Married But Need Help

[HappilyMarried2]

I need some serious help here. Been married for 4 years now. He is the best sex partner I have had, but the sex seems too "repetitious". We are a couple who tries almost anything once, does anyone have suggestions with something new to try? I don't know how far I can go on this thing, new to site, can someone help with what I can say, and how to put some spice in my relationship?

[Mikayla1]

I have been married for 10 years, and with the exception of some differences in the kind of sex we like (bdsm vs romantic)- I am the bdsm), we are still pretty hot most of the time.

I find that switiching up the place is a good way to start....greet him at the door with nothing on, or wait on the couch with just a tie on (Julia Roberts...Pretty Woman), perhaps suggest some tying to the bed, role playing.....

Go for a nice, long walk and find a succluded place for a blowjob or a handjob. Go parking like you would when you were dating.

Once I rented a room at a cheap hotel, Holiday Inn, took my husband to lunch on a weekday and took him to the room for an afternoon delight. It was so hot because he didn't see it coming a mile away and we both felt naughty doing it in the middle of the day while we should have been working!

At night while he is watching the news, whisper in his ear that you are going up to bed and getting naked, does he want to join you? things like that.

Play games like "don't touch" or do what I say....play the dominant or submissive roles for a change.

there are a lot of ways to spice things up if you use your imagination. Try sexy clothes, or just calling him up during the day and telling him you are horny. Anticipation can highten the sex act 100%!

So start getting creative....be inventive....be naked...ENJOY!

Mikayla

[HappilyMarried2]

I have been married for 10 years, and with the exception of some differences in the kind of sex we like (bdsm vs romantic)- I am the bdsm), we are still pretty hot most of the time.

I find that switiching up the place is a good way to start....greet him at the door with nothing on, or wait on the couch with just a tie on (Julia Roberts...Pretty Woman), perhaps suggest some tying to the bed, role playing.....

Go for a nice, long walk and find a succluded place for a blowjob or a handjob.  Go parking like you would when you were dating.

Once I rented a room at a cheap hotel, Holiday Inn, took my husband to lunch on a weekday and took him to the room for an afternoon delight.  It was so hot because he didn't see it coming a mile away and we both felt naughty doing it in the middle of the day while we should have been working!

At night while he is watching the news, whisper in his ear that you are going up to bed and getting naked, does he want to join you?  things like that.

Play games like "don't touch" or do what I say....play the dominant or submissive roles for a change.

there are a lot of ways to spice things up if you use your imagination.  Try sexy clothes, or just calling him up during the day and telling him you are horny.  Anticipation can highten the sex act 100%!

So start getting creative....be inventive....be naked...ENJOY!

Mikayla

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Ok, what do you do if you are self conscience about your body? I have the typical "kangaroo pouch" as I call it (where I carried children) that I can't get past. We have kinky sex, BUT with lights out. I can NOT get past my looks (naked). We have had a threesome, and we have gone beyond the "norm" (missionary and doggie), it just feels like there is nothing left. I do call him at work and tell him I am horny, that I am wet, or even that I am playing with it did he want to help? I have greated him at the door (almost naked). I guess my question was more of what kinky things to do in the "act". I feel like we have hit a dead end, and besided having a threesome with a man, we have done it all (it feels like). And although I would LOVE to have a 3-some with another man, he wouldn't go for that, so any other suggestions?

[crazy1]

have you ever thought about trying some adult games? what about some bondage? try some new places, toys and positions. Get a book with new positions for each day. You can also buy a book on how to spice things up...there is a book called "hot manogomy" or you can get a "101 nights of great sex" or something like that. My wife and I have on that has been pretty fun. You can always play "what's your fantasy?"

[torinasia]

I need some serious help here.  Been married for 4 years now.  He is the best sex partner I have had, but the sex seems too "repetitious".  We are a couple who tries almost anything once, does anyone have suggestions with something new to try?  I don't know how far I can go on this thing, new to site, can someone help with what I can say, and how to put some spice in my relationship?

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Ok. it seems that you have been trying a lot ...

Few hints from my horizon:

what about some hot porn-movies, not only can they get you aroused but maybe you can pck up some new things from there..

Or decide to just skip sex for a period, an keep that promise. Maybe you get back to the original feelings, instead of losing yourself in too much technical things. Cause if you dont find that one, or it is completely gone, no new technique will do the thing.

Once again the brain is the biggest erogen zone

Good luck

Tor

[HappilyMarried2]

Ok. it seems that you have been trying a lot ...

Few hints from my horizon:

what about some  hot porn-movies, not only can they get you aroused but maybe you can pck up some new things from there..

Or decide to just  skip sex for a period, an keep that promise. Maybe you get back to the original feelings, instead of losing yourself in too much technical things. Cause if you dont find that one, or it is completely gone, no new technique will do the thing.

Once again the brain is the biggest erogen zone

Good luck

Tor

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Thank you Tor and Crazy. That was one of my first posts, and I have learned a lot from "friends" on here since then. I have explained to some in personal emails that I may have not explained myself well in the beginning. When I said we will try almost anything once, I meant that.

We have experienced:The normal sexual positions

i.e. missionary, doggy, me on top, him behind, sitting facing one another, facing one another but lying on our backs rocking, me on top but back facing him... me facing his feet, anal from him behind..on top and then me on top..., double penetration (doggy while he is pumping, his finger(s) in my hole and thumb on my clit.... he has sat on my face, I have sat on his until orgasm....

Also experienced sex with: Porno's- reg ones (men and women) lesbian ones and gay ones. We actually prefer the lesbian (more for him but still turn on for me) and then the men on men (gay) and that is more for me, but he gets hard being involved. For whatever reason, he gets hard. He says it is totally my reaction, and I could say that about the lesbian. I think I am being more honest, I am unafraid to speak my mind.

threesome with another woman (he and I both involved)

another woman (just myself)

dildo's (on both him anally and myself vaginally or anally)

Strap-on (me on him from all positions---he LOVED THAT)

we have tied eachother down and to the bed, that was great.

He masterbates for me, and likewise.

I have had him lay on the bed "pumping" the bed or pillow while I watch, this is just to watch his movement.

GAMES ? We play strip poker, 20 questions, role playing (typically him being the guy that breaks in throwing me to the bed and having his way) Truth or Dare, we have dice that order us what to do, and I guess others that I am forgetting...

PLACES? We have had sex outside in the front yard, in the back yard, in the back of his truck, IN THE TRUCK, at our parents house (that sounds silly but as an adult and parents who think sex is hush hush, it was rather exciting, ha ha). In the pool, on a swing, in the park, in a living room floor while a party was going on throughout the house, in the tub and shower, on the table, on the washer and dryer, hotels, elevators.....

The only reason I share all this, is that this is part of where I am coming from. I feel like there is nothing left to try, just because my imagination has had its feel, ya know? I know there has to be more out there, but WHAT... haha. That is why I read these posts daily and seek advice. That is why I asked if you just get to a point where that is it. Sometimes I feel like we did it all so quick, what next? I HATE REPETITION!!!!!![/ COLOR] I would rather not have sex at all, if it is going to be just like last nights, does that make sence? I also miss the softness of sex. I think we have been so kinky at times, and had MUCH ROUGH sex, that I seldom ever get just the kissing, fondelling, caressing, sucking licking and I Love You's anymore. It seems to be hard core fucking! Don't get me wrong, I love that, but I am a woman and I love to be treated like one. I don't know. Maybe it'll all work out. Although I have had great feed back on here, still no solutions. Maybe no one understood exactly what we have attmepted and tried and people think I am nuts because there is so much out there to do. I just feel like we have been there done that.... WHAT ELSE???? Maybe I am a sex freak, I dunno... just feel the repetition and I hate that.. anymore feed back guys and gals?

HM2