I Finally Tried My Toy....

[Sarahangel]

Hey all I finally got to try out my toy "The Crystal Snow Bear" and um I got nothing i've tried all sorts of positions and what not but still not even a hint of an orgasm. I don't know what i'm doing wrong or if i'm not doing enough but i'm really disappointed anyways I thought I'd ask for advice here before I drive myself crazy and chuck the damn bear out my window!!!

[Tyger]

Well, first, congrats on being able to get your toy without your mother opening it up!!

Anyway, from the level of frustration in your post, I am thinking that you're probably trying a bit too hard to achieve an orgasm. Orgasms aren't guaranteed by just the purchase of an adult toy, unfortunately. This may be a bit too much toy for you for your first toy, too. There's a lot of stimulation there!

I know you're also worried about privacy from your mother walking in. Orgasms can't be rushed.

I haven't tried this item, but have read the reviews. Did you try pushing down on it, pressing it harder onto you? Does it give you any pleasure at all? Relax, keep trying. It may just sneak up on you one time!!

All of these are suggestions. I hope they help a little bit at least!!

[Sarahangel]

Hey Tyger and Howard

Well to answer your questions I start off laying on my back and just holding the toy inside me with my hands starting at the lowest vibration and working my way up (can't figure out the stupid straps lol) The clit stimulator kind hurts when I press it against my clit like I feel my clit getting sort of aroused and pushed the clit stimulator against it and it hurt a liittle so I backed off. I have the main part inserted in my vagina..not moving it in and out or anything because I kept falling out of my tiny hand lol. The Anal stimulator however is what I feel the most pleasurable albeit minor sensations from, when I can get it right there. I will get up on my hands and knees and when I get tired of that I put a towel over a pillow and straddle the thing. But after an hour or so I am fully frustrated and wind up giving up. strangely enough after I take the toy out, I feel all tingly and excited and feel the need to masturbate by hand. I do it but the orgasm (if you want to call it that) is dull, the build up providing more pleasure than the actual orgasm

I seriously lube the toy up, do all the breathing and teasing like Mikayla suggests in her articles but the relaxing part, after reading Howard's post is probably what is stopping me from enjoying this. And with the vibrator not being so quiet I think that amplifies my fear of getting caught. So I decided to buy a second more easier and quieter Vibrator~ Lucid Dream #54 g-spot vibe I think its called because I think Tyger is right about "The crystal Snow Bear" being to much stimulation for me a beginner.

Relaxing for me is quite easy being a dancer with stage frieght issues and being able to over come that, but here at home masturbating (or trying atleast) and being afraid of getting caught...I really shouldn't be because my mom actually doesn't come into my room at night..I thought she might but she hasn't..but I hear her walking by at night on her way to the bathroom and will stop no matter how good it may be feeling. I know what really scares me though...its the not knowing how loud i'm going to be when I actually have my first really good and strong orgasm and if I'll be able to muffle my sounds. The one I had at my dads was great but I still don't feel like I've had a real orgasm. I also have this body image issue...i'm overwieght was 200lbs at my heaviest and am now down to 170lbs because I was just depressed about my weight. Anyways I get naked and don't feel beautiful or worthy of this self love. I Have what I feel is an ugly Vagina and the skin on my inner thighs is dark and scarred because of the skin rubbing together and rubbing itself raw when I wear skirts and bathing suits. I've always been chubby so all the scarring is from when I was kid as well. Anyways when I open my legs its looks ugly and then my Vagina to me looks ugly and I think..who will ever want to perform oral sex on me when it looks so ugly?? it looks nothing like what you seen in porn either!!! Then there are the stretch marks from being over weight. Then I saw the my sexy labia website and got even more disheartened by my body, because my vagina looks nothing like the ones in those photos.

I do know that since finding this website I have had this new desire to want to get really aquainted with my body, learn to apreciate it scars and all.. and feel beautiful . learn where all my E-spots are and be able to bring myself to a real orgasm with just my fingers. I also want to be better prepared for when I lose my virginity and for when I get married so I know how to please my husband and him me. I want to be comfortable with having orgasms by myself and with any guy I may ever be with. Its hard though and frustrating when i can't bring myself to a decent orgasm, or feel sexy enough to be doing this kind of thing, you know rewarding myself with self admiration and love when I feel that I don't deserve it.

Not having a job, a drivers license, friends, a boyfriend, and a life...that all makes me feel like I don't deserve to have this sort of release. I haven't masturbated since I started this thread, i'm taking a break to give the genitalia a rest because its a little sore now I don't know what to do to make me change the way I feel about my body [/color]

[Mikayla1]

WHOAAAAA!!!!! Slow down girl, you have so many issues that we need to attack them all!

First, no matter what your weight - 200, 300, 150 - YOU are a beautiful person! You have to know and believe that sexiness comes from INSIDE not OUTSIDE. Sure, there will always be those people who judge simply by waist and breast size, but YOU are responsible for feeling good about you...no one else can do that for you! Gosh knows I have teetered on my weight - especially after having kids - I always felt sexy - even 9 months pregnant!

Second, YOUR LABIA IS BEAUTIFUL - PERIOD! That website has hundreds of pussies - all different, all beautiful in their own way. Even without ever seeing yours, I can guarantee it is just as beautiful as everyone elses! STOP JUDGING YOURSELF! Who is the harsh judge in your life making you feel so bad about yourself? Is it YOU or YOUR MOTHER? If it is your Mom, then STOP listening - apparently, she has more issues than YOU. If it is YOU - stop it! NOW.

Third, your problems are miniscule when compared to others. You CAN move out. You CAN get a DL. You WILL find a boyfriend. I have said it once, I am going to say it again - YOU HAVE TO BECOME YOUR OWN PERSON!!!! SO WHAT if your mother catches you playing? Too DAMN bad! LOCK your doors! You have a right to do whatever makes you happy - and YOUR mother is probably doing it too! Masturbation is natural, healthy and safe - would she begrudge you that happiness????

Stop worrying about your Mom. Even the most controlling parents have to realize that their children grow up and become adults. You are an adult - and SHE has to deal wtih that. Stop pussy footing around her and start being your own person.

Finally, orgasms with toys do not always come as quickly as you would think! If you like clitoral pleasure, then STOP going for the 3 in 1 toys. Those are for advanced players, and my dear, you are not an advanced player. Start thinkig simple - bullets, simple vibes, perhaps a dual action. DO NOT think that every toy that works for us will work for you.

As far as worrying about how loud your O will be - too bad! So you scream your head off and mom comes running to the door. Tell her you are pleasuring yourself and it feels good. What will she do - kick you out? Seriously, grow up and stand your ground.

I understand unusual circumstances, but sometimes things have gone to far and I feel like your situation has.

So, good luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for WITHIN YOURSELF!!!

Mikayla

[learningeveryday]

I understand where you're coming from. First, I had multiple problems with my genital area when I was young. I still remember a doctor telling my mother that I would never look normal. I was three years old at the time, and it must have made quite an impression on me to still remember. However, no one has ever made a comment about it. I really don't think most guys notice a little difference.

Also, the weight thing is understandable. I was over 200 pounds, and since I'm under 5 feet tall, I was very heavy. My husband at the time had no problem with my weight. I have since lost 50 pounds. But this is what I think. If a man doesn't like the way I look, he can leave. I've spent a LOT of time dealing with my own self image, and nobody else should have the power to tell you that you are not normal.

You are beautiful just the way you are. Sagging, scarring, stretch marks--they are part of life. Wear them proudly.

[MysticLady]

WHOAAAAA!!!!! Slow down girl, you have so many issues that we need to attack them all!

First, no matter what your weight - 200, 300, 150 - YOU are a beautiful person! You have to know and believe that sexiness comes from INSIDE not OUTSIDE. Sure, there will always be those people who judge simply by waist and breast size, but YOU are responsible for feeling good about you...no one else can do that for you! Gosh knows I have teetered on my weight - especially after having kids - I always felt sexy - even 9 months pregnant!

Second, YOUR LABIA IS BEAUTIFUL - PERIOD! That website has hundreds of pussies - all different, all beautiful in their own way. Even without ever seeing yours, I can guarantee it is just as beautiful as everyone elses! STOP JUDGING YOURSELF! Who is the harsh judge in your life making you feel so bad about yourself? Is it YOU or YOUR MOTHER? If it is your Mom, then STOP listening - apparently, she has more issues than YOU. If it is YOU - stop it! NOW.

Third, your problems are miniscule when compared to others. You CAN move out. You CAN get a DL. You WILL find a boyfriend. I have said it once, I am going to say it again - YOU HAVE TO BECOME YOUR OWN PERSON!!!! SO WHAT if your mother catches you playing? Too DAMN bad! LOCK your doors! You have a right to do whatever makes you happy - and YOUR mother is probably doing it too! Masturbation is natural, healthy and safe - would she begrudge you that happiness????

Stop worrying about your Mom. Even the most controlling parents have to realize that their children grow up and become adults. You are an adult - and SHE has to deal wtih that. Stop pussy footing around her and start being your own person.

Finally, orgasms with toys do not always come as quickly as you would think! If you like clitoral pleasure, then STOP going for the 3 in 1 toys. Those are for advanced players, and my dear, you are not an advanced player. Start thinkig simple - bullets, simple vibes, perhaps a dual action. DO NOT think that every toy that works for us will work for you.

As far as worrying about how loud your O will be - too bad! So you scream your head off and mom comes running to the door. Tell her you are pleasuring yourself and it feels good. What will she do - kick you out? Seriously, grow up and stand your ground.

I understand unusual circumstances, but sometimes things have gone to far and I feel like your situation has.

So, good luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for WITHIN YOURSELF!!!

Mikayla

I agree, even if I have the same problems as Virgin.

@Virgingirl: You are 27 years old, take a stand and if so, move out. Get a job and your license (This is coming from someone who is always being bitched at to do that), go to a bar, flirt with men and don't stop until one gives you their number. You need to take control of your life because all this 'guilt' you have will take a toll on you.

@Mikayla- That last paragraph about the big 'O' cracked me up ! I can so imagine that in my head.

Liesl

[Sarahangel]

Hey Everyone...

GOOD NEWS FIRST:)

i'm in the process of getting driving lessons...YAY ME!!!

BAD NEWS

I went at it with my toy again last night and um...I GOT SO FREAKING CLOSE TO ORGASMING!! I swear my body was shaking and I was starting to scream not caring at all if my mother heard me!! BUT THEN.....my batteries died The vibrator literally just stopped!!! so I quickly grabbed my TV changer and put those batteries in...Once I was vibrating again I was well on my way back towards ORGASM HEAVEN BUT.......... those batteries died too...so I jacked the batteries from my mouse and AGAIN WAS WELL ON MY WAY BACK TO ORGASM HEAVEN BUT.......those batteries died too...I swear i'm complaining to the Energizer bunny himself about his damn batteries not going and going and going!!!!! Needless to say even though I tried for 20 minutes to get to ORGASM HEAVEN just on my own hip energy it didn't happen the cool circular motion the penis head makes and the vibration combined with it...WOW lol.

Oh and I practically did a full on 1 HOUR Yoga class prior to playing with my toy...as well as watching A dvd of stand up comedy and laughing hysterically!! I was so relaxed by the time I got into my bed, and as soon as I got started I was feeling it like never before. I didn't care if my mom heard me or the toy, I didn't care if my bed creaked...I could see myself in my closet door mirrors and thought...YOU DESERVE THIS, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE AN ORGASM BEAUTIFUL!! I was so freakin relaxed it was almost euphoric...that is until three sets of batteries died on me lol!!!

I have to go to the store in the morning to buy batteries because the last 4 I had are in my mouse and tv changer lol....I think I need to invest in rechargeable batteries!!!!

[Tyger]

Congrats on ALMOST getting there!!

Question, did you use NEW batteries the first time?

How long were you using them, if they were new? New batteries should last you a little while, even from a toy that takes a lot of juice. If you use brand new batteries, and they die again, there may be some sort of short in the toy, and you can get a replacement one, since you got it here, and there is the one year guarantee!

If the batteries were new, and From what I have found, rechargable batteries don't last as long as regular batteries. But that's just my experience. There are others here that swear by them! I would recommend you get some good, quality batteries, like Duracell or Energizer.

Good luck, and I hope you get there soon!!

[Sarahangel]

Hey Tyger:)

They were Energizer batteries lol!! the first set anyways and I put them in the toy the day I got it... I had tried it 3 times only before the batteries died...but I think running it for an hour each time is why the batteries died so fast....the ones from changer and mouse were not new though.

It take me a while to start feeling anything, about 5 or 10 minutes, and like I said before I would go at it for an hour before my legs eventually start cramping up and falling asleep on me. Anyways i'm gonna get new batteries hopefully soon so I can give it another go

[WifeMomSlave]

Congrats on letting your self relax enough to enjoy your body! Its is an amazing thing to be able to make your self feel so good. Is is a great way to relax and de stress. keep up the good work, and dont forget the power of your own fingers!

[Mikayla1]

Ok honey.....let me tell you that I think you just might have the wrong toy for YOU. I mean, I know all people take different amounts of time to get to orgasm - but an hour? I wonder about that. First, I think you are still worried about your Mom and what she may or may not say or think. Second, I think that you are trying to go from 0 to 90 in no time flat. Meaning, you are not relaxing and teasing yourself before you put the toy to work. Try taking a nice bath, lighting candles, slowly touching AND THEN using the toy. Third, I think that this toy is not clitoral enough for you. Try a bullet with the toy, or go for the Dual Actions. These triple stimulation toys are not always the best for newbies.

I truly hope you can get to where you can pleasure yourself easier.....try my suggestions and get back to us.

Mikayla