Newbie liasoe Posted October 24, 2005 Newbie Report Share Posted October 24, 2005 What is it about porn that guys like so much? Is it a source of stimulation that your lady just isn't giving you anymore? Or is it just "a guy thing"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members HappilyMarried2 Posted October 24, 2005 Members Report Share Posted October 24, 2005 What is it about porn that guys like so much? Is it a source of stimulation that your lady just isn't giving you anymore? Or is it just "a guy thing"?<{POST_SNAPBACK}>Are you watching them with him? If not, there is your problem. Is he afraid to share that with you? If so, ask yourself if he is worth it. If it is ok for him to watch alone, and not with you, then something else is going on. Is it a normal porn (men doing women) or women and women, there is a distinct difference on that..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie liasoe Posted October 24, 2005 Author Newbie Report Share Posted October 24, 2005 I guess I need to elaborate. Porn is pretty complex. We watch movies together, he is not really in to the girl/girl thing or 3somes. I'm not really either for that matter. He is awake when I'm asleep so don't know really what he's doing, however he has been known to check out porn stars or racy pics of celebs. He doesn't keep it from me or have mags all over. I don't thinkthat, in any way, it's interfering with our relationship, its just that every guy I've ever known likes porn; and I was curious as to what the allure is. Don't get me wrong, I like it, but I don't need to see it every day. That's why I thought maybe it was a guy thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members telecom69 Posted October 25, 2005 Members Report Share Posted October 25, 2005 I guess I need to elaborate. Porn is pretty complex. We watch movies together, he is not really in to the girl/girl thing or 3somes. I'm not really either for that matter. He is awake when I'm asleep so don't know really what he's doing, however he has been known to check out porn stars or racy pics of celebs. He doesn't keep it from me or have mags all over. I don't thinkthat, in any way, it's interfering with our relationship, its just that every guy I've ever known likes porn; and I was curious as to what the allure is. Don't get me wrong, I like it, but I don't need to see it every day. That's why I thought maybe it was a guy thing.<{POST_SNAPBACK}>Guys are usually more turned on by visual stimulus than a women is, so that may be one reason. Many women like the visual stimulus to, but not as much as guys. Like someone said on another post to, culture says it more ok for a guy to like porn than a women because of the double standard. I'm 46 and not as much into it as my younger days, but now and then it can add spice to a relationship. If you have to have it all the time for good sex, then that could be a problem. Depends on what flavors you like I guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mr binky Posted October 26, 2005 Members Report Share Posted October 26, 2005 I love this question and the opportunity to give an honest if not very abridged answer. I will conclude with a challenge for you. Firstly, from an entertainment perspective, porn represents a promise delivered. So much of visual entertainment depicting sexuality is a cop out. A passionate embrace followed by a cigarette in the morning or even worse, poorly simulated sex. Sometimes, when you sit down for a meal expecting steak, you want steak, not hamburger and not a lettuce sandwhich. Second, yes, I am a sexually curious person with wide boundries of interest. It is at these boundries that I have discovered facinating things about the sexuality of myself and others I have known. Don't get me wrong I do have limits most notably no children and no non-consentual sex or depictions of sex jump immediately to mind. Pornography and sexual acedemia as allowed me to explore boundries I would be very reticent to explore otherwise. Third, pornagraphy puts me in complete control of my own sexuality. A person who is not at the mercy of another for sexual gratification or validation is a person free to make their own way in the world. If I felt as desparate for sexual congress or companionship as a number of posting here or even the desparate pleadings in newspaper want ads I would surely wind up either a cuckhold or a priest or dead to deal with it. MY CHALLENGE: if you are enlightened enough to be curious enough about this with a stranger, ask your partner again about what pornography means to him. You may be surprised. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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