Am I Getting Close?

[SpiderQueen14]

OK so I have asked my hubby before what would be his fantasy and he tells me he really doesn't have one..................YEAH RIGHT to me doesn't EVERYONE have 1 even if they don't admit it?.... well I think I just broke the first layer of that mystery... My hubby always has said he likes it when I keep my glasses during sex he has told me it makes me look innocent.. and so I have kept them on a couple of times.. A while back he had told me he wondered what I would look like with 2 pony tails.. and I was like HUH but that night I did get all cutie up and put 2 high pony tails and a baby doll and glasses... BUT he came so late that he fell out and nothing happened.... and so I let it pass.. BUT yesterday.. I don't know why.. I shaved OH I shaved a la Bald Eagle... and of course was eager to share.. lol.. And so he came home and I gave him dinner.. no not rice and beans this time! LOL but just simple sloppy joe.. he ate we talked and rested.. And so the baby finally went to bed.. Last night he was sooo tired I REALLY didn't want to "bother" him you know so I went about my business with my little rabbit.. after a while he kind of woke up and asked what I was doing ok maybe I put my wet fingers on his lips.. (I COULDN'T HELP IT! LOL) and he woke up and said what are you doing.. and when he went to move the sheets to go down on me he said OH hmm what made you shave like that.. and I just smiled... so he went down on me and then we he entered me ok all and good right but then he said what I think puts all those other things together... He said .. Feels so good.. its making me feel like I'm molesting a little girl... for a sec. it caught me of guard cause I was like HUH.. what.. but then it was like all those things he said before clicked.. OHHHHHHHHHHHHHH so that's his fantasy..

After all said and done.. I thought.. hmm so he wants some little innocent girl... OK so anyone can help me out fellas any of you have that fantasy too? OK OF COURSE I have to ask though.. is that weird though???

[Tyger]

Well this is a touchy subject. I don't think that when women shave themselves bald, one of the first thoughts of a guy is "I feel like I'm molesting a little girl". Especially if he voiced it, it may be a cause of concern.

But, not being a guy, I'm not sure. I've ASKED a few guy friends about this over the years, and they don't normally feel that way. They just love the soft bare skin of a shaved pussy. It's a preference, pleasure, and shows them that their woman cares about how they look and feel *down there*.

On the other hand, it's a fairly common fantasy to do it with a "school girl/Catholic study" kind of girl. Innocent, pigtails, even glasses. The men that have these sort of fantasies are usually satisfied with their lovers dressing the part, knowing that it's a fantasy, yet perfectly legal (as long as the participants are of consentual age of course).

I know, not overly helpful. Ask you husband what exactly he meant by that. Look for signs of possible issues (kiddie porn and so on). I'm not going to say yes he's a risk, or no he's not. Because I've never met him, and not sure of how he voices things personally. He may have been just saying that cuz he didn't know how else to say he likes a bare pussy. So, I don't want to freak you out either way. Talk to him. This IS important, so I wouldn't brush it under the rug or leave it be.

[Mikayla1]

Yes, this IS a touchy subject for sure.

OK, it is definitely NOT abnormal or wrong for a man to have fantasies about innocence and virginity taking. So many men want to take the virginity of an innocent - BUT LEGAL AGED - girl. This "Catholic School Girl" fantasy is in more pornos than I can name. It is a fantasy. So many men want to take a younger girl - when it becomes an issue is when that girl is not legal, or a child.

What may be a hopeful clue is that he wants you to wear glasses - and small, tiny children do not usually wear glasses. I really feel this is more of the schoolgirl man's fantasy.

I have to tread carefully here - fantasies come in many different ranges. Some would be considered "sick" or "odd" by anyone's standards. However, there is a difference between sick or odd and DISGUSTING AND IMMORAL. Obviously, having sex with a child (by this I would mean under 17 or 18 - and even that is subject to interpretation in a day and age where a 13 year old looks like a 20 year old) is immoral, illegal and wrong.

I sense, and I hope that I am right, that this man wants the innocent school girl fantasy - NOT necessarily a "rape a 5 year old" fantasy.

Would I be concerned? Uhhhh, YES. The trigger for me was the word "molesting" and "little girl." While this may have just been a slip of words, it could also have been a Freudian slip. If he wants to deflower an innocent - some would view that as molestation - but as long as she is legal, it is not "wrong" per se.

If he wants to literally "molest" - which has devious and disgusting connotations - then there are problems.

I would definitely NOT panic, but I would try to explore this a little more. In this day and age there are too many sickos out there all over, so it is good to be aware. I would see if this comes up more prevalently - like if he starts asking for you to call him "Daddy" or something (no, I am not kidding) or to act like a very, very YOUNG girl. Then I would be concerned.

We don't want to make you doubt your hubby, but as women and men - many with children - we need to take signs for what they are. As we were not there with you, we can only judge and give advice based on your testimony here. If that were me, I would do what was suggested - and just be wary.

[SpiderQueen14]

HMMM Thanks gals for your input.. I think it that my hubby may want that fantasy of having "innocence" I guess but since he is not one to Express himself when having sex maybe the wrong words came out. It did put me to think though like I said it made me go HUH when he said but only cause it so out of character for him to say anything other then it feels good and well the "norm"... OK so I have to ask another question you guys say its norm. right so him downloading porn with H.S. looking girls with those school outfit..is that normal too? so he has a thing with School girls is it.. OK now I'm so confused! LOL

I'm just trying to figure out where his mind is I have tried to talk to him about our fantasies and what each likes but he just chances the subject or makes a joke.. so how do I get him to talk...

[ToyQueen]

My best guy friend and I have talked about the whole bald pussy thing at length. His comment to me was, " I’m not sure what it is about it; probably something totally sick about being with a “virginal” partner, but shaved pubic areas drive me wild."

Now, I know him well enough to know that he is NOT into molesting young girls.

I don't think it's an issue if you know that he isn't interested in young girls, but IS impressed with your efforts.

[pappyld04]

First, Kudos to you for trying so hard to be a fantasy come true. Most women freak out when it comes to age play. Some guys are the same. Just because it turned him on doesn't mean that he would really molest a little girl. And there are a million guys who love the schoolgirl fantasy. As long as you are open enough to understand that naughty side of his fantasy and you have actually found it by accident. GOOD JOB GIRL!!! Don't let it bother you. Fantasies take all different forms and it is up to you how far you go with them. I'll tell you honestly that every man in America wants a woman who tries as hard as you to be that fantasy lover. I'll bet you just hit the top of the Crush List for almost all the guys here!!!! Love your courage and daring!!!! He is a very lucky man!

[joebpatton]

From a guys view seeing it bald is not always about the school girl fantasy. Some guys like the look of the vigina without any hair. When I use larger sex toys on my wife, I get more turned on when I can see her vigina being streched than It would be if there was any hair around her virgina. It is also more of a turn on when I feel how wet she gets with her smooth skin. I don't believe you have anything to worry about.

joe2002