B/f Into Anal Porn, But Not Into Doing!

[trixxikrissi]

My b/f really enjoys some hard core anal videos. He also likes the whole school girl thing with pigtails. Though, when we discuss this and I state I want to satisfy him in that department he tells me he likes only watching and not doing. Hello! I am his chick and want him to be into me that way too. Am I in the wrong for wanting to fufill that part in our relationship? I did the school girl thing and he really didn't get too excited. Could it just be me? Thanks for feedback!!

[Kinky Twinkie]

Welcome to the forum.

No, I don't think it is you. Your BF is telling you about his fantasies. Everyone has, and needs fantasies( at least all sane people do). He obviously has worked on this fantasy for a long time, and it both excites him, and comforts him. He can drop out of whatever is boring him or bothering him to tears, and slip off into his fantasy world and feel much better.

I think he is afraid to act out the fantasy because he is afraid to lose it in doing so. Can you understand that? If he Loses a fantasy to reality, he has to find a new fantasy! Finding a new fantasy can be hard work, and its probably easier to find a new girlfriend! ( And that is never easy.)

So, I would only hope he had the decency to thank you for trying to fulfill his fantasy, and thank you profusely, but I think this is one time when you step back. I do think its always worthwhile to explore new ideas of fantasies, and that is why we have books, TV, movies, Magazines, web sites, and our own dreams. All the world is our stage, and all the people are actors. Try surprising him with other role playing, like the French maid, or the Nurse, or the strict teacher, all of whom are wearing tight clothing that leave absolutely nothing to imagination. Does he like Action flicks, or western? How about being the fighting amazon woman in his life? Or a Cowgirl, who knows more rope tricks in the bedroom than in the pastures?

Have fun. Let us know if we can help any more.

Howard

That makes alot of sense, and I have to agree that could be it although he might not know it. some things are better fantasy and left alone. Some bridges are crossed and you wish you didn't, I have the same fantasies and wife not really into them that much but when I find myself struggling the fantasy is what gets me through a love making session without loosng erection.

I can be horney as hell as be soft but I can have a hardy and not be in the mood. I guess the wiring getting old

Glenn

[Tyger]

I would probably say that's right. You know, the thing that may turn him on in his fantasy, is such a GOOD fantasy because it's exactly how he wants it (in his mind). So, if the real thing happened, it would never live up to what's been created in his head.

I guess it would kinda compare to how something is sooooo hyped up on the TV, or your friends, like the shoes that are just to DIE for! They're hot, cute, affordable, and in style. Everyone has some. You get a pair finally, and they are the most UNCOMFORTABLE pair of shoes ever to torture your fee. Or that restaurant that everyone goes to, cuz it's THE spot, and you hate the food.

If he's said he has no interest in trying to make that one come to life, then, again, I would also back off.

He also may just like SEEING it happen, but really no interest in FEELING or DOING it either.

But, you can always try different things, and other ways of fulfilling other fantasies or new things.

[whittibo]

Agreed. I have fantasies too, but would NEVER want them acted upon.

[krisleightate]

Fantasy is fantasy, and I for one do not want to try out all my fantasties in real life. But I think your bf should be touched that you are willing to try to live out his fantasty.