have a FFM or MMF, and I just did not enjoy any of them. It was 100% consensual on all ends, but I was left feeling insecure just seeing someone else with my partner or knowing my partner got off watching me with someone else. I can write an entire list of why, but that sums up those scenarios. I don't care to ever have a threesome again as someone who is in a relationship. There is a lot I am "into" into the bedroom, and when I am involved in a relationship, I do not care to share my partner in any way sexually. It just really does not turn me on, but I know many couples that truly LOVE the thought of their partner with someone else or being turned on by someone else.

-BUT!- When I was single, I was involved as a third for many threesomes, and I thought it was SO much fun. There -IS- a "right" way to do it. I literally had rules set out. It made me feel like I was getting action, but not getting emotionally attached in any way to anyone or doing any work to find someone. I felt it to be so freeing and I felt sexually empowered. I loved it. You can't get involved in any way and you have to just accept yourself as an "accessory." When you get in deeper than that, you will end up disappointed. If you can get your mindset right as a "3rd" it can be SO much fun.

^^With all of this said, in my experience, it always ended up with one of the parties involved in the "relationship" part of the threesome messaging me or trying to contact me outside of our "dates"??? It always made me uncomfortable, and I would make sure to tell the other person (NO secrets, ever!) and that pretty much ended everything and it would cause a huge fight between the couples. One of my rules was that if any of that were to happen, I will NOT take sides and you won't hear from me again. That's what happened. I always made it clear that I never wanted to be the reason to potentially split a marriage or a relationship in any way.

This is my experience. I could write pages and pages of my personal experience on threesomes. Overall, I've found it to be problematic for the couples involved, not necessarily the "3rd." I feel I've had a fair amount of experience on both sides to say it's been problematic. (In MY experience.) Unless there was a way for the "third" to have no connection/name/means of communication outside of the bedroom, I think that's the only true way to enjoy it and keep it 100% SEXUAL.

So, for the sake of not writing a BOOK, my vote is just "No...unless you can be the third when you're thriving, single and not giving AF."  lol

I'd love to see other's experiences! Thanks for posting, @Emily!

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The closest I've ever got to a three some was a circle jerk when I was a teenager a young teenager. From everything I've heard it usually ends bad. And honestly I'm just to committed to my wife, I've often fantasized about being with different people and doing things she is not into but that's as far as it goes for me. I know for sure she would never do it either. One time before we were married we got a little to tipsy when we were visiting my friend and his girlfriend. We all got into the hot tub and lets just say three of the four were ready to do a little swapping. His girlfriend and I were getting a little handsy and my friend started to make his move on mine. As soon as she realized what was going on the party was over. Sorry got of track a bit but no three some dont work if two of the people are already commited in the relationship.

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Im very lucky to be married to a woman who also loves women as much as i do. In our relationship we have our rules which are so easy to follow. 1. We both have to be attracted to the female we are inviting into our playtime. 2. We dont play without each other, we both have to be involved or its a no go. 3. Relationships are not made with said female, when the playtime is over she goes her separate way. 4. No other guys period and my wife is very ok with this rule, she is the one that is Bi i am straight. 5. i must wear protection, i do not want to bring any stds to my wife and family. 6. No drugs, no drama period. All this works out perfect, there is never a need or want to cheat because whenever we feel the need to have someone we just find someone together. Ive been head over heals in love with my wife for the last 10 years and i grow more in love with her each day and i never once thought about cheating on her and for the first time in my life i feel i can totally trust the person i married.....shes even 9 years younger than i am and more mature than anyone i have ever met. Im also a Boudoir Photographer and she loves to help me with my shoots because she loves being part of the beautiful creative process. All that being said we dont have threesomes all the time...in 10 years we have had a threesome once, we dont actively seek it out because its not needed, we love each other and we are each others favorite person ever. We do love to check out other women in public together though, we will go out to eat and my wife will tap me on the shoulder to look at some other woman walking by and whatnot. I have the best wife and would never want another and would never jeapardise what we have. Also its not an easy thing to just find a woman to have a threesome with its actually very difficult. Our first and only encounter was also amazing, we got very lucky and had a very beautiful red headed girl with green eyes meet us for drinks so we could get to know each other a little and then we went to our home and played all night....i loved seeing my wife play with another woman and was so happy that she was able to have that. We talk about finding another woman again a lot but we are of a mind that if it happens it happens if it dont it dont, it will someday were sure. Anyway......thats our little story.

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Thanks for the great answers everyone! I really appreciate you all sharing your experiences and takes on this topic! 

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Threesomes are very sexy i had one with my wife and another female when we used to go to swinger clubs it was amazing. Then i seen my wife with another girl and get off with her that was very hot and sexy. She wants a 3some with me and another guy so were trying to find another couple so we can try it.  

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My wife is bisexual and I love her for her and that's that's I want her to be happy and I know she still wants to be with women from time to time she loves watching girl on girl porn she talks dirty to me about it and I told her she could have all the pussy she wants as long as she brings pussy home to get it so it's not like she's cheating or has secrets from me and I only want to watch her be sexy and sex up the 3rd person up O only want her touching me...she is scared to do it even though she wants to because she thinks I will end up fucking her girl eating her out I really want her to understand I only have eyes for her

 

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I've never had a threesome but very often I have fantasized about it. Being with 2 men or 2 women or a man & woman.   I'm open to it!

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Have done it and thoroughly enjoyed it . As much as I enjoyed it I think my wife enjoyed the pleasure of four hands , two tongues and two different cocks even more !

I also have to admit that I enjoyed the all niter with my wife and buddy more than the one with his wife , he and i . She's extremely hot but I think the visual of my wife and her multiple orgasms was the hottest thing I've ever experienced .

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On 9/12/2020 at 3:09 AM, SexMaster said:

When I was single yes. In a committed relationship no. I just think it's easier to do this as a single person. Feelings are the killer. 

I feel the same way

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A threesome is a awesome thing if you are having it with good friend with benefits. Not to just jump in to bed with just anyone, you first need to get to know each other and there likes and dislikes. And try not to get any mixed feelings for your one you are adding to your sex life. Keep it only sexual and fun,  as not to break up anyone's marriage. For Mandy and I their is nothing better than a good hot FMF or a MFM THREESOME

                 Dewey and Mandy C

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On 10/1/2019 at 2:20 PM, Emily said:

Hey all!

In light of Demi Moore exposing Ashton Kutcher for pressuring her into threesomes while they were married, we thought we'd start a discussion on the topic of threesomes. Have you ever tried a threesome or group sex scenario? If yes, did you enjoy it and continue to seek more experiences out? Or was it just not for you? Did you feel pressured into one by your partner, like Demi? Are you too afraid to broach the subject with your partner for fear of how they would react? All answers are welcome, no judgment! Please share your stories and experiences! 

 

I personally have never had a threesome but my partner and I are open to the idea, for us its just mainly an issue of finding someone we like and trust. I'd love to hear from others who have had this experience! 

I would love to have a awesome experience with a couple or maybe even a 4some !!! Dewey and Mandy C

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I had a few as a single unattached man in my younger years. Here the thing. It helps if your bi.  Someone has to be willing to do it with both genders. I think it be best if all three are open to exploring  that area if they not bi. If your unattached you got nothing to loose assuming your all friends and have attraction to each other in some way. Not necessarily romantic interests. If love involved with a couple and it a first time for them yea there going to be probably some jealous feelings that could lead to a break up. Not worth it . Now as for me it was fun but fizzled because it was empty. They were with friends but I realized sex without love or possibility was  to me meaningless. I find the love part is what makes the difference between a good time and not so good time.  Keeping the stimulation was hard for me. 

 

But I always wanted to do it with a bi couple that was experinced and I was curious. When I was in my 30 everyone wanted to be with someone older and now I older the younger crowd at 30 wanted to be with their own age  from the ads I saw. Now I married I wont do it unless my wife has an interest and she dosnt seem too although she said once she might try it if we was single and unattached. Nothing to loose. I attracted to women primarily and not really attracted to men  although I cant say I never saw a guy that for one reason or another did not have me wondering what it might be like . I seen some of them bi mmf videos where she was was involved at just the right level to get them guys doing it with a gleem of pleasure in her eye that made me want to be part of that action. while I like oral and anal with women, and want to be pegged by women, anal with men  as a giver dosnt stimulate me. getting it I dont know. Getting sucked by a guy I not sure if I can but do I want to suck yes. sucking the couple yes. I think my fantasies with femdom is rooted with this fantasy. 

 

The attraction to the partners has to be there, But fantasy is often better then reality. If I can say one thing about fantasy is it put me in the mood and acts at my age like viagra. I dont tell my wife about this fantasy and she not telling me hers. she smiles when I say tell me about the thoughts in your head and she stays quiet. insecure I think so but I hesitant to tell her about my bi curious side too although she suspects that I know. One thing I noticed when we have sex and she feels me getting soft is she sticks her fingers in my mouth and all of a sudden I get harder and the cum gets forced out of me. My ex girlfriends used to do the same thing except they would slip that finger in my ass. I enjoy those fingers. Non of the ladies I was with before my wife ever complained about me licking my cum off and they never seemed grossed out. I know my wife gets turn on by it because once I cum she says suck it out  and gets wetter. I have some fantasy immages of seeing her sucking a guy while we doing it and I think if she wanted too I would let her. At my age I could use the help but when I told her that I think she thought I was kidding. She says she not sure she could deal with seeing me with someone else.  

 

Now when I was  20, horny, lonely, and looking and looking through swing mags  try it keep in mind hiv was new on the scene and the aids scare was starting. There risks at different levels. I see people including couples come in all the time looking for std testing where I work and neither mad with the other. I once had three people come in so I can guess what  was on their mind.  A lot of std floating out there and people not protected.  It a dangerous thing but if you want to do it I say search for a couple with same interests and get to know them and become friends before going for it. 

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I'm totally open to a MFM threesome, with me as the female in the sexy sandwich. I've never had one, still a virgin too. I just like the idea of being squished between two hot guys!

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@KirinQueenwelcome to the forum. I hope you get the experience all your sexual desires. Looked at your profile page and there is nothing there. You said you're still a virgin but have you been experiencing self-pleasuring orgasms?

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